Lit AF Relationships

In today’s episode, Thais Gibson, Co-Founder of the Personal Development School and co-author of "Learning Love," returns to Lit AF Relationships to discuss all things attachment styles. We delve into several important topics. First, Thais addresses a common misconception about attachment styles: yes, you can change your attachment style; it is not fixed. Then, we explore the root causes of perfectionism. We also discuss the relationship between our beliefs and our actions. Finally, we wrap up with a round of rapid-fire questions about attachment, culture, gender identity, and more. Tune in to learn from the best about healing your attachment.

If you’re interested in one on one coching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you’re growing on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy realtionships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

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In this episode I break down what your anger is trying to tell you. Experiencing and expressing anger can be a really tough emotion. We often judge ourselves or others for being angry. Some of us, like those with the fearful avoidant attachment style, are quick to be angry. In this episode I cover how the different attachment styles experience emotion and then I dive deep into understanding what your anger is saying. Anger comes up when a boundary has been crossed. But what is underneath the anger is usually more tender and more sensitive. Yes, your anger is trying to help. Listen to this episode to understand why.

I’d love to help you deeply understand your emotions so you can learn how to process them and communicate them to others. If you’re interested in 1:1 coaching apply to book a free 60-minute Healthy Relationship call with me. You can get started here: https://forms.gle/o36VpgEbQKCZ8FfX8

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Definition of perfectionism according to Brenee Brown -

Perfectionism for dismissive avoidants and fearful avoidants.

Examples: I have been holding on to a bunch of stickers to put them on the perfect place

Not wanting to get a nice new journal messed up

Thinking there is only one right way

Usually there’s a need that’s not getting met.

I’d love to help you understand and work through perfectionism so you can create healthy loving relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team.

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and support. 

In this podcast episode, we delve into a common misconception about attachment styles that many people get wrong. When individuals discover their attachment style, they often believe they must first heal it to achieve secure attachment before entering a relationship. For dismissive-avoidant individuals, this stems from a fear of being a burden to others. For anxious preoccupied people this stems from a fear of rejection.

However, the truth is that attachment doesn't operate in a linear "heal before love" manner. Secure attachment isn't about fixing oneself first; it's about learning how to express and ask for one's needs effectively. This means that being able to articulate your insecurities and communicate your needs is a hallmark of secure attachment.

Join us as we explore the concept of attachment and discuss how understanding and voicing your needs can lead to healthier and more fulfilling relationships. 

I’d love to help you learn how to understand and communicate your attachment needs. Book a free discovery call to see what outdated patterns are holding you back from healthy relationships. It is possible to change your attachment style and feel like you’re growing with someone in a deeply committed relationship. Link to book a free discovery call: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

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In today’s episode, I delve into attachment styles using the Netflix show Love Is Blind Season 6 as a case study. I analyze the attachment patterns exhibited by each couple, highlighting both insecure and secure behaviors. This season was a delightful blend of sweetness and intensity, especially captivating when viewed through the lens of attachment theory. Reality TV offers a unique opportunity to witness real-life examples of how couples relate to each other and the role attachment plays in their dynamics.

This episode particularly delves into the anxious-avoidant relationship dynamics portrayed by Chelsea and Jimmy, offering plenty of insights to unpack. As a coach, I also share my favorite moments from observing these dynamics.

If you're eager to foster healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team, I invite you to book a free discovery call. Let's explore together what outdated patterns might be hindering your relationship growth. Here’s the link to book the call: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call?month=2024-03

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Breaking down attachment on Queer Love Ultimatum: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2yCYnKMux0ajpk5vXHSoWi?si=329d77d3dc494e41

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Are afraid you’re going to hurt someone when you’re honest about your feelings? Do you have unresolved issues causing you to hurt people you care about? Are you worried your feelings will be hurt if you share honestly?

These are very common fears for the different attachment styles. In this episode, I explain why the different attachment types have this fear including the anxious preoccupied, dismissive-avoidant, and fearful-avoidant. 

I finish the episode sharing the very first tiny step to start being honest with other people about your feelings without hurting them. It’s an easy little trick and I use it for everything.

If you’re interested in learning how to communicate in a loving supportive way to create healthy relationships book a free discovery call to see if my one-on-one coaching program is the right fit for you. Here’s the link to book the call: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

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Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and support. In this week’s episode I talk about the difference between people pleasing and just being a good human. It’s a very fine line which I thought it was important to talk about. 

I start the episode with a few examples of what people pleasing looks like and why the different attachment styles do it. I share why the anxious preoccupied attachment style and the fearful avoidant tend to people-please. I then go into detail about how you can tell the difference between people pleasing and being a good person. Knowing your needs and learning how to communicate them will help you understand where the line is.

If you’re interested in learning how to stop people pleasing and create healthy relationships in your dating life I’d love to help you. Book a free discovery call to see if my one-on-one coaching program is the right fit for you. Here’s the link to book the call:  https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

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