Most men battling porn addiction think their problem is “lust,” “self-control,” or “not being disciplined enough.” But for millions of men, the real issue is something far deeper—and far more common—than they realize.

In this powerful and eye-opening episode, I sit down with Dr. Doug Carpenter, licensed psychologist and author of the groundbreaking book Secret Shame, to uncover the hidden link between male sexual abuse, childhood sexual trauma, shame, and porn addiction.

What Doug reveals in this conversation is staggering—and every man needs to hear it.

For decades, men have been suffering in silence. Many grew up believing that what happened to them wasn’t “real” abuse. Others felt that their body’s response meant they “wanted it,” “caused it,” or that something was fundamentally wrong with them. Most never told anyone.

But the truth is this:
Male sexual trauma is far more common than reported—and its impact on a man’s sexuality, masculinity, and identity is enormous.

And for many, it becomes the hidden engine powering porn addiction, compulsive sexual behavior, PIED (porn-induced erectile dysfunction), and emotional avoidance in adulthood.

In this episode, we unpack how early exposure, sexual imprinting, and shame wire the brain toward addictive behavior—and how men can finally begin to heal through neuroscience-backed practices, spiritual grounding, trauma-informed support, and masculine emotional leadership.

This is not a heavy, dark episode. This is a hopeful one—filled with clarity, compassion, truth, and a real recovery roadmap.

In This Episode, We Explore:

• Why one in six men have experienced some form of sexual abuse—and why most don’t disclose for 25+ years
• How childhood sexual trauma, early sexual exposure, and porn imprint the developing brain
• The neuroscience behind compulsive sexual behavior and why willpower alone fails
• The truth about sexual identity confusion and why it’s the #1 side effect of male sexual abuse
• Why your body’s response during abuse does not define your sexuality, masculinity, or identity
• How shame becomes the fuel source for porn addiction
• The survivor’s journey from victim → survivor → thriver
• How to start healing sexual shame and rebuilding healthy masculinity
• Why trauma-informed therapy and brotherhood are essential for overcoming porn
• What real recovery looks like when men stop fighting themselves and start understanding themselves

Explore more of Doug’s work at HusbandMaterial.com.
Want to dive deeper into his insights? Visit: douglascarpenter.com

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Do you ever feel like your mind just won’t stop racing?
Like you’re constantly doing—working, scrolling, thinking, striving—but rarely being present?

If you’ve ever felt trapped in busyness, anxiety, or mental chaos, this episode might be one of the most important you’ll ever hear.

In this solo episode, I explore one of the most overlooked truths about porn addiction recovery: your addiction isn’t just about sexual compulsion—it’s about disconnection. A restless, overstimulated brain craves relief. Porn becomes the shortcut.

But the real problem runs deeper.
Our constant distraction, productivity obsession, and dopamine overload keep us stuck in the same cycle of craving and shame.

When your brain never stops seeking stimulation, it can’t access stillness, focus, or peace. And that lack of presence doesn’t just feed addiction—it weakens your relationships, your masculinity, and your spiritual connection.

In this episode, I share:

• The neuroscience behind mental chaos and why an underactive prefrontal cortex keeps you craving porn.
• The hidden ways your phone, productivity, and social media feed the same dopamine system as pornography.
• How to break free from attention fragmentation and rewire your brain for calm focus.
• A 30-Day Challenge to restore balance between doing and being—and how this shift can heal your mind, your marriage, and your soul.
• Practical mindfulness and embodiment tools to ground your masculine energy and rebuild self-leadership.
• Why your relationship with stillness determines your ability to connect—with yourself, with others, and with God.

I’ll also share my own recent experience detoxing from technology—what it revealed about my mind, my family, and the subtle addictions hiding behind constant busyness.

If you’re ready to go beyond willpower and understand the psychology, neuroscience, and spirituality of true freedom, this episode will help you build the presence and balance you’ve been missing.

Because overcoming porn addiction isn’t just about quitting a habit—it’s about retraining your brain to live differently.

It’s time to stop running and start being.

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If you’re ready to build the mindset and lifestyle that lead to long-term freedom from porn addiction, visit NoMoreDesire.com and apply for my 1-on-1 Porn Addiction Recovery Coaching Program. You’ll gain the structured tools, accountability, and training you need to transform not only your habits—but your heart.

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What if the real reason you can’t stop watching porn… isn’t porn itself?

In this episode of the No More Desire Podcast, I dive deep into the hidden connection between tech addiction, dopamine, and porn addiction recovery — and why constant distraction may be the true enemy of your freedom.

We live in a world built to hijack your attention. From smartphones and social media to the endless scroll of entertainment, every digital interaction trains your brain for instant gratification. Over time, this dopamine overload rewires your reward system, weakens your self-control, and makes you more vulnerable to pornography addiction.

But here’s the truth: your brain isn’t broken. It’s just conditioned. And what’s been conditioned can be reconditioned.

In this powerful, science-backed, spiritually grounded conversation, I’ll walk you through:

• The neuroscience of dopamine and addiction — how tech overstimulation leads to desensitization and “hypofrontality,” weakening your prefrontal cortex (the part of your brain responsible for focus and discipline).
• The psychology of distraction — how “attentional fragmentation” leaves men restless, unfocused, and disconnected from their purpose.
• The real link between porn addiction and technology addiction — and how both exploit the same reward circuitry in the brain.
• Ancient wisdom and modern mindfulness — what Jesus, the Buddha, and modern neuroscience all agree on: the power of stillness, presence, and self-awareness to rewire the addicted brain.
• Practical methods for recovery — including my 30-Day Presence Challenge to help you regain control of your attention, rebuild your dopamine balance, and reconnect with real life and real people.

This episode is a call to arms for men who are tired of distractions running their lives. It’s about replacing compulsive stimulation with conscious connection — with your body, your relationships, and your higher purpose.

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If you’re ready to build the mindset and lifestyle that lead to long-term freedom from porn addiction, visit NoMoreDesire.com and apply for my 1-on-1 Porn Addiction Recovery Coaching Program. You’ll gain the structured tools, accountability, and training you need to transform not only your habits—but your heart.

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When I first began my recovery journey, I believed the answer to ending porn addiction was more control — more willpower, more discipline, more “try harder.”

But the truth is, that mindset only deepened my shame and made me fight harder against myself.

In this episode, I sit down with Jeremy Lipkowitz — a former Buddhist monk, mindfulness teacher, and founder of The Unhooked Academy — to explore a radically different path to freedom from porn addiction.

We dive deep into the power of mindfulness and self-compassion as tools to overcome shame, heal the mind, and rewire the brain for peace and presence. This conversation bridges neuroscience, psychology, and Buddhist philosophy, showing you how mindfulness can create real, lasting change from the inside out.

🧠 In This Episode, We Explore:

• Why willpower doesn’t work for lasting porn addiction recovery — and how mindfulness creates the awareness needed for true freedom.
• The neuroscience of craving and contentment — how porn trains the brain for dissatisfaction, and how mindfulness and meditation reverse that wiring.
• Healthy shame vs. toxic shame — learning to transform guilt into growth rather than isolation and relapse.
• The “Hungry Ghost” mindset — a Buddhist metaphor for the endless craving cycle that drives addiction.
• How to use mindfulness and self-awareness to meet emotions like loneliness, fear, and anger with compassion instead of escape.
• The importance of connection, accountability, and brotherhood in men’s recovery from porn addiction.
• How to rewire your brain through daily mindfulness practice, self-reflection, and authentic connection.

If you’ve been fighting yourself in recovery — this conversation will help you finally make peace with your mind.

You don’t overcome porn addiction by fighting against yourself — you overcome it by understanding yourself.

That’s the heart of mindfulness.
 And when you combine mindfulness, compassion, and masculine leadership — you stop chasing freedom and start living it.

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If you’re ready to build the mindset and lifestyle that lead to long-term freedom from porn addiction, visit NoMoreDesire.com and apply for my 1-on-1 Porn Addiction Recovery Coaching Program. You’ll gain the structured tools, accountability, and training you need to transform not only your habits—but your heart.

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When you love someone who’s caught in addiction—whether it’s porn, alcohol, or anything else that numbs pain—the chaos doesn’t just stay with them. It spills into your relationship, your emotions, and even your identity.

In this episode of The No More Desire Podcast, I sit down with Holly Thornton, author of The Hardest Help, who’s lived through the agony of betrayal trauma, manipulation, and loss—and emerged with compassion, clarity, and tools that actually work.

Together, we explore what most recovery conversations miss: how addiction and betrayal trauma intertwine, and how both partners can begin to heal through boundaries, empathy, and truth.

If you’re a man working to overcome porn addiction, this episode will give you a powerful glimpse into what your spouse experiences on the other side of your addiction—and how understanding her pain can transform your recovery.

And if you’re the partner of someone battling addiction, you’ll learn how to support your loved one without losing yourself, why “rock bottom” is a dangerous myth, and what practical, compassion-based methods like the CRAFT approach can do to restore hope.

In This Episode, We Explore:

• How betrayal trauma affects the brain—and why partners of addicts often feel anxious, confused, or “crazy.”
• The myth of rock bottom and why waiting for collapse keeps you trapped in addiction.
• Emotional regulation tools rooted in neuroscience to calm the nervous system and build resilience.
• The psychology of boundaries—how to protect yourself and rebuild trust without punishing or controlling your partner.
• Why curiosity heals more than confrontation, and how to communicate in a way that promotes safety, not shame.
• How small daily actions rewire the addicted brain through neuroplasticity and consistency.
• Spiritual and psychological integration—how empathy, compassion, and ownership reconnect you to your True Self.

This conversation isn’t about blame—it’s about healing through understanding.

It’s about becoming a man who doesn’t just say “I’m sorry,” but lives as someone who’s safe to love.

Because real recovery isn’t just about quitting porn—it’s about becoming whole, grounded, and emotionally present enough to lead yourself and your relationship with integrity.

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If you’re ready to build the mindset and lifestyle that lead to long-term freedom from porn addiction, visit NoMoreDesire.com and apply for my 1-on-1 Porn Addiction Recovery Coaching Program. You’ll gain the structured tools, accountability, and training you need to transform not only your habits—but your heart.

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or on Instagram @holly_jthorton

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Recovering from porn isn’t just a mental game—it’s an emotional one.

In this episode, I’m breaking down the powerful connection between emotional intelligence and porn addiction recovery, and showing you how learning to master your emotions can transform your marriage, your communication, and your ability to stay sober for good.

Most men try to “think” their way out of porn addiction, but relapse doesn’t happen in the mind—it happens in the heart. When fear, shame, or sadness go unprocessed, they convert into anger, craving, and disconnection. Emotional pain becomes a trigger, and before you know it, you’re back in the cycle of porn use, guilt, and regret.

But it doesn’t have to stay that way.

In this episode, I teach you how to apply my RAIL Method™—a five-step process that cultivates emotional awareness, self-leadership, and confidence under pressure. You’ll learn how to understand your emotions, stay grounded during marriage conflict, and see the good intentions beneath both your own reactions and your wife’s.

By the end of this episode, you’ll know how to:

• Use emotional intelligence to defuse conflict in your marriage.
• Understand how porn cravings stem from unmet emotional needs.
• Build emotional safety and connection with your wife through self-awareness.
• Turn painful emotions like anger and shame into powerful tools for recovery.
• Lead your relationship with calm confidence, clarity, and compassion.

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If you’re ready to stop letting your emotions control you—and start using them to strengthen your marriage and deepen your recovery—this one’s for you, brother.

And if you’re serious about taking this work deeper, check out The RAIL Method™ Online Course, where I teach you how to regulate emotions, reduce porn cravings, and rebuild real intimacy step by step.

You can also catch me teaching this method live during the Porn Resilient Online Summit (Oct 13–16)—alongside 20 other experts in emotional and sexual healing, and grab the All-Access Implementation Bundle for lifetime access to all recorded interviews + courses and resources (including my RAIL Method™ online course) for an absolutely unreal price. 

Porn addiction recovery isn’t about fighting harder—it’s about feeling deeper, healing smarter, and leading yourself and your relationship from the inside out.

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As a parent, one of the hardest questions you’ll ever face is this: How do I teach my kids about sex in a porn-filled world—without using fear, shame, or silence?

In this episode, I sit down with Taylor Chambers, a licensed marriage and family therapist and the founder of The Good and The Free, to talk about what it really means to raise porn-resilient kids and model fearless sexuality—not just for them, but for ourselves as men.

We explore what it looks like to move beyond fear-based parenting and into sexual wholeness, integrity, and self-leadership. Taylor shares his deeply human story of moving from religious shame and willpower-based recovery into an approach grounded in acceptance, integration, and emotional honesty—the same work that helped him build his Porn Resilient Summit and framework for helping families heal from shame and secrecy around sexuality.

In this episode, we dive deep into:

• How fear and shame around sexuality create disconnection and secrecy
• Why porn addiction recovery starts with your own sexual integration
• The psychology of how kids internalize sexual shame—and what to do instead
• The neuroscience of fear, desire, and emotional regulation
• How to talk with your kids about sex and pornography in ways that build trust, confidence, and self-respect
• The true meaning of integrity and why it’s impossible to be “whole” while rejecting parts of yourself
• How to raise kids who are resilient, not just “protected,” in a digital world
• Why fearless sexuality doesn’t mean indulgence—it means freedom from control, repression, and fear

You’ll learn how to reframe sexuality as a relationship rather than a problem to eliminate, and why healing your own sexual shame directly impacts your children’s freedom and confidence.

We talk about the inner work every man must do to align his psychology, spirituality, and masculinity—so you can live with the kind of integrity your kids can actually feel.

If you’ve ever felt torn between wanting to protect your kids and wanting to raise them to be strong, wise, and connected—you need this conversation.

Featuring: Taylor Chambers, LMFT — The Good and The Free

Taylor is a leading voice in porn addiction recovery, healthy sexuality, and shame-free living. He’s a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, creator of the Porn Resilient Model, and founder of The Good and The Free, where he teaches men, parents, and couples how to build sexual wholeness rooted in honesty, integrity, and freedom.

Follow Taylor at wearethegoodandthefree.com
or on Instagram @thegoodandthefree

Don’t miss the Porn Resilient Online Summit (Oct 13–16, 2025), where I’ll share The RAIL Method™—a step-by-step system to turn cravings into fuel for recovery. You can watch my interview and 20 other experts free, or grab the All-Access Implementation Bundle for lifetime access to all recorded interviews + courses and resources (including my RAIL Method™ online course)—just $87 if purchased by October 12th.

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If you’ve ever felt powerless in the face of porn cravings, you’re not alone. For years, I thought my urges were proof that I was broken—that I didn’t have the self-control or strength to stay sober. The truth is, cravings are not your enemy. They’re signals from your brain and body that point to deeper emotions like fear, shame, grief, or loneliness. And when you learn how to respond to them with the right tools, those urges actually become fuel for your porn addiction recovery.

In this episode of the Castimonia Podcast, I sat down with Chris Archinal to unpack one of the most powerful frameworks I’ve ever developed: The RAIL Method ™. This 4-step process gives men a practical playbook to stop porn urges, build emotional mindfulness, and strengthen sobriety—not by white-knuckling against cravings, but by transforming them into a path toward freedom.

We cover:

• Why most recovery programs fail when it comes to handling porn cravings
• The RAIL Method (Recognize, Appreciate, Identify, Lead) and how to use it in the heat of the moment
• How parts work (IFS) helps you relate to your “addict part” with compassion instead of suppression
• The role of the inner critic and how to turn its harsh voice into motivation for growth
• Practical daily practices for mindfulness, embodiment, and emotional regulation
• Why true masculine strength comes from leadership, presence, and self-compassion—not shame or perfectionism
• How to align neuroscience, psychology, and spirituality in your porn recovery journey

Whether you’re struggling with daily urges, trying to rebuild trust in your marriage, or simply looking for a practical way to process emotions without turning to porn, this episode will give you hard-hitting tools you can apply immediately.

Check out Chris Archinal and the Castimonia Podcast here.

Don’t miss the Porn Resilient Online Summit (Oct 13–16, 2025), where I’ll share The RAIL Method™—a step-by-step system to turn cravings into fuel for recovery. You can watch my interview and 20 other experts free, or grab the All-Access Implementation Bundle for lifetime access to all recorded interviews + courses and resources (including my RAIL Method ™ online course)—just $87 if purchased by October 12th.

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When I first started my journey to overcome porn addiction, I thought it was all about willpower, accountability, and prayer. But what I didn’t realize was that what I was putting into my body was fueling my cravings, my anxiety, and even my relapses.

In this episode, I open up about the surprising connection between nutrition and porn addiction recovery—how the foods you eat shape your mood, your energy, your mental clarity, and even your desire. If you’ve ever wondered why cravings hit harder some days than others, or why relapse feels almost impossible to resist after certain meals, this conversation will change the way you look at recovery.

We’ll explore the gut–brain connection, the role of the microbiome in producing dopamine and serotonin, and why blood sugar spikes can send you straight into the arms of porn cravings. I share my personal story of how cutting out processed sugar, dairy, and grains dramatically reduced my urges and stabilized my mental health. And I’ll walk you through practical ways to start building a diet that supports—not sabotages—your recovery.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

• Why the body and mind are inseparable in true recovery.
• How the gut microbiome and vagus nerve directly influence cravings, anxiety, and focus.
• The hidden impact of sugar, dairy, and grains on your dopamine system.
• How stabilizing your blood sugar can lower anxiety and porn cravings.
• Why inflammation makes relapse more likely—and how to fight it.
• The simple, step-by-step changes that helped me stay sober from porn for over 10 years.

Brother, this isn’t about restriction or perfection. It’s about giving yourself the strength, clarity, and stability you need to win the battle every day. When you heal your body, you give yourself the best chance to heal your desire—and to build a life of freedom, focus, and purpose.

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Why is it that so many high-achieving men—men who value discipline, morality, and service—secretly struggle with porn addiction? On the surface, it doesn’t make sense. How can a man who leads, provides, and sacrifices also be the same man sneaking away to watch porn in the dark?

In this episode, I uncover the paradox of the high-achiever and porn addiction. I’ll show you why high-achieving men are especially vulnerable to pornography, how emotional intensity fuels cravings, and why perfectionism can become both your greatest strength and your greatest weakness.

You’ll learn:

• The neuroscience behind why emotional intensity and dopamine cravings drive porn use.
• How the perfectionism trap creates all-or-nothing thinking, shame, and the painful double life.
• Why your high standards and drive for excellence aren’t the problem—and how to reframe perfectionism with compassion.
• Practical strategies to channel your intensity into recovery: structure, healthy outlets, and self-compassion.
• The benefits of integration—how to find real freedom, deeper relationships, greater productivity, and inner peace without porn.

This isn’t about fighting yourself or lowering your standards. It’s about learning how to respect your intense, perfectionistic mind and lead it wisely. When you do, your emotional intensity stops fueling cravings and starts fueling lasting recovery.

If you’ve ever wondered, “Why do I, as a high-achieving man, struggle with porn?”—this episode is for you.

👉 Listen now and discover how to transform your greatest struggles into your greatest strengths.

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