Make Your Damn Bed

Today we talk about how to build your tolerance for discomfort.

THE SOURCE: https://shoesandshots.substack.com/p/discomfort-is-the-price-you-pay-for

Further reading: https://www.outsideonline.com/health/training-performance/dealing-pain-discomfort/

and: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/living-well-when-your-body-doesnt-cooperate/202405/stretching-distress-tolerance

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It's not about giving in, and it's not about fighting it. Sometimes, you can just observe, ride the wave, and allow it to pass.

Resisting Impulse Spending: https://www.inc.com/jessica-stillman/holiday-shopping-personal-finance-spending.html

Urge Surfing: https://www.dartmouth-hitchcock.org/sites/default/files/2021-03/urge-surfing.pdf

Stop impulse Spending Hacks: https://bodybrainalliance.com/stop-impulse-spending-with-these-4-behavior-change-hacks

Use findhelp.org is an amazing website where you can type in your zip code and it will show you free or reduced-cost resources like food, housing, financial assistance, health care, and more. 

PLEASE Watch Kendra Austin's video on Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8DyB7xE/

The incomparable Dollar Tree Dinners: https://www.youtube.com/@DollarTreeDinners

How to make Sandwich Bread: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8DyEXum/

Cheap vegan friendly grocery inspiration: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8DyqykN/

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You are not a failure if you’re struggling right now, though it may feel like it. But your value and worth is not reflected in your ability to pay your bills that don’t stop growing, and your ability to get up and do anything beyond work that never stops coming. 

Poverty is a systemic failing, not a personal failing.

Remember you can’t really think straight when you’re really “broke” (I don’t use the word “broke” lightly, I genuinely think it’s the government’s attempt to break us as individuals) so don't be hard on yourself if you're not thinking straight.

Use findhelp.org is an amazing website where you can type in your zip code and it will show you free or reduced-cost resources like food, housing, financial assistance, health care, and more. 

PLEASE Watch Kendra Austin's video on Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8DyB7xE/

The incomparable Dollar Tree Dinners: https://www.youtube.com/@DollarTreeDinners

How to make Sandwich Bread: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8DyEXum/

Cheap vegan friendly grocery inspiration: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8DyqykN/

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Did you know you can "hack your brain" for things beyond your productivity? You can become more resilient, more conscious, more in control, through a few simple practices.

It's not about avoiding anything that makes us feel sad, but it's about becoming conscious of the process of engaging with it.

It's not about the content, but the process. Empowering vs. Disempowering yourself.

INSPIRED BY: https://adriennemareebrown.net/

and https://everythingispolitical.com/readings/your-nervous-system-under-fascism-a-decolonial-polyvagal-exploration

Very Well Mind on Brain plasticity: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-brain-plasticity-2794886#:~:text=Strengthening%20existing%20pathways:%20Neurons%20that,adapt%20to%20the%20changing%20environment.

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

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Feeling disconnected or unsure? Dr. Pat suggests:

Body Check-In: When you consume news about social or political issues, what sensations do you notice in your body? Do you feel tense, numb, energized?

Triggers and Ancestry: Think about a recent moment you felt fear or shut down in response to authority or conflict. How might this reaction connect to your community’s historical or ancestral experiences?

Finding Ventral Vagal: What people, places, or practices help you feel safe and connected? How can you incorporate more of these in daily life, especially when fear in society is high?

From Reaction to Response: Recall a time you reacted in anger or froze up around an authoritarian figure/stressor. With compassion for yourself, consider how, if you had felt more grounded or supported, you might have responded differently? What support or boundaries would help in future similar situations?

Collective Care: How can you contribute to a sense of safety and solidarity in your community? Could you start a trauma-informed discussion group, a community care circle, or simply check on neighbors more often?

SOURCE: https://everythingispolitical.com/readings/your-nervous-system-under-fascism-a-decolonial-polyvagal-exploration

Dr. Pat's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pat.radical.therapist/?hl=en

Dr. Pat's substack: https://patradicaltherapist.substack.com/

Dr. Pat's original post: https://www.facebook.com/photo/?fbid=1281714603957641&set=pcb.1281714660624302

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

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Did you know you can "hack your brain" for things beyond your productivity? You can become more resilient, more conscious, more in control, through a few simple practices.

It's not about avoiding anything that makes us feel sad, but it's about becoming conscious of the process of engaging with it.

It's not about the content, but the process. Empowering vs. Disempowering yourself.

INSPIRED BY: https://adriennemareebrown.net/

and https://everythingispolitical.com/readings/your-nervous-system-under-fascism-a-decolonial-polyvagal-exploration

Very Well Mind on Brain plasticity: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-brain-plasticity-2794886#:~:text=Strengthening%20existing%20pathways:%20Neurons%20that,adapt%20to%20the%20changing%20environment.

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

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Our brains are malleable, and we can actually enrich our experiences to encourage more "plasticity" or adaptability in our own heads - if we know what to look for.

Very Well Mind on Brain plasticity: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-brain-plasticity-2794886#:~:text=Strengthening%20existing%20pathways:%20Neurons%20that,adapt%20to%20the%20changing%20environment.

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

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Think about a good joke. If you knew the punchline right away? It's less funny. If you had to have the punchline explained? Less funny. But if you understood the punchline within a few moments, and got the satisfaction of "realization" in real time? That makes a BANGER of a joke.

It's all about the appropriate level of challenge and thinking.

According to Daniel Willingham's book, "Why Students Don’t Like School?" Curiosity is fragile. Learning is difficult as hell. Our brains are built for efficiency, not thinking. We can trick our brains into motivation by worrying about the difficulty of the challenge, rather than the topic or the content. We rely on our memories more than our thinking brain.

SOURCES:

Read Daniel's article for yourself, here: https://www.aft.org/sites/default/files/WILLINGHAM%282%29.pdf

Check out his website + other work: http://www.danielwillingham.com/books.html

Or read this synopsis of the book: https://classteaching.wordpress.com/2014/04/24/why-dont-students-like-school/

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

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It's not about spinning all the plates, it's about setting most of them down so you can actually focus on the spinning process.

THE SOURCES:

Reducing cognitive load to learn: https://theelearningcoach.com/learning/reduce-cognitive-load/

Getting into flow state: https://rts-1988.medium.com/getting-to-flow-state-while-studying-simulating-mental-effort-while-reading-543eecdee6ca

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

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When I’m having a rough time, trying to treat myself like I liked to treat my students, with empathy, compassion, patience, kindness, attention, care, time, etc. and in an effort to build muscles that can provide them with that empathy, compassion, patience, kindness, attention, time, care, etc. for themselves? I feel like the everyday things that I sometimes struggle with, are more doable. More approachable. 

The original source: https://www.loveandlogic.com/

Powerpoint of the main points of Teaching with Love and Logic: https://aae.lewiscenter.org/documents/AAE/Love%20and%20Logic/Teaching/Teaching%20With%20Love%20-%20Logic.pdf

PDF version of Parenting with Love and Logic: https://repository.poltekkes-kaltim.ac.id/645/1/Parenting%20With%20Love%20and%20Logic_%20Teaching%20Children%20Responsibility%20(%20PDFDrive.com%20).pdf

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

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