In this week’s episode, Marni welcomes Chris Gillis to the Life Check Yourself studio where they dive into the essential components that make a man fall deeply in love. Chris Gillis is a professional dating coach with a unique approach to understanding the psychology of dating. Chris brings practical insights and experience from his work with men who are actively seeking meaningful relationships. The duo discussed the importance of maintaining a balanced approach in dating—one that fosters curiosity, preserves mystery, and builds lasting self-assurance. Get ready to explore how confidence, clear intentions, and self-love play crucial roles in creating lasting connections.

Key Takeaways:

• Creating healthy space in a relationship can amplify attraction.

• Meaningful dating happens through focused interaction rather than endless texting.

• Building a strong inner foundation leads to genuine, lasting relationships.

 

1. Creating Attraction Through Intentional Scarcity [00:15] 

Scarcity in a relationship is about managing how often and intensely one interacts to maintain curiosity and value. Constant availability can dilute appreciation, while intentional space invites excitement and fosters a healthy dynamic. Over-engagement can turn partners into routine rather than desired company. 

“When there’s always availability, it becomes routine instead of desired. Intentional scarcity can create more depth in a connection.”

1. Meaningful Communication vs. Endless Messaging [12:30] 

Excessive texting, especially before a first date, can drain the excitement and mystery needed for an authentic connection. Instead, prioritizing in-person or phone interactions can lead to a deeper understanding of compatibility. 

“It’s not about how much you text or talk before a date; it’s about what you choose to save for in-person experiences.”

1. Building Self-Confidence Through Consistent Actions [23:45] 

Confidence isn’t instantaneous; it’s developed through small, repeated actions over time. Just as a strong body is built through regular workouts, a resilient sense of self is created through daily practices like journaling and goal-setting. 

“Confidence is built daily, not overnight. Repetition in positive actions shapes who you are, making you ready for a relationship.”

 

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