No Guilt Mom | Overcoming Mom Guilt, Mental Load & Parenting Tips for Moms

If you've ever felt mom guilt after yelling and wondered why you yell at the same time every day, this episode is for you.

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Your yelling probably has a timestamp, and that does not mean something is wrong with you. I share three stories, from a childhood kitchen sink to a 5 p.m. toddler "no" to a 10 p.m. bedtime request, and walk you through why your yelling window happens and the smallest possible plan for changing it.

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If you've ever felt the weight of the mental load and wondered why you pass your own stress onto your kids without meaning to, this episode is for you.

Ever wonder why your reaction to something small, like your kid not eating dinner, feels way bigger than the moment itself? In this episode, clinical psychologist Dr. Edith Shiro, author of The Unexpected Gift of Trauma, breaks down how stress and trauma pass from parent to child without either of you realizing it, and what you can actually do to interrupt the cycle.

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If you've ever struggled with mom guilt and wondered why you're so hard on yourself as a mom, this episode is for you.

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That harsh voice in your head may not be yours. Bestselling author and relationship coach Sabrina Bendory joins JoAnn to explain the mother wound, the role you learned to play as a child, and how both show up in your relationships and your parenting. You'll also hear what to say to your child after you've yelled, and why your child's neediness can stir up feelings that have nothing to do with them.

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If you've ever dealt with mom guilt after losing your cool with your husband and wondered why you get so mad at him over little things, this episode is for you.

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Author Jackie Kelley and her husband run their marriage on a set of rules they made up themselves, and her new book, So You Married a Human, comes out today. In this honest and funny conversation, Jackie and JoAnn trade stories about passive aggression, shared-space chaos, and the unrealistic expectations so many of us carry into marriage.

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If you've ever tried gentle parenting and still wondered what to do when your kid says shut up to you, this episode is for you.

When your kid tells you to shut up, your face gets hot and your brain can go blank. In this solo episode, I explain what is usually going on underneath those words and walk you through five calm steps for kids third grade and up, plus an easy adjustment for younger kids. You'll also hear why your own triggers matter and why you deserve the same pause you give your kids.

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You validate your kid's feelings. You explain the reasoning behind every rule. And your kid still melts down anyway. Child development specialist and author Dr. Siggie Cohen joins JoAnn to explain the missing piece: why kids speak the language of emotion while parents default to logic, and exactly what to say when bedtime, screens, or "get ready" turns into a nightly fight.

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If you're carrying the mental load and wondering how to stop being the default parent, this episode is for you.

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Nobody sits down and decides to become the default parent. It happens one "I'll just grab it" at a time. In this solo episode, I share the seven rules I follow so I'm not the default parent in my house, from the "go ask Dad" rule I started when my kids were little to the overflowing trash I refuse to take out.

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If you've ever struggled with people pleasing and wondered why you put everyone else's needs before your own even when it's costing you, this episode is for you.

Psychotherapist Jessica Anne Pressler joins JoAnn to talk about self-abandonment, the pattern of putting everyone else first until you disappear from your own life. They dig into where it starts in childhood, how it shows up as people pleasing and trauma bonding in adult relationships, and how to finally start trusting yourself again.

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If gentle parenting has you wanting to back your daughter up without shaking things up at school, but you're stuck on why she keeps getting dress coded in the first place, this episode is for you.

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JoAnn goes solo this week on a topic she's been sitting with since her own middle school uniform battles: dress codes, and why they land so much harder on girls than boys. She pulls the research on where dress codes actually came from, what "self-objectification" does to a girl's brain and test scores, and ties it directly into this week's Sydney Sweeney ad backlash. Then she gives you the exact conversation to have with your daughter the next time she comes home dress coded.

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If you've ever dealt with mom burnout and wondered why you can't stop giving until there's nothing left, this episode is for you.

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Therapist Dr. Julie Merriman joins the podcast to talk about why so many moms quietly minimize themselves until they're running on empty, and why the idea that "you can't give from an empty cup" is actually a myth, because we do it all the time. We get into little T trauma, why your worth might be tied to productivity, and Julie's five-step framework for coming back to yourself after burnout.

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