How do we hold space for two contradictory ideas? How do we hold space for the reality that things won't always make sense?

We can't control everything, but we can build up our "tolerance for distress", which can lead us to wanting to control the stuff we can't, less.

The source: https://dialecticalbehaviortherapy.com/distress-tolerance/cost-benefit-analysis/

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"Living systems theory has been so helpful to me. I think there is a drive within living systems to complexify, to wake up—there is an evolutionary movement. I speak out of the love and excitement generated by my little work, which many people are doing with me. It does require being able to experience pain. It does require tears and outrage. It does require positive disintegration. Our whole culture needs positive disintegration. It has to die to itself. So my Christian upbringing is relevant there: Good Friday and Easter, the necessity for death and rebirth. We are going to die as a culture, and it’s better for us to do it consciously, so we don’t inflict it on everyone else." - Joanna Macy 

The main source: https://www.activehope.info/

Read the interview with Joanna Macy.

Read the first few chapters of the book ACTIVE HOPE.

Read Faron Sage's Article.

Read more from Joanna Macy.

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Today we talk about what Joanna Macy and Chris Johnstone's book Active Hope. Specifically the three stages of dealing with the current crisis.

1. “Business as Usual” - Those who refuse to change. The people that believe that the current system is the best or only way.

1. “The Great Unravelling” - Those who are inundated with despair about the fact that people are still in "business as usual" mode. The people that believe that the world is in serious decline + feel hopeless + helpless.

1. “The Great Turning” - Those who are working “to transition from a doomed economy of industrial growth to a life-sustaining society committed to the recovery of our world.”

Where are you? I waffle between 1, 2, and 3 seemingly all the time, but I spend most of my time in 2.

Read the first few chapters of the book ACTIVE HOPE.

Read Faron Sage's Article.

Read more from Joanna Macy.

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America has a habit of blaming poor people + immigrants for the problems that policy makers create. Stop letting the oppressors scapegoat the oppressed, and start focusing your outrage on the people who perpetuate (and profit from) this harmful false narrative.

The Big Short Script: https://www.sellingyourscreenplay.com/wp-content/uploads/screenplay/scripts/The-Big-Short.pdf

The "Careful, that foreigner wants your cookie" Meme: https://www.reddit.com/r/PoliticalHumor/comments/lwssxm/america_summed_up/

The "average taxpayer pays $36 in SNAP vs $300 corporate bailouts" meme: https://www.reddit.com/r/theydidthemath/comments/1kjoekc/request_is_this_accurate/

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"Perhaps the greatest failure of liberal democracies is their historical failure to successfully protect the vital economic and security interests of their less advantaged citizens through their institutions."

"It is a cruel irony that this great promise of democracy is rarely realized in practice."

"The job of trade unions, parties, and even radical social movements is precisely to institutionalize unruly protest and anger. Their function is, one might say, to try to translate anger, frustration, and pain into a coherent political program that can be the basis of policy making and legislation."

"As Martin Luther King, Jr., noted, “a riot is the language of the unheard.” Large-scale disruption, riot, and spontaneous defiance have always been the most potent political recourse of the poor. Such activity is not without structure. It is structured by informal, self-organized, and transient networks of neighborhood, work, and family that lie outside the formal institutions of politics. This is structure alright, just not the kind amenable to institutionalized politics."

JAMES C. SCOTT - TWO CHEERS FOR ANARCHISM

More from James C. Scott: https://politicalscience.yale.edu/people/james-scott

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How do we really know anything? Well, it starts by connecting with what you feel.

Faron Sage's article: "How Do We Make Heads or Tails of What's Going On?"

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It's that time again, where we take a step back and check in with the cop in our heads.

“One day you will be called upon to break a big law in the name of justice and rationality. Everything will depend on it. You have to be ready. How are you going to prepare for that day when it really matters? You have to stay "in shape" so that when the big day comes you will be ready. What you need is "anarchist calisthenics." Every day or so break some trivial law that makes no sense, even if it’s only jaywalking. Use your own head to judge whether a law is just or reasonable. That way, you'll keep trim; and when the big day comes, you'll be ready.” - James C. Scott Two Cheers for Anarchism

MochaEinstein: https://www.tiktok.com/@mochaeinstein27

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TheOfficialJaiButle's video: rhttps://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8DxV84u/ 

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Your brain does what is reliable, not what is best. It does what is safe, not what is productive. Our culture has shaped each and every one of us through rules + repetition.

How has society tampered down the way you connect to your body and to others? How has society's expectations stifled you? How have our societal norms impacted the way you feel? and react?

Can you buck some of those norms for a bit of nervous system regulation? If you can find a moment alone, scream. If you can find a moment to dance? Dance. Cry if you need to cry.

Address the ways you've been holding yourself back from feeling your feelings, to appease some made up rules.

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optimize your cues + your environment to create + reinforce better habits + discourage your "not so good" ones.

Time cues < (paired with another) action cues. "I will do this at 7 am every single day" is waaaaay harder to commit to than committing to something with something else, "I will do this after I do that."

Intrinsic motivation > external rewards

Tweak your environment to reduce the friction between you and your desired habit.

Set yourself up for success + visualize it! Don't visualize the work.

https://www.joincarbon.com/blog/the-neuroscience-of-habit-formation

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You can, in fact, teach an old dog new tricks - if you use a couple of old ones.

Habits are formed and reinforced through repetition, salience (how much it stands out), time, intensity, specificity. Today we talk about what that means.

1. https://www.carolinafnc.com/post/10-principles-of-neuroplasticity
2. https://www.joincarbon.com/blog/the-neuroscience-of-habit-formation

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