In this episode, I’m (Carly Ann) introducing the new direction of the podcast and why I changed the name from Lessons in Self Worth to Lessons in Overthinking and Obsessing.

If you struggle with overthinking, obsessive thoughts, anxious attachment, relationship anxiety, social anxiety, health anxiety, reassurance seeking, or feeling stuck in mental loops you can’t switch off, this ep is going to feel lovely for you

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• Why this is now the podcast and place to be if you're an overthinker

• Different types of overthinking and obsessing

• How overthinking links to self-worth

• The emotional, behavioural, and physical impact of overthinking

• The core mistake people make when trying to stop overthinking

• A quick, more effective approach that can help take the weight and fear out of difficult thoughts today

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Are you feeling self-conscious, anxious, or like everyone is watching you, especially in social situations?

You might feel embarrassed talking at work, scared to share your opinion with friends, or nervous to talk to a stranger...That’s the spotlight effect - a common cognitive bias where you overestimate how much others notice our appearance, behaviour, mistakes, or the fact you're anxious.

In this episode, I (Modern CBT Therapist & Coach, Carly Ann) discuss the spotlight effect in more detail, including more on what it is, examples you can relate to, the impact, and I explore practical strategies to overcome the spotlight effect.

If you struggle with fear of judgement, awkward social moments, or replaying conversations in your head, this episode will help you give you a moment of feeling so seen - and how to break free from it.

Hosted by Carly Ann, this episode is ideal for anyone interested in psychology, mental health, anxiety management, and personal development.

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Changing your mindset and beginning to think in a new way is not just about learning & repeating the new thoughts.

It often comes with an internal battle that no one really talks about, feeling like you are arguing with yourself.

In this episode I (Carly Ann) explore what it feels like when you are trying to grow, but your mind keeps arguing with you, doubting you, or pulling you back into old patterns.

You might notice two parts of you showing up at the same time. One part wants change and another part does not fully trust it yet. This inner conflict can feel confusing, frustrating, and discouraging, but it is a normal part of building self-esteem and shifting long held beliefs.

• I also share practical therapist informed tools and self help techniques to help you start calming that internal argument, strengthen new ways of thinking, and build more trust in yourself over time.

If you are in the middle of change and it feels hard - save this ep or listen right now

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Struggling with overwhelming thoughts, anxiety or low self-esteem? You are not alone, and this episode is here to help you take a meaningful first step towards change.

In this episode, we explore Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), a modern and evidence-based approach that helps you break free from negative thinking patterns, build emotional resilience and reconnect with what truly matters to you.

You will learn the core principles of ACT, including acceptance, mindfulness and values-based living, so you can decide if this powerful approach is right for you. There is also a live guided practice, giving you a real and practical experience of how ACT can work in your everyday life.

If you are dealing with anxiety, intrusive thoughts or low confidence, this episode offers practical tools, mental health insights and empowering strategies to support your wellbeing and personal growth.

Tune in to begin changing your relationship with your thoughts and start moving forward with greater clarity and self-compassion.

Keywords: anxiety support, low self-esteem, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, ACT therapy, mindfulness, mental health podcast UK, emotional wellbeing, self development, confidence building

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Do you ever say something and then have hundreds of obsessive thoughts along the line of “I was awkward” “They don’t like me” “I’ve pushed them away”?

Or someone doesn't text back and you are flooded with “I’ve done something wrong”, “they’re losing interest”, or "why did I have to do that"

This kind of spiral feels so real...but what actually happened might be nothing, but you have a tendency to create a massive, panful story in your mind anyway

In this episode I (Carly Ann), talk about how to break this cycle and I share quite a famous method by a book I read years ago but has stuck with me.

I hope you love it and find it as useful as many others around the world.

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If your mood can shift in an instant and you quickly get stuck in your head - listen to this today.

We have thousands of thoughts every single day, but what most people don’t realise is that those thoughts often fall into predictable patterns.

And these patterns matter.

Because the way you think doesn’t just reflect reality, it can quietly distort it. It can change how you see situations, how you judge people, and even how you interpret yourself.

And once that shift happens, everything else follows: how you feel… and what you choose to do next.

In this episode, Carly Ann breaks down the exact thought patterns and the specific language  that can make people feel triggered, hurt, overwhelmed, or suddenly irritated without fully understanding why.

And most importantly, she shows you how to start noticing these patterns in real time and begin stepping out of them.

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We all experience setbacks in the form of criticism, rejection, and failure - and the reality is that some of us getting more triggered by it than others

For some of you, the slight hint of failure or rejection will lead to intense worry, physical anxiety, and not feeling good enough

If that reaction is getting in the way of your potential, your happiness, and your wellbeing - you need to listen to this episode

It's short and sweet, it's a small clip from the most recent Self-Worth RESET

You're a good person, in fact you're probably anxious about not being a good person...

And you know that you people please.

• You say yes when you actually mean no
• You say sorry for things that aren’t even your fault
• You go along with what others think, even if you don’t agree
• You over-explain yourself so people don’t judge you
• You put everyone else first and end up exhausted

You get to be a good person and show up as your self too, and ultimately feel happier

In this episode, Therapist & Coach, Carly Ann gives you 3 options that you can go ahead and put straight into practice

Not only does it help you reduce people pleasing (and feel free for the BS!), but it's brilliant for self respect, happiness, and self-esteem - absolute bonus!

I've put some real love into this ep based on what shows up in my practice, I hope you enjoy

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Do you ever feel like no matter what you do, old patterns or your past seems to get in the way?

You may seem confident on the outside, but inside, self-doubt, overthinking, or big emotions can take control.

Many of us carry invisible wounds from childhood, times we felt unseen, unheard, or unimportant. Those old patterns can follow us into adulthood, shaping how we see ourselves, our choices, and our relationships.

I believe it is our role, to reparent ourselves and be the kind of support we always craved.

When we do this, we get to create a life bigger than we imagined.

In this episode, Carly Ann, a psychotherapist and Somatic Coach who specialises in self-esteem and self-worth, talks about reparenting, a gentle and practical way to give yourself the care and support you may have missed as a child.

It is not about blaming the past. It is about learning to be your own nurturing parent.

If you have ever felt not enough, this episode is for you. Tune in and start giving yourself the love and care you have always deserved.

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Are you a mum? Are you feeling worried and anxious in a way that feels out of proportion?

Perhaps you have always worried or struggled with Self-Esteem, but when it comes to being a Mum it feels uncontrollable?

As a Therapist that focuses on self-esteem, I very often work with Mums that doubt themselves, criticise themselves, and set expectations that lead to anxiety, low mood, and overwhelm.

In this episode I share three common patterns that show up in the therapy room, in individual and group settings for Mum.

These patterns can contribute to daily struggles or post natal depression / post natal anxiety

If you do believe you may have clinical depression or anxiety, please do seek out support, you do not need to suffer alone

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