




In this episode we speak with Jamila Dawson, LMFT and August McLaughlin, authors of the new book With Pleasure: Managing Trauma Triggers for More Vibrant Sex and Relationships.



We cover the basics of what trauma is, the lifelong impact of trauma, how trauma disrupts our safety and social belonging, what triggers are (and are not!) and how we can all develop strategies to manage our triggers and trauma so we can live well, enjoy a vibrant sex life and deepen in all of our relationships. 



For more resources enroll in the free Survivors Toolkit from PleasureMechanics.com



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Resources Mentioned On This Episode:



* Free Survivors Toolkit from PleasureMechanics.com* Get the book: With Pleasure: Managing Trauma Triggers for More Vibrant Sex and Relationships* Jamila Dawson LMFT* August McLaughlin



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* Before Pleasure Comes Safety* Slay Sexual Shame* The Key To Pleasure & Connection* Turning Towards Pleasure While Living With Pain & Illness* Savoring: A Foundational Pleasure Practice





















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Here’s how to wake up your mouth as a site of erotic pleasure, power and expression. In this episode we share the first step of oral eroticization – becoming aware of your mouth as a place of enjoyment, on your own terms, and doubling down on the pleasure you experience from your own mouth. 



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In this podcast episode, Chris and Charlotte, the Pleasure Mechanics, invite us to embrace the concept of oral eroticization as a key ingredient in enhancing our sexual experiences. This episode tackles a crucial element missing from the conversation around oral sex – the eroticization of our mouths. By bringing awareness to our own mouths as potent zones of sensation and pleasure, we open the door to a world of new discoveries about ourselves and our desires.



The process of oral eroticization is a deeply personal and incremental one. It requires us to be present and attentive to our own pleasures and preferences, allowing ourselves the space to explore what brings us joy and what resonates with our sensual selves. By engaging in self-oral eroticization practices, we can gradually awaken our mouths to a heightened state of sensitivity and pleasure.



If you’re intrigued by the idea of delving deeper into the world of oral eroticization, the Pleasure Mechanics offer a brand new course designed to guide you on this transformative journey. Explore at your own pace in the Oral Mastery course or join the group coaching cohort for personalized support and community connection as you master the art of oral eroticism.

Eroticize Your Mouth


Our brand new course is ready for you to devour! Join us for guided immersive exploration of oral pleasure for ALL bodies! 



You can explore the self-paced online course or join us for the group coaching cohort – be one of the Lucky 69 participants to join us as we come together to dive deep into this course, offering you our personalized support every step of the way. 







Oral is one of the most beloved erotic experiences for so many, and yet it is something that many people struggle to enjoy.



Many find it to be the MOST intimate of expressions, and end up shutting it down out of vulnerability, shyness or shame. 



If you are someone who struggles with giving or receiving oral sex you are not alone, and this course is for you. It is designed to invite you into a more authentic erotic relationship with your own mouth, and from there discover what exquisite oral pleasures look like, specifically for you and your lover right now. 



You’ll gain skills in both giving and receiving oral, strategies to overcome common roadblocks and communication techniques to get to your Best. Oral. Ever. 



Ready for mind blowing oral pleasures and life changing erotic confidence? 



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It’s time to stop dick shaming in all of its forms – from small dick jokes to cruel comments to the hypersexualization of some men and emasculation of others, it is time to call an end to a culture that normalizes dick shaming. 



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This episode was a response to the incredible, vulnerable, honest responses to our Shame Slayers presentation – thank you. For this 25 minute video presentation on Erotic Shame, join the Pleasure Pod for free (and stick around as a sustaining member if you love what we do and want to support our work!)



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After peak life experiences, there is often Drop: a physical and emotional experience of let-down, depletion and weariness. Knowing about Drop we can better plan for it and tend to it – so we can get ready for our next peak experience! Tune into this episode to learn about Drop, how we can prepare for it and start developing your own personalized Drop Care plan. 



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Dealing with Drop





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Shame is one of the most common sexual struggles. Shame is a social experience of feeling unworthy, unlovable, not belonging or lesser than. Shame tells us we have to hide parts of ourselves to fit in, get along or avoid rejection. Shame tells us we are broken, sinful, gross or otherwise unworthy of belonging.



Shame tells us if we were to be truly ourselves, we wouldn’t belong. Shame lies to us, and holds us all hostage in an invisible web-like grip of cultural myth and misinformation.



While not all shame is sexual shame, almost all of us struggle with some form of sexual shame – from body shame to faith-based shame, from kink shame to genital shame, almost everyone holds some form of shame around their sexuality.



A goal of shame resilience is to help those who feel shame feel empathy, connection, power, and freedom instead, emotions that can be considered the opposite of shame.

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