“Dr. Cheryl, how can I be more present for my sweetheart?”

“What’s the number one gift to give my spouse?”

“How do I make Christmas more exciting?”

This season, remember that gifts don’t have to have a monetary value. Show your partner you care by being intentional and letting them know how much they matter to you. A happy, healthy relationship involves shared rituals—why not give your lover the gift of presence?

On today’s classic episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll hear a rerelease of one of my all time favorite episodes where I focus on the sex and love part of Christmas and show you some special ways to make this time together magical. 

Remember being a kid on Christmas morning, waking up even before the sun… overwhelmed and giddy at the idea of what Santa Claus might’ve brought? Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to recapture that special, magical feeling—even long after we stop believing in old St. Nick?

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!

Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz.

Let’s Connect!  

“Dr. Cheryl, can I make the holidays special with my sweetheart?”

“Why do I feel so burnt out at Christmastime?”

“How can I prioritize my spouse?”

No matter what you celebrate, the beginning of December always feels like the unofficial start to the busiest time of year. There are company holiday parties, the kids have their plays and concerts, and the family gatherings can feel endless… And with all that commotion, who has the time to make things feel special with their sweet heart?

In today’s throwback episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, it’s all about taking the chaotic, overscheduled energy of December and using some of it to honor and cherish the one who’s by your side through it all. 

Tune in and remember that first holiday season you spent with your sweetie. When you were dating and wooing and falling in love, you probably made a heck of a lot more effort during the holidays. You probably shopped more carefully, you probably did some romantic or sexy or fun gifts, and you probably really thought about: “How can I light my sweetheart up?” 

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!

Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz.

Let’s Connect!  

Dr. Cheryl, is it time to reconsider my relationship?

When did my hubby become so boring? 

My partner cheated on me—how do I get over it?

Have you ever done a relationship performance review? At work, your supervisor probably calls you in once a quarter or once a year. They give you feedback on where you're doing well, where you need to pick up the slack, and maybe even if you’re being considered for a promotion or in danger of being let go. 

On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m talking all about the idea of a performance review—but this time, it’s not at your job, it’s a check in for you and your sweetheart. 

Does your partner know what's lighting you up these days? What makes you feel good? Do they know what you're worried about? Do they know what's on your mind? If you can’t answer all or any of these questions, it might be time for a review of your relationship.

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!

Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz.

Let’s Connect!  

Dr. Cheryl, how can I be happier in my circumstances?

Why is my anxiety so overpowering? 

How can I stop obsessing about the future?

What’s the cause of happiness? Could you be happier in a prison than you'd be in a monastery? And if we're accepting where we are, no matter good or bad, doesn't that mean that we're free? 

Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features a Dharma Talk centered around suffering and why so much of our mental hardships are a choice that we make.

Have you ever felt at times like you can't get out of an emotional state of anxiety or worry? Even when you know that much of it is a story and a lot of it is casting worry about the future? Even when you know that it’s something you'll be able to pivot and cope through? If you’ve answered yes, there’s no reason to be ashamed. There are times when we all fall prey to thinking like this. 

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!

Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz.

Let’s Connect!  

Dr. Cheryl, how can I express my true self?

Why do I feel the need to hide from the world? 

How can I work through my anger?

We all play a hundred different roles and contain multitudes, but what are the masks you wear? And who are the goblins, demons, and vampires that plague you? 

Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features a Dharma Talk where I teach about ideas that can feel much spookier than the ghosts and ghouls of Halloween. 

What is your shadow self? What are the parts of yourself you don't like to look at? What are the parts of you that are your darker self from trauma, fear, and need? The more we can look at the masks we wear, the more we can examine the costumes we wear, the more we can have moments of grace and less suffering. 

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!

Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz.

Let’s Connect!  

Missed registering for the Become Passion program? We can help you out! The first live class is this weekend. 

Email [email protected] and we can try to get you in the back door!

Dr. Cheryl, how can I learn to sincerely apologize?

Should I be worried that my partner and I fight? 

How can I make up with my partner after we argue?

Imagine I install a camera in your home and record everything you say to your partner for a week—would you be comfortable sharing that footage with your nearest and dearest? The good, the bad, and the ugly? Or would you be ashamed and embarrassed at how you speak and interact with your sweetheart, especially in times of anger or frustration?

Human beings in relationships are going to have disagreements—that’s a fact of life. It sounds harsh, but if most people actually recorded themselves for a week and listened back to the way they spoke to their partner, they would be very disappointed in themselves. The trick is to make sure you and your honey both have the tools to have disagreements that aren’t destructive - disagreements that actually help bring you closer together. I know, right?

In this throwback episode, I talk about why a sincere vow to do better is one of the most important tools in your relationship arsenal, and why a mindful apology is an art in and of itself. I teach you the value of what I call “do-over. This love hack  is super   beneficial when you’re arguing with your sweetie. In fact, I’ll show you  how you can start practicing the technique today. Speaking kindly and thoughtfully to your partner is an integral part of a successful relationship. We can’t just sit back and wait for our relationships to become fabulous and earth-shattering—we’re responsible for creating that ourselves... 

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!

Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz.

Let’s Connect!  

Why is it so important to work on your relationship? Because when you neglect it, it grows stagnant. A love affair is a lot like a garden—if you don't tend to it, it gets overgrown with weeds.

Want to revive your communication and your sex life? Are you ready to reignite love, romance, and passion and fall in love with your partner all over again—without years of counseling, silly quick-fix gimmicks, or endless relationship theories that don't give you the tools that actually work?

Become Passion kicks off October 11th. Learn more about the program and register HERE.

Curious but still want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.

“Dr. Cheryl, why is my marriage so boring?”

“How do I make my relationship more fun?”

“Is it over for me and my partner?”

Join me today for part four of my chat with my hubby where we talk about all things Become Passion, including some of our favorite moments from past sessions and all the ways we work on our love.

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!

Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz.

Let’s Connect!  

I'm a sex expert— That means my sex life is like a romantic comedy mixed with an erotic novel, right? Well, a lot of that used to be true, but things don’t always stay all sunshine, butterflies, and constant bunny rabbit sex…

Want to revive your communication, romance, and sex life? Learn and practice The 3 Keys To Great Relationship so you can become one of those rare couples who are deeply connected, happy, romantic & affectionate with my FREE online Passion Masterclass.  Register now - pick the day and time that work for you and your partner!

Want to know more about my 3 month couples program? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.

“Dr. Cheryl, why don’t my partner and I connect like we used to?”

“How do I spice up my sex life with my spouse?”

“Am I in a sexless marriage?”

Join me today for part three of my chat with my hubby where we cover sensuality and all things sex—when it's easy, when it's not, and what to do about it.

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!

Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz.

Let’s Connect!  

What does a love and sex expert do when she gets into an argument with her husband? She acts like an absolute queen, uses all of her skills and never makes a mistake, and should win an Oscar for incredible communication skills, right? Well, it’s not quite so simple…

Want to revive your communication, romance, and sex life? Learn and practice The 3 Keys To Great Relationship so you can become one of those rare couples who are deeply connected, happy, romantic & affectionate with my FREE online Passion Masterclass.  Register now - pick the day and time that work for you and your partner!

Want to know more about my 3 month couples program? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.

“Dr. Cheryl, why is open communication so hard?”

“How can I be more honest with my sweetheart?”

“Why are my partner and I constantly fighting?”

Join me today for part two of my chat with my hubby where we’re talking about communication, conflict resolution, and the intimacy side of the Passion Triangle. 

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!

Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz.

Let’s Connect!  

Meet my hubby! Ever wondered what it would be like to be married to a world famous sex and love expert? On today’s episode, I’m sitting down for an interview with my very own hubby to get his take on all things Sex, Love, and Elephants. We talk about how important it is to keep the Thrill alive - and how we do that ourselves.

Are you ready to create love and passion that last a lifetime? The doors for my exclusive 12-week immersion program open October 1! Join me for one of my FREE WORKSHOPS in early October to learn more. Click here to join the Become Passion waitlist today. 

“Dr. Cheryl, how can I treat my partner better?

“What are some ways to connect more fully with my spouse?”

“Why is my relationship so boring now vs when we were first dating?”

We’re all human beings with our own issues, our own patterns, childhoods, and previous relationships. Sometimes, those things can ambush us and our partners… and even renowned sex and love professionals aren’t immune to it!

Want to know more about my program? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!

Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz.

Let’s Connect!