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“How can I learn to be a better partner?” 

“Am I the Scrooge in my relationship?”

“What is the secret to a happy marriage?”

What would you do if a trio of spirits showed up at your bedside tonight and asked you to examine your past, your present, and your future?

Today’s episode of Sex, Love & Elephants features a Dharma Talk I gave recently exploring the themes of the Charles Dickens' classic A Christmas Carol through a Buddhist lens. 

This talk delves into the three root poisons of suffering—greed, hatred, and ignorance—and how they manifest in Ebenezer Scrooge's life. After visits from the three spirits, Scrooge confronts his past, present, and future, ultimately leading to his redemption and a deeper understanding of interconnectedness and compassion. 

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

(01:10) The concept of Dharma can feel foreign to what we learned as children through a Western lens

(07:42) We always have a choice to begin again

(12:06) Ignorance is poison

(28:53) If we can see the bricks that led to the wall in front of our heart, we can demolish it

(59:02) We love possibilities of redemption and change

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“How can I make the holidays special with my spouse?”

“Why do I feel so burnt out at Christmastime?”

“How can I prioritize my husband?”

No matter what you celebrate, the beginning of December always feels like the unofficial start to the busiest time of year. There are company holiday parties, the kids have their plays and concerts, and the family gatherings can feel endless… And with all that commotion, who has the time to make things feel special with their sweetheart?

On this classic episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, it’s all about taking the chaotic, overscheduled energy of December and using some of it to honor and cherish the one who’s by your side through it all. 

Tune in and remember that first holiday season you spent with your sweetie. When you were dating and wooing and falling in love, you probably made a heck of a lot more effort during the holidays. You probably shopped more carefully, you probably did some romantic or sexy or fun gifts, and you probably really thought about: “How can I light my sweetheart up?” 

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

(02:03) In the December holiday season, couples gets lost 

(03:22) Valentine’s Day is a manufactured, money grabbing, cheap chocolate holiday—but if you open your mind, it can be a reminder to be romantic as heck 

(12:13) Your love affair doesn't take care of itself. You need to make passion a priority 

(12:52) It takes work and effort and repetition to improve and to be good at what you do—if you rest on your laurels, your laurels tend to fall apart 

(13:38) Your challenge is to make this holiday season joyful, compassionate, and generous—but also make it about the two of you. Carve out at least one special holiday date 

(14:40) This week’s LoveByte 

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How can I get my mate to want sex as much as I do? 

Help! I feel so guilty when my sweetheart wants sex and I don’t!

My partner and I never have spontaneous sex anymore, is this normal? 

On this classic episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I share the answers to some of the most asked sex and love questions I’ve heard in my career. These are the questions I hear over and over again, regardless of the time or place, answered for you and your honey.

Today, is all about sex drive. I’m busting myths about the libido differences in men and women, the idea that men are dogs who crave constant sex, and that women have fundamentally different sex drives. Spoiler alert: It’s all bullshit!

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

(02:39) If you and your partner have sex drive differences, you are normal 

(04:31) Despite the prevailing popular belief, gender has no real bearing on one’s sex drive 

(07:15) It’s totally normal for spontaneous lust to wane over the course of a long term relationship 

(08:10) Cultivating responsive desire involves scheduling sex—even when we don’t feel like it

(10:28) There is no quick fix to sexual desire differences, but there are a number of steps that you can utilise to help reignite a fizzling flame 

(11:53) Never say “I'm not in the mood” ever again 

(17:51) This week’s LoveByte 

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“Dr. Cheryl, is it time to reconsider my relationship?”

“When did my hubby become so boring?”

“My partner cheated on me—how do I get over it?”

Have you ever done a relationship performance review? At work, your supervisor probably calls you in once a quarter or once a year. They give you feedback on where you're doing well, where you need to pick up the slack, and maybe even if you’re being considered for a promotion or in danger of being let go. 

On this Sex, Love and Elephants rewind, I’m talking all about the idea of a performance review—but this time, it’s not at your job, it’s a check in for you and your sweetheart. 

Does your partner know what's lighting you up these days? What makes you feel good? Do they know what you're worried about? Do they know what's on your mind? If you can’t answer all or any of these questions, it might be time for a review of your relationship.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

(03:57) Every relationship is vulnerable to falling into Marriage Incorporated 

(08:33) We all miss the thrill of the honeymoon phase, but it doesn’t have to be gone for good 

(10:57) If you don’t find your partner interesting anymore, someone else will 

(14:03) Most affairs aren’t planned 

(34:09) Today’s LoveByte 

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💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time)How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great?

Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner.

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“How can I make my relationship happier?” 

“Where can I find relationship advice?”

“What’s the secret to a great marriage?”

When we can train our minds to focus on what matters and to deal with difficulties with a more dispassionate, compassionate, equanimous point of view, we suffer less. We feel happier, we feel calmer, and we’re able to love more deeply. 

Today’s episode of Sex, Love & Elephants features a Dharma Talk I gave a few weeks ago that discusses the importance of training the mind for happiness.

In Buddhism, setting an aspiration is a way of mentally, emotionally, and karmically tuning our focus to something that is valuable. Think less “I hope I make more money tomorrow” and more  setting your intentions to be free of mental suffering.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

(04:07) How to meditate in open awareness practice

(21:57) Concentration is integral to successful meditation 

(25:32) A strong inner anchor helps during times when the mind is turbulent 

(37:15) By training ourselves in meditation, we can learn to stop buying into the stories that happen in the mind

(54:56) Today’s LoveByte

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“Where can I find an online couples therapy course to improve my marriage?” 

“What are the most common relationship issues?”

“Where is the best place to find relationship advice?”

It doesn’t matter whether you’re straight, gay, bisexual or somewhere in between, many of us suffer from the same relationship conflicts. Reluctance to work on things, ugly fighting, loss of thrill…  I’ve seen it all and I’m here to help. 

In this episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I cover the most common issues that couples face, from working with reluctant partners to conflict resolution, improving communication, and navigating sexual challenges. 

Today, I’m answering some of the most common questions asked during my live Passion Master classes and over the last 25 years I’ve spent working with couples just like you.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

(02:31) Working with a reluctant partner is frustrating, but common

(06:36) Avoiding conflict altogether isn’t the way to achieve resolution

(12:54) Only 11% of my Masterclass participants indicated that they were still in love with their partners 

(16:02) It takes love and energy for the thrill to last forever

(23:27) Don’t wait for a major life changing event to put the effort into your relationship

(33:01) Today’s LoveByte

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“Why don’t I feel in love anymore?” 

“Help! Why is my relationship so boring?”

“How can my spouse and I reconnect for good?”

Why are long-term relationships so difficult? I'm a tremendous advocate for love, but the hard facts are pretty sobering: Only 11% of couples in long term relationships say that they still feel in love with their partner.

In this episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I’m breaking down the complexities of long-term relationships, delving into the challenges that couples face in maintaining love and connection, and tackling the top 3 reasons committed couples split up. 

You can be great parents together, have fun on the weekends as a family, and feel totally secure in your relationship… Yet that sense of specialness, connection, and that you and I together against the world feeling still ends up lost in translation—but it doesn’t have to be that way!

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

(04:21) We often forget how lucky we are to be with our perfectly imperfect partner 

(07:59) Psychological intimacy is integral to successful long term love

(11:59) Your partner isn’t wrong, they're just different from you

(20:18) Great relationships take hard work

(31:02) Today’s LoveByte

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This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! Sign up NOW for one of her Passion Masterclasses—choose the time that works best for you.

You’ll also hear about the 12-week Become Passion program—it kicks off in October. Doors are now open! You can check it out and join the program HERE 

“Why does lust fade in long-term relationships?”

“How do happy couples keep their sex life alive after years together?”

“Is it normal to lose desire for my partner over time?”

“What’s the best way to bring back passion after kids or menopause?”

Turns out bunny-rabbit lust has an expiration date—but on Sex, Love and Elephants, Dr. Cheryl makes it clear your sex life doesn’t have to expire with it. In this candid and funny re-release, she and her sweetheart dive deep into intimacy, desire, and what really happens when sex shifts over time. From menopause to scheduled sex, from the biology of lust to the reality of long-term love, this conversation is both raw and reassuring.

If you’ve ever wondered why you and your partner don’t connect the way you used to—or if you’ve worried that something is “wrong” because you’re not in the mood 24/7—this episode is your permission slip to drop the fairy tales and start focusing on what actually builds passion that lasts. Cheryl and her husband share their own story, including struggles, dry spells, and what it really takes to keep desire alive. Spoiler: no couple is “broken” just because spontaneous lust fades. The ones who thrive are the ones who adapt, laugh, and keep choosing each other—in and out of the bedroom.

Want to know more about my program? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

(05:57) Why lust is always temporary—and why that’s not a bad thing

(15:38) How menopause can shake up your sex life, and what to do about it

(21:09) Why long-term couples often experience low desire—and why you’re not “broken” if you do

(29:36) The biology behind fading lust and how to work with it, not against it

(39:19) Today’s LoveByte: Schedule sex. Don't tell me it's not romantic to schedule sex. I'll tell you what's not romantic: never having sex. Wherever you are, we begin where you are, bring sensuality back. Snuggle your sweetheart today and make your erotic life a priority again. 

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Are you ready to create love and passion that last a lifetime? The doors for my exclusive 12-week immersion program open in October! Join me for one of my FREE WORKSHOPS in October to learn more. Click here to join the Become Passion waitlist today and you’ll be the first to receive an invitation to the FREE masterclass!

“How do couples stop fighting about the same issues over and over?”

“What’s the best way to fix communication problems in a marriage?”

“How can I stop arguments with my partner from spiraling out of control?”

“What should I do when my partner shuts down during a fight?”

What does a love and sex expert do when she gets into an argument with her husband? If you think the answer is “handle it perfectly every time,” think again. In this candid and funny re-release episode of Sex, Love and Elephants, Dr. Cheryl and her sweetheart reveal that even experts stumble. From morning rituals and dog walks to timeouts and three-breath hugs, they share how they reconnect after communication breakdowns—and why intimacy is the foundation of long-term love.

This conversation reminds us that no couple is perfect, but with humor, honesty, and the right tools, you can fight fair, repair faster, and come back stronger. If you’ve ever felt stuck in the same old arguments, this episode shows that imperfection is normal—and that building intimacy is the key to creating a relationship that lasts.

Want to know more about my program? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

(03:20) Why open communication is harder than it looks—even for the experts

(07:25) The daily rituals that keep Cheryl and her husband connected

(13:26) What happens when you’re “flooded” during an argument—and why logic goes out the window

(19:25) How touch and presence can restore connection after a fight

(26:37) Why partnership is about more than just coexisting under the same roof

(40:35) Today’s LoveByte: Intimacy is the base of the passion triangle—for a very good reason

(27:09) Their “Adventure Birthday Challenge” — and why you should steal it

(40:45) Today’s LoveByte: Intimacy is the base of the Passion Triangle for a very good reason. If you can’t talk about it, you can’t make it better. Learn to listen, learn to communicate to understand—and please, for the love of all that exists, be willing to be happy instead of being right.

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Are you ready to create love and passion that last a lifetime? The doors for my exclusive 12-week immersion program open in October! Join me for one of my FREE WORKSHOPS in October to learn more. Click here to join the Become Passion waitlist today and you’ll be the first to receive an invitation to the FREE masterclass!

“How do real couples keep the spark alive after years together?”

“Why does passion fade in long-term relationships?”

“How can I bring back romance when my relationship feels boring?”

Have you ever wondered what it’s really like to be married to a sex, love, and passion expert? In this very special (and hilarious) re-release episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, Dr. Cheryl invites her husband—known here only as “my sweetie”—into the studio for the first time.

You’ll hear their unfiltered take on the Passion Triangle, the struggles every couple faces (yes, even them!), and why keeping Thrill alive is not optional if you want long-term love. From Marvel movies and surprise kisses, to spooning rituals and adventure birthdays, this candid conversation shows that love experts are still gloriously human—and that passion requires practice, play, and sometimes a ferry ride to see grizzly bears.

Want to know more about my program? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

(02:52) Why this fall is your last chance to join Become Passion until late 2025

(05:19) The danger of “Marriage Incorporated” (aka roommates running a business)

(06:57) The calming power of placing your hand over your partner’s heart

(11:37) Why Cheryl and her husband waited five weeks before having sex—and how it changed everything

(21:02) The truth about keeping Thrill alive (and what happens when you don’t)

(27:09) Their “Adventure Birthday Challenge” — and why you should steal it

(36:47) Today’s LoveByte: It's never too late to revisit and rebuild your passion triangle. Thrill can last forever, it just needs a little help.

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