Why does your partner shut down, become defensive, or seem unable to engage emotionally when conflict arises?

In this episode of Marriage Rehab, Dr. David Hawkins sits down with Dr. Lindsay C. Gibson, clinical psychologist and bestselling author of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents. Together, they explore how emotionally immature parenting can shape a person’s ability to manage emotions, tolerate distress, practice empathy, and build emotional intimacy later in life.

Dr. Gibson explains why an accomplished adult may still respond like an overwhelmed child during relationship conflict. She and Dr. Hawkins discuss the childhood wounds behind emotional shutdown, defensiveness, blame, avoidance, and emotional reactivity, as well as why repeatedly explaining the problem often fails to create meaningful change.

Most importantly, this conversation offers hope. Emotional maturity is not something a person either has or does not have. With willingness, self-reflection, psychoeducation, accountability, and practice, healthier ways of responding can be learned.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• What emotional maturity looks like in an adult relationship
• Why emotionally immature partners shut down, blow up, deflect, or withdraw
• How childhood experiences affect emotional intimacy in marriage
• Why professional or personal success does not always translate into relational maturity
• What Dr. Gibson means by “projecting health” onto a partner
• Why people struggle to self-reflect when they feel threatened or under fire
• How distress tolerance, empathy, and emotional regulation can be developed
• Why understanding the roots of a behavior does not remove the need for accountability
• What creates the possibility for genuine, lasting change

Dr. Lindsay C. Gibson is the author of the New York Times bestseller Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents and the new book How to Raise an Emotionally Mature Child: Your Blueprint to a Lifetime of Happiness and Success for Your Child.

Learn more about Dr. Gibson and her work at LindsayCGibson.com.

Founded by Dr. David Hawkins, the Marriage Recovery Center specializes in helping individuals and couples address narcissistic and emotional abuse, destructive relationship patterns, and relationships in crisis. To speak with our Client Care Team, call 206-219-0145 or visit MarriageRecoveryCenter.com.

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If you've cycled through communication techniques and still land in the same fight, this episode explains why. Dr. David Hawkins and Dr. John Hudson return for Part 2 of their series on why communication is rarely the actual problem in a struggling marriage — it's usually the visible symptom of something deeper: emotional immaturity, power and control, manipulation, chronic invalidation, or emotional abuse.

They challenge the assumption that ‘it takes two to tango’ equally in every troubled relationship, and make the case that real change starts with assessment, not another round of communication tools. You'll get a first look at the Marriage Recovery Center's new Relationship Dynamics Assessment (RDA) — a free, 7-minute tool covering seven relationship domains — and hear why MRC spends four full sessions on assessment alone before any treatment begins. Take the test here: https://marriagerecoverycenter.com/relationship-assessment/

If counseling has felt like it goes in circles, this episode explains why, and what a genuine next step looks like.

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What if the problem in your marriage isn't communication?

In this episode of Marriage Rehab, Dr. David Hawkins and Dr. John Hudson challenge one of the most common assumptions in couples counseling: that better communication skills will fix your relationship. They unpack why communication is often merely a symptom of something deeper — emotional immaturity, power and control dynamics, and a lack of accountability — and why teaching listening and validation skills can actually cause more harm when emotional safety is lacking in the relationship.

You'll learn how to tell the difference between a communication skills gap and a deeper pattern of emotional unsafety, why 'it takes two to tango' isn't always true, and what it means when a partner has stopped trying to be heard.

This episode is for anyone who has tried every communication technique in the book and still feels unheard, unsafe, or stuck.

Dr. Hawkins and his team of experts offer help for couples who have tried everything else and are still stuck.

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Take the free Relationship Assessment:

https://marriagerecoverycenter.com/relationship-assessment/

Call to book an appointment : (206)219-0145

What if the problem in your marriage was never really communication?

In this episode of Marriage Rehab, Dr. David Hawkins and Dr. John Hudson challenge one of the most common assumptions in couples counseling: that better communication skills can fix any relationship. They unpack why communication often breaks down as a symptom of something deeper — emotional immaturity, power and control dynamics, and a lack of accountability — and why teaching listening and validation skills can actually cause more harm when one partner isn't safe to be honest with.

You'll learn how to tell the difference between a genuine communication skills gap and a deeper pattern of emotional unsafety, why 'it takes two to tango' isn't always true, and what detachment really means when a partner has stopped trying to be heard.

What if the reason you cannot heal from your partner's affair is not you — but the ongoing drip of partial truths keeping you at ground zero?

In this powerful episode of Marriage Rehab, Dr. David Hawkins welcomes Rick Reynolds, founder of Affair Recovery, to unpack one of the most damaging patterns in betrayal recovery: trickle truth. Together they explore why slowly releasing information after an affair or betrayal creates complex PTSD, destroys a person's sense of reality, and makes healing nearly impossible.

You'll learn what trickle truth actually is and how it compounds trauma, the neuroscience behind why betrayal memories feel like they are happening right now, why attachment ruptures create shame not just fear, the dangers of marathoning conversations, how to use radical honesty to rebuild trust, and why this experience does not have to define you — it can refine you.

This episode is for anyone who feels stuck, shattered, or unable to move forward after betrayal and wants to understand why — and what healing actually requires.

Rick Reynolds: Founder and President of Affair Recovery. Betrayal trauma and infidelity recovery specialist.

Guest website: affairrecovery.com

Dr. David Hawkins is joined by Chuck and Ashley Elliott for a practical, hope-filled conversation about emotional immaturity, emotional shutdown, and the skills couples need to rebuild connection.

Many struggling marriages are not stuck because one partner lacks feelings. They are stuck because one or both partners do not know how to name, process, and communicate what they are feeling. In this episode, Dr. Hawkins, Chuck, and Ashley explore why many men have a limited emotional vocabulary, why unprocessed emotions often get acted out through anger, withdrawal, irritability, pornography, alcohol, or passive-aggressive behavior, and why vulnerability is essential for real connection.

You’ll learn why shutdown is often a coping mechanism for overwhelm, how couples can slow down emotional conversations, why “complaining” is not the same as asking for what you need, and how protecting your emotional gas tank can change the energy you bring home. This episode offers concrete, trauma-informed tools for couples who feel alone, disconnected, or stuck in repeated patterns—and points toward a clearer pathway for healing.

Chuck & Ashley Elliott: chuckandashley.com

Book mentioned: I Used to Be — identity changes after loss, grief, position, or life transition

Free resources: Chuck & Ashley relationship tools and YouVersion reading plans

YouVersion plan mentioned: How to Pray as a Couple

Worksheet/tool mentioned: Communicating My Emotions worksheet / emotional vocabulary exercise

Key resource theme: emotional vocabulary, vulnerability, shutdown recovery, relationship skill-building

In this episode of Marriage Rehab, Dr. David Hawkins interviews Dr. Stephanie Holmes about neurodiversity, autism spectrum disorder, rejection sensitivity, emotional immaturity, and relationship challenges. Learn how autism differs from narcissism, why feedback becomes conflict in neurodiverse marriages, and how couples can build emotional awareness, resilience, and a healthier connection.

What if your anxiety, confusion, hypervigilance, exhaustion, or emotional shutdown after betrayal is not weakness—but trauma?

In this powerful episode of Marriage Rehab, Dr. David Hawkins and betrayal trauma specialist Katie Wenger unpack the devastating effects of betrayal trauma—including emotional abuse, infidelity, dishonesty, emotional invalidation, financial secrecy, broken trust, and repeated emotional harm in marriage.

You’ll learn why your body reacts the way it does after betrayal, how emotional abuse can create trauma even without an affair, why traditional couples counseling can sometimes worsen betrayal trauma, and what emotional safety and true trust repair actually require.

This episode is for anyone who feels emotionally exhausted, confused, or stuck in a marriage where trust has been repeatedly broken and wants a clearer path toward healing.

What happens when faith is used to control instead of heal?

In this Marriage Rehab episode, Dr. David Hawkins and Dr. John Hudson unpack spiritual abuse in marriage—how scripture can be twisted into power, how gaslighting becomes “biblical,” and why many victims are dismissed by well-meaning church leaders.

You’ll learn how partial-scripture manipulation works, why spiritual maturity and emotional maturity are not the same, what servant leadership actually looks like, and how to pursue safety, advocacy, and support without abandoning your faith.

If you have felt silenced, confused, or blamed in the name of faith, this conversation offers language, clarity, and a next step.

Is your partner truly narcissistic—or could it be emotional immaturity?

In this powerful episode of Marriage Rehab, Dr. David Hawkins sits down with Dr. Eddie Capparucci to challenge one of the most common—and potentially harmful—labels in relationships today.

Drawing from years of clinical experience and assessment data, Dr. Capparucci reveals a surprising truth: only a small percentage of men meet the criteria for narcissistic personality disorder. Instead, many struggle with emotional immaturity, poor regulation, and deeply ingrained self-protection patterns.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

• Why “narcissism” may be overused—and what’s actually happening beneath the surface
• The critical difference between narcissistic disorder vs. emotional underdevelopment
• How emotional immaturity shows up as defensiveness, withdrawal, and control
• Why many men cannot tolerate emotional discomfort—and how that drives harmful behavior
• The role of self-protection, fear, and shame in relationship breakdown
• Practical, real-time tools for emotional regulation and nervous system reset
• How true change begins—not with insight—but with regulation and consistency

This conversation offers both clarity and hope: when the problem is emotional immaturity—not fixed personality disorder—real growth is possible.

If you’re stuck asking, “Is this narcissism… or something else?”—this episode will help you see your relationship with new understanding. If you want clarity on your relationship dynamic and a path forward, we’re here to help.

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You are not alone—and change is possible.