Living Well with PMDD

Heidi describes her life in 2019 and 2020, when she was introduced to life coaching.

Time Stamps
01:22 Returning from living overseas
02:36 Feeling like this was too much
03:17 Purchasing vehicles
03:47 Moved in with Heidi’s parents
04:15 Closed on their first house purchase
04:20 Their belongings were moldy
05:47 Remediation of items and home
07:17 Had baby #7
07:37 Taking inventory of any moldy items and getting rid of them
08:05 Filing a claim
08:16 Dinner with girlfriends
09:08 Heidi’s husband deploys
09:25 Heidi plans the holidays
11:49 She panics and looks for more help
12:12 Heidi looks up a life coach that was recommended to her
13:02 Changes and transformations that came
14:07 Heidi trains to be a life coach

Take Aways
-Unfair and unjust things happen to us and it doesn't say anything about you. 
-"You might be okay today and not okay tomorrow." -Heidi's friend
-There is a lot of value in having things to look forward to.
-It’s okay to get help.
-There are almost always beliefs behind what’s casing pain, stress, anxiety, and anger.
-Life coaching has brought peace, clarity, relief, and me being more in control of my life and my impact.

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Free resources:

• Heidi's website
• Heidi's YouTube

Music 

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Have you wondered what the Love and Support Calls are all about? Here's your chance to listen in to the beginning of one.

Today's podcast is the recording of the first 12-15 minutes of the most recent Love and Support call. Hear about some struggles Heidi has been going through with her move and how she improved her situation through journaling.

To WATCH the July Love and Support call, go here and click on the free access button. This may be the only time we add the Love and Support call to the podcast or it may become a regular thing...we haven't decided yet!

Time Stamps
01:57 Recently moved from Colorado to New Mexico
02:39 Feeling stressed out
03:46 Realizing I needed to STOP and process my thoughts and emotions
06:17 Journaling
06:38 My journaling plan
07:01 Wrote down current thoughts and feelings (in general)
07:13 Wrote about WHY...
07:44 If I had a magic wand, what would everything look like?
08:22 The seven things that needed to change
09:40 Caveat: Don't feel guilty if you can't journal today...try to do it sometime though.
10:10 Recognizing the current reality and that it will change, but this is it for now
11:19 Go a little deeper and ask why? And what do I want to do about it.

Take Aways
-Really the stress comes from the energy that we are going at it with.

-"I recognize I'm feeling sorry for myself and overwhelmed to the point that I don't want to do anything. And I want to do something about it." That's a good indicator journaling may be helpful now. Waiting until you want to do something about it will likely make the outcomes better.

-There were only seven things that if Heidi had a magic wand would be different. Those seven things would bring her enough peace and confidence to face everything with hope. 

-Write and post the main insight you have from journaling in places where you'll see it often.

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Free resources:

• Heidi's website
• Heidi's YouTube

Music 

• Music- Island Breeze by Surf House Productions | https://surf-house-productions.bandcamp.com 
• Music promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.com

Remember to sign up for the Love and Support Call this week here!

Today we explore some better ways to complain (so it doesn't end up everywhere!) and Heidi details her recent move experience that led to LOTS of desire to complain. Heidi then applies the Model to her situation and shows how it made the whole experience better.

Take aways
Better ways to complain:
1. Choose one person to complain to
2. Choose one person to complain to about this. Another person you complain to about a different topic. Another about something else, etc.
3. Stop complaining to someone if it seems to be the foundation of the friendship or they can't stop talking about your issue.
4. Complain through prayer/talking to God
5. Complain through writing, journaling, and letter writing (that you don't give)

The Model
(developed by Brooke Castillo)
Circumstance:
Thought:
Feeling:
Actions:
Results:

Time stamps
03:32 Better ways to complain
04:22 Choosing people to complain to
06:08 Other ways to complain
06:13 Using prayer to complain
07:30 Using journaling, writing, letter writing
08:40 The balloon idea
09:44 The better way to complain... actually deciding you want to influence the result and following a plan to get the result 
11:24 STORY
21:40 Applying The Model to Heidi's move story

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Free resources:

• Heidi's website
• Heidi's YouTube

Music 

• Music- Island Breeze by Surf House Productions | https://surf-house-productions.bandcamp.com 
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Does it feel like complaining is helpful? While it can feel productive, Heidi argues that it doesn't lead us to the results we want.

Take aways
*Sometimes we complain because we are trying to make things better. But it doesn't work.
*Even if we get what will satisfy the complaint, we don't feel better.
*Venting is not always a good thing.
*Feel emotion rather than skipping over it or avoiding it.
*Your body is very able to take care of anger if you allow it to.

Time stamps
01:28 Why we complain
02:36 Sometimes we complain to fit in
04:04 We don't complain when we are satisfied or feeling happy
05:29 Complaining can be a habit
06:58 Even if we get what will satisfy the complaint, we don't FEEL better. 
08:31 What things DO happen when we complain?
08:38 Hypothetical example... I get fired from my job
08:53 Look at the WHAT rather than the WHY
10:16 Possible actions that will come from anger
11:18 Has any good come from the complaining?
12:36 The results of Hypothetical Heidi's complaints
13:08 Feeling emotion 
16:30 Analogy of barfing everywhere vs in the toilet

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Free resources:

• Heidi's website
• Heidi's YouTube

Music 

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Get a glimpse of some jobs and roles (i.e. daughter, aunt) that Heidi had as a teenager and in her early twenties. What made them harder or easier to handle because of her having PMDD? What was good about them? What was difficult about them? Heidi adds some recommendations along the way.

Take Aways
-Heidi found being a college student easier than being a high school student.
-Before serving as a full-time missionary, figure out ways to handle your difficult days of the month. Practice them. Heidi didn't know she had PMDD at the time she served... she believes knowing would have helped.
-Recognizing when your PMDD symptoms are active may help reduce stress, frustration, and disagreements.
-Doing work that includes both mind and body helped Heidi reduce the amount of negative thinking about herself. 
-Having some social interaction when desired (but not expected) was a happy medium for Heidi.

Time Stamps
00:54 A little about the previous episode
02:40 Invitation to reflect
03:35 Challenges as a high school student
04:04 High school student vs College student days
06:29 Full-time missionary role
08:55 Working outside...doing farm work
10:57 Doing an inventory of the grandparent's things
12:46 The role of being a daughter
13:26 Being an aunt
13:49 Babysitting

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Free resources:

• Heidi's website
• Heidi's YouTube

Music 

• Music- Island Breeze by Surf House Productions | https://surf-house-productions.bandcamp.com 
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Heidi describes PMDD friendly jobs based on two questions she asked in a FaceBook group of women with PMDD. 

The two questions asked: 
1. What careers/jobs have you had that have been PMDD friendly?
2. What careers/jobs have you had that have not been PMDD friendly?

Topics
1:25 Purpose of this episode
2:26 Jobs and careers that are not PMDD friendly
3:11 PMDD friendly careers and jobs
4:40 Jobs that are somewhat PMDD friendly
5:42 Takeaways and common threads based on their answers
8:50 Elements to consider when looking for a job
9:51 Heidi shares thoughts about substitute teaching being PMDD friendly
10:31 The career of being a Mother
12:07 Ways to make the job and career of being a mom more PMDD friendly
14:10 Notice ways that being a mom is fulfilling

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Music 

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Today we consider:  Who has been a positive role model in your life? What was their impact on your life? 

Then Heidi shares appreciation and examples of the positive role models in her life including her dad, mom, brothers, brothers-in-law, and husband. 

Topics
1:00 Ask yourself:  Who has been a positive role model in your life?
2:33 About positive role models in the lives of young women
3:26 "I [Heidi] feel very blessed because I know that not everyone...has the opportunity to be around men that are trying to do good things, that are being righteous, that are making choices that are good for themself, their family, their community, their church... there is hope. I have been blessed to around these men."
5:25 Heidi offers appreciation for husband
7:39 "We [Heidi and her husband] are equals and we help each other and serve each other every single day."
8:20 Tribute to Heidi's dad
13:27 A theme for her dad's life:  Finding truth and assimilating it [and sharing it!]
16:00 Shout out to her brothers, brothers-in-law, and father-in-law
17:20 Shout out and thanks to her husband

Sources
https://www.carryon.org.au/blog/the-crucial-role-of-positive-male-role-models-in-our-lives

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Music 

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Welcome back! Today's episode is continuing the discussion on some nontraditional ways to decrease our PMDD symptoms.

Topics
00:57 Sleep modifications
01:37 Environmental modifications (dim lights, no backlit screens close to bedtime, etc)
02:36 Using essential oils
03:48 Guided meditations (See below for links to a few)
04:05 Meditation Heidi designed
06:42 Example: "This is my sleeping time. We'll think about that tomorrow."
06:58 Exercise modifications
08:25 Take a nap in place of exercising when you're on your period
09:12 Benefits of doing exercise you LIKE to do or that is EASY for you to do
11:06 Things to watch out for
12:26 Happy Father's Day (yesterday) to the men listening

Notes
A Guided Sleep Meditation by Deepak Chopra: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nqCOuIxLLFc
Breathing Meditation by UCLA Health (formerly found under Marc UCLA free guided meditations): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YFSc7Ck0Ao0

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• Heidi's website
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Music 

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Today we'll consider three (of five) nontraditional ways to treat PMDD symptoms.

5 Ways:
1- Receive life coaching
2- Change your lifestyle
3- Change what you are eating and/or drinking
4- Modify your sleep
5- Modify your exercise

Topics
00:59 The five nontraditional ways we'll discuss
01:29 Common ways to treat PMDD symptoms
03:50 Life coaching
08:16 Lifestyle changes
10:15 Eating changes
12:51 Thoughts about fasting and intermittent fasting

There are many ways WE can influence our symptoms. Try something. It might help!! 

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Music 

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Heidi announces and goes into detail about the coaching opportunity she will be opening up this Fall. There are 10 spots available so if you think this might be for you, listen up!

**You can sign up for this 3 month coaching program by sending an email to [email protected].

Topics
01:51 Overview on the details of this episode
02:30 Who this coaching opportunity will help most
04:01 Who this opportunity is not ideal for
05:05 What you get out of this coaching program
10:24 Other topics covered in this program
12:30 When this program starts
14:21 How the program is run (via Zoom)
15:36 The price of this coaching opportunity
16:07 Instructions on how to sign up
16:47 Special bonus for signing up by August 15th

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Free resources:

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Music 

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