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By Shana JamesSociety & Culture Health & Fitness Philosophy Sexuality

Man Alive episodes

July 16, 2020 #146: This Podcast Will Make You Dangerous (In a Good Way)
Being a man who has a powerful impact on the world while also feeling alive, free and at peace is no small task. Many men give up their fulfillment as they climb the corporate ladder and become more successful. But on today's podcast Tripp Lanier, author of the book This Book Will Make You Dangerous, proves that you don't have to give up your well-being, vitality, joy or anything else for success!
34 min
June 30, 2020 #145: Why Love Can Destroy Marriage – Rabbi Manis Friendman

It would seem that love would be the foundation of a strong relationship. In this controversial podcast Rabbi Manis Friendman talks about how love can actually destroy a marriage and why people are having less sex than ever. He also talks about how a couple can create true connection and bonding.

https://traffic.libsyn.com/secure/manalive/lovedesroymarriage-rabbi_01.mp3

Show notes

Love is something most of us seek for our whole lives, with our whole beings.

Love seems like an answer, a solution, a destination.

And yet so many couples end up unhappy, frustrated and lonely, even while in a relationship!

Too often, love fades, fizzles or falls apart.

What if the way we think about love and the way we interact in relationships makes them more likely to fall apart than succeed?

What if the way we relate to love actually gets in the way of a real connection?

Today’s podcast with Rabbi Manis Friedman is fascinating. He talks about intimacy in a way I’ve rarely heard anyone talk about it.

In this conversation we discussed some controversial topics like:

* How love can actually destroy marriage!* Whether sex is a need or desire* Why people often feel alone these days, even in a relationship* What allows a couple to create a true bond and real connection* Why couples are having less and less sex and how to shift this dynamic

When you’re done with this one you can listen to How to Stop Love From Fading or Falling Apart, with author and teacher Guy Finley. In this conversation Guy blew me away with how to create a relationship with deep love, respect and growth!

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The Joy of Intimacy

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Bio:

Manis Friedman is a Chabad Lubavitch Hassid, Shliach, rabbi, author, social philosopher and public speaker. He is also the dean of the Bais Chana Institute of Jewish Studies, an Institute for Jewish Studies in Minnesota for women with little or no formal Jewish education.. Friedman authored Doesn’t Anyone Blush Anymore?, which was published in 1990 and is currently in its fourth printing. He is also the author of The Joy of Intimacy: A Soulful Guide to Love, Sexuality and Marriage.

46 min
June 30, 2020 #145: Why Love Can Destroy Marriage
It would seem that love would be the foundation of a strong relationship. In this controversial podcast Rabbi Manis Friendman talks about how love can actually destroy a marriage and why people are having less sex than ever. He also talks about a couple can create true connection and bonding.
46 min
June 25, 2020 #144: An Overlooked Aspect of Men’s Health – Shana James

Men’s Health Month is a chance for you to assess the drains on your health that could cause you to live a shorter or more painful life. In today’s episode I talk about an often overlooked aspect of men’s health – Relational Health. This isn’t about just having a social group. It’s about making sure your relationships are uplifting, safe, inspiring and connected!

https://traffic.libsyn.com/secure/manalive/menshealth-shana.mp3

Show notes

I want you to be alive and well, healthy and able to connect with your loved ones! Even in the midst of a pandemic, and maybe more importantly in the midst of a pandemic, we can focus on getting healthier.

Since it’s Men’s Health Month, it’s a great time to assess all aspects of your health.

Have you considered how you’re doing in these domains?

* Physical* Emotional * Social * Spiritual* Intellectual* Financial* Occupational * Environmental

Today’s Man Alive Podcast topic is about what I call Relational Health. It’s an often overlooked aspect of relationships that is a combination of the Social and Emotional categories. It’s not just about making sure you have others to spend time with, but making sure your relationships and interactions are high quality — supportive, honest, inspiring, connected.

In this solo episode I discussed:

* 3 important foundations of Relational Health* Why people in romantic relationships sometimes feel more alone than when single* How harshness and assumptions kill spark and connection* What has people settle for unsatisfying relationships* Conversations you can have with a partner to create a healthier dynamic

When you’re done with this one, check out another great health episode: How to Change Your Eating Habits AND Become More Productive.

May you be well and healthy, this month and always.

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For Women: Modern dating doesn’t have to be a nightmare for women

Bio:

For 15 years Shana has coached more than a thousand leaders, CEOs, authors, speakers and people with big visions who step into more powerful leadership, start and grow businesses, create more effective teams, increase their impact, get promoted, find love, rekindle spark, create a legacy, and become more personally inspired and fulfilled.

She has been known for her ability to assess, in just a few minutes, the cause of dissatisfaction and stuck points in your profession and love life. Then she creates a clear and unique path for you to have true success and incredible love.

Referred to as a secret weapon, Shana cuts through distraction and provides direct access to your confidence, power and clarity. She is also a translator between women and men, providing effective tools to transform conversations and dynamics that have gone awry into connection and collaboration.

With an M.A. in psychology,
23 min
June 25, 2020 #144: An Overlooked Aspect of Men's Health
Men's health month is a chance for you to assess the drains on your health that could cause you to live a shorter or more painful life. In today's episode I talk about an often overlooked aspect of men's health - Relational Health. This isn't about just having a social group. It's about making sure your relationships are uplifting, safe, inspiring and connected!
23 min
June 17, 2020 #143: What Makes a Woman Trust You – Ashlynn Mitchell

Relationships endure breaks in trust – big and small. What does it take for a woman to trust you in the first place, or to rebuild trust when it’s broken? Our guest, Ashlynn Mitchell shares what helped her trust again after betrayal.

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Show notes

Have you ever had the experience of a woman NOT trusting you, or losing trust in you?

It can be hard to stay open in the face of a woman’s response — anything from coldness or distance to exploding or expressing rage!

And while at times you may have been clear that your actions broke trust, at other times you may have been confused about what happened.

As dark as it may get, there are ways to rebuild trust (even if you aren’t clear what broke it in the first place).

Today’s Man Alive Podcast guest, Ashlynn Mitchell, coach and co-host of The Betrayed The Addicted and The Expert podcast, joined me to give her personal experience of what it took to rebuild trust in her relationship after a betrayal.

We discussed:

* The most powerful ways to repair a relationship when trust is broken* “Rules of Engagement” that make a relationship more intimate and inspiring* The foundation of being able to truly connect with your partner* How listening, for real, allows a woman to trust you again* Ashynn’s vulnerable truth about what it’s like to be a woman who wants to trust again but doesn’t know how

Building trust with women can be different from building trust with men. I highly recommend listening to this episode if trust is something you’ve struggled with in your relationships!

Links:

Ashlynn and Coby

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Bio:

Ashlynn Mitchell has seen the challenges marriage can bring, and the joy possible on the other side of difficulties. After healing her own relationship, she launched a growing podcast — The Betrayed The Addicted and The Expert — with her husband and a therapist. She coaches women to help them find hope that an amazing relationship is possible, even after betrayal.

38 min
June 17, 2020 #143: What Makes a Woman Trust You
Relationships endure breaks in trust - big and small. What does it take for a woman to trust you in the first place, or to rebuild trust when it's broken? Our guest, Ashlynn Mitchell shares what helped her trust again after betrayal.
38 min
June 04, 2020 #142: Why You Should Take a Break from Sex – Rob Kowalski

Have you ever thought about how sex could be skewing your ability to make a clear decision about whether someone is the right romantic partner for you? Today’s guest has many reasons why delaying sex will help you know who is a great partner AND allow you to further your purpose and accomplishments in the world!

https://traffic.libsyn.com/secure/manalive/wait-for-sex-rob.mp3

Show notes

Right now, as the world seems to be coming apart at its seems, it’s a powerful time to take stock of your choices. When you consider your actions while also taking a deeper look at what drives you and what’s most important to you, you may make some different decisions!

For example, sex is a powerful energy!

Napoleon Hill, author of Think and Grow Rich, said: “The mere possession of sex energy itself is not sufficient to produce genius. The energy must be transmuted from desire for merely physical contact, into some other form of desire and action before it will lift one to the status of a genius.”

I’m not saying we all need to be geniuses, but what if seeking to have, and having sex, has blocked your capacity to further your purpose, create a positive impact, or find a relationship that will last?My guest on today’s Man Alive podcast, Rob Kowalski is the author of Why Waiting Works: How Fast Sex Prevents Us From Finding True Love and Long-Term Happiness. He has found that sex can “muddy the mind and heart!”

I thought it would be beneficial for you to hear what Rob has to say since he has some interesting points about what could make or break you having the lasting connection and love you want.

We discussed:

* How focusing on and having sex can keep you from having impactful work and important relationship discussions* The Sex Trap — how you can get stuck in it and how to get out of it* The path to transmuting sexual energy into purposeful and creative energy* The benefits of abstinence for your life and relationships* Rob’s “complete 180” from having lots of sexual partners to seeing the trap he was caught in

If you’ve already chosen a long-term partner you can listen to this episode and consider whether taking a break from sex could allow other aspects of your connection to deepen and true up.

If you’re in a relationship and not having the sex you want, check out last week’s episode: The Unexamined Reasons Sex and Intimacy Fades.

Links:

Why Waiting Waits

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For Women: Modern dating doesn’t have to be a nightmare for women

Bio:

Rob Kowalski, author of Why Waiting Works and Founder of CityFam, a Maryland-based non-profit organization whose mission is, Changing lives through the power of community. Rob is a self-proclaimed reformed bad boy. Once the biggest stripper and nightclub promoter in his hometown of Baltimore,
33 min
June 04, 2020 #142: Why you should take a break from sex
Have you ever thought about how sex could be skewing your ability to make a clear decision about whether someone is the right romantic partner for you? Today's guest has many reasons why delaying sex will help you know who is a great partner AND allow you to further your purpose and accomplishments in the world!
33 min
May 28, 2020 The Unexamined Reasons Sex and Intimacy Fade – Shana James

It is common that sex and intimacy changes after a “honeymoon period,” often decreasing in passion or consistency. There are some unexamined relationship dynamics that can surprisingly reignite sensuality. This episode lays them out for you.

http://traffic.libsyn.com/manalive/shana-intimacy-fading.mp3

Show notes:

I am relaunching this episode because in times of stress, affection and connection are often pushed aside :(.

During this challenging time a healthy sex life would be a great relief but when survival instincts kick in, women especially turn their focus to the tasks at hand. They may lean away from emotional and sensual contact.

What I’ve seen with my clients is that a WAY more satisfying sex life is possible than they realized. And it’s not about always having to be happy or turned on!

During a pandemic, or other stressful times, your intimacy can deepen. Sex can become richer and more meaningful!

While I don’t believe passion, intimacy and sex inevitably fades over time, it’s important to remember you’ll have phases and turning points in your sexual relationship. This doesn’t mean you have to settle for less connection or intimacy than you want.

In this solo Man Alive episode I share a few unexamined relationship dynamics I’ve discovered over the past 15 years of coaching men that surprisingly reignite sensuality. You’ll learn…

* What makes sex hotter and more satisfying, as the years (or even decades) go on* How and when to have conversations about sex with a partner to increase the likelihood that they are well received* What women tell me they long for from, and with, men * Increasing pleasure for you and your partner by letting go of orgasm as the “end goal”* Practices that shake up your love life and deepen connection

Once you listen, check out next week’s Master class to support you: 3 Ways to Reignite Affection and Attraction During Stressful Times

I’ll give you the tools and understanding you need to help your partner open to affection and sensuality. Sign up this week to get the early bird discount!

Links:

Curious what you’d need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz

For Women: Modern dating doesn’t have to be a nightmare for women

Bio:

For 15 years Shana has coached more than a thousand leaders, CEOs, authors, speakers and people with big visions who step into more powerful leadership, start and grow businesses, create more effective teams, increase their impact, get promoted, find love, rekindle spark, create a legacy, and become more personally inspired and fulfilled.

She has been known for her ability to assess, in just a few minutes, the cause of dissatisfaction and stuck points in your profession and love life. Then she creates a clear and unique path for you to have true success and incredible love.

Referred to as a secret weapon, Shana cuts through distraction and provides direct access to your confidence, power and clarity.
27 min

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