Make Your Damn Bed

Get mindful of your values and that will make setting boundaries way easier. 

Boundaries are not walls, but behavioral guidelines that can allow us some control in responding to other people’s behaviors.

1. Maintenance is key to basic wellbeing. Oil changes, cleaning, moisturizing, rest.  People are sneaky about convincing you what ESSENTIAL maintenance is. They'll have you waxing your hairless cat and convincing you it’s necessary (weekly… until the end of time…)
2. Bring snacks + a water (and other beverages, shit) because 9/10 an apple can save me from stopping at a chili’s for margaritas and fries..
3. Skillshare. Co-ops. Errand stack. Ask before buying. 
4. Automatic savings and bill pay for essentials: rent/insurance/utilities/internet/etc.
5. Cancel unnecessary bills and pay those manually. If you subscribe - set audible alerts with reminders to cancel before the next pay period. 
6. Establish free/cost effective healthy outlets and hobbies - physical/creative/communal- ideally one that incorporates all three. 

Be realistic with yourself. Never be ashamed of where you are. You are more than your savings account or your budget. 

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1. Become a more conscious buyer. Maybe you get an accountability partner, Maybe you do the 30 day test, Maybe you quit walking into targets altogether, whatever it is - stop buying shit that you don’t NEED. If you want it, track what emotion you believe you will have from it, and try to establish a different way of experiencing that. 
2. If it’s in your current wheelhouse - become a more conscious hoarder: cultivate an “upcycling” eye + be realistic with what you choose to save. I do this by asking myself: 
3. Will I really use this? If so, when + how? Be honest + real with this. Some times in my life, this means trashing or recycling more than I would prefer. Buf if its near a holiday, I save boxes and packing paper for gifts. 
4. Set a reminder in my phone + store it in an accessible place - ideally with all the other materials ill need. 
5. Keep your old FAVORITE clothing items, even if they’re outta style or outta your standard size - unlessssss you’ve officially decided that is a style that will no longer apply to your life moving forward + that includes all future versions of you. 
6. Point is - nothing worse than getting rid of a great pair of pants you outgrew or shrunk outta and realizing you actually really dont wanna have to go through the process of finding a new version of those. 
7. LIBRARIES. Tool libraries. Real libraries. Media libraries. 
8. Yardsales. Estate sales. Garage sales. Community sales. The internet made it easier, but I tell you what - nothing beats driving around early on the weekend instead. 
9. Get to know your neighbors. Really. Get hallmark movie on their ass and send a handwritten letter or check in while passing by on the street, to see out how they’re living. Maybe they also want to practice their german. Maybe they made too much bread pudding and you happen to be a bread pudding aficionado. Maybe they have a half empty compost bucket they need your scraps to make worth the investment, or they are looking for the exact size shoe you were planning on donating or maybe they keep getting your netflix feed and aren’t mad at it or whatever. Point is - some neighbors want to get us in on multi-level marketing schemes, other just want to share lawnmowers, gardening efforts, and the occasional sense of community. Also, i make it a habit of telling anyone with a nicer home than mine that i would be happy to house/pet sit if they go out of town. 2/10 it comes through and i treat that shit like an airbnb. Respectfully but pretending it is my own bc im a millennial in a housing crisis.

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Life is hard and saving money is harder - especially if you have a lil luxury gremlin living inside you (like I do) - but here are some lil ways I try to save money.

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y'all... the way my jaw dropped when I read "Hope is not a goal to achieve or destination to arrive at."

READ more here (the resource from today): https://wokescientist.substack.com/p/how-do-we-keep-hope-alive-in-our

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work can suck less, with a lil thoughtful planning + intention. if the light at the end of the tunnel does not exist, create one!

RESOURCES: https://medium.com/@karendarrin/6-ways-to-make-your-job-suck-less-a68990a511bd

and: https://www.vice.com/en/article/4a3vv3/how-to-start-a-labour-union-vice-guide

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one day I'll stop ranting about labor unions and how incredible they are - but not today. until then...

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Polyvagal theory (PVT) isn't validated by neuroscientists but we can definitely learn from the theory itself.

According to the theory, three organizational principles can be distinguished:

Explanatory diagram:

1. Hierarchy: The autonomic nervous system reacts in three reaction patterns, which are activated in a specific order.
2. Neuroception: In contrast to perception, it is here a cognition without awareness, triggered by a stimulus such as danger.[14][19]
3. Co-regulation: The need to feel safe enough to allow oneself to be in relationships, which is difficult for traumatized people.[20

RESOURCE: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polyvagal_theory

https://www.justinlmft.com/post/dorsal-vagal-shutdown

https://ct.counseling.org/2016/06/polyvagal-theory-practice/

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I've struggled with "getting started" my whole life - but lately, even the easy stuff I have begun to dread. That said, I think it usually comes back to my tendency to over-plan. I'm on step 12 in my head before I even start step one, so it's no wonder I'm exhausted before I begin.

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language can be liberating - but it can also be confining. sometimes - when we give something a "name", we limit the way we respond. we put it in a box. recognize where "identifying" things has become more restrictive than liberating.

RESOURCES: https://www.raptitude.com/2023/12/nobody-has-seasonal-affective-disorder/

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today we revisit a few fan favorites from the past, including day 43: toxic people are addicting, day 51: learning to just exist, and day 120: projecting insecurities.

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