“ You can't say the wrong thing to the right person.”

Modern dating can feel like a chaotic mess—swiping fatigue, societal pressures, and outdated patriarchal norms make it seem more like a minefield than a path to love. But what if dating could actually be joyful, empowering, and aligned with your values? Enter Lily Womble, a feminist dating coach, author, speaker, and founder of Date Brazen, which is on a mission to help women create dating lives that feel extraordinary and authentic.

In this episode, Erin and Lily break down the biggest myths about dating and offer powerful, actionable strategies to help you approach love on your terms. Whether you’re feeling disheartened by the process or just need a fresh perspective, this conversation will leave you ready to date with confidence. We discuss:

1. Why dating is still stuck in the dark ages and how to reclaim your power & joy in the process
2. Dating as self-care— prioritizing boundaries, agency, and pleasure over pressure and scarcity
3. Most people aren’t your person and how to focus on the ones who actually align with you
4. Ditch the checklist, because true compatibility is about how they make you feel, not just what’s on paper
5. Words matter—how reframing your dating mindset creates new possibilities
6. Using qualifying & disqualifying questions to filter for true compatibility
7. Dating apps are just a tool—how to attract great matches both online and IRL

OUR GUEST: Lily Womble is an intersectional feminist dating coach and founder of Date Brazen. She has led thousands of badass, feminist women around the world to build dating lives that feel like self-care, that also lead to extraordinary love. Womble has been featured in InStyle, HuffPost, Bustle, ABC News, and Oprah Magazine. She lives in Brooklyn.

Want more Lily? Find her and Date Brazen online at https://www.datebrazen.com/ and listen to the Date Brazen podcast https://www.datebrazen.com/blog. Check out her book Thank You, More Please.

Follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/

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