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- 458: Charlotte A. revisits
🔸Internal family business
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3 min - 457: Genie A. revisits
🔸 Giving time
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
Check presence of my own sense making parts.
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1 hr 10 min - 456: ⏫ Riben A. revisits
🔸 Looping back to #399.
2️⃣ In a business-like relationship, managers connect.🔹 Parts:
- E: 2yo feet in sand, lost water wings, can’t just sit and be
- P: sleepy
2️⃣
- P manager above. It all has to make sense.
- P wants to fix it
- P “spaz” this is all fucked up, all a big ball of confusion
- P/E kicking in the crib, metal shoes cuz it’s feet were ugly. “get away from me, business person, I need you”
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
Direct accessing an exile, out of bounds? A gamble, and one I wouldn’t take without the context: Riben is a true fan of the work we do here, and one of the most active members of our community. The protectors are hidden here (or I'm just not listening very well), and by making contact with exile, I'm hoping to draw them out. Just experimenting with turning up the heat a little. In hindsight, not effective.
When I don’t get any response, I try something else. Do I sound impatient? At the time I was assessing it as curiosity. But I can see how I might mistake one for the other, if that curiosity is burning. Too much heat.
Do differently: if “feel towards” gives us nothing (that I can interpret), I’ll switch to direct access. If direct access gives us nothing, perhaps I’ll switch to “go for a swim” (let go of the model, experiment, play). I'll definitely listen back to this one a few times.
2️⃣
Lots I could do differently. “Is that right?” would be better than “right?” But I'm happy I followed through with my intention to try something different from last call.
I do wonder if this is a case of Self-leadership threatening a primary bond. I may have implied that Self can resurrect this relationship, when I don’t have any way of knowing that.
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2 hr 53 min - 455: Christine guides Olivia A.
🔸 Daughter: there’s not an actual resource here that I can go to, nobody’s home
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1 hr 31 min - 453: Mimi A. revisits
🔸 Where the buzziness drops off.
🔹 Parts:
- Anxious deer on the spot: other peoples anger. dangerous to be perceived in a way that’s not true to me . Dream “massive misunderstanding, im expected to do x, the struggle to stop things to say ‘this should not be happening’”
- Pattern seeker. How do I map this?
- No, if you stop to write it down or think about how it comes across, that’s not the real experience
- E wanting to connect, be liked, be witnessed
- P push down that part
- P the learner
- E on the other side of the cliff. Re physical punishment?
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
Could have stepped in more at the end, but, this being new, wanted to see what happened.
I'm talking a lot, assuming her system prefers my guessing/guiding, even if wrong, over feeling unmoored, overrun by doubting parts. But I should let her know that, and just ask how it is for her.
She feeling something, and sounds like Self is present, so I wonder if it's the narrator or mapper describing it as "nothing", as in being beyond the map, and with no story to tell about it. Just something I'm wondering today, months after the call.
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1 hr 37 min - 451: Christine A. revisits
🔸 Flowers and shit
🔹 Parts:
- P: the people pleaser, eagle eye, really good at observing others. “Look how pretty I make everything!” Ugliness (opposition, defiance) is not safe, be flowery and sweet. Thinks im 5. Cleaning up the mess (feeling guilty and bad) made by:
- P: Brutally honest. Defiant Teen. “I see through all your shit”. Gets shit done, get respect, keep us safe from two faces. Frightened by the nice face.
- E 5yo scarred. She’s really doubtful we will find trustworthy men.
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1 hr 36 min - 450: ⏫Shelley A. revisits
🔸 Knocking on doors; what are these people thinking?
2️⃣
How to tell the truth and be protected? Unburdening the 13 year old
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2 hr 4 min - 449: Theresa A. revisits🔸 Mom-defender scoots along-----🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: https://bit.ly/3efWiCm😀Come chat with us: https://discord.gg/VeYvjJUNuP🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here:https://apple.co/2WUyStIhttps://www.youtube.com/@LiveIFShttps://liveifs.com/review/👉 Find your ACE score with this https://liveifs.com/ace1 hr 19 min
- 448: Kerri A. revisits
🔸 Little one: you always have to have your eye on
🔹 Parts:
- P: you’ve been avoiding this
- P: research analytic
- E: abandoned, exiled, secrecy, quicksand.
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