Living and Loving Your Life with Chantel Allen

Have you ever struggled to feel love, even though you know He loves you? You're not alone. In today's episode, I'm sharing a lesson I originally created for my church group—because I realized this is something we all need.

We'll explore: ✅ Why being loved isn't the same as feeling loved ✅ The three biggest reasons we block ourselves from receiving love ✅ How God might be showing you love in ways you're not expecting ✅ The powerful story of elephants (yes, elephants!) and what they teach us about love and loyalty ✅ Simple ways to start noticing God's love right now

If you've ever felt distant from God or wondered why love feels hard to receive, this episode is for you.

🔹 Elder Hirsts talk "God's Favourite"

💛 Look for love in a way you don't normally expect it. 💛 Be part of the circle—who in your life might need love right now?

If this episode spoke to you, share it with a friend who might need this reminder today. 💛

Connect with Me:

• Follow me on Instagram:@chantelallencoaching
• for more insights and practical tools.
• Email: [email protected]
• Website: www.chantelallencoaching.com
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• Share this episode with a friend who needs to hear it!

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Episode Description: In today's episode, we're diving deep into why life feels so hard sometimes—and why that isn't a problem to fix. If you've been feeling stuck, discouraged, or like no matter how hard you try, nothing seems to be working, this conversation is for you.

I'll be sharing personal stories—including a time when my own body forced me to stop—and stories from my clients that show how life's toughest moments are often the greatest invitations for growth. Together, we'll explore how life's challenges reveal the gap between where we are and who we're becoming, and why embracing that gap is key to transformation.

You'll walk away with practical tools to stay connected to your future self, even when life feels overwhelming. And I'll leave you with a gentle challenge to reframe the hard moments in your life as opportunities to grow into the person you're meant to be.

In This Episode, You'll Learn:

• Why feeling stuck isn't a sign you're failing—it's a sign you're growing
• How life's hard moments reveal the gap between who you are and who you're becoming
• The importance of slowing down and what it really means for your growth
• Practical tools to connect with your future self during tough times
• How to shift from resisting life's challenges to embracing them as part of your journey

Reflection Questions:

• Where in your life are you feeling the most resistance right now?
• What is this resistance revealing about the gap between where you are and who you want to become?
• How can you meet this moment with compassion and curiosity, instead of frustration?

Let's Stay Connected: If this episode resonated with you, I'd love to hear your thoughts! Share your reflections or tag me on Instagram

Connect with Me:

• Follow me on Instagram:@chantelallencoaching
• for more insights and practical tools.
• Email: [email protected]
• Website: www.chantelallencoaching.com
• If you're wanting to grab a 1:1 spot to learn how to connect more to yourself- sign up with this link here.
• Share this episode with a friend who needs to hear it!

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And if you know someone who needs this message, send this episode their way.

Until next time, keep being you. 💛

Show Notes: In this episode, we dive deep into the powerful metaphor of a boat tied to a dock—safe, secure, and familiar, yet missing out on the vast, limitless adventure that lies beyond. What if the very thing holding you back from the life you desire is your need to understand and control every step before moving forward?

We explore:

• Why letting go is the key to discovering new opportunities and growth.
• How fear and the need to understand are keeping you stuck.
• The transformative power of surrendering to life's currents and trusting the unknown.
• Personal reflections on learning to release control and embrace the flow of life.
• Practical ways to start trusting the process and letting your heart guide you.

If you've been feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or hesitant to take the next step, this episode is for you. It's time to let go of the dock and step into the ocean of possibilities waiting for you.

Key Takeaways:

1. Discover the freedom that comes from releasing control.
2. Understand how trust and surrender open doors to new experiences.
3. Practical steps to overcome fear and embrace the unknown.

Join the Conversation: What are you holding onto that's keeping you from moving forward? Share your thoughts and experiences with us on social media using #UntieTheDock.

Listen now and start your journey to truly living.

Connect with Me:

• Follow me on Instagram:@chantelallencoaching
• for more insights and practical tools.
• Email: [email protected]
• Website: www.chantelallencoaching.com
• If you're wanting to grab a 1:1 spot to learn how to connect more to yourself- sign up with this link here.
• Share this episode with a friend who needs to hear it!

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In this episode, we're exploring a powerful idea—what if blame is just a distraction from true healing? Whether we blame others or ourselves, it's often a way to avoid deeper emotions like fear and sadness. I share my personal journey of recognizing how blame was keeping me stuck in parenting challenges and how shifting my perspective brought unexpected growth and connection.

Join me as we unpack:

• Why our ego wants us to focus externally and stay in blame.
• How blame creates a false sense of control and keeps us from healing.
• A personal story of blame in parenting and the lessons learned.
• How to shift from blame to love and self-compassion.
• Practical ways to embrace acceptance and take back control of our emotional experience.

If you've ever found yourself trapped in a cycle of blame, this episode is for you. Tune in and discover how to let go of blame and step into a more empowered, loving space.

Connect with Me:

• Follow me on Instagram:@chantelallencoaching
• for more insights and practical tools.
• Email: [email protected]
• Website: www.chantelallencoaching.com
• If you're wanting to grab a 1:1 spot to learn how to connect more to yourself- sign up with this link here.
• Share this episode with a friend who needs to hear it!

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In this episode, we explore the transformative power of slowing down and holding our pain with love instead of rushing to fix it. Drawing from personal experiences and insights from Cory Mascara's loving-kindness practice, I share how allowing our pain to be acknowledged and held can bring freedom and healing. Whether you're carrying shame, anxiety, or overwhelm, this episode offers practical steps to connect with yourself more deeply and respond to life with compassion.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

• Why starting the year without the pressure to fix can be life-changing.
• How the practice of loving-kindness creates space for healing.
• A personal story of navigating pain as a parent and what shifted when I stopped trying to fix.
• Practical steps to acknowledge, hold, and release emotional tension.
• The role of compassion and inviting spiritual support in healing.
• Why resisting or controlling pain often backfires and how allowing leads to growth.

Practical Takeaways:

1. Recognize and name your pain: Pause and notice where you feel tension in your body or emotions in your heart.
2. Get curious: Visualize the part of you that's hurting and let it speak without judgment.
3. Practice loving-kindness phrases: Try "May you be safe, may you feel loved, may you be free" to bring compassion to the hurting part of you.
4. Relax into the experience: Soften the areas of tension as you sit with your emotions.
5. Invite support: Imagine being held by a trusted figure or your Savior to create a space of love and safety.

Connect with Me:

• Follow me on Instagram:@chantelallencoaching
• for more insights and practical tools.
• Email: [email protected]
• Website: www.chantelallencoaching.com
• If you're wanting to grab a 1:1 spot to learn how to connect more to yourself- sign up with this link here.
• Share this episode with a friend who needs to hear it!

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Episode Summary: Do you ever feel like you're constantly chasing the next big thing or fixing what feels incomplete? In today's episode, we're exploring why this moment—right here, right now—is already enough. Through personal stories, reflective practices, and actionable tools, I'll show you how to stop running from the present and find peace, joy, and connection exactly where you are.

Whether you're feeling overwhelmed by holiday busyness, reflecting on the year, or simply craving more ease in your life, this episode will help you anchor to the power of being here now.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

• Why we're conditioned to believe the "next moment" will be better
• A personal story about finding meaning in the messy, imperfect moments
• Three simple practices to embrace the present, even when it feels uncomfortable
• How to stop the urge to fix, escape, or run from what's here now
• The surprising peace and clarity that comes from leaning into "enoughness"

Episode Highlights:

1. Pause and name what's here: A grounding practice for presence
2. Challenge the urge to fix or escape: How to stay with discomfort
3. Anchor to the moment: Using breath and touch to stay connected

This episode is a heartfelt reminder that everything you need is already within you, waiting to be recognized.

Resources Mentioned:

• Holiday Intention Kit : A free resource to help you find ease, clarity, and connection during the holiday season.

✅ A downloadable workbook to help you stay calm and focused this season. ✅ 4 brand-new private podcast episodes for those moments of overwhelm, exhaustion, or frustration.

👉 Click the link below to grab your kit and start thriving this holiday season!

Thank you for listening! If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend or leave a review. Your support helps more people discover the podcast and find fulfillment in their own lives. Happy Thanksgiving!

RESOURCES MENTIONED: 📥 Get your Holiday Intention Kit + Private Podcast Episodes: Download it here

If you loved this episode, don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend! Let's spread calm and intention this holiday season. ❤️

Show Notes: Here

• Email: [email protected]
• Website: www.chantelallencoaching.com
• Instagram:@chantelallencoaching

If you're wanting to grab a 1:1 spot to learn how to connect more to yourself- sign up with this link here.

Episode Summary: In this episode, we explore the difference between peace and apathy, a question sparked by a powerful listener insight: "Peace kind of feels like apathy. I'm so used to intense emotions that now I wonder if I'm doing enough." If stillness feels unsettling or you're questioning whether peace means stagnation, this episode is for you.

We unpack why peace can feel uncomfortable, how to tell the difference between peace and apathy, and how to embrace peace without falling into the chaos of overthinking. I also share practical steps and personal stories to help you trust the stillness and find deeper growth within it.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

• Why peace can feel like apathy when you're used to chaos.
• How to distinguish between peace (calm presence) and apathy (disconnection).
• Practical steps to embrace peace:
  1. Get curious about your feelings.
  2. Redefine what "enough" means for you.
  3. Practice allowing peace in small doses.
• How to hold space for emotions like hesitation and doubt without chasing answers.
• Why peace is the foundation for sustainable growth and clarity.

Resources Mentioned:

• Holiday Intention Kit : A free resource to help you find ease, clarity, and connection during the holiday season.

✅ A downloadable workbook to help you stay calm and focused this season. ✅ 4 brand-new private podcast episodes for those moments of overwhelm, exhaustion, or frustration.

👉 Click the link below to grab your kit and start thriving this holiday season!

Thank you for listening! If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend or leave a review. Your support helps more people discover the podcast and find fulfillment in their own lives. Happy Thanksgiving!

RESOURCES MENTIONED: 📥 Get your Holiday Intention Kit + Private Podcast Episodes: Download it here

If you loved this episode, don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend! Let's spread calm and intention this holiday season. ❤️

Show Notes: Here

• Email: [email protected]
• Website: www.chantelallencoaching.com
• Instagram:@chantelallencoaching

If you're wanting to grab a 1:1 spot to learn how to connect more to yourself- sign up with this link here.

Episode Summary: Are you feeling overwhelmed by your thoughts, stuck in a loop of overthinking and ruminating? In this episode, we explore what it means to feel "squeezed up into your head" and how to break free by reconnecting with your body. Learn how overthinking is often a protective mechanism and discover actionable steps to address the deeper fears your mind is shielding you from.

Chantel shares a personal story of uncovering her own money-related fears and how touching these emotions—rather than just knowing about them—led to profound transformation. This episode is packed with insights, practical exercises, and tools to help you shift from overwhelm to calm, including the highly recommended Holiday Calm Kit.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

1. Understanding Overthinking: Why we tend to "squeeze up into our heads" when emotions feel overwhelming.

2. Knowing vs. Touching: The difference between intellectually understanding your fears and truly sitting with them.

3. Practical Steps to Reconnect: Actionable techniques to drop into your body and work with the emotions your mind is resisting.

4. The Role of Protectors: How parts of your mind create stories to protect you from pain—and how to lovingly work with them.

5. Holiday Stress Relief: How the Holiday Calm Kit can help you navigate this busy season with ease and grace.

Resources Mentioned:

• Holiday Intention Kit : A free resource to help you find ease, clarity, and connection during the holiday season.

✅ A downloadable workbook to help you stay calm and focused this season. ✅ 4 brand-new private podcast episodes for those moments of overwhelm, exhaustion, or frustration.

👉 Click the link below to grab your kit and start thriving this holiday season!

Thank you for listening! If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend or leave a review. Your support helps more people discover the podcast and find fulfillment in their own lives. Happy Thanksgiving!

RESOURCES MENTIONED: 📥 Get your Holiday Intention Kit + Private Podcast Episodes: Download it here

If you loved this episode, don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend! Let's spread calm and intention this holiday season. ❤️

Show Notes: Here

• Email: [email protected]
• Website: www.chantelallencoaching.com
• Instagram:@chantelallencoaching

If you're wanting to grab a 1:1 spot to learn how to connect more to yourself- sign up with this link here.

Episode Summary: In this special Thanksgiving episode, we're diving into a new way to approach gratitude—especially when it feels hard or out of reach. If the idea of "being thankful" feels like pressure, this episode is for you. We'll explore the concept of gritty gratitude—what it is, why it matters, and how it can anchor you during life's toughest moments. You'll walk away with practical tools to embrace presence, accept your emotions, and create small, meaningful moments—without guilt or pressure.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

• Why gratitude can feel hard during difficult seasons—and why that's okay.
• What gritty gratitude is and how it's different from surface-level gratitude.
• Practical tools to practice presence and create grounding moments when life feels chaotic.
• How to let yourself feel your emotions without adding guilt or judgment.
• Simple ways to notice and appreciate the small, steady anchors in your day.

Key Takeaways:

• Gritty gratitude anchors you: It's about finding something real and steady to hold onto during life's storms.
• Give yourself permission to feel: Allowing emotions without judgment opens the door to presence and relief.
• Small moments matter: Noticing the warmth of your drink, the sound of laughter, or the feel of the air can ground you in the present.
• Kindness toward yourself helps: Speak to yourself like you would a friend—gently and with compassion.
• Gratitude isn't about perfection: It's about noticing what's real and letting small moments of appreciation grow.

Resources Mentioned:

• Holiday Intention Kit : A free resource to help you find ease, clarity, and connection during the holiday season.

✅ A downloadable workbook to help you stay calm and focused this season. ✅ 4 brand-new private podcast episodes for those moments of overwhelm, exhaustion, or frustration.

👉 Click the link below to grab your kit and start thriving this holiday season!

Thank you for listening! If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend or leave a review. Your support helps more people discover the podcast and find fulfillment in their own lives. Happy Thanksgiving!

RESOURCES MENTIONED: 📥 Get your Holiday Intention Kit + Private Podcast Episodes: Download it here

If you loved this episode, don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend! Let's spread calm and intention this holiday season. ❤️

Show Notes: Here

• Email: [email protected]
• Website: www.chantelallencoaching.com
• Instagram:@chantelallencoaching

If you're wanting to grab a 1:1 spot to learn how to connect more to yourself- sign up with this link here.

🎄 The holidays don't have to leave you feeling burned out and overwhelmed. 🎄

In this episode, we're tackling the holiday chaos head-on with practical tools and powerful mindset shifts to help you create the holiday experience you truly want. You'll learn:

✨ How to stay intentional by deciding who you want to be before the season begins. ✨ Why setting your "rules for success" is the key to avoiding burnout. ✨ The freedom of saying NO—and how it benefits both you and your loved ones. ✨ A new way to navigate family dynamics by showing up authentically (and letting go of people-pleasing).

I'm also sharing personal stories from my own holiday stress moments (eye cutting disasters included!) and how simple shifts made all the difference.

PLUS, I've created a Holiday Intention Kit just for you! It includes: ✅ A downloadable workbook to help you stay calm and focused this season. ✅ 4 brand-new private podcast episodes for those moments of overwhelm, exhaustion, or frustration.

👉 Click the link below to grab your kit and start thriving this holiday season!

Let's make this a season of joy, connection, and love—starting now.

RESOURCES MENTIONED: 📥 Get your Holiday Intention Kit + Private Podcast Episodes: Download it here

If you loved this episode, don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend! Let's spread calm and intention this holiday season. ❤️

Show Notes: Here

• Email: [email protected]
• Website: www.chantelallencoaching.com
• Instagram:@chantelallencoaching

If you're wanting to grab a 1:1 spot to learn how to connect more to yourself- sign up with this link here.