🔸 How to care for nervous

🔹 Parts:

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

First-time callers presenting w “Nervous, about to cry” remains one of the trickiest situations for me. It’s not obvious if we’re with a protector or exile, and my own nervous parts worry we’re gonna say something that exacerbates it.

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🔸 The other word. Striving v allowing

2️⃣ Action, cut, rewind. How I feel about how I feel.

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

Started with two never-before-seen tech problems, both show-stoppers, one most definitely my fault. That's always a major shake-up for my system, “oh shit how many other times?” and my nieghbor is outside playing with guns the whole call, really distracting. I had trouble following, my predictions kept being off, my words weren’t coming out right, like can feel it but I can’t say it. Dunno why. Well. Maybe it's physical. I got bad/little sleep past few nights, and after this call I went and passed out for over 9 hours.

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We debriefed a lot after.

I need to slow way down, I'm speaking past her, talking too much. I think when she feels lost her anxious / talkative parts come up, and I'm addressing those "concepts". She reports feeling “you’ve done something wrong”, and after the call she said "shame" wasn't true… So now I see and can empathize more with what she means by doing it wrong.

Sometimes when people are really anxious and have trouble answering my questions, I quit asking questions and just speak with confidence and try to let them all know they make sense. Curious and confident can be a little contradictory, huh.

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🔸 Life sucks, please prove me wrong

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

I wanted to meet parts where they are, enter their frame, but playing philosophy, we don’t find the answers or rest in the “no answer” space or get closer to Self. And clearly it affects my self-presence, as those parts of me struggle to keep up. So I think I'm done with that experiment, philosophizing, and need to take “no answer” for an answer!

I should return to the approaches that worked for Olivia in the past.

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🔸 Trying to be invisible, unwanted attention. Pros and cons of publishing
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🔸 I've been nervous for a long time.

🔹 Parts:

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

Keep doing what I'm doing. Didn’t feel tip top today, but overall, had several days feeling like a million bucks lately, maybe cuz significantly increase movement/workout routine a couple weeks ago.
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🔸 A different atmosphere for Perky & Sad

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🔸 Dark is cozy.
🔹 Parts:
- Fear of judgement re offering coaching. Digs its heels in, hesitant to announce offering.
- The dark part
- The kid In the dark, w adult face. The darkness is my friend, people are sometimes mean and judgy. Coloring in the dark, wants to show people what she makes
- Spiritually elevated, feels superior
- Dust alien (sage version), advising to sit quietly

📌 Theresa followed up The dust alien and The Dark, I think they felt like it was time to give her to me. There was no resistance. It was almost like they had planned it. I needed only to be patient.As I was listening, I remembered that I recently wrote on my bathroom mirror:Say yes to the voidIt did not occur to me during the session, nor did I write that about anything having to do with this topic /part, but that's exactly what we did there.

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🔸 Why the middle one had no voice.

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🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

I'm giggling to myself because of how spot-on her intuition and this model is. But I can get a little blissed-out, forget to check if caller is seeing what I see.

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🔸 Running away & right back. Sadness is beautiful.

🔹 Parts:

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

Tech problems delayed us 10-15 mins. Usually a blessing in disguise.

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🔸 Fluid dynamics, attachment parenting: When you let kids do their own thing, you have to have way more patience and ask them what they want to do.

🔹 Parts:

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

Lots I could have done differently. I get distracted by the beauty of the work some times. And crows. Not able to put in words.

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