ON Saturday, May 16 from 10am–1pm PST join me, Dr. Cheryl, live on Zoom for a special FREE ⁠Relationship Reboot Workshop⁠ designed to help you take stock, reconnect, and create your next step as a couple. Previously only offered inside Become Passion, this live workshop will help you identify what’s working, what’s struggling, and where to focus!

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Marriage 911! What's your emergency? 

Maybe you feel like it’s time for divorce, or you’ve fallen out of head-over-heels love, or maybe you’re even trying to recover from one of you stepping out on your relationship. Whatever it is,  every long term relationship runs into big obstacles… It’s who we are and what we do together to surmount those obstacles that really matters in the end. 

On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you about some of the biggest pain points a couple can have. That includes being on the edge of divorce, struggling with verbal abuse, attempting to recover from an affair, and that dreaded “I love you… but I'm not IN love with you, anymore” feeling.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

(05:04) Feeling alone and lonely in a relationship is very common 

(05:26) Complacency can ruin a relationship 

(06:54) Sensuality and sexuality is a beautiful, powerful, important part of who we are as a couple 

(07:42) 50% of second marriages fail because root problems aren’t being addressed 

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"Is my partner truly my soulmate or is it something we create together?"

"How do I find the upside of my partner's imperfections?"

"How do you rebuild trust after betrayal?"

On today's episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I'm joined by bestselling author and love alchemist Arielle Ford, author of The Soulmate Secret, Wabi Sabi Love, Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate, and her debut novel, The Love Thief. 

Arielle and I explore the messy, magnificent reality of long-term love, learning to love the perfectly imperfect person in front of you, and dive into why soulmates aren't found, they're made. 

In This Episode, You'll Learn:

(01:18) About wabi-sabi love and how an ancient Japanese aesthetic can transform the way you see your partner's most irritating habits 

(06:11) The physical and emotional toll of running a negative story about your partner

(09:14) Why you're going to die with your core wounds and why that's liberating news for your relationship

(13:20) Why butterflies are nature's trick and love is a daily behavior and choice

(23:09) You probably already have many soulmates in your life right now

(31:44) About The Love Thief, Arielle's debut novel based on actual events

(38:30) The physical and psychological devastation of intimate betrayal mirrors PTSD

(52:13) Today's LoveByte

Connect with Arielle:

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The Love Thief by Arielle Ford 

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"Is surrendering to life a sign of weakness?"

"How do I stop resisting the painful things that happen in life?"

"What does real gratitude look like?"

On today's episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I’m joined by world-renowned transformational speaker Kute Blackson, author of You Are the One and The Magic of Surrender. Kute and I share a soul-stirring conversation about one of the most misunderstood concepts in personal growth: surrender. 

We’re exploring why true surrender isn't weakness but radical courage and why it may just be the most powerful thing you can do for your love life and your life as a whole.

In This Episode, You'll Learn:

(01:29) Being in pain or feeling lost takes tremendous courage 

(07:27) The real meaning of surrender isn’t giving up or waving the white flag, it's letting go of the illusion of control and who you "think" you should be

(12:00) Kute's personal story of heartbreak: how losing the relationship he thought was "the one" forced him to surrender and led him directly to his wife

(20:18) Grief is the portal you must walk through before true surrender is possible.

(36:33) What toddlers know about surrender that adults have forgotten and how watching his son helped Kute understand unconditional feeling

(39:29) Why the most ecstatic lovemaking happens when you stop controlling and start flowing with the energy

(46:31) The 8 levels of gratitude: from feeling grateful for what you have, to gratitude for what hasn't happened yet, to gratitude for the precious human incarnation itself

(01:02:26) Today's LoveByte

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If you are interested in spending twelve days with Kute in Bali for a transformational workshop, learn more here 

Get Kute's books: You Are the One and The Magic of Surrender

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“How do I plan a meaningful birthday for my partner that strengthens our relationship?”

“Why does my long-term relationship feel more like a business than romance?”

“What is the key to keeping passion alive in a long-term relationship?”

On today’s episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I’m fresh off a romantic birthday getaway to Tofino, British Columbia and I’m using my experience to create a challenge for you. I’m sharing the story of my own birthday celebration, talking about the three keys to lasting passion, and issuing a 12-month birthday challenge to couples everywhere, complete with a prize for those who take me up on it!

One simple but powerful question anchors this episode: What did you do for your partner's last birthday? Whatever your answer, I want you to do better—and I’ll show you exactly how.

In This Episode, You'll Learn:

(04:35) Birthdays matter even if your partner "doesn't care,” the real point is making them feel chosen

(06:00) The 12-month birthday challenge: how to plan something meaningful that truly lights your partner up, from a $0 backyard picnic to an African safari

(09:18) My own surprise birthday trip for my hubby: grizzly bears, a glacier helicopter tour, hot springs, and horses

(11:40) Novelty is an aphrodisiac and even one night away from home can shift your whole dynamic

(18:51) The Passion Triangle: Intimacy, Thrill, and Sensuality—and why "Thrill" is exactly what birthdays were made for

(22:00) The sobering stat: 30–40% of long-term couples aren't having sex at all and what my free masterclass covers on this topic

(24:30) Today's LoveByte: How to fall in love over and over again with the one you're already with

Email me at [email protected] with a picture of your birthday date and we’ll send you a prize!

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"Do my actions match what matters to me?"

"Are we stuck running the household instead of nurturing our love?"

"Dr. Cheryl, how do I start taking real action for my relationship?"

Welcome back! I’m officially back in action with fresh episodes and today, I’m coming in hot with a brand new relationship performance review. 

In this episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I’m challenging you to look honestly at how much time and energy you're actually investing in your romantic relationship and how closely your actions match your stated priorities. (Spoiler: for most of us, there's a gap!)

The research is clear: the quality of your committed relationship is the single greatest predictor of life satisfaction, health, meaning, and overall happiness. Yet most of us spend more time scrolling our phones, maintaining our careers, and playing chauffeur to the kids than we do nurturing the one relationship that matters most. I’m giving you the tools to change that, starting today.

In This Episode, You'll Learn:

(02:00) Why the quality of your romantic relationship is the #1 predictor of a life well-lived 

(05:30) The difference between "relationship incorporated" and actually being a couple — and why so many of us are stuck in the former 

(04:27) How to do an honest relationship performance review on yourself 

(13:46) How many hours a week you're really spending on your relationship (and why the answer might shock you) 

 (23:05) Why "knowledge is power" is balderdash — and what actually creates change

(11:30) Practical action steps: dates, morning rituals, getaways, and how to make your sex life a priority without killing the spark 

(27:48) Today's LoveByte 

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“Dr. Cheryl, how can I be kinder to my sweetie?”

“Why do we speak to each other so rudely and sarcastically?”

“How do I stop myself from being so nasty all the time?”

Are you kind to your sweetheart? Or do you sometimes find yourself speaking to them with a nastiness you don’t even recognize? It may be hard to admit, but it’s not uncommon to find yourself speaking to your mate far more unkindly than they deserve… And the truth is, you’re so much better than that. 

On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you just a few of the ways you can spend 2026 being kinder and speaking more fairly to your honey. 

Today, I want to get really real about something that I’m guilty of—and I suspect it’s something quite a few of you might be guilty of, too. It can be easy to find yourself acting sarcastic and insulting toward your mate, but we always have the choice to choose kindness. 

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

Being rude to our loved ones has become more normalized, but that does not mean you have to take it on (05:36)

You have the capacity to stop being nasty at any second (08:10)

If you do find yourself being nasty, ask for a do-over and begin again (09:51)

Some of us can be unkind and critical without even meaning to (13:55)

Today’s LoveByte (14:44)

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“How can I improve my relationship?”

“All my partner and I do is fight—will we ever stop?”

“How can my sweetheart and I bring back the spark we used to have?”

Keeping a long term relationship healthy is hard work—there’s no way of getting around that. But that doesn’t mean that having a strong, compassionate, loving, lasting relationship is impossible… It simply means that you both need the right tools in your toolbelt to build it. 

On this Sex, Love, and Elephants rewind, I’m teaching you my top three tips for building a healthy relationship with actual staying power.

Great relationships don’t just happen by chance. Today, I’m covering a huge part of the foundation of my relationship philosophy: the passion triangle of intimacy, thrill, and sensuality. A triangle is the most stable structure known to man—so why wouldn’t you want to base your relationship on one?

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

(06:23) Conflict and conflict management are an unavoidable part of all relationships 

(11:35) We’re hardwired to find novelty exciting—that’s why new relationships have that honeymoon phase 

(15:51) Thrill needs to be cultivated 

(21:33) We are often more sexually adventurous early on in a relationship when we have less to lose 

(24:29) Today’s LoveByte 

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“How can I make Valentine’s Day more special?”

“Valentine’s Day only brings up bad memories, how can I change that?”

“Is there really a way to make a commercialized, overblown holiday romantic?”

Show of hands—who here hates Valentine’s Day? It's a heck of a lot of pressure to pull out the greatest romantic experience possible and to do a better job than Hollywood, isn’t it? Well here’s a little secret: While those romcoms and tv shows and romance novels might feel swoon worthy, none of it is real. 

On this Sex, Love, and Elephants rewind, I’m giving you three unusual ideas for Valentine’s Day dates that don’t suck and allow you to make your love intentional. 

February 14. Cupid, heart shaped boxes of terrible chocolate, a last minute cheesy card and a stuffed animal from the local pharmacy… We’ve all been there. But today, I’m teaching you a way to celebrate Valentine's Day that's a little out of the box and that honors the true meaning of the day.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

(01:20) Valentine's Day is a great excuse to do something warm and wonderful for your special person 

(06:52) Couples put more effort into being romantic when a relationship is just starting 

(08:08) First tip - You don’t have to be Shakespeare to write your partner a love letter

(13:31) Second tip - Paying it forward to another couple - giving THEM the gift of love - can be an incredibly romantic way to celebrate 

(15:40) Third Tip - Plan Valentine’s in July - NOW. You don’t have to wait until February 14th to celebrate your love!

(19:10) Today’s LoveByte 

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“Is romance dead?” 

“How can I be sexier to my partner?”

“Why isn’t finding a man as easy as the movies?”

It's easy to be cynical about modern love. We’re so misled by the media, romcoms, and romance novels about what love should look like that it can be really dangerous to our relationships. We have this illusion that love and romance need to be a certain way, but the truth is that real life relationships are a whole lot different than what we see on the screen or read on the page. 

On this Sex, Love, and Elephants rewind, I’m teaching you my biggest tips to create and sustain romance between you and your partner through 2026 and beyond. 

When’s the last time you and your sweetheart really thought out of the box for a date night? What about exploring a whole new-to-you cuisine, stepping out of your typical movie genre box, or even learning to ice skate together (and sharing a laughing fit when you both end up on your bottoms!) It can be hard to get out of your comfortable rut, but branching out can bring some much needed spice and bonding time to a long term relationship.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

(00:40) The most important predictor of happiness, health, and well being in our lives is the health and happiness of our romantic relationship 

(03:38) Idealized portrayals of love can be damaging to our real life relationship 

(04:38) Date nights are a no-brainer and a non-negotiable

(11:16) A great relationship is about taking action 

(12:09) Expressing gratitude lowers your heart rate and your stress response 

(16:18) Get off your butt and celebrate with your sweetheart 

(18:56) Today’s LoveByte 

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“How can I stop fighting with my spouse?”

“Why are my partner and I constantly disagreeing?”

“Is it okay if my honey and I never argue?”

If you’re a human being who loves another human being, do you truly think it's healthy to never argue with your sweetheart? To never disagree, never have a tense conversation or one that leads to you feeling anxious or worried or hurt or angry?

On this Sex, Love, and Elephants rewind, I’m teaching you why a long term relationship with no fighting or arguing is one giant red flag.

When you’re arguing with your partner, you literally cannot know their side of things. You can’t see their side of the clock, you can’t visualize what they're seeing—they have a different background, a different family upbringing, different hopes and dreams. It’s this simple, powerful idea that often becomes one of the most important teachings for couples in my Become Passion program. 

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

(02:00) Couples who don’t have conflict are avoiding the tough topics 

(09:38) One of the best ways to improve your communication is to take a step back from what's happening in the moment

(12:40) To argue effectively, you and your honey need to agree on a “time out” signal 

(14:28) When we're triggered and irrational, we are being hijacked by our emotions 

(19:30) We make mistakes and our partners make mistakes—learn to apologize like a pro 

(21:09) Today’s LoveByte 

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