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"Where did the passion go in my marriage?"

"How do I reboot my relationship?"

"How can we work on our marriage?"

"Which online course helps couples the most?"

This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants brings you something truly special: a front-row seat to Lesson One of Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s brand-new FREE five-part Starter Course—Reboot Your Relationship. Whether you’re stuck in a sexless rut, drowning in bickering, or just craving deeper connection, this free mini course is designed to help you shift from Marriage Incorporated to Love Incorporated—starting now.

Inside this first lesson, Dr. Cheryl guides you to assess the current health of your relationship, identify where you want to go, and take the very first step toward rebuilding love, passion, and partnership. You’ll also hear what makes the course unique, how it’s already helping other couples, and how to access the full experience (hint: it’s just a click away).

If you’ve ever felt like your relationship is running on autopilot—or worse, barely running at all—this episode is your wake-up call.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

(03:00) Why Cheryl created this free course—and why it might be her last time offering it

(04:22) The most common problem couples face: getting stuck in “Marriage Incorporated”

(06:00) The difference between running a household and nurturing a romantic partnership

(08:12) Two crucial questions to rate your relationship: happiness and commitment

(10:46) How to turn love into a hobby (and why it’s one of the most powerful mindset shifts)

(14:01) Three questions that reveal where you want your relationship to be in 6 months

(17:57) Today’s LoveByte: Great relationships are not an accident—you’ve got to become the passion you seek

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✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time

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Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 

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"My partner won’t go to therapy"

"I'm doing all the work in the relationship"

"My partner refuses to communicate"

"Can you save a relationship alone?"

This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants tackles one of the most provocative and misunderstood topics in modern love: the tension between masculine and feminine energy—and what happens when those energies fall out of balance. From 1950s gender roles to the feminist backlash of the '70s and the rise of the sensitive new age man, Dr. Cheryl Fraser guides us through the historical, psychological, and sexual shifts that continue to shape our romantic lives today.

What happens when women become over-functioning warriors and men lose touch with their strength? Why are so many couples disconnected in bed and at war outside of it? Dr. Cheryl breaks it all down through raw personal stories, decades of experience as a sex therapist, and an empowering four-archetype model—Sovereign, Warrior, Magician, and Lover—that will help you reconnect with your own essence and transform your relationship.

Whether you're tired of leading all the time, feel like your partner has gone emotionally limp, or just want to reignite the spark in your relationship, this episode invites you to rethink what it means to be powerful—and passionate—together.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

(01:09) What masculine and feminine energy really mean—and why the labels are misleading

(04:48) The surprising truth about sexless relationships—and why so many couples stop making love

(06:37) From 1950s stereotypes to feminist revolt: How gender roles evolved (and where they got stuck)

(10:32) Cheryl’s personal journey from angry, brilliant “boy-girl” to embracing feminine strength

(18:31) Why strong women and sensitive men clash—and how confused roles affect desire

(25:06) The Four Archetypes: Sovereign, Warrior, Magician, Lover—and how they shape your relationship

(29:39) Erotic polarity: Why feminine women crave masculine energy in the bedroom (and vice versa)

(36:24) How to balance your energies for better sex, deeper love, and real partnership

(39:14) Today’s LoveByte: The empowered lover learns to dance between all four archetypes

💖 Reignite the Spark — For Free (Limited Time)

Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner.

✅ 5 video lessons

✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy

✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time

👉 Start My Free Course Now

Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 

Let’s Connect!  

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"My partner won’t go to therapy"

"I'm doing all the work in the relationship"

"Partner refuses to communicate"

"Can you save a relationship alone?"

This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants dives deep into one of the most common and painful relationship struggles: what to do when your partner just won’t meet you halfway. Whether your sweetheart refuses to communicate, avoids tough conversations, or simply won’t go to therapy, Dr. Cheryl Fraser is here to help you understand what’s really going on—without blame, shame, or judgment.

Can you save a relationship alone? What happens when you’re doing all the work in the relationship? Is it even possible to rebuild connection when your partner thinks nothing is wrong?

With raw personal stories, real-life couple transformations, and actionable guidance, Cheryl shows how even one partner—armed with the right tools—can begin to shift the dynamic. It starts with changing how you approach the tough stuff.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

(01:09) What to do when your partner won’t go to therapy—or refuses to talk

(04:46) The power of negative thinking: how your mind can make things feel worse than they are

(10:40) How your childhood attachment style may be shaping your relationship experience

(17:11) Why some partners resist change: fear, avoidance, and feeling blamed

(26:14) Real talk: How to bring up hard conversations without pushing them further away

(35:24) The key to rebuilding connection, even if you're doing the work alone

(38:12) Today’s LoveByte

💖 Reignite the Spark — For Free (Limited Time)Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner.

✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time

👉 Start My Free Course Now

Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 

Let’s Connect!  

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Join the waitlist for Cheryl’s NEW Free Reboot Your relationship course - coming soon! Together with your partner, learn the steps to transform your relationship, reignite love, improve communication, and embrace sensuality. Say goodbye to procrastination and hello to real, lasting change. 

Click here to get on the waitlist and you’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!

“How can I spice things up with my hubby?”

“Is it possible to remain monogamous forever?”

“How do I make my relationship more adventurous?”

When you do something exciting and adventurous with your partner, do you find them more attractive? Research shows that when we do something unusual or out of the box with our sweethearts, it can help us feel more interested in and attracted toward them.

This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the eleventh in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication.

Today, I’m teaching you how a little adventure and novelty can go a long way when it comes to spicing things up and reigniting the spark with your sweetheart. 

Calling all adventurous lovers! Go on an adventure date and send photo proof to [email protected] for a chance to win a cool prize!

Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

(03:44) There's clinical observation indicating that when we get out of our rut and do something new with our sweetheart, we tend to feel more connected to them

(07:53) The way the brain works when we're falling in love mimics the neurochemistry obsessive-compulsive disorder

(11:11) Many of us are terrible at investing the time and energy needed to create novelty with someone who is not new to us 

(16:02) Doing something new with our partner, it can enhance and improve our connection, our interest in each other, and even our sexual attraction 

(21:56) Today’s LoveByte

Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships!

Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 

Let’s Connect!  

Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram

Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here 

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Join the waitlist for Cheryl’s NEW Free Reboot Your relationship course - coming soon! Together with your partner, learn the steps to transform your relationship, reignite love, improve communication, and embrace sensuality. Say goodbye to procrastination and hello to real, lasting change. 

Click here to get on the waitlist and you’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!

“Is my misery all in my head?”

“Why can’t I focus on the positives?”

“How can I learn to change the story my mind is telling me?”

How can we change the stories in our heads? How can we deal with the monkey mind? And how can we begin to accept the truth that everything we experience in life is 100% mind made?

This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants features a Dharma Talk centered around how pesky our minds can be and how much misery our wandering thoughts can bring us. 

Today, I’m teaching you what we can do to work with the mind to understand its storytelling, to understand the nightmare scenarios it paints in our head, and what we can do to work with that so we'll be happier, calmer, more effective, more compassionate, and have a much better life.

Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

(09:32) Any moment is created in the mind based on a selection of the data that we’re experiencing in that moment

(14:45) We're all born into pretty lucky human lives, even if we’ve suffered trauma

(26:16) The stories we create all day long are just as equally fictional as a nightmare

(33:52) If I don't like the fact that I'm feeling angry or upset or lonely or vulnerable, I can recognize it’s a story and I can work with the mind to change it

(48:11) In a mortal body, there's going to be pain and illness and it is going to die suddenly or slowly

Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships!

Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 

Let’s Connect!  

Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram

Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here 

Youtube

Join the waitlist for Cheryl’s NEW Free Reboot Your relationship course - coming soon! Together with your partner, learn the steps to transform your relationship, reignite love, improve communication, and embrace sensuality. Say goodbye to procrastination and hello to real, lasting change. 

Click here to get on the waitlist and you’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!

“Can meditation make me a better lover?”

“Is great sex even possible in a long term relationship?”

“Why don’t I get horny for my spouse anymore?”

This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the tenth in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication.

Dr. Lori Brotto is an internationally recognized leader in sexual health research and has mentored nearly 180 trainees. She has also spent time evaluating psychological interventions for sexual dysfunction and genital pain, which collectively impact ⅓ of women. In recognition of her contributions, she holds a Canada Research Chair in women’s sexual health, has received recent awards in mentoring junior faculty, excellent public education through media, book awards, and is listed among the top 2% cited scientists by Stanford/Elsevier.

Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

(02:23) On average, we're having far less sex today than we were 20 years ago

(05:55) If don’t experience overwhelming lust for your spouse anymore, you’re totally normal 

(10:50) Scheduled sex might not feel romantic, but it’s more romantic than no sex at all

(22:39) Mindfulness as a practice of being present is extremely useful for sexual satisfaction

(36:36) Your relationship is normal if you're only having sex on occasion or even if you’re not making love at all

(38:46) Today’s LoveByte 

Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships!

Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 

Connect with Dr. Lori Brotto:

eSense

The Better Sex Through Mindfulness Workbook

Better Sex Through Mindfulness by Lori A Brotto

Let’s Connect!  

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Join the waitlist for Cheryl’s NEW Free Reboot Your relationship course - coming soon! Together with your partner, learn the steps to transform your relationship, reignite love, improve communication, and embrace sensuality. Say goodbye to procrastination and hello to real, lasting change. 

Click here to get on the waitlist and you’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!

“HELP! I’ve fallen out of love with my partner, should we break up?”

“How do I learn to love my spouse again?”

“Why is marriage so much work?”

This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the ninth in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication.

When the love song feels like it's over, is it time to quit or is it time to recommit? Today’s subject is a tough one and I'm teaching it from the heart.  And what I’m going to say might just surprise you: we often throw away our romantic relationships too easily, too often.

Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

The grass isn’t always greener on the other side of a breakup (01:49)

We can learn to change our mind instead of our mate (03:54)

The elephant part of ourselves is free from fear and selfishness (10:33)

Everything changes—some changes we like, some we don't (21:57)

Today’s LoveByte (33:14)

Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships!

Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 

Recommended by Dr. Cheryl:

Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay by Mira Kirshenbaum

Let’s Connect!  

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Join the waitlist for Cheryl’s NEW Free Reboot Your relationship course - coming soon! Together with your partner, learn the steps to transform your relationship, reignite love, improve communication, and embrace sensuality. Say goodbye to procrastination and hello to real, lasting change. 

Click here to get on the waitlist and you’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!

“Why does my partner purposefully tick me off?”

“How can I be more understanding with my spouse?”

“What makes long term love so hard?”

This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the eighth in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication.

Our mind can tell amazing stories. For example, we’ve all had a nightmare. The second we wake up, we thank goodness it was only a dream,  our heart is pounding, and we may even be soaked in sweat or have tears in our eyes. We may even be gasping for breath—all because of a story that our mind made up to be true.  

Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

Our human body cannot tell if the story our brain is telling us is true or not true (07:06)

Our brains often feed the flames of hate and distrust creating an inaccurate villain story about our sweetheart (09:15)

To stop creating stories, we have to focus on strictly the facts (16:01)

Today’s LoveByte (24:31)

Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships!

Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 

Let’s Connect!  

Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram

Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here 

Youtube

Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join.  (You’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!)

“Why has my sex drive dropped as I’ve aged?”

“How do I schedule sex with my partner?”

“What are some ways I can set the mood for sex?”

This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the seventh in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication.

When my hubby and I first got together, we were absolutely insatiable—I’m talking nonstop passion and desire. But a decade or so on? Not so much! Now that we’re both in our early 60’s, our sex life takes some extra TLC to maintain but we’re dedicated to making it happen. And today, I’m going to teach you exactly what our secret is. 

Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships!

Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 

Listen to Dr. Cheryl on Jack Canfield’s podcast here.

Let’s Connect!  

Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join.  (You’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!)

“I love my partner, but they don’t turn me on anymore… HELP!”

“We never have sex anymore, should we get a divorce?”

“Why am I never in the mood for sex?”

This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the sixth in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication.

It might be a familiar feeling: You’re not looking to leave your sweetheart or trying to have an affair, but your sex life is either totally non-existent or downright lousy. Today, I’m giving you some very important tools to help you and your long-term partner reignite the spark you once had and bring back that butterflies-in-the-belly, over-the-moon sexual desire for one another. 

Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships!

Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! 

Let’s Connect!