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Instead of trying to control others, become a consultant.

"Children need thoughtful guidance and firm, enforceable limits. We set those limits based on the safety of the child and how the child’s behavior affects others. Then we must maintain those limits to help children understand that they are responsible for their actions and will suffer reasonable consequences for actions that are inappropriate. However, while the parents are drawing and holding these limits, it is important for them to continue encouraging their children to think about their behavior and help them feel in control of their actions by giving choices within those limits. This is where the consultant parent comes in."

The original source: https://www.loveandlogic.com/

Powerpoint of the main points of Teaching with Love and Logic: https://aae.lewiscenter.org/documents/AAE/Love%20and%20Logic/Teaching/Teaching%20With%20Love%20-%20Logic.pdf

PDF version of Parenting with Love and Logic: https://repository.poltekkes-kaltim.ac.id/645/1/Parenting%20With%20Love%20and%20Logic_%20Teaching%20Children%20Responsibility%20(%20PDFDrive.com%20).pdf

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"Effective parenting centers around love: love that is not permissive, love that doesn’t tolerate disrespect, but also love that is powerful enough to allow kids to make mistakes and permit them to live with the consequences of those mistakes. Most mistakes do have logical consequences. And those consequences, when accompanied by empathy — our compassionate understanding of the child’s disappointment, frustration, and pain — hit home with mind-changing power."

The original source: https://www.loveandlogic.com/

Powerpoint of the main points of Teaching with Love and Logic: https://aae.lewiscenter.org/documents/AAE/Love%20and%20Logic/Teaching/Teaching%20With%20Love%20-%20Logic.pdf

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Enjoy this throwback episode (from day 872) before the new series drops on Monday!

"There's a sucker born every minute." - P.T. Barnum

Carl Sagan shares guidelines with us for how to critically think. Today, I share them with you!

Critical thinking never goes out of style. especially when we consider how MUCH information we are forced to take in on a daily basis.

Historically speaking, Never have people had so much information FORCED upon them - we gotta be diligent about how we learn new information so we’re not falling victim to the Riff-raff. 

RESOURCES: https://stimpunks.org/glossary/critical-thinking/ and https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Demon-Haunted_World

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ENJOY THIS THROWBACK EPISODE FROM DAY 751, BEFORE THE NEW SERIES DROPS ON MONDAY -

Make a list of all the shit you're good at + a list of all the good shit in your life + all the shit that bothers you about your life.

Using the first two lists, attempt to solve the last list and bingo-bango you've got yourself a lil action plan template.

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Curiosity is fragile. Learning is difficult as hell. Our brains are built for efficiency, not thinking. We can trick our brains into motivation by worrying about the difficulty of the challenge, rather than the topic or the content. We rely on our memories more than our thinking brain.

According to Daniel Willingham's book, "Why Students Don’t Like School?" "Thinking occurs when you combine information (from the environment and from long-term memory) in new ways. That combination happens in working memory."

SOURCES:

Read Daniel's article for yourself, here: https://www.aft.org/sites/default/files/WILLINGHAM%282%29.pdf

Check out his website + other work: http://www.danielwillingham.com/books.html

Or read this synopsis of the book: https://classteaching.wordpress.com/2014/04/24/why-dont-students-like-school/

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Some of the lessons I prioritize, still: Stop being so hard on yourself when you’re struggling to learn or master or understand something new. You’re actually doing a great job as a learner. You’re exactly where you’re supposed to be, trying, messing up, learning. If you knew already, you wouldn’t be learning anymore. Learning is impossible to mess up, unless you give up. It’s supposed to be challenging - but that doesn’t have to mean frustrating. Take your time to be a learner. Tests are hard for some of us, but that doesn’t mean you’re dumb. Judge a fish by ability to climb a tree, and all that. 

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And that’s the beauty of math, right? There are many ways to get there, but there is one answer.

It’s tidy, if you’re tidy. 

It’s also why I hate math - because I am not the tidiest worker. 

I try to be, and am training myself to be so I can enjoy the process of things more, and actually invest in the process as much as the outcome, but when I was younger and sometimes still, I really don’t have time for poorly worded instructions, and I tend to rush through shit if I don’t see the point in it.

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Dirt in a cog is a way to embody resistance. It focuses on slowing down, jamming up, creating little bits of friction that make it difficult to keep attacking our citizens effectively.

We need all types of resistance, don't think there are limits to your modes of resistance. Make fascism hard. Don't normalize the violence we're seeing. Keep showing your community + your country that you aren't going to lie down and watch it burn.

You don't have to wait for one big act of revolutionary change to start pushing back. You can push back against the shift in everyday actions + choices, if you know where to look.

THE "DIRT IN A COG" ZINE: https://invisiblehistory.org/dirt-in-a-cog-zine/

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Joy is part of the practice.

When you can't find it and don't know where to start? Start small. Start by reminding yourself that joy still exists, and it's a frequency vibrating right above our heads, and if we can just poke our heads out of this damned hole, we can find it - tap into it, and use it like the resource it is. 

Pay attention to the glimmers that make you feel seen.

The goal is to make the next best choice.

Reclaim your agency by starting with fun, whimsy, and joy.

Inspirational stuff that has helped to pry me from my funk lately:

DIRT IN A COG VIDEO: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cyU50dserEY

CHAOTIC GUIDE TO MAKING STUFF INSTEAD OF DOOMSCROLLING: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2n8W6CBxc64&t=102s

RADICAL NEIGHBORING VIDEO: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dynQV-oKM0E

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Tactical frivolity is what happens when you use humor, whimsy, and joy to make those in power look ridiculous. It flips the script and reclaims agency. The optics matter, the message matters, and how the message arrives matters. So get involved, stop leaning into despair, and flip that damned script. Get some joy in your resistance. It's exactly what the world needs right now.

Threads: https://www.threads.com/@eorlins/post/DP8wkOgDfyt/have-you-heard-of-tactical-frivolityits-one-of-my-favorite-forms-of-protesttacti

Leeja Miller's Video on Tactical Frivolity: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zGiEhbaa8Ko

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