During this episode with Mike and Amy Matthews you will learn about the challenges this neurodiverse couple experienced trying to find the root cause of Mike's depression and the difficult journey they went on to discover he had been in Autistic burnout for years and didn't know it. (I apologize for the tech glitches we had for about 5 minutes from about 20-25 minutes in.)Some of the topics we discussed are:

• How things changed after they had their first child.
• How before becoming a parent Mike had created a life that fit his brain.
• Little time for special interests after kids were born.

• Saw a psychiatrist and went on 5 different antidepressants and none worked.

• Loneliness of watching your partner go through this process.

• Psychiatrists and therapists said Mike couldn’t be Autistic because he showed “empathy” and could maintain "eye contact".
• Relationship challenges after trying to figure out what was happening for about 5 years.
• Mike did research on Autism and everything fit. 

• Went for Autism assessment and the results were that Mike had schizoid personality disorder, but Mike now self identifies as Autistic.
• Probably wasn’t depression it was Autistic burnout.
• The importance of understanding sensory needs.
• Amy tried to enjoy the good days during the process. 
• The importance of having a partner who wants to do the work. 
• Creating a neuro-affirming household and family.
• Celebrating everyone’s differently wired brains.

• Understanding the ways you are different and sharing your needs without guilt.
• The importance of having positive role models.
• Many in the medical/mental health community do not have the education and knowledge that they need to understand and work with neurodivergent adults.
• Contact Amy at [email protected]  or click here

If you would like to learn more about the resources Mona offers including the Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards & Workbook, the 2023 and 2025 Neurodiverse Love Conference Sessions, support groups for Neurodiverse Couples and for the non-autistic partners, please check out her website.

If you did not have a chance to join us live for the 2025 Neurodiverse Love Conference you can still get "lifetime access" to the video recordings of the 31 amazing sessions and the 4 Q&A panels.

In addition, you will also get the FREE BONUSES (Neurodiverse Love Conversaton Cards & Workbook and lifetime access to the 27 sessions from the 2023 Neurodiverse Love Conference). Click here to learn more about the conference sessions and to buy access to the conference videos today.

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During this episode with returning guest and relationship and life coach, Robin Tate we talk about many important topics that may be impacting your neurodiver relationship including:

• How AuDHD presents for women and the self discovery process.

• Differentiation and overlap between Autism and ADHD.
• Seeing patterns in people.
• Executive functioning challenges in ND relationships.
• The importance of knowing that you can have a dual diagnosis of AuDHD.
• Executive functioning is every step you need to take to accomplish every task you do every day.
• Executive dysfunctioning challenges in communication. 
• Object permanence.
• Time blindness, future planning and staying regulated.
• Creating interdependency around executive functioning. 
• Grieving the relationship you thought you were going to have.
• You may not be compatible anymore if one of you has been masking.
• The struggle between ADHD and Autism when you are AuDHD and how that looks in a relationship.
• Behavioral differences and internal state of each partner.
• Understanding how your family of origin has impacted your life and your relationship.
• The positive impact of somatic therapy.
• Thinking about the potential stigma you may have to deal with when disclosing your neurodivergence to your family.

Stephanie and Dan Holmes new book is -"Uniquely Us -Gracefully Navigating the Maze of Neurodiverse Marriage" (Robin wrote chapter 8 which is on Executive Function)

You can reach out to Robin through her website at: www.robintatellc.com

During this episode Mona Kay and her sister Ilysa talk about how so many things they experienced in their childhood began to make sense once they realized their father was Autistic (possibly AuDHD). Although their father passed away 20 years ago, the insights this understanding has brought have helped heal childhood wounds and bring understanding to dynamics in their family of origin and they have both learned more about how unidentified neurodivergence impacted the men they chose to love.

Mona and Ilysa also talk about how their father made friends around special interests; not following through on his promises because of overwhelm; deep dives into lots of special interests; the importance of routines; sensory challenges that led to meltdowns; food preferences; smoking 3 pack of cigarettes a day and taking Valium; masking; dealing with the emotions of all his female family members; being financially secure and a good provider; choosing comfortable clothes to wear to work; black and white thinking; cutting family members off rather then dealing with emotions or conflict; being very blunt and the "unintentional" hurt; challenges with implementing boundaries; and mindblindness.

If you are interested in learning more about the resources Mona offers you can check out her website at: www.neurodiverselove.com

If you didn't have a chance to join us at the phenomenal 2025 Neurodiverse Love Conference you can still learn from the more than 30 presenters who shared their lessons learned, lived experiences and expertise.

For ONLY $97 you can get "lifetime access" to all 31 conference sessions and the 4 recorded Q&A panels.

To begin watching the conference sessions today, or to get more information about the conference presentations and presenters click here.

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During this episode with coach Magi Nock we talk about ways to create more joy, safety and connection in your neurodiverse relationship. We also address the following:

•  Accepting and acknowledging that the differences exist;

• Addressing grief that is unique to each partner;

• Compassion towards what is happening in your relationship;

• Cultivating curiosity about each others perspective;

• The bigger the trauma the more expanded your support system may need to be;

• Having tools and people to turn to when your dysregulated;

• Co-creating connection in unique ways;

• Finding unique ways to communicate;

• Understanding that you each  can “choose” to stay in the relationship;

• There is hope and possibility for change.

You can contact Magi and learn more about her coaching services here Neurodiverse Coaching

The 2nd Virtual Neurodiverse Love Conference will be held on March 6th-8th, 2025. All the sessions are recorded, so even if you are not able to join us live you will get "lifetime access" to ALL 31 phenomental sessions!

If you use the discount code Mona50 you will also receive $50 off the ticket price and the investment is ONLY $47!

In addition, you will get some amazing FREE BONUSES WORTH OVER $120. To learn more about the sessions and to register click here

If you have any questions about the conference please send an email to: [email protected]

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During this podcast episode you will learn more about the "predictive processing framework" (PPF) from Autistic therapist, Sarah Bergenfield. Sarah shares why understanding this framework is so important and how learning more about it can positively impact any neurodiverse relationship.

Sarah talks about the ways in which the PPF impacts social interactions, sensory processing, physical intimacy, routines, socializing, and change. This discussion will help increase your understanding of some the challenges you may be experiencing in your neurodiverse relationship and can help both partners create more connection, have more more grace, and possibly heal some emotional wounds and "unintentional' hurt.

If you would like to contact Sarah please check out her website here.

If you would like to learn more about the Neurodiverse Love Documentary click here.

If you are looking for tools and strategies to learn how to manage the ups and downs of your neurodiverse relationship then you don't want to miss the 2nd Virtual Neurodiverse Love Conference. All the sessions are recorded and everyone who registers will receive lifetime access to all 31 sessions.

Whether you are looking for ways to better manage change, improve emotional reciprocity or understand the sensory issues that may be impacting your relationship this conference is for you!!! Use the discount code Mona50 to get $50 off the registration price and your investment in yourself and your neurodiverse relationship is ONLY $47

You can see the list of presenters, their session topics and register here.

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During this episode with Jana M. Smith, you will learn more about the importance of nervous system regulation and how to expand your window of tolerance. In addition, we also discuss the following:

◦ Tools to manage undiagnosed ADHD;

◦ Addressing dysregulation in your marriage and family;

◦ Chronic pain and health issues and attempting to manage symptoms;

◦ Fight or flight hyper-vigilance;

◦ Sensory sensitivities;

◦ Rewiring your brain to begin healing;

◦ Getting out of survival mode;

◦ How your brain is responding to stress and how it’s maladaptive;

◦ Negativity bias keeps us in a dysregulated state;

◦ How to function more effectively in a neurodiverse relationship when both partners are dysregulated;

◦ Impact of challenges with interoception;

◦ Moving quickly from being fine to dysregulated;

◦ The importance of implementing somatic exercises;

◦ You can build new communication highways in the brain;

◦ Do your own work and then work together to understand what accommodations are needed;

◦ Expanding the window of tolerance and creating safety for the nervous system;

◦ The brain does not rewire from avoidance and the more we avoid the more sensitive we get;

◦ Learning how to expand your window of tolerance and what you can do to regulate your nervous system;

◦ How you support yourself when multiple family members are repeatedly dysregulated;

◦ Understanding your sensory profile;

◦ Challenges with physical intimacy when your nervous system is dysregulated;

◦ Have compassion for yourself and others in your life because there is hope for change.

You can learn more about Jana and the resources and services she offers here

I am SO excited to be hosting the 2nd Virtual Neurodiverse Love Conference from March 6-8th, 2025. Check out the list of presenters and sessions topics at: www.neurodiverselove.com You can register here using the discount code Mona50 to get $50 off the ticket price. In addition, you’ll get 3 FREE BONUSES worth more than $120.! All the sessions are recorded and everyone who registers will have lifetime access to all 31 sessions!!!

During this episode, I have an opportunity to talk with Greg and Michelle Fuqua about their mixed neurotype marriage (Autistic/ADHD) and their journey together. More specifically we discuss:

- How they met and what attracted them to each other.

- Miscommunication and early triggers.

- Challenges before knowing they were a neurodiverse couple.

- Limited capacity to work a full-time job.

- Addressing the need for autonomy.

- Challenges after having kids.

- Emotional barriers to protect oneself.

- Cognitive dissonance.

- Reframing experiences with a neurodivergent partner and child.

- Not taking things so personally.

- The benefit of individual therapy.

- Improvements in communication.

- Neglect and abandonment triggers.

- Being able to communicate challenges clearly.

- The importance of doing the work individually and as a couple.

- Creating emotional safety for each other.

- Loving each other for their differences.

- Shame triggers.

- What they would have changed that they now know caused the other unintentional hurt.

- The importance of taking care of yourself.

I am so excited to invite all of you to join me and more than 30 amazing presenters, of many different neurotypes, to the

2nd Virtual Neurodiverse Love Conference on March 6-8, 2025. All the presentations are recorded,so everyone who registers will get lifetime accessto all the sessions.

If you use the the discount code Mona50 you will get $50 off the registration and your cost is ONLY $47.

Click here to register today!

In addition, you will get 3 awesome BONUSES FOR FREE:

• Digital version of the Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards and the digital workbook ($23.97 value)
• 27 video sessions from the 1st Virtual Neurodiverse Love Conference ($97 value)

To see the list of presenters click here.

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During this episode, you will hear from AuDHD Therapist, Lindsay Averbook. Lindsay shares about her journey to get herAutism diagnosis and describes the challenges she had with medical providers who weren’t listening to her.

She chose to get a neuropsychological evaluation and was diagnosed as Autistic. She also had received an ADHD diagnsosis while in college.

Lindsay also shares how she went through an identity crisis after the Autism diagnosis and how she didn’t know what to do after the diagnosis.  She also began questioning whether she could still be a therapist. 

We also talk about the need for more education about adult neurodivergence for mental health and medical providers and the stigma associated with diagnosis.

We discuss the fear of disclosure with friends, family, your romantic partner or colleagues and how everything  in life can make more sense after a diagnosis and how validating it can be as you begin to understand so many things from your past.

Lastly, we talk about how media is portraying adult neurodivergence differently and how many newly diagnosed individuals may go through a grieving process as they begin to unmask and discover their most authentic self.

You can contact Lindsay at:[email protected]

During this episode with Benjamin Meyer, LCSW we talk about how important it is to be open to understanding each person's differences throughout the dating process. We also address:

You can contact Benjamin at: www.benjaminmeyerlcsw.com

If you would like more information about the resources Mona has available you can check out her website at: www.neurodiverselove.com

During this episode, author Eleanor Vincent shares some of the ups and downs she and her ex-husband experienced in their neurodiverse relationship. More specifically she addresses:

You can learn more about Eleanor's story in her new book: "Disconnected: Portrait of a Neurodiverse Marriage"

In addition, you can contact Eleanor at: www.eleanorvincent.com or contact Mona at: www.neurodiverselove.com