Sex, Love & Elephants with Dr. Cheryl

Knowledge Is Not Power: How to Actually Create Lasting Change in Your Relationship


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"Do my actions match what matters to me?"

"Are we stuck running the household instead of nurturing our love?"

"Dr. Cheryl, how do I start taking real action for my relationship?"


Welcome back! I’m officially back in action with fresh episodes and today, I’m coming in hot with a brand new relationship performance review. 

In this episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I’m challenging you to look honestly at how much time and energy you're actually investing in your romantic relationship and how closely your actions match your stated priorities. (Spoiler: for most of us, there's a gap!)

The research is clear: the quality of your committed relationship is the single greatest predictor of life satisfaction, health, meaning, and overall happiness. Yet most of us spend more time scrolling our phones, maintaining our careers, and playing chauffeur to the kids than we do nurturing the one relationship that matters most. I’m giving you the tools to change that, starting today.


In This Episode, You'll Learn:

(02:00) Why the quality of your romantic relationship is the #1 predictor of a life well-lived 

(05:30) The difference between "relationship incorporated" and actually being a couple — and why so many of us are stuck in the former 

(04:27) How to do an honest relationship performance review on yourself 

(13:46) How many hours a week you're really spending on your relationship (and why the answer might shock you) 

 (23:05) Why "knowledge is power" is balderdash — and what actually creates change

(11:30) Practical action steps: dates, morning rituals, getaways, and how to make your sex life a priority without killing the spark 

(27:48) Today's LoveByte 


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