Last First Date Radio

This is an encore episode of a one-time coaching session with a woman I've never met, Heather. She wrote in to the show: "I’ve been separated and divorced for 6 years. I’ve been in therapy and have been working on myself (listening to your podcasts and being a woman of value) but still spent the last two years in a relationship that was on and off again. How do you quickly find out if someone is a match? Instead of spending a few years trying to figure it out.

Listen as I coach Heather on how to know...when to stay and when to go (and so much more).

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►Get Sandy’s books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 and Love at Last https://amzn.to/4erpj7C 

►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoaching 

►FREE download: “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Pull Away” http://bit.ly/whymendisappear 

►Group Coaching: https://lastfirstdate.com/the-woman-of-value-club/ 

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Heartbreak hurts. Whether it was a short relationship that held so much promise or a long-term love that unraveled over time, the pain of letting go can feel overwhelming—especially when you’re dating later in life.

But here’s the truth: you can move forward. And not just forward—you can grow stronger, wiser, and more aligned with what you truly want in love.

Letting go doesn’t mean you forget. It means you honor what was and then make space for what’s next.

Here are five gentle but powerful ways to help you move on after heartbreak.

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►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application 

►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate 

►Get Sandy’s books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 and Love at Last https://amzn.to/4erpj7C 

►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoaching 

►FREE download: “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Pull Away” http://bit.ly/whymendisappear 

►Group Coaching: https://lastfirstdate.com/the-woman-of-value-club/ 

►Website → https://lastfirstdate.com/ 

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What’s the one big mistake that ruins relationships and how can we fix it? Zach Brittle  is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Certified Gottman Therapist, and Relational Life Therapist with nearly 20 years of experience. He hosts Marriage Therapy Radio and authored The Relationship Alphabet and The Marriage Therapy Journal. Zach lives in Seattle with his wife Rebecca and their two adult daughters.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

• What’s NSO and how might it show up early on in dating?
• What’s emotional neutrality, and how does it affect relationships?
• How to recognize subtle forms of contempt early on
• What singles can do to build connection, intimacy, and curiosity 
• How to recognize if you’re stuck in a negative cycle with a new partner

Connect with Zach

• Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/marriagetherapyradio/?hl=en 
• Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/marriagetherapyradio/ 
• Tik Tok - https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagetherapyradio 
• Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/marriage-therapy-radio/id1295458667 
• Website - https://zachbrittle.com 

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►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application 

►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate 

►Get Sandy’s books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 and Love at Last https://amzn.to/4erpj7C 

►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoaching 

►FREE download: “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Pull Away” http://bit.ly/whymendisappear 

►Group Coaching: https://lastfirstdate.com/the-woman-of-value-club/ 

►Website → https://lastfirstdate.com/ 

► Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1/ 

►Get Amazon Music Unlimited FREE for 30 days at https://getamazonmusic.com/lastfirstdate  

If the thought of flirting makes you cringe a little… you’re not alone. Many of my clients over 50 tell me, “Flirting feels fake.” Or, “I don’t know how to flirt anymore!”

Here’s the good news: flirting isn’t about acting like someone you’re not. It’s about showing genuine interest, confidence, and a little playful energy that says, “I see you—and I like what I see.”

Attraction isn’t just about physical looks or sexy banter—it’s about how you make someone feel in your presence. Ready to flirt like the fabulous, radiant woman you are? Here are 5 simple ways to create connection and chemistry after 50 (without trying too hard).

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►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application 

►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate 

►Get Sandy’s books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 and Love at Last https://amzn.to/4erpj7C 

►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoaching 

►FREE download: “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Pull Away” http://bit.ly/whymendisappear 

►Group Coaching: https://lastfirstdate.com/the-woman-of-value-club/ 

►Website → https://lastfirstdate.com/ 

► Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1/ 

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What is the importance of forgiving yourself and past partners? My podcast guest, Tony Silard, says that many relationships fail because we don’t practice forgiveness. He’s the author of Love and Suffering, and has coached political leaders, including G-20 cabinet ministers. He has taught leadership at various universities around the world and has lectured on leadership at Harvard, Stanford, Georgetown, the University of California at Berkeley, George Washington University, Cal Poly Pomona, and ESADE Business School. 

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

• Why Forgiveness is critical to a successful relationship
• How not forgiving past relationships hinders our relationships
• How not forgiving creates a never ending cycle
• The first step in forgiving
• Why you must judge to forgive

Connect With Tony

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/anthony-silard-a305516/?originalSubdomain=it 

Download two free books: The Myth of Happiness and The Myth of Friendship: Go to 

theartoflivingfree.org/freehappinessandfriendshipbooks 

Purchase: Love and Suffering: Break the Emotional Chains that Prevent You from Experiencing Love https://amzn.to/45tbVgn

►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio 

►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application 

►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate 

►Get Sandy’s books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 and Love at Last https://amzn.to/4erpj7C 

►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoaching 

►FREE download: “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Pull Away” http://bit.ly/whymendisappear 

►Group Coaching: https://lastfirstdate.com/the-woman-of-value-club/ 

►Website → https://lastfirstdate.com/ 

► Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1/ 

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Have you ever found yourself stuck in a never-ending texting trap in dating with someone you kinda like… but nothing’s actually happening? You text good morning, they text back hours later. You volley memes. Maybe you get a “how was your day?” at 10 p.m. Weeks go by and… still no date.

Congratulations! You’re in a dead-end texting trap. 🕳️📱

It’s incredibly common, especially in online dating. But here’s the truth: real relationships don’t live in your phone. If you’re looking for an emotionally available partner, it’s time to get out of the texting hamster wheel and into real life. Here’s how to break free — without ghosting, overthinking, or wasting your precious energy.

►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio 

►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application 

►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate 

►Get Sandy’s books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 and Love at Last https://amzn.to/4erpj7C 

►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoaching 

►FREE download: “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Pull Away” http://bit.ly/whymendisappear 

►Group Coaching: https://lastfirstdate.com/the-woman-of-value-club/ 

►Website → https://lastfirstdate.com/ 

► Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1/ 

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This is an encore episode with Jessica Baum. She is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) who supports those struggling with anxiety, relationship conflict, marital issues, and codependent relationships. She’s the author of Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love, published in June 2022, and Safe: An Attachment-Informed Guide to Building More Secure Relationships, available October 2025. 

Jessica is the founder of the Relationship Institute of Palm Beach, a group practice providing couples therapy, family counseling, and addiction therapy in south Florida since 2016, the Self-full® Method, and her sister company, Be Self-full.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

• Tools to use when triggered in a relationship
• How to become aware of repeating patterns of low self-worth and abandonment
• How our nervous system impacts our relationships and is unconsciously driving our behavior
• Healthy chemistry versus an activated nervous system

Connect with Jessica at https://www.beselffull.com/ and @jessicabaumlmhc on instagram. Order her book Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love https://amzn.to/3M7DRMq, and preorder her newest book, Safe: An Attachment-Informed Guide to Building More Secure Relationships https://amzn.to/45dHtGW

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►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate 

►Get Sandy’s books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 and Love at Last https://amzn.to/4erpj7C 

►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoaching 

►FREE download: “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Pull Away” http://bit.ly/whymendisappear 

►Group Coaching: https://lastfirstdate.com/the-woman-of-value-club/ 

►Website → https://lastfirstdate.com/ 

► Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1/ 

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Do you tend to overshare in dating? Have you ever caught yourself mid-text, mid-date, or mid-conversation thinking: “Oh no… did I really just say all of that?” You know what I’m talking about!

Oversharing in dating is incredibly common — and surprisingly misunderstood. So let’s unpack it: why do we do it, what is it really about, and what does healthier, more connected conversation sound like?

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►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application 

►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate 

►Get Sandy’s books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 and Love at Last https://amzn.to/4erpj7C 

►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoaching 

►FREE download: “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Pull Away” http://bit.ly/whymendisappear 

►Group Coaching: https://lastfirstdate.com/the-woman-of-value-club/ 

►Website → https://lastfirstdate.com/ 

► Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1/ 

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Behavioral scientist turned dating coach, Logan Ury is an internationally recognized expert on modern love. She’s the author of the Amazon #1 bestseller, How to Not Die Alone. As the Director of Relationship Science at the dating app Hinge, Logan leads a research team dedicated to helping people find love. After studying psychology at Harvard, she ran Google’s behavioral science team—the Irrational Lab. Logan lives in the Bay Area with her husband, Scott and her daughter. 

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

• The science behind why dating is so hard

• How dating can be improved

• The Three Tendencies in Dating

• Why you shouldn’t be looking for the ‘spark’ 

• How to stop searching for a prom date to find your life partner

• The biggest mistakes people make in dating

• Ways to make dating fun

Buy How to Not Die Alone here: https://amzn.to/3vlbO2W 

Learn more at LoganUry.com or follow her @loganury

►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio 

►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application 

►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate 

►Get Sandy’s books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 and Love at Last https://amzn.to/4erpj7C 

►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoaching 

►FREE download: “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Pull Away” http://bit.ly/whymendisappear 

►Group Coaching: https://lastfirstdate.com/the-woman-of-value-club/ 

►Website → https://lastfirstdate.com/ 

► Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1/ 

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We often use the words “relationship” and “partnership” interchangeably — but they’re not the same thing.

All partnerships are relationships, but not all relationships are partnerships. Understanding the difference can help you name what you actually want, assess what you’re in, and co-create something more aligned.

Here are five ways to explore the difference.

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