Make Your Damn Bed

that's by design. but we can fight it!

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In sociology, the third place refers to the social surroundings that are separate from the two usual social environments of home ("first place") and the workplace ("second place"). Examples of third places include churches, cafes, bars, clubs, community centres, public libraries, gyms, bookstores, makerspaces, stoops, parks, theaters, and opera houses, among others.

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Julia Cameron's "Detective Work" questions from week 3:

1. My favorite childhood toy was … 2. My favorite childhood game was … 3. The best movie I ever saw as a kid was … 4. I don’t do it much but I enjoy … 5. If I could lighten up a little, I’d let myself … 6. If it weren’t too late, I’d … 7. My favorite musical instrument is … 8. The amount of money I spend on treating myself to entertainment each month is … 9. If I weren’t so stingy with my artist, I’d buy him/ her … 10. Taking time out for myself is … 11. I am afraid that if I start dreaming … 12. I secretly enjoy reading … 13. If I had had a perfect childhood I’d have grown up to be … 14. If it didn’t sound so crazy, I’d write or make a … 15. My parents think artists are … 16. My God thinks artists are … 17. What makes me feel weird about this recovery is … 18. Learning to trust myself is probably … 19. My most cheer-me-up music is … 20. My favorite way to dress is …

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Listen to my take on week two here: https://shows.acast.com/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/1048-the-artists-way-week-2-going-sane 

RESOURCES: https://juliacameronlive.com/

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"There are certain rules of the road useful in dealing with any form of criticism. 1. Receive the criticism all the way through and get it over with. 2. Jot down notes to yourself on what concepts or phrases bother you. 3. Jot down notes on what concepts or phrases seem useful. 4. Do something very nurturing for yourself—read an old good review or recall a compliment. 5. Remember that even if you have made a truly rotten piece of art, it may be a necessary stepping-stone to your next work. Art matures spasmodically and requires ugly-duckling growth stages. 6. Look at the criticism again. Does it remind you of any criticism from your past—particularly shaming childhood criticism? Acknowledge to yourself that the current criticism is triggering grief over a longstanding wound. 7. Write a letter to the critic—not to be mailed, most probably. Defend your work and acknowledge what was helpful, if anything, in the criticism proffered. 8. Get back on the horse. Make an immediate commitment to do something creative. 9. Do it. Creativity is the only cure for criticism." - JULIA CAMERON

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Listen to my take on week two here: https://shows.acast.com/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/1048-the-artists-way-week-2-going-sane 

RESOURCES: https://juliacameronlive.com/

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Artist’s Way Week 3: 

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Margin quote: ‘Take your life in our own hands and what happens? A terrible thing: no one to blame.’

—Erica Jong

Julia Cameron says: "ANGER IS FUEL. We feel it and we want to do something. Hit someone, break something, throw a fit, smash a fist into the wall, tell those bastards. But we are nice people, and what we do with our anger is stuff it, deny it, bury it, block it, hide it, lie about it, medicate it, muffle it, ignore it. We do everything but listen to it. Anger is meant to be listened to. Anger is a voice, a shout, a plea, a demand. Anger is meant to be respected. Why? Because anger is a map. Anger shows us what our boundaries are. Anger shows us where we want to go. It lets us see where we’ve been and lets us know when we haven’t liked it. Anger points the way, not just the finger. In the recovery of a blocked artist, anger is a sign of health. Anger is meant to be acted upon. It is not meant to be acted out. Anger points the direction. We are meant to use anger as fuel to take the actions we need to move where our anger points us. With a little thought, we can usually translate the message that our anger is sending us."

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In emotionally focused therapy, or EFT, Your emotions drive your behavior.

The work is focused on understanding and expressing feelings before trying to regulate them.

RESOURCE: https://www.businessinsider.com/guides/health/mental-health/emotion-focused-therapy

AND: https://focus.psychiatryonline.org/doi/10.1176/foc.8.1.foc32

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Greenberg, the creator of EFT, specified six principles of the approach:

1. Emotional awareness: The first step involves knowing what you're feeling. Naming what you feel can help you reconnect to your needs.

2. Emotional expression: EFT seeks to help you overcome emotional avoidance, often by dismantling unhelpful beliefs, like "Anger is dangerous," that prevent you from healthy emotional expression.

3. Reflection: This component involves reflecting on the "why" behind your emotions. A better understanding of where they come from and what triggers them can help you work through them.

4. Regulation: This key element of EFT involves increasing your ability to self-soothe when powerful emotions come up, rather than letting them take over. Your therapist might teach you distraction, breathing, and positive self-talk techniques to use in emotionally distressing situations.

5. Corrective emotional experiences: This involves dealing with unhelpful emotions in new ways. For example, a therapist can teach you how to replace shame or self-disgust with a more healing emotion, like acceptance.

6. Transformation: You work to achieve this by tapping into a different emotion to transform one that's not serving you. Say you experience fear after a traumatic event. You might instead lean into your underlying anger, a more active emotion you can channel into defining personal boundaries or identifying red flags. This may feel more empowering than feeling trapped by a passive emotion, like fear.

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therapeutic emphasis should always prioritize your lived experience.

life is uncertain, that doesn't mean your life has to feel that way. life has limitations, that doesn't mean you have to feel limited. becoming self aware, means we can approach our lives with curiosity rather than fear. self-awareness doesn't have to translate to self-consciousness, it just may take practice to untie the two from each other.

RESOURCE: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK64939/

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revisiting: closing duties + tidying as I go + keeping space for things

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today we're revisiting what happens when you're in a "low power mode" and what to do when life sends a curveball.

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