Nik and Eva Speakman believe it’s cruel to take hope away from people. There might not be a clear solution to your problem today, but there might be tomorrow. As they explain, hope is not only scientifically proven to boost immune function and decrease pain, but having hope that there is an answer is what will make sure you keep searching for that answer rather than giving up.

Someone who is proof you should never give up hope that you can get better is listener Betty, who had a very traumatic childhood. She joins the Speakmans to talk through how she went from consistently being told she was having break downs, to being the relaxed, happy woman she is now.

CONTENT WARNING: This episode contains frank conversation about suicide, so please take care while listening.

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Nik and Eva Speakman have a pet hate, and it’s when people are told their issues are too ‘deep rooted’ to be resolved. If you weren’t born with a phobia or anxiety, you can get over it. To prove this point, they’re joined by listener Nina who suffered with emetophobia (a fear of vomit) for 57 years, before having her perspective changed in under 10 minutes at one of The Speakmans’ workshops.

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Everyday Confidence: Boost your self-worth and build unshakeable confidence

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Making The Change is produced by Anouszka Tate for Orion Publishing Ltd

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Nik and Eva Speakman talk through why what a bully does says more about them than it does about you. They’re joined by presenter, author, and DJ Gok Wan, who recalls his experiences of being belittled and called names at school, but explains why those incidents of bullying have shaped him into the compassionate, giving person he’s known as today. Together they all share how they’ve personally been able to turn negative experiences of both physical and mental bullying into positives, ultimately coming out the other side with as more confident people.

To ask a question or share your own story use the hashtag #MakingTheChange on social media.

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Everyday Confidence: Boost your self-worth and build unshakeable confidence

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Making The Change is produced by Anouszka Tate for Orion Publishing Ltd

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Nik and Eva Speakman explain why a problem shared really is a problem halved. They believe that speaking is healing, as silence can make problems feel bigger when they only live inside your own head. Talking about trauma out loud takes power away from it. The process of speaking for the first time can be incredibly difficult, so the Speakmans talk through tips including rehearsing what you want to say, and writing your story down.

To ask a question or share your own story use the hashtag #MakingTheChange on social media.

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Nik and Eva Speakman are joined by Jeremy and Ian, famously known as All On The Board on social media. They write positive poems and messages around mental health on the London Underground whiteboards. Their work is very personal; Jeremy has social anxiety, and Ian has a phobia of swallowing. The Speakmans help both of them look at their timelines to pin point the life events that brought on their anxieties.

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Nik and Eva Speakman are joined in their therapy room by The Chase’s ‘Vixen’ Jenny Ryan. Together, they explore their own experiences of how others have sabotaged their confidence, and how they’ve learnt to re-build their self-esteem. The Speakmans' advice includes setting clear boundaries with loved ones and looking back to change your perspective of painful experiences.

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Nik and Eva Speakman explore one of their twelve core schemas – the idea that anything is possible. They explain why we often create self-limiting boundaries that stop us achieving our full potential. It’s vital to believe that anything is possible because that’s what will ensure you keep looking for a solution. To prove their point, Nik and Eva invite Zion Clark on to the podcast. Born with no legs, Zion is now a professional wrestler and track and field athlete. He shares how surrounding himself with good people has helped him succeed.

CONTENT WARNING: This episode contains frank conversation about suicide, so please take care while listening.

To ask a question or share your own story use the hashtag #MakingTheChange on social media.

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Zion Clark’s book, Zion Unmatched: https://zionclark.com/pages/about-the-book

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Nik and Eva Speakman explain why addiction is not a choice, that it’s a form of self-medication, and that the key is to understand what your brain’s positive intent in having this addiction is. A listener joins The Speakmans to talk through the technique that enabled her to stop eating the chocolate she was previously addicted to. Plus, Eva shares her own experience of how she gave up both chocolate and smoking.

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Nik and Eva Speakman talk through some of the lesser known symptoms of anxiety, including sweating, developing acne, and one that a listener writes in about – heaving. They explain why being able to recognise these things as symptoms will help you find the cause, and ultimately work towards healing the underlying trauma.

To ask a question or share your own story use the hashtag #MakingTheChange on social media.

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Everyday Confidence: Boost your self-worth and build unshakeable confidence

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Nik and Eva Speakman explain why setbacks don’t have to set you back in life, in fact, they can be a great opportunity to actively chose your next step. Daughter Liv pops in to explain how she turned her biggest setback into motivation to work even harder towards the future she wanted, and Queen of the Jungle Vicky Pattison also talks through why obstacles in her love life and career have ultimately made her the happy woman she is today.

To ask a question or share your own story use the hashtag #MakingTheChange on social media.

Some names and identifying details in this podcast have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals.

Everyday Confidence: Boost your self-worth and build unshakeable confidence

https://smarturl.it/EverydayConfidence

Making The Change is produced by Anouszka Tate for Orion Publishing Ltd

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