Make Your Damn Bed

I tend to neglect myself in relationships so I can focus more on creating peace + wellbeing in others, over my own.

A good, healthy relationship will provide space to become more yourself. I have never experienced this. I feel this tendency to erase myself and nurture others with that extra energy.

“Love is not staying. Love is showing up. If you cannot stay and show up then what your offering is not intimacy, it’s absence with good intentions.” - Justin Scott

The Inspiration Videos:

Justin Scott on relational self erasure: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8sG1g1g/

Amber Akilla's Video on Detachment: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8ssKsMv/

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1. don't die. - some days this is finding joy to keep me moving, other days it's simply not dying even though I can't move.
2. don't let shame drive the car. - shame is a violent toddler throwing a very persuasive temper tantrum in the backseat. I have to stop giving that jerk the keys to the car.
3. don't future trip. - if I lost someone I never dreamed of losing I also have to leave space to believe I can gain someone I never dreamed it was possible to gain.
4. be gentle with the process. - compassion is key. I'm treating myself like a baby. Like a puppy. Lots of treats, walks, forced playtime, enrichment, and a snuggly little cozy bed to rest in.

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He went to a wedding without me. He lied about my dad being sick when people asked about me. He was also regularly asking a woman from work if he could come meet up with her before shifts and after shifts. He had said "I love you" to another woman he sent thousands to for photos. I was devastated. And I spiraled. I hit rock bottom.

So I spent a week drilling in. Leaning into the horrors and demons. I got some closure but all the answers in the world will never be enough.

You can't explain a chaotic choice like cheating or betrayal.

But it has reminded me that I'm responsible for protecting my spark. He took it and snuffed it out, but I am fully capable of relighting it. I will keep it safe myself, and never trust anyone to be responsible for it again.

My goal is to not hate him. And as far as I can tell, it's his goal too. I still waffle between anger/hatred/contempt/ick to despair/fear/unworthiness/shame/sadness and complete confusion/betrayal/alarm at the unpredictability of humans. But for now, I'm honoring the part of me that wants to save myself. I'm relighting my spark. I'm nurturing myself with compassion and grace and patience I couldn't find in someone else. And that has to be enough for now.

I shouldn't have needed to hit rock bottom to remember to take care of myself, and I'll never let myself get to that point again.

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He didn't find it funny, as tricksters rarely do.

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This motherfucker looked me in my eyes and said I promise there is nothing else that will upset you in here. 

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Today's episode is explicit.... but not as explicit as tomorrow's.

This motherfucker looked me in my eyes and said I promise there is nothing else that will upset you in here. That... was a lie.

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Coyotes represent a trickster spirit, thank goodness there aren't coyotes in this suburb of Florida.

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I fall asleep ruminating. I wake up ruminating. Things are blinking and flashing on my dash but I can’t figure it out so I just keep trucking. I stop creating. It feels suddenly like math is a farce and chaos and disorder is the only reality. 

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“I don’t like it when the math ain’t mathing.“ - KENTHEMAN

I can do anything temporarily as long as there's hope at the end of the tunnel. The problem is, if I can't see that light? I'm gonna be freaking out until I believe there's hope ahead.

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He lost his job and when I asked how much he had in savings he said "nothing." and I realized everything I knew about this man was a lie. But I loved him more than money. I grew up rightfully being called "trailer trash" and struggling to eat anything fresh or unpreserved. I would happily live on the street with this man.

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