Lit AF Relationships

On today’s episode of Lit AF Relationships I share a few sneaky signs that you're feeling unworthy in your dating life. Are you not swiping right because you think they’re better than you? Are you going with the flow instead of sharing your real needs or desires because you’re afraid they will leave? Are you compromising too much? Have you given up on dating entirely because it’s too overwhelming to be faced with the feeling of unworthiness? In this episode, I share why you’re feeling this way and explain how the different attachment styles cope with unworthiness including the fearful-avoidant, anxious preoccupied, and the dismissive avoidant. The great news is, unworthiness is a feeling state. It comes and goes. It is possible to change your attachment style and I would love to help you do it.

If you’re interested in creating healthy and secure relationships book a free discovery call to see if my one-on-one attachment coaching program is the right fit for you. Click here to book the call: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

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On today’s episode, I talked with the founder and artist behind one of my favorite instagram accounts, Vanillacooldance. Jessica Stahl draws cartoons to empower women in dating and in the bedroom. Jessica is here to help remove the shame and stigma from getting kinky in the bedroom. 

I really love how Vanillacooldance shares so vulnerably about embarrassing dating moments or sexy time and Jessica is the exact same way.

We talk about female pleasure and why it’s such a taboo topic. We also talk about our first orgasms and sex talks from our parents.

We finish the convo talking about a few ways to start asking for your needs to be met from the person you’re dating to the person you’ve been with for a long time. 

Thank you Jessica! We all need this ray of light in the taboo world.

If you’re interested in learning how to share your needs and boundaries in the bedroom or in dating book a free discovery call to see if my one-on-one secure relationships coaching program is for you. It’s zero-pressure and you’ll learn what attachment patterns are holding you back from deep connection with others. Book the call here: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

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Why are they pulling away? Why are they trying to trap me?

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This episode re-airs a recent interview I did on Of The Essence with Liz. We chat about how I got into attachment coaching, how I healed my fearful avoidant attached style and have created earned secure attachment. We also cover how attachment styles are formed and how they change over time. Liz is very brave and vulnerable and shares about how her attachment style has changed over time. 

I also go into each of the Attachment styles - secure, dismissive avoidant, anxious preoccupied & disorganized / fearful avoidant. And I explain what the anxious and avoidant relationship looks like. 

We finish the episode with my one step tip to move your relationship toward more secure.

If you are interested in learning what attachment patterns are holding you back from finding or being in a relationship book a free discovery call to see if my one on one coaching program is the right fit for you. I hope to see you there!

Listen to Of The Essence with Liz - https://open.spotify.com/show/0TbZB1Y1TjtpiIq5sQCXrp

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Have you fallen off your New Years resolutions? Me too. Well, I’ve just stopped setting them because I realized I was setting myself up for failure each year, which is why I wanted to record this episode. New Year's resolutions are tough. They rely on willpower which will motivate us for a short amount of time. But eventually, we’ll start snoozing that alarm clock, make excuses to skip the gym after work, and comfort eat a pint of ice cream. In this episode, I explain why it’s so hard to make the changes that we think we want. I also explain one tool to use to start making small steps in the direction you want to head in. I know it can feel overwhelming and a little shameful to fall off the wagon so soon. But don’t worry, you’re in the best of company with the rest of us.

If you’re interested in creating secure relationships where you are asking for your needs to be met, setting clear boundaries, and sharing your honest opinions book a free discovery call to see what attachment style patterns have been holding you back from this. Link to book: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

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Sometimes it’s really hard to say no to dating, hooking up, or getting over someone. You might know exactly how they’re not the right person or their not supporting you in the way that you need but you keep coming back for more. In this episode I talk about why it’s so hard to end it. I also share what’s happening at the subconscious level that keeps you coming back for more. I definitely cover why guilt and shame are making it all worse and maybe even keeping you stuck. As always, I finish the episode sharing one tool to help you start meeting your needs on your own so you can either keep going with the late night Netflix and chill situationship or end it for good. Either way you’re making a decision that’s right for YOU!

If you’re interested in ending old relationship patterns like people-pleasing, using mind-reading as your main form of communication, or dating unavailable people book a discovery call to see if my 1:1 coaching program is the right for you. It’s a zero-pressure call where you get to learn what outdated strategies from childhood are holding you back in relationships. I hope to see you there! Link to book a free discovery call: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

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On today’s podcast, I talk about why the fearful avoidant attachment style loves chaos. The fearful-avoidant attachment type grew up in chaos. As an adult they tend to seek out chaotic situations like an unhealthy or toxic work environment, getting into credit card debt, or dating someone reckless. In the episode, I talk about why they seek out situations like this. I then go into how the fearful-avoidant eventually reacts to chaotic situations with an intense need to control the situation. I have so much empathy for this reaction because it’s their way of innocently trying to get their needs met without healthy communication skills. Trust me, I’ve been here, this is the attachment style I grew up with. At the end of the episode, I share one easy solution for you to start using today to build self-trust that you will eventually expand toward others. It is 100% possible to change your attachment style. Tune in to hear how.

If you’re interested in healing your attachment style so you can date people without flipping 180 degrees after they show interest in you on a date or so you can start having a healthy relationship with the person you are with schedule a free discovery call. This is a no-pressure call to learn what attachment patterns are holding you back from the relationship you want. Click the link here to schedule: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

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On today’s podcast I talk with Alexandra Shelly, the Modern Medium. She’s passionate about infusing her joy, spirited humor, and creativity into fundamental practices learned by her mentor and world-renowned psychic mediums, in order to create a practice that is uniquely hers. We talk about two topics, being single and spirituality. She shares what has helped her explore her own pleasure and satisfaction in her single life as well as some light and easy spiritual practices. We explore control, surrender and joy. And of course we talk about how to sharpen your intuition. This is interview is fun and playful, true to both our natures.

If you’re interested in ending old relationship patterns like people pleasing, being passive aggressive, or running hot and cold in relationships book a free discovery call to see if my 6-month relationship and communication program is the right fit for you. It is possible to change your attachment style whether you’re single or in a relationship. Book your discovery call here: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

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Today on the podcast Shelby Avann and I talk about sex, intimacy, and the different attachment styles. This is a juicy convo and Shelby explains the different patterns that each attachment style experiences in the bedroom including anxious preoccupied, fearful avoidant, dismissive avoidant, and secure attachment. She shares a few communication tips to ensure you’re getting and giving consent and getting your sexual needs met. Sex, pleasure, and giving and receiving are such an important part of a healthy and secure relationship. Tune in to start showing up securely in your sex life.

Book a free discovery call to learn what old patterns affected your last relationship and how to start creating secure relationships this year. Link to book the call: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

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https://www.shelbyavann.ca/challenge-page/fa5ebbe2-ba0f-4110-97d0-a7b91fd17c2b

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Are you worried you’re never going to find someone to be with? This is such a common thought for people who are dating, newly single, or scared to break up with someone they are not happy with. If this is you, I have so much compassion for you. This is a totally normal fear that the majority of the planet has bought into at a certain point in their lifetime. In this episode, I break down what happens when you believe this thought and how this can cost you alot of bad dates. Then, I share the very first tool that I share with my clients. It’s a combination of thought work and cognitive behavioral therapy. You’ll learn how to gently change your brain to think in a more open, secure, and curious mindset. 

Are you ready to date confidently and securely to find that person you’ve been dreaming about? Book a free consult call to learn about how you can change old dating patterns this year for good. Book it here: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

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