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Man Alive episodes

March 12, 2020 #132: Conversations to Spark Connection and Chemistry – Shana James

Conversations are one of the main ways we interact. Many people grin and bear it in conversations that are dull, awkward or uninspired, afraid to offend or hurt feelings. Learn simple ways to stop suffering these conversations and instead create spark, excitement and deep connection.

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Show notes:

How many dull, awkward or uninspired conversations have you had?Likely you’ve had at least some.

Do you feel at the mercy of them or can you turn them into passionate, inspiring connections?

People often put up with less interesting conversations on dates, or with romantic partners, because they are afraid to offend or hurt feelings.

If you change the subject and a woman gets irritated that may kill your chance for affection or sex, right?

But what if keeping a conversation (and a relationship) alive and hot depends on you taking some risks, speaking up when it feels flat or boring, calling attention to the elephants in the room?

Today’s podcast is a solo episode where you’ll discover how to stop suffering disconnected conversations and instead create spark, excitement and intimacy! The tools I give you work on everything from first dates to decades into a relationship. In this episode you’ll hear about:

* The four levels of conversation that help you shift from awkward or boring to playful, hot and interesting* The foundation of creating intimacy and connection with your words* The interplay between words and the invisible ways you influence others* How to stop putting up with someone going on and on about themselves with no space for you* The secret sauce to ignite spark (It’s at the end of the episode)

Many men have had great success with these tools. Let me know how it goes when you try them.

And when you’re done listening to this one, check out an old Man Alive favorite episode where I lay out the 10 Essentials of Attraction Many Men Are Never Taught. It’s not about games or lines but about ways to spark attraction that are as good and uplifting for you as they are for a woman you’re attracted to.

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Bio:

For 15 years Shana has coached more than a thousand leaders, CEOs, authors, speakers and people with big visions who step into more powerful leadership, start and grow businesses, create more effective teams, increase their impact, get promoted, find love, rekindle spark, create a legacy, and become more personally inspired and fulfilled.

She has been known for her ability to assess, in just a few minutes, the cause of dissatisfaction and stuck points in your profession and love life. Then she creates a clear and unique path for you to have true success and incredible love.

Referred to as a secret weapon, Shana cuts through distraction and provides direct access to your confidence...
23 min
March 12, 2020 #132: Conversations to Spark Connection and Chemistry
Conversations are one of the main ways we interact. Many people grin and bear it in conversations that are dull, awkward or uninspired, afraid to offend or hurt feelings. Learn simple ways to stop suffering these conversations and instead create spark, excitement and deep connection.
23 min
March 05, 2020 #131: The Power of Purpose – Marv Fox Jr.

Sometimes the cause of suffering or dissatisfaction is rooted in how meaningfully you spend your time. Today’s guest talks about how living purposefully is possible for everyone — whether you get paid for your purpose or not — and the connection between purpose and your well-being.

http://traffic.libsyn.com/manalive/marv-purpose.mp3

Show notes:

Have you ever wondered where suffering and dissatisfaction comes from?

There are many sources of emotional and physical pain. You may have struggled with feeling distant in relationships, being unseen or devalued at work, having hormone levels out of balance, being physically or mentally ill, not having a satisfying sex life…All of these are possible contributors.

And there’s another cause that’s often overlooked — Purpose!

Victor Frankl, a concentration camp survivor, wrote an incredibly powerful book, Man’s Search for Meaning. He says therapy can miss the boat if you’re working with a person’s emotions but every day that person’s life lacks meaning, or purpose.

While some people think of life purpose as a luxury for those who can afford it, others are starting to realize that purpose is a foundation for our success and well-being. Purpose creates motivation. Purpose inspires action. Purpose can even cure health issues!

Today’s Man Alive podcast guest, Marv Fox Jr. is a speaker and a Purpose Recognition coach. He shares, with amazing clarity and wisdom, about the impact of purpose and purposelessness on your life. In our conversation we discussed…

* The negative effects of being disconnected from purpose* How purpose can be the missing link to your well-being* The five realms of purpose you can tap into* How to integrate purpose into your life, even when you are buried in survival needs* How to leave a legacy, not just at the end of life, but in each interaction

Marv is a delightful and wise speaker on the topic of purpose. Whether you want to live more purposefully or find more ways to implement your purpose, this is a conversation to listen to!

When you’re done listening to this episode, check out another episode on purpose here: How to be a Man on Purpose.

Links:

Marv Fox Jr.
@Marvfoxjr_Purpose_Recognition on Instagram

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Bio:

Marv’s purpose is to help you discover your purpose. Marv runs his own business, “Speak on Purpose” which offers purpose-recognition coaching, speaking services and programmatic experiences in Leadership – Performance – D.E.
42 min
March 05, 2020 #131: The Power of Purpose
Sometimes the cause of suffering or dissatisfaction is rooted in how meaningfully you spend your time. Today's guest talks about how living purposefully is possible for everyone -- whether you get paid for your purpose or not -- and the connection between purpose and your well-being.
42 min
February 26, 2020 #130: Sensual Restraint as a Path to Connection and Confidence – Mia Cara

Today’s guest created a way for couples to reignite their intimacy, in a way that also gives men a way to step into their strength, solidity and confidence. This has an impact far beyond the bedroom!

http://traffic.libsyn.com/manalive/mia-restraint.mp3

Show notes:

Today’s Man Alive podcast is one you don’t want to miss if you are a man who has wanted to feel more confident and grounded, in everything from love to sales to parenting.

It’s also one to listen to if you’re looking to reignite the spark in your relationship.

Or if you like to play on the edge with sensations, emotions and deep intimacy!

Mia Cara and I had a Man Alive conversation about the power of rope bondage and sensual restraint. She teaches classes for people to have this exciting, connected experience.

Beyond sexy play it is an experience two people can have where bodies connect and primal energies emerge without much trying or strategizing.

The rope is secondary to the energy and intimacy that’s called forth.

In this place trust can be discovered, built or even repaired.

Also discovered is often a man’s solid sense of self, a knowing that he can handle whatever comes his way. Along with a woman’s relaxation and opening!

In our conversation we discussed:

* The impact of stepping into a grounded, “I’ve got this” energy – in sex, parenting and business* What naturally creates relaxation in the body, rather than trying to use the mind to do it* The intimacy that can be created through exploring the embodied masculine/feminine polarities* The importance of experiencing surrender yourself if you want to guide a woman there * A way for couples to reconnect even if years have passed without sensuality

Links:

The Art of the Sensual

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Bio:

Mia Cara is an intimacy expert in the SF Bay Area who supports men and couples finding heart-centered energetic and sensual connection. She teaches experiential workshops around the country and offers game-changing private sessions for couples in their homes.

She has worked with over a thousand people over the past ten years, teaching couples how to create deep intimate experiences for themselves, leaving them blown away at the depth they are able to access, even if they have been married for many years.

She also works with men teaching them how to hold a grounded masculine energy that completely transforms how the world orients towards them.

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February 26, 2020 #130: Sensual Restraint as a Path to Connection and Confidence
Today's guest created a way for couples to reignite their intimacy, in a way that also gives men a way to step into their strength, solidity and confidence. This has an impact far beyond the bedroom!
35 min
February 19, 2020 Beyond the Stereotypical Masculine – How to Grow as a Unique Man – Neil Sattin

Frameworks for growth based in stereotypically masculine norms can be confining and even devastating for men. In this special, jointly hosted episode we explore ways for men to grow that are rooted in authenticity and uniqueness, rather than stuck inside a box.

http://traffic.libsyn.com/manalive/neil-masculinity.mp3

Show notes:

Have you felt stuck in models of masculinity that don’t feel like you?

The stereotypically masculine roles may not reflect who you are. And it can be challenging when people and careers reward for these stereotypical behaviors.

So, what then?

How can you grow and develop as a human being without having to fit into these stereotypes?

Can you become a more confident and powerful leader and lover without leaning on our cultural norms of masculinity?

Today’s guest and host of the podcast Relationship Alive, Neil Sattin, and I, believe you can.

We recorded a special jointly hosted Man Alive episode where we discuss how men can grow without a being stuck in the stereotypes or expectations of what is “manly.”

In this conversation we cover:

* Whether masculine/feminine distinctions are helpful or harmful* How to move beyond stereotypical masculine norms and find your unique power* The foundations of creating real intimacy and connection with your partner* Neil and Shana’s experience supporting men with their truth and desires* Experiments to create more spark and connection in your romantic relationship

I hope you feel supported to grow in ways that are unique to you, rather than a worn out, empty mold of what a man is “supposed to be.”

Links:

Neil Sattin

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Bio:

Neil Sattin is a healer, writer, and couples coach, and is also the host of the popular podcast Relationship Alive where he talks to the world’s experts on the topic of how to thrive in long-term relationships. His podcast is a source of inspiration and growth for people in relationship, as well as for therapists learning how to deepen their work with couples. Neil and his partner Chloe also created the New Love Paradigm.com, where they have created “Thriving Intimacy” – a 7-week online course that synthesizes the best current wisdom on deepening intimacy in relationship. Together they also produced a course called “21 Days to Deeper Intimacy” for the website DailyOM.com. Neil also writes and plays music, trains dogs, and is a father to two lovely young children.

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February 12, 2020 #129: Conscious Cock — Empowered Sexuality for Men – Kristopher Lovestone

Most men (and people) don’t get the sex education needed to create a healthy and enjoyable sex life! This new empowered sexuality manual for heterosexual men is an amazing resource for understanding both men and women’s physical, emotional and hormonal journeys so you can deepen connection and passion for as long as you live!

http://traffic.libsyn.com/manalive/Kristopher-Lovestone.mp3

Show notes:

Few of us get the sex education we need to have a connected and hot romantic life, that gets more passionate and intimate over time.

But the more I listen to psychologists, philosophers, coaches and sex educators, the more reasons I see for not giving up on love or passion.

Relationships will of course go through phases and challenges but the story of your sex life fading or dulling over time doesn’t have to be true!

In fact, Kristopher Lovestone, sex educator and author of the book: Conscious Cock: The Empowered Sexuality Manual For Men has proof. He has been married for 15 years and their relationship is stronger and more passionate than ever.

You may be surprised at what keeps a relationship exciting! In our Man Alive podcast conversation we discussed:

* How to stoke the fire of connection so your partnership gets hotter, rather than fading over time* The roadmap to feminine arousal* A four step process for asking for what you want (so it doesn’t feel so scary)* A way to explore fantasies with your partner and create a foundation for playful experimentation* How to create more intimacy and better sex by supporting a woman as she goes through her monthly cycle

Women everywhere are thanking Kristopher for that last one!

Links:

Kristopher’s Website

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Bio:

Kristopher Lovestone is a sex educator and relationship consultant who survived six divorces in his childhood and went on to rewrite the rules of the relationship game so people can win. He now teaches men how to succeed in their relationship through communication and integrity.

His techniques have yielded him a wildly successful 15 year marriage that gets hotter every day, and he published his teachings in his new book Conscious Cock: The Empowered Sexuality Manual For Men. He has been called the “Einstein of relationships” and has been endorsed by many of the top sex educators in the world.

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February 12, 2020 #129: Conscious Cock -- Empowered Sexuality for Men
Most men (and people) don't get the sex education needed to create a healthy and enjoyable sex life! This new empowered sexuality manual for heterosexual men is an amazing resource for understanding both men and women's physical, emotional and hormonal journeys so you can deepen connection and passion for as long as you live!
38 min
February 05, 2020 #128: How to Be Generous Without Losing Yourself – Matt Hunter

Many men struggle with the balance between caring for others without losing themselves – giving up their own needs and desires. Today’s guest talks about creating a life of generosity and creating value for others!

http://traffic.libsyn.com/manalive/matt-generous2.mp3

Show notes:

Some people experience a wake up call in life that rearranges everything.

Perspectives suddenly shift, followed by a rearrangement of values and a cascade of different choices that radically change one’s life.

This can be horribly painful, no doubt, but also speeds up growth and deepening of one’s humanity.

For those who have not experienced this, we can gain wisdom from listening to the stories of those who have.

Today’s Man Alive guest, Matt Hunter, is an entrepreneur, social activist, artist and currently President of Founders Pledge, Inc.

His orientation in life shifted drastically after a terrifying health diagnosis.

While he is now healthy, his life changed forever.

As I listened to Matt, I felt grateful for his humility and perspectives on being generous with others while taking care of himself.

In this podcast conversation we discussed:

* The freedom that comes with accepting that problems never end* What it’s like to orient toward being of service* Learning to love more fully and freely * The need to have people in your life you can trust with your vulnerability* Matt’s wake up call and shift from self-focus to creating value for others

This year I am going to bring more honest and vulnerable stories to you, in addition to expertise. My vision is for you to see that you are never alone, even in the places you think you are worse off or less worthy than others!

Links:

Founders Pledge

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Bio:

Matt Hunter is an entrepreneur, social activist and artist, and is currently President of Founders Pledge, Inc. Previously, Matt co-founded the WiFi marketing business Turnstyle, which was acquired by Yelp in April 2017. Somewhere along the way Matt co-founded the intimacy development publication, Cambyo. He has helped bring the morning dance party movement Daybreaker to Toronto. And before all this, Matt was an artist, making electronic pop music under the moniker Natural Animal.

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