Recovering from porn isn’t just a mental game—it’s an emotional one.

In this episode, I’m breaking down the powerful connection between emotional intelligence and porn addiction recovery, and showing you how learning to master your emotions can transform your marriage, your communication, and your ability to stay sober for good.

Most men try to “think” their way out of porn addiction, but relapse doesn’t happen in the mind—it happens in the heart. When fear, shame, or sadness go unprocessed, they convert into anger, craving, and disconnection. Emotional pain becomes a trigger, and before you know it, you’re back in the cycle of porn use, guilt, and regret.

But it doesn’t have to stay that way.

In this episode, I teach you how to apply my RAIL Method™—a five-step process that cultivates emotional awareness, self-leadership, and confidence under pressure. You’ll learn how to understand your emotions, stay grounded during marriage conflict, and see the good intentions beneath both your own reactions and your wife’s.

By the end of this episode, you’ll know how to:

• Use emotional intelligence to defuse conflict in your marriage.
• Understand how porn cravings stem from unmet emotional needs.
• Build emotional safety and connection with your wife through self-awareness.
• Turn painful emotions like anger and shame into powerful tools for recovery.
• Lead your relationship with calm confidence, clarity, and compassion.

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If you’re ready to stop letting your emotions control you—and start using them to strengthen your marriage and deepen your recovery—this one’s for you, brother.

And if you’re serious about taking this work deeper, check out The RAIL Method™ Online Course, where I teach you how to regulate emotions, reduce porn cravings, and rebuild real intimacy step by step.

You can also catch me teaching this method live during the Porn Resilient Online Summit (Oct 13–16)—alongside 20 other experts in emotional and sexual healing, and grab the All-Access Implementation Bundle for lifetime access to all recorded interviews + courses and resources (including my RAIL Method™ online course) for an absolutely unreal price. 

Porn addiction recovery isn’t about fighting harder—it’s about feeling deeper, healing smarter, and leading yourself and your relationship from the inside out.

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As a parent, one of the hardest questions you’ll ever face is this: How do I teach my kids about sex in a porn-filled world—without using fear, shame, or silence?

In this episode, I sit down with Taylor Chambers, a licensed marriage and family therapist and the founder of The Good and The Free, to talk about what it really means to raise porn-resilient kids and model fearless sexuality—not just for them, but for ourselves as men.

We explore what it looks like to move beyond fear-based parenting and into sexual wholeness, integrity, and self-leadership. Taylor shares his deeply human story of moving from religious shame and willpower-based recovery into an approach grounded in acceptance, integration, and emotional honesty—the same work that helped him build his Porn Resilient Summit and framework for helping families heal from shame and secrecy around sexuality.

In this episode, we dive deep into:

• How fear and shame around sexuality create disconnection and secrecy
• Why porn addiction recovery starts with your own sexual integration
• The psychology of how kids internalize sexual shame—and what to do instead
• The neuroscience of fear, desire, and emotional regulation
• How to talk with your kids about sex and pornography in ways that build trust, confidence, and self-respect
• The true meaning of integrity and why it’s impossible to be “whole” while rejecting parts of yourself
• How to raise kids who are resilient, not just “protected,” in a digital world
• Why fearless sexuality doesn’t mean indulgence—it means freedom from control, repression, and fear

You’ll learn how to reframe sexuality as a relationship rather than a problem to eliminate, and why healing your own sexual shame directly impacts your children’s freedom and confidence.

We talk about the inner work every man must do to align his psychology, spirituality, and masculinity—so you can live with the kind of integrity your kids can actually feel.

If you’ve ever felt torn between wanting to protect your kids and wanting to raise them to be strong, wise, and connected—you need this conversation.

Featuring: Taylor Chambers, LMFT — The Good and The Free

Taylor is a leading voice in porn addiction recovery, healthy sexuality, and shame-free living. He’s a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, creator of the Porn Resilient Model, and founder of The Good and The Free, where he teaches men, parents, and couples how to build sexual wholeness rooted in honesty, integrity, and freedom.

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Don’t miss the Porn Resilient Online Summit (Oct 13–16, 2025), where I’ll share The RAIL Method™—a step-by-step system to turn cravings into fuel for recovery. You can watch my interview and 20 other experts free, or grab the All-Access Implementation Bundle for lifetime access to all recorded interviews + courses and resources (including my RAIL Method™ online course)—just $87 if purchased by October 12th.

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If you’ve ever felt powerless in the face of porn cravings, you’re not alone. For years, I thought my urges were proof that I was broken—that I didn’t have the self-control or strength to stay sober. The truth is, cravings are not your enemy. They’re signals from your brain and body that point to deeper emotions like fear, shame, grief, or loneliness. And when you learn how to respond to them with the right tools, those urges actually become fuel for your porn addiction recovery.

In this episode of the Castimonia Podcast, I sat down with Chris Archinal to unpack one of the most powerful frameworks I’ve ever developed: The RAIL Method ™. This 4-step process gives men a practical playbook to stop porn urges, build emotional mindfulness, and strengthen sobriety—not by white-knuckling against cravings, but by transforming them into a path toward freedom.

We cover:

• Why most recovery programs fail when it comes to handling porn cravings
• The RAIL Method (Recognize, Appreciate, Identify, Lead) and how to use it in the heat of the moment
• How parts work (IFS) helps you relate to your “addict part” with compassion instead of suppression
• The role of the inner critic and how to turn its harsh voice into motivation for growth
• Practical daily practices for mindfulness, embodiment, and emotional regulation
• Why true masculine strength comes from leadership, presence, and self-compassion—not shame or perfectionism
• How to align neuroscience, psychology, and spirituality in your porn recovery journey

Whether you’re struggling with daily urges, trying to rebuild trust in your marriage, or simply looking for a practical way to process emotions without turning to porn, this episode will give you hard-hitting tools you can apply immediately.

Check out Chris Archinal and the Castimonia Podcast here.

Don’t miss the Porn Resilient Online Summit (Oct 13–16, 2025), where I’ll share The RAIL Method™—a step-by-step system to turn cravings into fuel for recovery. You can watch my interview and 20 other experts free, or grab the All-Access Implementation Bundle for lifetime access to all recorded interviews + courses and resources (including my RAIL Method ™ online course)—just $87 if purchased by October 12th.

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When I first started my journey to overcome porn addiction, I thought it was all about willpower, accountability, and prayer. But what I didn’t realize was that what I was putting into my body was fueling my cravings, my anxiety, and even my relapses.

In this episode, I open up about the surprising connection between nutrition and porn addiction recovery—how the foods you eat shape your mood, your energy, your mental clarity, and even your desire. If you’ve ever wondered why cravings hit harder some days than others, or why relapse feels almost impossible to resist after certain meals, this conversation will change the way you look at recovery.

We’ll explore the gut–brain connection, the role of the microbiome in producing dopamine and serotonin, and why blood sugar spikes can send you straight into the arms of porn cravings. I share my personal story of how cutting out processed sugar, dairy, and grains dramatically reduced my urges and stabilized my mental health. And I’ll walk you through practical ways to start building a diet that supports—not sabotages—your recovery.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

• Why the body and mind are inseparable in true recovery.
• How the gut microbiome and vagus nerve directly influence cravings, anxiety, and focus.
• The hidden impact of sugar, dairy, and grains on your dopamine system.
• How stabilizing your blood sugar can lower anxiety and porn cravings.
• Why inflammation makes relapse more likely—and how to fight it.
• The simple, step-by-step changes that helped me stay sober from porn for over 10 years.

Brother, this isn’t about restriction or perfection. It’s about giving yourself the strength, clarity, and stability you need to win the battle every day. When you heal your body, you give yourself the best chance to heal your desire—and to build a life of freedom, focus, and purpose.

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Why is it that so many high-achieving men—men who value discipline, morality, and service—secretly struggle with porn addiction? On the surface, it doesn’t make sense. How can a man who leads, provides, and sacrifices also be the same man sneaking away to watch porn in the dark?

In this episode, I uncover the paradox of the high-achiever and porn addiction. I’ll show you why high-achieving men are especially vulnerable to pornography, how emotional intensity fuels cravings, and why perfectionism can become both your greatest strength and your greatest weakness.

You’ll learn:

• The neuroscience behind why emotional intensity and dopamine cravings drive porn use.
• How the perfectionism trap creates all-or-nothing thinking, shame, and the painful double life.
• Why your high standards and drive for excellence aren’t the problem—and how to reframe perfectionism with compassion.
• Practical strategies to channel your intensity into recovery: structure, healthy outlets, and self-compassion.
• The benefits of integration—how to find real freedom, deeper relationships, greater productivity, and inner peace without porn.

This isn’t about fighting yourself or lowering your standards. It’s about learning how to respect your intense, perfectionistic mind and lead it wisely. When you do, your emotional intensity stops fueling cravings and starts fueling lasting recovery.

If you’ve ever wondered, “Why do I, as a high-achieving man, struggle with porn?”—this episode is for you.

👉 Listen now and discover how to transform your greatest struggles into your greatest strengths.

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What if your sexual fantasies weren’t the enemy, but the key to your healing?

In this powerful episode of the No More Desire Podcast, I sit down with my friend and fellow recovery leader Drew Boa, author of Outgrow Porn, to uncover what your sexual fantasies are really trying to tell you—and how to use them as a surprising pathway to heal porn addiction.

Most men believe that the way to stop porn is more willpower, more discipline, more accountability. But neuroscience and psychology show something radically different: porn addiction is never about porn. It’s about unresolved fear, shame, and grief—what Drew calls the “three great sexualizers.” When these emotions go unprocessed, they surface sexually in the form of specific fantasies, fetishes, and cravings.

Instead of battling your sexuality, it’s time to befriend it. In this episode, Drew and I dive deep into:

• The difference between arousal vs desire—and why separating them is key to porn addiction recovery.
• How to process your sexual fantasies without shame and discover the good desires underneath.
• Why parts work (Internal Family Systems) is one of the most powerful tools for porn recovery.
• The role of embodiment, vulnerability, and spiritual connection in lasting freedom.
• Why self-compassion, not self-hatred, is the real key to outgrowing porn.

I share some of my own raw, personal experiences in this episode, including the way my childhood wounds shaped my arousal template—and how facing them with courage transformed my recovery.

If you’ve ever wondered why your sexual fantasies seem so powerful, or how to move beyond the purge-binge cycle into true healing, this conversation will open your eyes and give you practical tools for your recovery journey.

Listen in and learn how to:

• Decode what your fantasies are really revealing about your story.
• Heal the underlying wounds of fear, shame, and grief.
• Experience freedom not by fighting yourself, but by listening with compassion.

This isn’t just about quitting porn. This is about becoming the man you were created to be—whole, connected, and free.

Head to outgrowporn.com to get Drew Boa's new book Outgrow Porn for 25% off using coupon code NOMOREDESIRE. Free bonus eBook included!

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• Join me at No More Desire for more resources on porn addiction recovery.

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Most men try to quit porn by relying on sheer willpower, white-knuckling it, or living in constant fear of relapse. I know, because I tried that too. The problem is, a fear-based recovery mindset only fuels more cravings and keeps you stuck in the shame cycle.

In this episode of No More Desire, I reveal the 2 recovery mindset elements that almost every man overlooks—but that can completely transform your journey to freedom from porn addiction. They’re simple, but don’t let that fool you. These two practices can rewire your brain, reduce cravings, and give you a life filled with meaning and purpose beyond just “not watching porn.”

We’ll dive deep into:

• Why fear-based recovery backfires and actually makes relapse more likely.
  
  
• The psychology of gratitude and how it interrupts rumination, rewires your attention, and helps you build a new identity.
  
  
• How focusing on good outcomes for others strengthens self-worth, connection, and significance in ways porn never can.
  
  
• The neuroscience behind gratitude and service, including how they restructure dopamine, reduce stress, and build long-term resilience.
  
  
• The spiritual truth that joy isn’t found in hoarding for self, but in living with gratitude and giving to others.
  
  

By the end of this episode, you’ll see why gratitude and focusing on the good of others are not just “feel-good extras” in recovery—they’re essential builders of a porn-free life.

If you’re ready to stop living in fear of relapse and start building a life worth living for, this episode is for you.

👉 Listen now and take the next step toward lasting freedom from porn addiction.

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When I was stuck in porn addiction, I kept hearing the same advice: “Just be more positive. Believe in yourself. Visualize your freedom.” But here’s the problem—positive thinking alone doesn’t heal porn addiction. In fact, it often makes things worse.

In this episode, I dive deep into the psychology, neuroscience, and spirituality of why forcing yourself to “just think positive” can actually increase shame, suppress your real emotions, and fuel relapse. We’ll talk about the trap of toxic positivity, the failure of the “law of attraction” in recovery, and why pretending to be fine when you’re hurting only keeps you stuck in the cycle of cravings.

Instead, I’ll show you a mindset shift that actually works: facing your pain head-on, learning to process negative thoughts and emotions honestly, and using practical tools to rewire your brain for long-term recovery. You’ll discover why the real solution isn’t blind positivity—it’s courageous presence.

We’ll cover:

• The psychology of toxic positivity and why suppressing pain drives porn use
• The neuroscience of stress, dopamine, and why fake positivity backfires
• The spiritual truth that freedom comes not from escaping pain, but transforming it
• A simple recovery exercise to ground yourself in reality and break free from cravings

If you’ve ever felt frustrated that positive thinking isn’t working—or worse, that it’s made you feel more ashamed—this episode will help you see the path forward with clarity and hope.

Porn recovery isn’t about “positive vibes only.” It’s about building the strength to face reality with courage and rewire your mind for freedom.

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How Negative Thinking Fuels Porn Addiction

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When I was deep in my porn addiction, I thought the biggest problem I had was desire. But over time, I discovered the real enemy was the constant storm of negative thinking in my own head—shame, self-doubt, anxiety, and a relentless inner critic that kept me trapped in the habit loop.

In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on how negative thinking actively fuels porn addiction, why it’s more than just “background noise,” and how it changes your brain in ways that make cravings harder to resist. We’ll dive into the psychology, neuroscience, and spiritual truths behind why self-condemnation, all-or-nothing thinking, and emotional reasoning can lock you into relapse cycles—and what to do about it.

You’ll learn:

• The psychological impact of shame loops and how they create a self-fulfilling prophecy in addiction.
• How the brain’s negativity bias and stress response prime you to seek quick dopamine from porn.
• Why most men’s internal “motivation” strategies backfire and keep them stuck.
• The first practical step to rewire your brain and break the craving–relapse pattern.

This isn’t about pretending everything’s fine or replacing negative thoughts with forced positivity. It’s about developing the awareness and tools to face painful emotions head-on, dismantle toxic thinking patterns, and reclaim the mental freedom you need for long-term porn addiction recovery.

Whether you’re looking to quit porn, stop watching porn, or finally break free from years of feeling stuck, this episode will give you a clear and practical starting point.

Listen now—and let’s start breaking the cycle for good.

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When you’re stuck in porn addiction, it often feels like there’s a war going on inside your own mind.

One part of you wants to be strong, productive, loving, and aligned with your values. The other part just wants comfort, ease, and escape. Most recovery programs tell you to kill off the "bad" part. To deny it, starve it, or fight it.

But what if that approach is actually fueling your addiction?

In this episode, I’m going to show you a completely different path—one rooted in psychological integration, spiritual clarity, and masculine leadership. We'll break down why you keep relapsing despite your best efforts, and why your inner war is the real reason you're stuck.

You’ll learn how to apply the Internal Family Systems (IFS) framework to porn addiction recovery, using what I call “archetypal parts”—the Achiever, the Comforter, the Dreamer, the General, and more. These parts of you aren’t evil—they’re trying to help. But until you learn to lead them instead of fight or suppress them, you'll keep falling back into the same old cycles.

🔥 What You’ll Discover in This Episode:

• Why suppressing your desires makes porn addiction worse, and what to do instead
• The psychology of porn addiction—and why it’s not about lust
• How Internal Family Systems (IFS) and parts work can heal the root of your addiction
• The real reason your perfectionism and religious guilt are keeping you stuck
• The difference between Manager, Firefighter, and Exile parts—and how each fuels the porn cycle
• How to stop the internal war and become the Self-led man you were meant to be
• Simple daily practices to bring harmony to your mind and stop needing porn for relief
• Why this inner healing work deepens your connection with God, not distances it

If you’ve ever wondered why you keep relapsing despite all your knowledge and effort…
If you’ve tried filters, accountability, and white-knuckling and it’s still not enough…
If you want to actually understand your mind and reclaim your freedom…

This episode is for you.

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