This week, Barb and Michelle tackle the difficult topic of disappointment and how they manage it. We know how hard it is to feel rejected and like life doesn't have your back. In this episode, we discuss how to manage disappointment, rejection, and trusting the timing of life. Follow us @MichelleMaros and @Peaceful_Barb and share your experiences with us @BarbKnowsBestPod or at  www.michellemaros.com/podcast.

Episode Notes:

Reminders to help us reframe our feelings of rejection and disappointment:

• Remember to keep the faith. 
• Remember that rejection isn’t personal. No one has the power to name who you are.
• Remember sometimes we can't see for the full story that is, we are only looking at one small chapter at a time.
• Remember to let life guide you.
• Remember that what’s for you won’t pass you.

References Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:

It’s Not Rejection, It’s Redirection by Michelle Maros

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Join Barb and Michelle for part 2 of their conversation about their favorite inspirational reads. They had so much to say, and so many books to share they needed more than one episode! Follow us @MichelleMaros and @Peaceful_Barb and share your experiences with us @BarbKnowsBestPod or at  www.michellemaros.com/podcast.

Episode Notes:

Seek inspiration from a person but keep your own unique path.

Barb’s Favorite Memoir:

• Finding Me by Viola Davis

Barb’s Favorite Re-read:

• Letters to a Young Poet by Rainer Maria Rilke

Barb’s Favorite Book to Give as a Gift:

• Tiny Beautiful Things by Cheryl Strayed

Barb’s Favorite Audiobook:

• I Take My Coffee Black by Tyler Merritt

Michelle’s Favorite Audiobook:

• Braving the Wilderness by Brené Brown
• Becoming by Michelle Obama

Barb’s Favorite Audio Book When You Feel Like You Are Losing Yourself:

• Atlas of the Heart by Brené Brown

Barb’s Favorite Book for Transitions in Life:

• Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb

Barb and Michelle’s Favorite Book for Teens:

• The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho

Michelle’s Overall Self-Help Favorite:

• The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

References Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:

Barb & Michelle’s Top 15 Inspirational Books

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In this week’s long awaited episode, Barb and Michelle dive into their favorite inspirational reads. Book recommendations are one of the most commonly asked questions, so we are thrilled to share the books that have gotten us through so much in life. Follow us @MichelleMaros and @Peaceful_Barb and share your experiences with us @BarbKnowsBestPod or at  www.michellemaros.com/podcast.

Episode Notes:

Reading can help you find your mentors and inspirational advisors.

Barb’s first book out of treatment:

• The Road Less Traveled by M. Scott Peck

Barb’s first inspirational book:

• Codependent No More by Melody Beattie

To be followed by Michelle’s favorite companion book:

• Journey to the Heart by Melody Beattie

Two books that Barb recommends the most:

• Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl
• Set Boundaries Find Peace by Nedra Glover Tawwab

The book that Barb recommends if you are going through a difficult time.

• When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chödrön

Michelle’s recommendations to tap into your creativity:

• The Artist Way by Julia Cameron
• Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert

References Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:

• How Reading Can Lead to Inspired Living by Michelle Maros
• Barb & Michelle’s Top 15 Inspirational Books

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In this week’s episode, Barb and Michelle talk about one of their favorite books, Codependent No More by Melody Beattie, and how it’s teaching and insights helped them to release codependent relationships. Follow us @MichelleMaros and @Peaceful_Barb and share your experiences with us @BarbKnowsBestPod or at www.michellemaros.com/podcast.

Episode Notes:

Codependency is a dysfunctional relationship dynamic where one person assumes the role of “the giver,” sacrificing their own needs and well-being for the sake of the other, “the taker.’

Red Flags of Codependency:

• Putting the other person’s needs above your own.
• Feeling like you cannot live without a person.
• Relying your happiness on someone or something else.
• People-pleasing to an extreme level.
• Having rigid expectations of what you think will make you happy.
• Losing your sense of boundaries and what you will and will not tolerate.
• Participating in things that go against your best interest.
• Ignoring your intuition or advice of loved ones.
• Feeling stuck, trapped, or unclear how to make a change.
• Loss of your own sense of identity and desire.

 

Helpful Tips as You Come Out of a Codependent Relationship:

• Begin a daily meditation/mindfulness practice that works for you.
• Establish a strong, centered relationship with yourself.
• Learn how to take care of yourself first.
• Get clear on what you want in your life.
• Cultivate a sense of self-confidence and self-worth to believe you are worthy of your desires. You don’t have to settle.
• Get clear on your boundaries: what you will and will not tolerate.
• Seek professional assistance when necessary.

 

References Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:

• Codependent No More by Melody Beattie
• Codependency by Psychology Today
• Breaking This Pattern Changed My Relationships by Michelle Maros

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This week, Barb and Michelle dive into the sensitive and sometimes tricky topic of breakups…friendship breakups! It’s common for us to discuss overcoming heartbreak in romantic relationships, but what can we do to move on and heal from an estranged friendship? Barb and Michelle share vulnerable stories and examples from their lives on lessons learned from friendship breakups, and more! Follow us @MichelleMaros and @Peaceful_Barb and share your experiences with us @BarbKnowsBestPod or at www.michellemaros.com/podcast.

Episode Notes:

• Loyalty is a feeling of understanding and grace rather than an action. It’s a person being present in the moment with you.
• Being your own best friend leads to healthy friendships all around you.

 

Helpful lessons that we have learned from friendships breakups:

1. Friendships do not need to last forever to be meaningful, impactful or loving.
2. Human beings are never stagnant. We are always changing, growing, and evolving. Relationships change as you do.
3. We never really know what other people’s life experiences are like, which means that we can never fully understand why some people act the way that they do.
4. Sometimes the most loving act we can do for someone is give them space and grace.
5. It's okay to set boundaries with people that you love.

 

References Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:

Five Lessons I’ve Learned From Ended Friendships by Michelle Maros

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In this week’s episode, Barb and Michelle discuss the habit they consider to be the biggest hindrance to happiness and joy: comparison. Learn reminders and simple boundaries you can set with yourself to begin to release the need to compete and compare and find more peace from within. Follow us @MichelleMaros and @Peaceful_Barb and share your experiences with us @BarbKnowsBestPod or at  www.michellemaros.com/podcast.

Episode Notes:

Reminders to help when we get into comparative thinking

1. Your path is your own.
2. You are where you need to be in this moment.
3. You are good enough and worthy enough to achieve your desires.
4. There is room for everyone to achieve their dreams and one person’s success doesn’t take away from your success.
5. You don’t have to conform to anyone else’s timeline.
6. Trust that life is unfolding for you as it is.

 

Social media reminders:

• Know your limits and your triggers.
• Feel free to unfollow or mute people you are following any time.
• Have creative affirmations for yourself to counteract those negative thoughts.
• Replace internet time with self-care practices.
• Create boundaries with your social media time.
• Social media is highlight reel.

 

References Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:

5 Reminders to Release Comparison and Competition by Michelle Maros

How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others by Rachel Cruze

The One Habit That Robs You of Happiness by Michelle Maros

Tiny Beautiful Things by Cheryl Strayed

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In this very special episode, Barb and Michelle celebrate one year of Barb Knows Best, the Podcast! In this time, they reflect on some of the biggest, most impactful lessons they’ve learned since launching the show, and what they hope to pass along to all of the listeners! Follow us @MichelleMaros and @Peaceful_Barb and share your experiences with us @BarbKnowsBestPod or at www.michellemaros.com/podcast.

Episode Notes:

15 Things That Were “Up” for Us in Our First Year:

1. Give yourself grace and pause to feel the feelings.
2. Feel the fear and do it anyway. Be curious about the unknown. We don’t know what is on the other side of fear and self-doubt.
3. Amazing things can happen when you commit to your dreams.
4. Don’t take things personally. There will always be people committed to misunderstanding you.
5. There is power in shared experiences and shared vulnerability.
6. Learn who you can trust and how to discern who has earned that trust.
7. You are not alone. There are people out there who want to help you. You simply have to ask.
8. Know who YOUR people are. Understand the importance of asking those people for help when you need it. Your people ARE YOUR people.
9. Healthy boundaries are important.
10. Be where your feet are, the present moment is truly where we have our power.
11. There is power in the PAUSE.
12. Every storm runs out of rain. ~ Maya Angelou
13. Happiness is choosing one thought over the other.
14. Life is not a one and done, we are always learning.
15. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Even with all the practices, self-compassion continues to be the hardest one to adapt in our lives.

 

References Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:

Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Glover Tawwab

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In a very special episode of Barb Knows Best, Michelle and Barb are joined by dear friend, author of the just-released book, The Sugar Jar, coach, and speaker, Yasmine Cheyenne. This intimate and vulnerable conversation dives into the topics of real self-care, life changes and transitions, and how to maintain a centering practice to connect with yourself, through it all. Follow us @MichelleMaros and @Peaceful_Barb and share your experiences with us @BarbKnowsBestPod or at www.michellemaros.com/podcast.

Episode Notes

• Try to follow the 24-hour rule before making any decision to help you establish boundaries and choose yourself. Ask yourself:
• Do I have space for this?
• Do I have time for this?
• Is this in alignment with what I said I want to do this year?
• And is this for me?  
• Give yourself grace because you are going to make choices that are not go the way you intended.
• Healing is a forever process. It’s not a decision. We are all still healing each day.  
• You are the only person who knows what you need.

References Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:

• The Sugar Jar by Yasmine Cheyenne
• IG Live with Yasmine Cheyenne
• @YasmineCheyenne

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In this week’s episode, Barb and Michelle take listeners through their detailed process of getting unstuck. It’s common for us to feel like we get stuck in ruts, habits, and situations that aren’t in our best interest. Luckily, we can start to move ourselves forward and out in an aligned, peaceful way. Follow us @MichelleMaros and @Peaceful_Barb and share your experiences with us @BarbKnowsBestPod or at www.michellemaros.com/podcast.

Episode Notes:

Eight Simple Tools to become unstuck:

1. Take an honest inventory of what you are feeling.
2. Acknowledge the negative thoughts that are fueling how you are feeling.
3. Have curiosity about the core of the negative thoughts. Ask yourself where are these negative thoughts coming from?
4. Learn to modify the negative thoughts. Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you.
5. Come up with a positive replacement to intercept the negative thoughts.
6. Stretch your comfort zone. Even a tiny change can quickly shift the negative feelings of being stuck. 
7. Visualize the life you truly desire and the dreams you have. 
8. Realize your greatness lies in the power to choose your own thoughts.

 

References Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:

5 Gentle Reminders for When You’re Feeling Stuck

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk, M.D.

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In this week’s episode, Barb and Michelle discuss the popular Tiktok trend, Lucky Girl Syndrome. They dive into what it is, what is helpful with it, and how we can incorporate this mindset into our lives in a grounded, meaningful way. Follow us @MichelleMaros and @Peaceful_Barb and share your experiences with us @BarbKnowsBestPod or at www.michellemaros.com/podcast.

Episode Notes:

• Lucky Girl Syndrome is the idea that if you believe that things in life will go your way, they will.
• An empath is a person that can take on the emotions and feelings of another person. An empath with take on other persons pain and suffering as their own.
• Be grounded in who you are.
• Being a trauma survivor doesn’t mean you will never be triggered or that it goes away completely. It means that you have gotten to the point where you can live life successfully and fully in a kind, healthy and happy way.

 

References Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:

• TikTok's 'Lucky Girl Syndrome' Trend Might Be the Best Thing for Your Mental Health
• What Does It Mean to Be an Empath?

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