Lessons in Overthinking & Obsessing

Today I am speaking with a special guest, Mo Seetubtim, whose journey includes a deep passion for helping people live happier lives. You are invited to listen to a conversation where we explore personal development and steps towards being more intentional in your relationships and day-to-day life. From childhood curiosities to navigating the complexities of family dynamics, Mo shares personal stories of growth, self-awareness, and doing the work that led to a better relationship with herself and mother. 

You get a lovely glimpse into some of the ways Mo has improved managing daily moods, and building habits that truly well-being.

The discussion touches on the challenges we all face when starting to change, the subtle ways our past influences our present, and the mindset shifts that can lead to more empathy, patience, and self-compassion. 

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Why do relationships sometimes trigger anxiety, jealousy, or the feeling that you’re not enough, even when things seem fine on the surface?

I’m Carly Ann, a psychotherapist and coach specialising in self-esteem and self-worth. I work with people who appear capable and self-aware on the outside, but internally struggle with self-doubt, rumination, perfectionism, or relationship anxiety. You might know you’re worthy, yet still feel patterns repeating that leave you unsettled in your connections.

In this episode, I talk about how relational trauma can quietly show up in your adult relationships and anxiety. This isn’t about tips or quick fixes...it’s about noticing patterns, understanding what’s happening beneath the surface, and recognising that you’re not alone.

If you’ve ever wondered “Why do I react this way in relationships?” or felt frustrated by your own responses, this episode is for you. Press play to start seeing your reactions with clarity, awareness, and a little more compassion for yourself.

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You trust your partner… so why does jealousy still hit?

The obsessing, the overthinking, the anxiety that makes you question yourself and your relationship.

In this episode, psychotherapist Carly Ann explores why even self-aware, capable people struggle with jealousy, anxious thoughts, and insecure attachment, and shares a powerful mindset shift that can change how you experience love and connection.

If relationship anxiety, obsessing, or jealousy has ever held you back, this episode is for you.

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If you struggle with low self-esteem, self-doubt, or feeling not good enough, ands it impacts your anxiety and wellbeing - you’re in the right place. Honestly, a lot of people look confident and happy on the outside but privately feel stuck in cycles of overthinking, anxious attachment, perfectionism, and self-criticism.

In this episode, I (Psychotherapist and Self-Esteem Specialist, Carly Ann) open up a deeper conversation about what low self-esteem really is and why it can continue showing up even when you are doing the inner work. - we look at what keeps it going.

Low self-worth often isn’t just about confidence. It can be connected to deeper beliefs we carry about ourselves and the subtle patterns that keep those beliefs alive in everyday life, I will explain more in this episode.

If certain situations trigger intense self-doubt, you jump to the worst conclusions about yourself, or things just feel so difficult, I think this could really help you today.

I work with thoughtful, capable people who often appear confident externally but internally struggle with rumination, people-pleasing, perfectionism, and feeling like they are never quite good enough.

This episode is for anyone beginning to question their relationship with themselves and wanting to understand low self-esteem and self-worth on a deeper level.

If you are learning to reparent yourself, build self-acceptance, and develop a kinder inner voice - welcome to the community.

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Do you want your ex back? Or you want someone specific? If you're feeling down or anxious because you can't stop thinking about someone you like... this so for you.

I was there, where you are. This is the life changing advice needed when you are in that moment of needing them, wanting them, thinking about them.

It's all consuming isn't it, sometimes to the point of not being able to focus or function, which is why you want them back... that and you feel they truly are the one.

Do you care too much about what other people think? Are you constantly comparing yourself socially and feel like everyone else is more successful, more confident, more together than you?

In this episode, I talk about low self-esteem and the exhausting habit of comparing yourself to colleagues, exes, friends, and other mums.

From overthinking group chats and replaying conversations to scrolling social media and feeling behind, this pattern keeps you worrying, shrinking, and playing small inside your comfort zone - and this only makes worse how much you care!

I share a powerful self-help technique used in therapy called Behavioural Experiments, a Cognitive Behavioural Therapy tool designed to help you challenge negative thoughts, test your fears in real life, and build genuine confidence and self-love.

Instead of letting comparison and fear control your choices, you will learn how to step outside your comfort zone and start proving to yourself that you are enough, in four simple steps.

If you are ready to stop feeling inferior and start strengthening your self-esteem and self-worth, this episode will give you a practical and empowering place to begin.

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These affirmations are made with love for anyone caught in the anxious avoidant trap/cycle. This community knows push and pull relationship and how anxiety provoking it is

Listen to this if you need to stabilise and reclaim your sense of self

These words from Carly Ann are designed to help regulate your nervous system, soften anxiety, and support attachment healing without pressure or force.

Perfect for moments of overthinking, relationship anxiety, emotional overwhelm, or when you feel stuck between reaching out and pulling away.

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emotional safety & self-soothing

Listen when you need calm, reassurance, and a reminder that you are safe

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If you are feeling not good enough and currently working on Self-Esteem, it’s very possible you get stuck in your thoughts.

Perhaps overthinking what was said, worrying about a text, replaying a mistake, chasing reassurance, getting jealous, or even caring too much what someone thinks…

This isn’t because you’re “too much”… it’s because your mind is ‘hooked’ and locked into the stories

In this video, I’ll teach you a simple tool from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) that helps you stop automatic thoughts from taking over - like the ones that say:

• “I’m not enough”

• “It’s my fault and everyone knows”

• “I’m going to be abandoned”

• “I’m in trouble”

What if I told you, you don’t need to fight your thoughts?

You don’t need actually need more reassurance?

What you do need is space from the stories your mind keeps replaying on an exhausting loop

This episode will help you:

• Stop feeling controlled by insecurity

• Reduce overthinking

• Break the cycle/loop of rumination/worry using a simple ACT tool

• Feel more grounded and able to get space instead of being on a loop

If this resonates, like and subscribe for more practical psychology tools that actually help develop self-worth & self-esteem in real life.

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Are you doing the work on your low-self-esteem?

If you have recently had a wake-up call that it's time to improve your self-worth, you're in the right place.

In this episode, I give you three common patterns I see how up again and again in people with low self-esteem.

There are clear patterns that quietly shape how we feel about ourselves, impacting our confidence at work, in relationships, and throughout daily life.

My mission is to share these patterns with you so you can recognise your true worth and break free from outdated beliefs and past hurts. This journey is about reclaiming your life, living fully, and no longer letting negative experiences control your self-esteem.

When you understand these specific patterns that I reveal in this episode, you gain the power to change them...and create healthier relationships, greater success at work, and a more fulfilling life overall.

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If you struggle with self-worth and self-esteem, this podcast is for you. Self-worth shapes how you think, feel, and show up in your relationships, your work, and your everyday life. When it’s low, it often shows up as anxious attachment, jealousy, overthinking, obsession, perfectionism, mood swings, anxiety, people-pleasing, and constant worrying.

Hosted by Carly Ann, this podcast helps you understand why these patterns exist and how they keep you stuck. Each episode is here to motivate you, bring clarity, and share practical self-help techniques you can actually use.

The goal is simple: to help you build genuine self-worth, strengthen your self-esteem, and reclaim your life, your confidence, and your happiness.

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