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I had such a great time talking about pigeons, I figured we could have some fun discussing other animals. Today, specifically, we are talking about one of my favorites but the chronically underrated “bonobos”. I’ve only ever really thought about bonobos during a college anthropology class, and then they kinda fell off the radar for me. Chimpanzees won the pop culture and research award and left bonobos in the dust. I’ve read there is a vested interest in making sure that we (the general public) learn about chimp culture more than bonobo culture because it would provide us with support and e vidence that we could do better as a society, and at this point, knowing what I know about bonobos (and society) - it would not surprise me if that were the case - but I digress. But contrary to your 3rd grade science teacher’s beliefs: humans closest relative is not just the chimpanzee.

RESOURCES: https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2022/06/bonobos-tolerant-peaceful-group-relationships-paved-way-for-human-peacemaking/ https://www.nytimes.com/2023/11/16/science/bonobos-cooperation-study.html

and ttps://theconversation.com/bonobos-and-chimps-what-our-closest-relatives-tell-us-about-humans-202265 

and https://www.persuasion.community/p/dewaal 

and https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bonobo

and https://www.bonobo.org/bonobos 

AND https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3498939/

AND https://www.npr.org/sections/goatsandsoda/2021/03/20/978868116/some-generous-apes-may-help-explain-the-evolution-of-human-kindness#:~:text=Same%20genes%2C%20different%20behavior,them%20our%20closest%20living%20relatives. 

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Key concepts: Shadow Artists, Core Negative Beliefs, Affirmations

The time is passing anyway, may as well do the damn thing in the process.

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The Hague refers to both a city and a region in the Netherlands. As a city, The Hague is one of the major cities in the country and serves as the seat of the Dutch government, housing the parliament, the prime minister's office, and the monarch's workplace. Additionally, The Hague is known for hosting various international organizations and courts.

One of the most notable international institutions based in The Hague is the International Court of Justice (ICJ), which is the principal judicial organ of the United Nations. The ICJ settles legal disputes between states and provides advisory opinions on legal questions referred to it by the UN General Assembly, the UN Security Council, or other specialized agencies.

Furthermore, The Hague is home to the International Criminal Court (ICC), which prosecutes individuals for the most serious international crimes, such as genocide, war crimes, and crimes against humanity.

In summary, The Hague is a city in the Netherlands with significant international importance, particularly in the realms of international law and diplomacy.

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RESOURCES: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Hague

https://www.npr.org/2024/01/12/1224363666/israel-hamas-war-palestinians-south-africa-genocide-case-court 

https://www.pbs.org/newshour/world/watch-south-africa-tells-top-un-court-israel-is-committing-genocide-in-gaza-in-landmark-case#:~:text=THE%20HAGUE%2C%20Netherlands%20(AP),Israeli%20military%20operations%20in%20Gaza.

https://theintercept.com/2024/01/11/south-africa-israel-genocide-charges/

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pigeons are surprisingly interesting and brilliant critters and today we're digging into some of the most incredible facts about them.

RESOURCES: https://www.excelpestservices.com/11-fun-facts-about-pigeons/

https://facts.net/pigeon-facts/

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“Keep a little fire burning; however small, however hidden.” — Cormac McCarthy

Hope is fundamental to human existence. It is paradoxical in its duality, however, as its very existence implies the possibility of despair (Lynch, 1962). This dialectic between hope and despair is central to considerations of chronic illness management, as well as to studies of the relationship between expectations and the placebo effect (Corbett, et al., 2007; Ratcliffe, 2011). Hope influences expectation, but is a distinct and multifaceted cognitive, embodied, and broadly existential experience (Mattingly, 2010). In order to maintain hope when faced with a situation that appears hopeless, individuals must navigate multiple contradictions between reality and possibility, embrace cultural notions of what is deemed acceptable to hope for, and be attentive to the hopes and concerns of significant others (Averill and Sundararajan, 2005; Chesla, 2005; DelVecchio Good, et al., 1990; Sulmasy, et al., 2010; Brown, 2015).

RESOURCE: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4721951/

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“Keep a little fire burning; however small, however hidden.” — Cormac McCarthy

RESOURCES: https://www.tcd.ie/news_events/articles/2023/what-is-hope-and-why-do-we-need-it/#:~:text=Experiencing%20hope%20dampens%20the%20anxiety,fear%20pathways%20in%20our%20brains.  https://psychcentral.com/blog/the-psychology-of-hope#tips https://positivepsychology.com/hope-therapy/

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content warning: today's episode has brief mention of heavy trauma.

"I Who Have Never Known Men" is a science fiction novel written by Jacqueline Harpman, a Belgian author. The original French title is "Moi qui n'ai pas connu les hommes," and it was published in 1995. It explores themes of identity, survival, humanity, curiosity, hope, and yearning.

This book wrecked me, but in a very good way. That said, it's not for everyone at every juncture in life.

oldlampshades said this, which sadly, I didn't include in today's episode, but better late than never:

"What I love about this book is that it’s a story of a human with so much of her humanity stolen from her, yet she still finds herself asking the most fundamentally human questions: why am I here? What does it all mean? It’s a story about how even when born into a society so different from any that exists now, humans will always find love, hope, and wonder.

I think what makes it a masterpiece is that we don’t get any of the answers. There isn’t a neatly tied up ending. It makes the book an allegory for life, because we don’t get the answers to those questions, really."

RESOURCES: https://www.overdrive.com/media/4678018/i-who-have-never-known-men

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/I_Who_Have_Never_Known_Men 

https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/11996 https://www.reddit.com/r/books/comments/10ts2rc/i_just_finished_i_who_have_never_known_men_by/ 

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you are a human being not a human doing. Contrary to the structures and powers and systems that have convinced us otherwise, you aren’t supposed to be doing and stressing all fucking day every day. In fact, you’re supposed to be prioritizing yourself before juggling all the other shit. Listen, I truly understand that this IS a privileged take that sounds like it cannot apply to everybody in this hellscape,  i get that. Some of us are truly juggling demanding jobs/kids/pets/brains/ livelihoods and I never want to underestimate that  - BUT as counter-intuitive as it sounds, the reminder still stands, YOU are allowed to just be. Even for 30 seconds at a time, shit involve those demanding customers, kids, pets, friends if you have to.  But take 10 seconds when you can to just sit in silence. And steal away every moment you can to sit. Sit and do diddly fucking shit. And don’t ever feel guilty about it. If you need to justify it - ill remind you that according to neuroscientists, boredom has gotten a bum rap, and it can actually amp up your creativity, task engagement and job productivity. 

there are thousands of definitions of boredom. it's all in how you interpret + respond.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4217586/

https://iep.utm.edu/boredom/

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1.  Stop over-intellectualizing everything to avoid the feeling part and let yourself actually feel the damn thing. And listen, I’m no therapist, but I feel like resisting that feeling portion is just prolonging its lifespan in your body. You gotta move through it, but you can’t move through it unless you let it move through you, first. I read something once (that I’ll never question because it made sense) that said the physical effects of an emotion only peak for about 90 seconds and I feel like I can write anything out for 90 seconds. 
2. So, all that cheesy meditative nonsense that you have heard about riding it out and feeling it in your body. Do that! Let yourself feel without judgement as best you can because sure, some emotions will suck, they will feel bad, you will feel bad in them. But they are there for a reason not a season, so let them in to leave their lil message and send them on their way.  Otherwise, they’ll continue to haunt you, forever.
3. Instead of letting your insecurity stifle you let it guide you it’s a lighthouse not a destination the light there is to tell you where it is so that you can either go towards it or away from it, depending on where your navigation is pointed.

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