The conversational awareness series summary:

Stay present, don’t prep responses. Read the room. Take your time. Not every convo needs to be gossipy and ruthless and petty. Steer conversations more positively if they become too negative. Keep shit neutral for the most part. If sharing is the vibe great but don’t pry and probe if people wanna share they will - and people are more comfortable sharing with those who share and listen also but it can be really awkward to keep pressing and prying. Take responsibility if you say inappropriate shit, in the moment.

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How to tell a better story: Be present, stay confident, get curious and honest.

Then ask yourself: Why this story? Why now?

Is the audience and timing appropriate? Don't derail the energy. Read the room.

Is this story worth telling? Keep your central message in mind throughout the story.

Am I building a through-line? Drop breadcrumbs so your listeners can relate and pick up on clues that help keep them on board throughout the story. Give yourself a thread to follow from the beginning of your story to the end.

Am I sharing too much? Avoid TMI. Keep your backstory relevant and don't over-do details that don't actually build the story.

Change your inflection and pacing to build tension. Punch up, don't be petty. Take your time and have fun.

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If you wanna have a good conversation with someone, you'll be present, stay confident, get curious, treat everyone like a friend, and focus more on being interested than interesting.

Find common interests and passions and get real! Bein' vulnerable helps people open up in return.

Hope today is as magic as you are. Love you, cutie!

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once you practice aligning your external actions with your internal self-awareness, you will get better and better at creating natural connections, but it can be helpful to know when and how to gracefully excuse yourself from a conversation that is no longer serving you.

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BEING INTERESTED IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN BEING INTERESTING.

If you're more concerned with "proving" yourself than "staying present" - you're wasting valuable time and energy.

Competence is proven through actions, behaviors, choices, and taking responsibility for mistakes in real time. We're not typically impressed with braggarts and show-offs. We see right through the inauthenticity that comes from people attempting to be "interesting".

Being someone who offers genuine interest in others and themselves from a place of earnest curiosity, is far more interesting than those who are forcing it.

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Cultivating external self awareness comes from aligning with your internal self awareness and goals. When you know how you are - you can streamline your actions, choices, words, and behaviors to align with who you are AND what the room needs in any given moment.

Tone, volume, topics, etc. should be accounted for when building connection - but we should be able to both "read the room" and "stay aligned with our highest self" in a way that doesn't feel overwhelming.

Practice listening, keeping conversations fairly neutral, sustaining respect and objectivity when you can - and you'll feel less self-conscious and more self-aware as a result.

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when your internal self awareness isn't aligning with your external - you can self correct in real time to feel more safe and confident in your personal guidance system. don't be afraid to check in regularly (as objectively as possible) to ensure your external is matching up with the internal.

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Do your beliefs, thoughts, actions, decisions align with your internal favorite version of yourself?

The more you practice internally evaluating the things that make you feel the best and most aligned - the less you'll have to over-analyze and critique your external presentation to ensure it's aligning with your best self, internally.

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The key to building self awareness (that doesn't ebb into self-consciousness) is being aware internally of the things that align with you and your favorite version of yourself. Trust that your external will naturally begin to match the internal as you begin to get clear about the things that make you feel the most whole and well-rounded.

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Taking an extra second to look back now can save you hours of stress and worry in the future.

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