Live IFS

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Live IFS episodes

October 12, 2024 435: Genie A. revisits
🔸 Party time!
📌 Genie followed up:
So all the things (celebrations, parties, conversations etc etc) happened yesterday - AND, I didn't freak out!! I got through it all and it was mostly fine. I'm still actually processing it all - because there was a lot, and some of it really surprised me - in terms of how I reacted.
I can't explain exactly how - (I do have a little inkling) - IFS was part of this, but in my bones, I know it was!

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1 hr 15 min
October 10, 2024433: Riben A. revisits
🔸 Nano nightmares, playing dead. Waking up the sleepy part
🔹 Parts:
E Sad baby, immobilized, metal bars on feet. Nobody gets me sees me hears me

P tantruming Brutalizer triggers:

P Sleep rescue part reinforces lack of initiation. Wants to take me to rainbows and sunshine but instead nightmares
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
Asking sleepy part to connect dots was wrong move on my part. It’s not that kinda part.

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1 hr 24 min
October 09, 2024431: Shelley A. - first call
🔸 How to care for nervous
🔹 Parts:
P: Nervous has been knocking on my door for a long time. Pre toddler

P: analyzing is default mode

E: Sad when cared for, in the corner playing w dolls. Toddler, 3ish. Seems content. Mysterious.
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
First-time callers presenting w “Nervous, about to cry” remains one of the trickiest situations for me. It’s not obvious if we’re with a protector or exile, and my own nervous parts worry we’re gonna say something that exacerbates it.

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58 min
October 07, 2024 430: ⏫️ Mimi A. revisits
🔸 The other word. Striving v allowing

2️⃣ Action, cut, rewind. How I feel about how I feel.

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
Started with two never-before-seen tech problems, both show-stoppers, one most definitely my fault. That's always a major shake-up for my system, “oh shit how many other times?” and my nieghbor is outside playing with guns the whole call, really distracting. I had trouble following, my predictions kept being off, my words weren’t coming out right, like can feel it but I can’t say it. Dunno why. Well. Maybe it's physical. I got bad/little sleep past few nights, and after this call I went and passed out for over 9 hours.
2️⃣
We debriefed a lot after.
I need to slow way down, I'm speaking past her, talking too much. I think when she feels lost her anxious / talkative parts come up, and I'm addressing those "concepts". She reports feeling “you’ve done something wrong”, and after the call she said "shame" wasn't true… So now I see and can empathize more with what she means by doing it wrong.
Sometimes when people are really anxious and have trouble answering my questions, I quit asking questions and just speak with confidence and try to let them all know they make sense. Curious and confident can be a little contradictory, huh.

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2 hr 37 min
October 05, 2024 429: Olivia A. revisits
🔸 Life sucks, please prove me wrong

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
I wanted to meet parts where they are, enter their frame, but playing philosophy, we don’t find the answers or rest in the “no answer” space or get closer to Self. And clearly it affects my self-presence, as those parts of me struggle to keep up. So I think I'm done with that experiment, philosophizing, and need to take “no answer” for an answer!
I should return to the approaches that worked for Olivia in the past.

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1 hr 29 min
October 03, 2024 428: Christine A. revisits
🔸 Trying to be invisible, unwanted attention. Pros and cons of publishing
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1 hr 37 min
September 08, 2024427: Maisie A. - first call
🔸 I've been nervous for a long time.
🔹 Parts:
P: Nervous. About getting it wrong, being not acceptable, see Es

P: nervous isn’t pressing

P: condescendingly amused by nervous. People like me better when im jokey. But nervous is stronger as im less prone to employ jokey now.

P: black out, a big velvet curtain. “You don’t wanna know why im here”

P: the people behind the barricade, one w construction hat

P: the barricade

E: 4yo, very vulnerable, kept away by black out.

E?: 11-12yo in school with older kids (late teens). Revealed by amused, self deprecating part

E: 18 months. Shame. Mom was in hospital. Dad looked after me in a not nurturing way. When dad would be mad… Source of nervous

P: you’re confused because you’re old.

P: you’re constantly fucking up

E: im not acceptable.

P: identifying w addicts

P: too much pain at work
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
Keep doing what I'm doing. Didn’t feel tip top today, but overall, had several days feeling like a million bucks lately, maybe cuz significantly increase movement/workout routine a couple weeks ago.
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1 hr 2 min
September 06, 2024 426: Genie A. revisits
🔸 A different atmosphere for Perky & Sad

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1 hr 8 min
September 04, 2024 425: Theresa A. revisits
🔸 Dark is cozy.
🔹 Parts:
- Fear of judgement re offering coaching. Digs its heels in, hesitant to announce offering.
- The dark part
- The kid In the dark, w adult face. The darkness is my friend, people are sometimes mean and judgy. Coloring in the dark, wants to show people what she makes
- Spiritually elevated, feels superior
- Dust alien (sage version), advising to sit quietly

📌 Theresa followed up The dust alien and The Dark, I think they felt like it was time to give her to me. There was no resistance. It was almost like they had planned it. I needed only to be patient.As I was listening, I remembered that I recently wrote on my bathroom mirror:Say yes to the voidIt did not occur to me during the session, nor did I write that about anything having to do with this topic /part, but that's exactly what we did there.

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1 hr 4 min
September 01, 2024424: Kerri A. revisits
🔸 Why the middle one had no voice.
🔹 Parts:
P: Keeping me small rather be encouraging me, thinks im 5-10, a child playing dress up

P: Analytical part, picking apart chronology

E: the little one

E: the middle one, still feels vulnerable. Couldn’t sleep, fear. Struggle w external expectations. Didn’t have a voice. Wants to breathe out the voicelessness but can’t do that fully since little one holds it. Wants me to explore:

P: gets bored and drift off
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
I'm giggling to myself because of how spot-on her intuition and this model is. But I can get a little blissed-out, forget to check if caller is seeing what I see.

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1 hr 10 min