Living and Loving Your Life with Chantel Allen

In today’s episode, Chantel dives deep into the concept of the inner fixer and doer—the part of us that’s constantly striving to solve problems, take action, and make everything better. While this part of us may have served us in the past, it’s not always supporting our growth in the present. Chantel explores why we often default to this “fixer” mindset and how we can begin to heal it by shifting from doing to being. Learn how to recognize when the fixer is active, why it’s okay to let it rest, and what lies beyond the constant need to solve everything. Stick around for a powerful guided meditation designed to help you notice and release the fixer, and simply allow yourself to be.

Key Topics Covered:

• What the inner fixer and doer are, and why they show up
• The role of the fixer in protecting us in the past
• Why the fixer mindset may no longer be serving you today
• How constantly doing and fixing can lead to overwhelm and disconnection
• The importance of moving from doing to being in our daily lives
• A guided meditation to help you lovingly notice, allow, and rest the fixer

Takeaways:

• Understand why your inner fixer exists and how it may have served a purpose in the past.
• Recognize when the fixer is active in your mind and body.
• Learn how to lovingly acknowledge and allow the fixer to rest.
• Experience the power of shifting from doing to being, and how that can create space for healing and inner peace.

Resources Mentioned:

• Guided meditation for noticing and releasing the inner fixer (included in this episode).

Show Notes: Here

• Email: [email protected] 
• Website: www.chantelallencoaching.com 
• Instagram:@chantelallencoaching

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In this episode, Chantel interviews Julie Merrill, an experienced sex coach, to explore how the thoughts we have about sex deeply impact our level of desire and fulfillment in our intimate relationships. Together, they dive into key topics around desire, misconceptions about sex, and how women can reclaim their connection to sexual pleasure.

Key Takeaways:

• The Power of Your Thoughts: Julie explains how our mindset and beliefs about sex shape our overall experience and desire, often creating mental blocks we aren’t even aware of.
• Sex is for Women Too: Challenging societal narratives, Julie highlights how women’s pleasure and desires are just as important and how embracing this truth can transform relationships.
• Bringing More Desire into Your Life: Practical tips on how women can cultivate more desire and connection in their intimate lives by shifting their thinking and focusing on their own needs.
• Understanding Your Unique Desires: A deep dive into how to discover what truly fuels your desire and the importance of self-awareness and open communication in building a fulfilling sex life.

Resources Mentioned:

• Julie Merrills free 30 min call link. 

Show Notes: Here

• Email: [email protected] 
• Website: www.chantelallencoaching.com 
• Youtube: @ChantelAllenCoaching
• Instagram:@chantelallencoaching

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Episode Summary: In this powerful episode, Chantel Allen dives deep into the transformative question: What if love was the only goal? We explore the profound impact of making love our primary focus, rather than control or external validation. Chantel discusses how love is our true essence and how reconnecting with this truth can simplify and enrich our lives. From self-compassion to surrender, she offers practical insights on shifting from control to love in our relationship with ourselves, others, and even money. Tune in to discover how embracing love can lead to true healing and lasting joy.

Key Takeaways:

• Love is not something we need to seek outside ourselves; it is who we are at our core.
• Shifting from control to love can transform our relationship with ourselves, our loved ones, and our approach to money.
• Surrendering control and choosing love, even in difficult situations, is where true healing begins.
• Practical steps to start embracing love over control in daily life.
• The importance of connecting with our emotions and learning to love all parts of ourselves, even those we struggle with.

Questions to Reflect On:

• What would change in your life if you made love the ultimate goal?
• How does control show up in your life, and what would it look like to replace that control with love?
• What small steps can you take today to practice self-compassion and surrender?

Resources Mentioned:

• Interested in going deeper? Sign up for 1:1 coaching with Chantel Allen to learn how to love more and build a stronger connection with yourself. Sign up here!

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• Email: [email protected] 
• Website: www.chantelallencoaching.com 
• Instagram:@chantelallencoaching

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Episode Summary:

In this episode, Chantel Allen dives into a powerful and often overlooked truth: the cure for the pain is in the pain itself. Whether you're dealing with physical discomfort, emotional turmoil, strained relationships, financial stress, or a crisis of faith, there’s a transformative opportunity hidden within the struggle. Chantel explores the different pillars of pain and how each one offers us a chance to grow, learn, and step more fully into the person we’re meant to be.

What You’ll Learn:

• How physical pain can be an invitation to slow down, listen to your body, and make self-care a priority.
• Why emotional pain often signals the need for deeper self-awareness and healing.
• How relationship pain can reveal important truths about boundaries, self-love, and personal growth.
• The surprising lessons that financial pain can teach us about abundance and security.
• How to reframe faith-related pain as an opportunity for deeper vulnerability and spiritual connection.
• A step-by-step process to recognize, allow, and learn from pain in all its forms.

Key Takeaways:

• Pain isn’t just something to be fixed or avoided; it’s a powerful teacher that invites us to grow.
• Each type of pain—whether physical, emotional, relational, financial, or spiritual—holds a unique lesson.
• By embracing and learning from our pain, we can transform it into a pathway for deeper self-discovery and personal evolution.

Quotes from the Episode:

• "The cure for the pain is in the pain itself. It’s not just about fixing it but learning from it."
• "Pain is permission to grow, to step into the person you’re meant to be."
• "When you stop running from the pain and start asking what it’s trying to teach you, you unlock a whole new level of growth."

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Show Notes: Here

• Email: [email protected] 
• Website: www.chantelallencoaching.com 
• Youtube: @ChantelAllenCoaching
• Instagram:@chantelallencoaching

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Welcome to today's podcast, where we'll explore the transformative power of compassionate witnessing and why it is essential in our personal development journey. Compassionate witnessing involves being fully present with others, validating their experiences, and offering empathetic support. This practice not only fosters healing and growth but also creates a profound sense of connection and understanding.

In our fast-paced world, we often struggle to find spaces where we can express ourselves freely and be truly heard. Whether we're dealing with personal challenges, navigating complex relationships, or striving for emotional growth, having someone who can compassionately witness our journey makes a significant difference. Compassionate witnessing provides a foundation for authentic connections, deep healing, and meaningful progress.

In this episode, we'll discuss why we struggle to "do the work," the critical role of coaches, mentors, and therapists, and the importance of finding the right one for you. We'll also delve into the concepts of holding space, balancing compassion with objectivity, and how to effectively progress in adult emotional development. Moreover, we'll explore how these principles benefit not just coaches, but also moms, leaders, and individuals in various roles.

Let's dive into the power of compassionate witnessing and uncover why we need it to truly thrive.

1. The Power of Compassionate Witnessing:

   • Validation and Empathy: Being fully present and empathetic validates others' experiences and emotions.
   • Non-Judgmental Support: Creates a space where individuals feel seen, heard, and understood without judgment.
   • Healing and Growth: Fosters healing and encourages deeper self-exploration and personal growth.

2. Why We Struggle to "Do the Work":

   • Fear of Change: Change can trigger anxiety and resistance.
   • Self-Doubt: Questioning our capabilities and worthiness can hinder motivation.
   • Lack of Awareness: Unconscious patterns and behaviors may go unnoticed.
   • Emotional Pain: Facing deep-seated issues can be painful, leading to avoidance.

3. Role of a Coach/Mentor/Therapist:

   • Self-Discovery: Helps uncover hidden aspects of ourselves.
   • Safe Space Creation: Provides a non-judgmental and supportive environment for exploration.
   • Guidance and Support: Offers tools, insights, and encouragement.

4. Finding the Right Coach/Mentor/Therapist:

   • Resonance and Alignment: Essential to find someone who resonates with us and aligns with our values.
   • Trust and Connection: A strong, trusting relationship is foundational.
   • Specialization and Expertise: Look for expertise in areas relevant to your goals.

5. Holding Space: Meaning and Importance:

   • Providing Presence: Offering undivided attention and support.
   • Facilitating Expression: Allows free expression in a safe environment.
   • Promoting Healing: Crucial for emotional healing and growth.

6. Balancing Compassion and Objectivity:

   • Emotional Boundaries: Maintaining healthy boundaries to offer compassion without losing objectivity.
   • Active Listening: Staying objective while being empathetic.
   • Reflective Responses: Offering feedback that encourages self-discovery.

7. Progressing in Adult Emotional Development:

   • Self-Reflection: Regular self-reflection and mindfulness practices.
   • Seeking Support: Engaging with coaches, mentors, or therapists.
   • Continuous Learning: Embracing a growth mindset and challenging experiences.
   • Building Resilience: Developing emotional resilience through coping strategies and self-care practices.

8. Applying These Principles in Various Roles:

   • As a Mom:
     • Modeling Behavior: Demonstrating emotional resilience and self-awareness.
     • Creating Safe Spaces: Providing a supportive environment for children.
     • Enhancing Communication: Improved self-awareness leads to better family communication.
   • As a Leader:
     • Empathetic Leadership: Understanding and addressing team members' emotional needs.
     • Building Trust: Creating a safe space for open communication.
     • Effective Conflict Resolution: Emotional intelligence aids in resolving conflicts constructively.
   • In Personal Relationships:
     • Deepening Connections: Compassionate witnessing and holding space strengthen relationships.
     • Supporting Growth: Encouraging and supporting loved ones in their personal development journeys.

Topics Covered:

• Get in touch with Mara Sundwall

Show Notes: Here

• Email: [email protected] 
• Website: www.chantelallencoaching.com 
• Youtube: @ChantelAllenCoaching
• Instagram:@chantelallencoaching

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In this powerful episode, we explore the transformative concept of surrender and how it can become a vital tool when faced with overwhelming challenges. Whether you're dealing with relationship issues, health problems, financial struggles, or career obstacles, surrendering can open the door to divine guidance and support.

Key Takeaways:

1. Understanding Surrender: We discuss what it means to truly surrender, differentiating it from giving up, and how surrender is about opening ourselves to new possibilities and divine support.

2. Recognizing the Signs: Learn how to identify when you are at the point of wanting to give up and how to shift your mindset towards surrender instead.

3. The Role of Faith: Explore the importance of faith in the surrender process, including how to trust in God's plan and timing.

4. Practical Steps to Surrender: Get practical tips on how to cultivate a surrender mindset, maintain patience, and stay open to guidance from the universe or God.

5. Personal Stories: Hear personal anecdotes and stories about how surrendering has led to breakthroughs and newfound clarity for many.

Topics Covered:

• The emotional and mental states associated with wanting to give up.
• Differentiating between giving up and surrendering.
• The importance of recognizing our limitations and seeking divine help.
• The process of surrendering: what it looks like and how to do it.
• Trusting in divine timing and maintaining patience.
• The role of energy and mindset in the surrender process.
• How to stay open to signs, synchronicities, and divine guidance.

Show Notes: Here

• Email: [email protected] 
• Website: www.chantelallencoaching.com 
• Youtube: @ChantelAllenCoaching
• Instagram:@chantelallencoaching

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In this episode, we dive deep into the transformative power of coaching, focusing on the twin pillars of Agency and Love. Discover how these two elements can help you break free from past traumas, cultivate emotional independence, and foster deeper, more meaningful connections. We will explore how embracing agency leads to freedom, and how this newfound freedom enhances our capacity to love ourselves and others. Through real-life examples, including touching client stories, we learn practical steps to harness the vibrations of love and practice self-compassion.

Key Topics Discussed:

1. The Essence of Agency:

   • Understanding agency as choice and freedom.
   • Personal empowerment and emotional independence.
   • Breaking free from past hurts and transforming them into wisdom.

2. The Role of Love:

   • How love expands as we gain more freedom.
   • The importance of sending out positive vibrations.
   • The health benefits of love and how it improves overall well-being.

3. Practical Exercises:

   • A 15-second love meditation practice.
   • Guided visualization exercises for self-compassion and healing past wounds.

4. Real-Life Applications:

   • Client stories demonstrating the power of agency and love.
   • Practical advice on how to love yourself and others more deeply.

5. Spiritual and Scientific Insights:

   • References to Dan Siegel’s work on neuroplasticity and vibrations.
   • Integrating religious teachings with modern science for holistic growth.

Inspirational Quotes:

• "Agency is the gift of coaching, creating freedom by transforming pain into wisdom."
• "The freer we get, the more capacity we have to love."
• "Love yourself with both your strengths and struggles."

Call to Action:

• Practice the 15-second love meditation daily.
• Reflect on how you can foster both agency and love in your life.
• Share this episode with someone who needs to hear this message.

Resources Mentioned:

• Dan Siegel’s work on neuroplasticity and vibrations.
• Matthew 22:35-40 on loving God and neighbors.

 Show Notes: Here

• Email: [email protected] 
• Website: www.chantelallencoaching.com 
• Youtube: @ChantelAllenCoaching
• Instagram:@chantelallencoaching

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In this episode, we explore the transformative power of shifting our focus from impressing others to blessing them. Learn how this simple mindset change can lead to deeper self-discovery, authentic connections, and a more fulfilling life. We'll discuss practical tips and share inspiring stories to help you embrace the blessing mindset.

Key Points:

1. Introduction to the Topic:

   • Definition of "impressing" vs. "blessing."
   • The common societal emphasis on impressing others.
   • The benefits of shifting focus to blessing.

2. How It Relates to Life Coaching:

   • Many people feel stuck in their personal growth journey.
   • External validation vs. internal fulfillment.
   • The importance of focusing outward to understand and connect with oneself.

3. Benefits of Seeking to Bless:

   • Releases Pressure: Frees mental and emotional space for self-exploration.
   • Authenticity: Encourages genuine interactions and self-discovery.
   • Connection: Fosters deeper, more meaningful relationships.
   • Purpose and Fulfillment: Brings a sense of satisfaction from positively impacting others.

4. Practical Tips to Start Blessing:

   • Listen Actively: Truly listen in conversations to understand and support.
   • Acts of Kindness: Small, thoughtful actions can make a big difference.
   • Practice Gratitude: Appreciate and express gratitude for the people in your life.
   • Reflect on Intentions: Consider whether actions are motivated by impressing or blessing.
   • Serve Your Community: Volunteer and get involved in community service.

5. Inspiring Story:

   • Susan's transformation from seeking approval to finding fulfillment in helping others.
   • How volunteering at a local shelter helped her reconnect with her true self.

6. Conclusion:

   • Reflect on personal life and identify areas to shift focus from impressing to blessing.
   • Embrace the journey of self-discovery through genuine connections and acts of kindness.

Call to Action:

• Reflect on where you're striving to impress and how you can start blessing instead.
• Subscribe, share, and leave a review if you enjoyed the episode.
• Remember, self-discovery is best traveled together – let's keep transforming and blessing each other along the way.

Podcast discussed today: 

All In: Bonnie Cordon- Letting Him Direct Thy Paths

 Show Notes: Here

• Email: [email protected] 
• Website: www.chantelallencoaching.com 
• Youtube: @ChantelAllenCoaching
• Instagram:@chantelallencoaching

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This series it to take us back to the basics and support those who may not be familiar with how to get started with awareness, acceptance and changing that relationship with themselves.  In this epsiode we discuss the thing that can stop us from even getting to awareness or acceptance of our brains... which is that fear of us seeing what we're thinking. Join us as we explore the analogy of the castle and how that can help us take a step into our brains and closer to acceptance.

Key Discussion Points:

Introduction to Beginners:

• What typically stops us from getting to acceptance
• Why that isn't a problem

Envisioning our brains like a castle:

• How seeing our brains like a castle can help
• What it means to be the architect of ourselves
• How to step in the foyer doors

Practical Steps to Cultivate Acceptance:

• Strategies to stay in the room
• Allowing the fear
• Writing it all down (thought downloads)

Conclusion:

• Recap of the key points discussed.
• Encouragement to continue exploring acceptance in your own life.

Call to Action:

• We want to hear from you! Share your thoughts and experiences on practicing acceptance. Follow me on social media and join the conversation using the hashtag #EmbraceYourMind.

 Show Notes: Here

• Email: [email protected] 
• Website: www.chantelallencoaching.com 
• Youtube: @ChantelAllenCoaching
• Instagram:@chantelallencoaching

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This series it to take us back to the basics and support those who may not be familiar with how to get started with awareness, acceptance and changing that relationship with themselves.  In this episode, we dive deep into the transformative power of acceptance and its role in achieving inner peace. Join us as we explore the foundations of acceptance, its benefits, and practical ways to cultivate it in our daily lives.

Key Discussion Points:

Introduction to Acceptance:

• Overview of the concept of acceptance and its importance for mental well-being.
• How acceptance differs from resignation or passivity.
• The role of mindfulness and self-compassion in fostering acceptance.

Benefits of Acceptance:

• Enhanced emotional resilience and reduced stress.
• Improved relationships and social interactions.
• Greater clarity and focus in decision-making.

Practical Steps to Cultivate Acceptance:

• Techniques for observing thoughts without judgment.
• Strategies for embracing difficult emotions.
• Exercises for integrating acceptance into everyday routines.

Conclusion:

• Recap of the key points discussed.
• Encouragement to continue exploring acceptance in your own life.

Call to Action:

• We want to hear from you! Share your thoughts and experiences on practicing acceptance. Follow me on social media and join the conversation using the hashtag #EmbraceYourMind.

 Show Notes: Here

• Email: [email protected] 
• Website: www.chantelallencoaching.com 
• Youtube: @ChantelAllenCoaching
• Instagram:@chantelallencoaching

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