Journalist and cultural critic EJ Dickson joins Reshma for a candid conversation about motherhood, guilt, and the impossible standards women are expected to meet. Drawing from her new book One Bad Mother, EJ breaks down how the idea of the “good mother” is a surprisingly recent invention, why modern parenting runs on shame and self-policing, and who actually benefits from keeping women feeling like they are failing.

Follow EJ Dickson on Instagram at @ejdickson. Her book One Bad Mother is out February 10.

You can follow our host Reshma Saujani on Instagram at @reshmasaujani and on Substack. 

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