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Impotence is one of men’s greatest fears. But what if it didn’t have to be? What if it was the beginning of more pleasure and intimacy than you ever knew was possible?

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It’s common for men to feel attached to their virility and masculinity. During sex this often looks like wanting to staying hard or maintain an erection.

Every man I know has at some point been afraid of letting a partner down, or feeling like less of a man, because of not having or keeping an erection. But what if I told you impotence could be the best thing that ever happened to you?

I know it seems hard to believe, even impossible, but today’s Man Alive podcast guest, Michael Russer, told me that if someone offered him a pill to fix his clinical impotence he wouldn’t take it! Michael and his partner Jacqueline Lopez are speakers and authors. They have one of the most inspiring relationships I’ve ever witnessed. 

Michael has overcome more than most men will in a lifetime and he and Jacqueline have incredible wisdom to share as a result. This is a must listen for every man who thinks sexual pleasure and intimacy depends on an erection! 

In our conversation we discussed…

* How being less phallus-centric opens up MORE pleasure and intimacy* How a seemingly awful experience could be an amazing gift for you* What’s possible in love and relationship when you become present and caring with each other* A tool for navigating conflict, hurt and upset that allows for smoother resolution* How Michael and Jacqueline create a thriving, passionate relationship

This is one of my favorite podcast conversations. I know how terrifying most men find impotence and erectile dysfunction. To see that this doesn’t have to be a death sentence, and in fact it can create more intimacy than you’ve ever had, makes me want every man to hear this and be free from dread and fear!

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Bio:

Michael Russer and Jacqueline Lopez are Life Partners who live a life filled with overflowing emotional and sexual intimacy not despite, but because of Michael’s full clinical impotence. They are professional speakers and authors who share their wisdom about the power of Presence in fostering deep intimacy and human connection in the face of any adversity. Michael’s TEDx talk on this topic is: Creating Extraordinary Intimacy in This Shut Down World.

In times of stress and uncertainty our health becomes more important than ever. 

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I hope you are staying well and healthy during these challenging times. 

I wanted to bring you someone on today’s Man Alive podcast with powerful information for your health. 

Dr. Russell Jaffe is board certified in Clinical Pathology and in Chemical Pathology. He has over 40 years experience contributing to molecular biology and clinical diagnostics. He also has studied many wisdom traditions, including acupuncture and Ayurveda and has thus cultivated a proactive, rather than reactive, relationship with health and healing. 

In today’s conversation about your health we discussed:

* The three foundations of proactive health * Four simple ways to self-assess your current health status* Why it’s important to shift from the cultural norm of reactivity and take more control of your health* What it takes to evoke your body’s natural healing response* Dr. Jaffe’s advice in the time of COVID-19

For more powerful wisdom on your health and wellness, check out this Man Alive episode with Daniel Thomas Hind: Change Your Eating Habits and Become More Productive.

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Dr. Jaffe’s Virus Protocol Recommendations (Including for COVID-19)

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Russell M. Jaffe, M.D., Ph.D., CCNFellow, Health Studies Collegium

Russ Jaffe is Founder and Chairman of PERQUE Integrative Health, LLC (PIH, www.PERQUE.com) a company that offers the world scientifically proven, integrative health solutions to speed the transition from sick care to healthful caring.

Dr. Jaffe has more than 40 years of experience contributing to molecular biology and clinical diagnostics. His focus is on functional, predictive tests and procedures designed to improve the precision of both diagnosis and of treatment outcomes and he has authored nearly 100 articles on the subject. He received his B.S., MD and Ph.D. from the Boston University School of Medicine, completed residency training in clinical chemistry at the National Institutes of Health and remained on the permanent senior staff before pursuing other interests, including starting the Health Studies Collegium think tank.

Dr. Jaffe is board certified in Clinical Pathology and in Chemical Pathology. He is the recipient of the Merck, Sharp & Dohm Excellence in Research Award, the J.D. Lane Award, and the U.S.P.H.S. Meritorious Service Award. Dr Jaffe was honored as an International Scientist of 2003 by the IBC, Oxford, England, UK for his lifetime contributions to clinical medicine, biochemistry, immunology, methodology, and integrative health policy. He is widely published and sought to explain c...

If you’ve ever had a sex life fizzle, you’ve wondered how to create connection, aliveness and greater sexual pleasure! This episode is a must-listen whether you’re in a relationship or single to get powerful tools for more intimacy and an exciting sex life.

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Today’s podcast will hopefully bring some excitement and pleasure into your Covid-19 sheltered life. I imagine you could use some of that. I know I could! 

When you think back over your relationships, have you ever had a partner you loved, but even so had different sexual styles or desires?

Or have you had a partner with whom sex was hot at first, but faded over time? 

Many people think of a fading sex life, the disappearance of the honeymoon phase, as the norm.

But it doesn’t have to be. 

When chemistry wears off, couples tend to miss a powerful opportunity to learn more about each other! 

Whether because of shame, fear or just not realizing they can, it’s rare for people to communicate about their sexual preferences. Then resentment builds and distance grows and this often goes unspoken. This does NOT create a sexually satisfying relationship.  

Today’s Man Alive Podcast brings a very important tool for understanding your sexual style, as well as your partner’s (if you have one). Ian Ferguson, along with his Partner Jaiya, teaches about erotic types. They have a typing system called the Erotic Blueprint. 

Ian believes that sexual incompatibility is actually a myth and that once you know your type, instead of helplessly watching your sex life fizzle, you can learn how to express what turns you on and off! This leads to more connection, aliveness and greater sexual pleasure! 

In our podcast conversation we discussed:

* What an Erotic Blueprint is and how to know which type you are* Why sexual incompatibility is a myth and how couples with different blueprints can be sexually satisfied* How single people can benefit from the Erotic Blueprints and why it’s better to learn this NOW, even without a partner!* The powerful and underlying stance that acts as a foundation for an exciting sex life* My Erotic Blueprint type

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\nWhether you’re alone or cooped up in a house with someone(s), you are bound to face some challenges. Challenges tend to expose our vulnerability. 
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\nOn today’s Man Alive podcast I was joined by author and psychologist Susan Campbell. She has been helping people get vulnerable for 55 years, through her books, therapy sessions and workshops! We talked about how our current crisis brings up both physical and emotional vulnerability for people. We also discussed…
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\nMany of us, including myself, have a habit of defending ourselves or pulling away when we feel vulnerable. 
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\nI recently admitted to my partner: “It now seems clear that I deal with stress by becoming more protective and rigid.”

With 47 years of research and the ability to predict with 90% accuracy whether couples will stay together or separate, Dr. John Gottman is a leader in the field of what it takes to make relationships and love last.

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These days relationships are as likely to fall apart as they are to stay together.

It’s sad and I am constantly on the look out for relationship resources to make relationships stronger.

This week I found something you can do to make a relationship last that’s actually really simple!

Sure, there are parts of relationship that are complicated and take time and attention to address, but two well-respected psychologists, Drs. John and Julie Gottman, wrote a book that shares the incredible benefits that come from having a weekly date night!

They have done 47 years of research and tracked 3,000 couples, over decades. They know what they’re talking about!

A date night in itself is good for a relationship but you get even more benefit (more intimacy, fun, passion, etc.) from a date night that’s created around one of eight topics that are essential for lasting love.

On today’s Man Alive podcast Dr. John Gottman joined me to talk about:

* The 8 most important conversations that help couples really get to know each other and navigate differences with care* The importance of letting go of defensiveness in making love last* How the simple act of having a date night each week could transform your relationship* How common it is for couples tend to spend hardly any time talking to each other these days, let alone talking about their relationship* Why it’s important to not shove your partner’s concerns under the rug — they will NOT go away! 

The Gottmans have been a resource I have trusted for many years. I highly recommend checking out their books after listening to the podcast. If you’re in a relationship, or looking foe one, check out their new book first: Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for Lasting Love.

Links:

https://www.gottman.com/ 

Order Eight Dates here.

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Bio:

Dr. John Gottman is world renowned for his work on marital stability and divorce prediction, John Gottman has conducted 40 years of breakthrough research with thousands of couples. His work on marriage and parenting has earned him numerous major awards, including:

* Four National Institute of Mental Health Research Scientist Awards* The American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy Distinguished Research Scientist Award* The American Family Therapy Academy Award for Most Distinguished Contributor to Family Systems Research* The American Psychological Association Division of Family Psychology, Presidential Citation for Outstanding Lifetime Research ...