Last First Date Radio

How do you break free from narcissistic abuse? My podcast guest, Dr. Alina Kastner, is a leading Vienna-based psychotherapist and author of “Break Up With Narcissism: How to Break Free and Stay Free”. Her specialty is promoting deeper intimacy, connection and clarity while helping people navigate trauma and narcissistic abuse.

In this episode:

• What exactly is narcissistic abuse, and why it’s so difficult for people to see when they’re experiencing it
• The first step to protect yourself from a narcissist
• The biggest misconceptions about narcissism in the media
• How to tell the difference between an emotionally unavailable partner and a true narcissist
• Small acts you can take to begin rewriting your story of narcissistic abuse

Connect With Alina

• Website: www.alinakastner.com   
• Instagram: @dr.alinakastner 
• TikTok: @dr.alinakastner 

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►Get Sandy’s books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 and Love at Last https://amzn.to/4erpj7C 

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►FREE download: “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Pull Away” http://bit.ly/whymendisappear 

►FREE download: “The Green Light Guide to Dating After 50” https://lastfirstdate.com/green-light-guide/ 

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Have you ever noticed this frustrating pattern: The people who text back immediately, show genuine interest, and are emotionally available often feel less exciting. Meanwhile, the ones who are a little distant, harder to read, or slow to respond make our heart beat faster.

There are real psychological reasons why aloof people can feel more attractive, especially in dating. And understanding why  this happens can help you make more conscious, empowered choices instead of getting pulled into old dynamics.

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►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application 

►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate 

►Get Sandy’s books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 and Love at Last https://amzn.to/4erpj7C 

►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoaching 

►FREE download: “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Pull Away” http://bit.ly/whymendisappear 

►FREE download: “The Green Light Guide to Dating After 50” https://lastfirstdate.com/green-light-guide/ 

►Group Coaching: https://lastfirstdate.com/the-woman-of-value-club/ 

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Why is there a rise in gray divorce? Dr. Dana McNeil, PsyD, LMFT, is a licensed couples therapist and Certified Gottman Therapist specializing in emotional safety, relationship repair, and long-term compatibility. She is the founder of The Relationship Place and Therapy Getaway, where she provides intensive couples therapy for high-conflict relationships. Dr. McNeil serves on the Advisory Board of MYA and is a national media expert and frequent speaker on modern relationships.

In this episode:

• Why there’s a rise in gray divorce
• What erodes in long term marriages that leads to divorce later in life
• How an empty nest amplifies relational issues
• The emotional and identity challenges unique to later divorce
• How to repair a fractured marriage later in life

Connect With Dr. Dana

• Website: www.danamcneil.com
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrDanaMcNeil
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drdanamcneil/
• The Relationship Place www.sdrelationshipplace.com
• Instagram: @sdrelationshipplace @drdanamcneil

►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio 

►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application 

►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate 

►Get Sandy’s books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 and Love at Last https://amzn.to/4erpj7C 

►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoaching 

►FREE download: “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Pull Away” http://bit.ly/whymendisappear 

►FREE download: “The Green Light Guide to Dating After 50” https://lastfirstdate.com/green-light-guide/ 

►Group Coaching: https://lastfirstdate.com/the-woman-of-value-club/ 

►Website → https://lastfirstdate.com/ 

► Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1/ 

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If you keep falling for the wrong people, this is for you. In this solo episode, I share 5 reasons why you do it and how to stop so you can finally go on your last first date.

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►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application 

►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate 

►Get Sandy’s books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 and Love at Last https://amzn.to/4erpj7C 

►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoaching 

►FREE download: “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Pull Away” http://bit.ly/whymendisappear 

►FREE download: “The Green Light Guide to Dating After 50” https://lastfirstdate.com/green-light-guide/ 

►Group Coaching: https://lastfirstdate.com/the-woman-of-value-club/ 

►Website → https://lastfirstdate.com/ 

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The age old question: when only one person does the work, can a relationship last? Dr. Lee Baucom has spent over three decades helping people shift from a disconnected marriage to a loving and connected relationship, even if only one is trying.

In this episode:

• What is a Pause Button Marriage?
• What are the three levels of connection?
• What can only one partner do to save a relationship? 
  

Connect with Lee

• Website: http://UnPauseYourMarriage.com  
• Podcast: http://SaveTheMarriage.com/podcast 

►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio 

►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application 

►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate 

►Get Sandy’s books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 and Love at Last https://amzn.to/4erpj7C 

►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoaching 

►FREE download: “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Pull Away” http://bit.ly/whymendisappear 

►FREE download: “The Green Light Guide to Dating After 50” https://lastfirstdate.com/green-light-guide/ 

►Group Coaching: https://lastfirstdate.com/the-woman-of-value-club/ 

►Website → https://lastfirstdate.com/ 

► Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1/ 

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Do you find flirting in midlife to be awkward or fake? Here are five tips to help you flirt naturally, playfully, and effectively!

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►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application 

►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate 

►Get Sandy’s books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 and Love at Last https://amzn.to/4erpj7C 

►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoaching 

►FREE download: “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Pull Away” http://bit.ly/whymendisappear 

►FREE download: “The Green Light Guide to Dating After 50” https://lastfirstdate.com/green-light-guide/ 

►Group Coaching: https://lastfirstdate.com/the-woman-of-value-club/ 

►Website → https://lastfirstdate.com/ 

► Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1/ 

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Laurie Collister is living proof that you can rewrite your happily ever after. She is a counselor, journalist, and debut memoirist.  After graduating from Kenyon College, she worked as a litigation paralegal, market analyst, investigative journalist, and, most recently, as a counselor on LA’s skid row.  In this checkerboard of professions, she learned how to harvest the hidden – key to penning A Different Kind of Vow: Rewriting My Happily After, due out April 7, 2026, as well as The Last Home on the Left, about her fourteen years working on skid row, to be published in May 2027.  Laurie lives with her extended family and dog Bella on a cul-de-sac in Los Angeles.

In this episode:

• What is the “other kind of vow”? 
• What we can learn about love in our 30s and 40s
• How journaling can change your life and be your personal therapist
  

Laurie’s Website https://lauriecollister.com

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►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application 

►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate 

►Get Sandy’s books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 and Love at Last https://amzn.to/4erpj7C 

►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoaching 

►FREE download: “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Pull Away” http://bit.ly/whymendisappear 

►FREE download: “The Green Light Guide to Dating After 50” https://lastfirstdate.com/green-light-guide/ 

►Group Coaching: https://lastfirstdate.com/the-woman-of-value-club/ 

►Website → https://lastfirstdate.com/ 

► Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1/ 

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How do you have deeper conversations on a first date (without it feeling like an interview or interrogation)? Here are 5 questions that will open up lively, informative, and connecting conversations.

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►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application 

►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate 

►Get Sandy’s books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 and Love at Last https://amzn.to/4erpj7C 

►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoaching 

►FREE download: “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Pull Away” http://bit.ly/whymendisappear 

►FREE download: “The Green Light Guide to Dating After 50” https://lastfirstdate.com/green-light-guide/ 

►Group Coaching: https://lastfirstdate.com/the-woman-of-value-club/ 

►Website → https://lastfirstdate.com/ 

► Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1/ 

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My guest, Dr. Bella DePaulo, celebrates those who are happily single. She is the leading expert on single life, and her TEDx talk on the topic now has more than 1.6 million views. She received her PhD from Harvard, spent two decades as a psychology professor at the University of Virginia, and is an academic affiliate at UC Santa Barbara. She is the author of SINGLE AT HEART.

In this episode:

• The definition of “single at heart"
• Why people who are single at heart love being single so much
• Doesn’t everyone want to have a romantic partner? 
• The positive benefits of embracing a single life 
• Reactions to the Single at Heart book

Connect with Bella

• X: @belladepaulo
• Bluesky: @belladepaulo.bsky.social 
• IG: @bellasingleatheart
• FB: @singleatheartbook  @belladepaulo
• YouTube: @BellaDePaulo
• Website: https://belladepaulo.com/
  

►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio 

►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application 

►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate 

►Get Sandy’s books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 and Love at Last https://amzn.to/4erpj7C 

►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoaching 

►FREE download: “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Pull Away” http://bit.ly/whymendisappear 

►FREE download: “The Green Light Guide to Dating After 50” https://lastfirstdate.com/green-light-guide/ 

►Group Coaching: https://lastfirstdate.com/the-woman-of-value-club/ 

►Website → https://lastfirstdate.com/ 

► Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1/ 

►Get Amazon Music Unlimited FREE for 30 days at https://getamazonmusic.com/lastfirstdate  

Your limiting beliefs could be keeping you from the love you want. Here are 5 ways to bust those beliefs and finally find your person!

►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio 

►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application 

►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate 

►Get Sandy’s books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 and Love at Last https://amzn.to/4erpj7C 

►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoaching 

►FREE download: “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Pull Away” http://bit.ly/whymendisappear 

►FREE download: “The Green Light Guide to Dating After 50” https://lastfirstdate.com/green-light-guide/ 

►Group Coaching: https://lastfirstdate.com/the-woman-of-value-club/ 

►Website → https://lastfirstdate.com/ 

► Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1/ 

►Get Amazon Music Unlimited FREE for 30 days at https://getamazonmusic.com/lastfirstdate