Open Late

This week on Open Late, Jess sits down with Anne Hodder-Shipp and talks about what it means when someone says that there are only five love languages in the entire world and the others don’t count (and how wrong they are). They also talk about how this idea of limiting people into these categories is harmful and damaging for everyone involved (including ourselves).

In this episode of Open Late

• Love languages

• Sources of love

• Different styles of giving and receiving love

• How to grow and meet all the new versions of ourselves

Connect with Anne Hodder-Shipp:

• Links: https://smartlink.metricool.com/public/smartlink/theannehodder-702031

• Everyone Deserves Sex Ed: https://annehoddershipp.com/everyone-deserves-sex-ed

• Speaking from the Heart: 18 Languages for Modern Love: https://www.themodernlovelanguages.com/

• Take Back the Speculum: https://embodyworkla.com/tbts

Connect with Jessica:

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• Website: openlatepodcast.com | jessicaesfandiary.com

• Youtube: Open Late Podcast

• What's my relationship style? Take the Open Late Quiz

• Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp

• Open Late Dictionary

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In this episode, Jess sits down with us one on one to talk about coming out and what it means for you as an individual trying to navigate those waters. She also talks about what other people might think when they hear news like this—and how they might react. As you grow and as you get more secure in this relationship, it will matter less what people think about you. Just because you come out doesn't mean the work ends—even if it goes really well.

In this episode of Open Late

• Personal experience being disrespected after coming out

• How to deal with judgment

• How to liberate yourself

• Tips on coming out—whether it goes well or not! 

Connect with Jessica:

• Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast

• Website: openlatepodcast.com | jessicaesfandiary.com

• Youtube: Open Late Podcast

• What's my relationship style? Take the Open Late Quiz

• Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp

• Open Late Dictionary

• Asking for a friend (AFAF) Question Form

• Take advantage of a 30% discount on Dr. Zhana's eligible courses with code "JESSICA", applied to the first payment only for offers with multiple payments or subscriptions.

• Open Smarter Course

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In this episode, Jess talks about the importance of setting the stage when you're coming out to your friends and family. This can be a really scary thing, but it's also an important part of being true to yourself.

In this episode of Open Late

• How I came out

• How to deal with rejection from family and friends

• Being intentional

Connect with Jessica:

• Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast

• Website: openlatepodcast.com | jessicaesfandiary.com

• Youtube: Open Late Podcast

• What's my relationship style? Take the Open Late Quiz

• Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp

• Open Late Dictionary

• Asking for a friend (AFAF) Question Form

• Take advantage of a 30% discount on Dr. Zhana's eligible courses with code "JESSICA", applied to the first payment only for offers with multiple payments or subscriptions.

• Open Smarter Course

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This week on Open Late, Jess sits down with host of Polycurious podcast Fernanda to talk all things from burning man, having a monogamous partner, and deciding if being open to your family and friends is right for you. Fernanda also shares her insight on NRE and clear intentions when dating with no intent to DTR.

In this episode of Open Late

• Finding community through Burning Man

• Having a monogamous male partner

• Confusing NRE with real feelings

• Whether or not being publicly open is right for you

Connect with Fernanda:

• Follow Fernanda: Polycuriouspodcast

• Listen to Polycurious Podcast here

• Episode mentioned in this episode: E 12 - Fer & Seth: Monogamy in a Non-monogamous Relationship

Connect with Jessica:

• Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast

• Website: openlatepodcast.com | jessicaesfandiary.com

• Youtube: Open Late Podcast

• What's my relationship style? Take the Open Late Quiz

• Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp

• Open Late Dictionary

• Asking for a friend (AFAF) Question Form

• Take advantage of a 30% discount on Dr. Zhana's eligible courses with code "JESSICA", applied to the first payment only for offers with multiple payments or subscriptions.

• Open Smarter Course

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This week on Open Late, Jess sits down with LMFT Danielle Golan to get her perspective on how to structure an open relationship from the start. Danielle starts off by challenging the initial reasons that makes people want to try out this relationship style. Tune in and ask yourself: what needs do I have that can and can't be met by my partner?

In this episode of Open Late

• Common themes that arise when opening up

• Clarifying unmet needs before opening the relationship

• Verbal and written contracts

• Sexual liberation

Connect with Danielle Golan:

• Follow Danielle: The Feeling Space

• Website: www.thefeelingspace.me

• Email: [email protected]

Connect with Jessica:

• Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast

• Website: openlatepodcast.com | jessicaesfandiary.com

• Youtube: Open Late Podcast

• What's my relationship style? Take the Open Late Quiz

• Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp

• Open Late Dictionary

• Asking for a friend (AFAF) Question Form

• Take advantage of a 30% discount on Dr. Zhana's eligible courses with code "JESSICA", applied to the first payment only for offers with multiple payments or subscriptions.

• Open Smarter Course

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•  Honey Pot Lube and Massage Oil OPENLATE20

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Leanne Yau, aka Poly Philia, joins us today to talk about her polyamorous journey. It began when she was 17 and heading off to college, and has now turned into a career and passion in the form of bite size education. Leanne and Jess challenge the mono-normative challenges that are creeping into the open relationship space and remind us its OK to want to be a unicorn that JUST wants to have sex!

In this episode of Open Late

• Links between ADHD and Polyamory

• Unicorn Hunting

• Toxic masculinity in non-monogamy

• Guiding principals o boundaries with your partners

Connect with Leanne Yau:

• Follow Leanne Yau: PolyphiliaBlog

• Twitter: Polyphilia Blog

• Tik Tok: Polyphilia Blog

• Facebook: Polyphilia Blog

Resources:

• So You Want To Be A Unicorn

• 3 Group Sex Workshops

• How To Be A Unicorn

• 1-1 Peer Support (Text, Email, Video)

• Cosmopolitan Article

• Vice Article

Connect with Jessica:

• Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast

• Website: openlatepodcast.com | jessicaesfandiary.com

• Youtube: Open Late Podcast

• What's my relationship style? Take the Open Late Quiz

• Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp

• Open Late Dictionary

• Asking for a friend (AFAF) Question Form

• Take advantage of a 30% discount on Dr. Zhana's eligible courses with code "JESSICA", applied to the first payment only for offers with multiple payments or subscriptions.

• Open Smarter Course

The product I love who support this show:

•  Honey Pot Lube and Massage Oil OPENLATE20

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LMFT Dr. Cat Meyer joins us today to educate us on the benefits of Ketamine therapy. She gives us the history on ketamine, the many uses, the legality, and the negative counterparts. Dr. Cat Meyer also explains the importance of vetting and carefully choosing your psychedelic facilitator.

In this episode of Open Late

• What is ketamine therapy

• Couples therapy using ketamine

• Integrating what you learn in a session into everyday life

• Misuse of boundaries

Connect with Dr. Cat Meyer:

• Follow Dr. Cat: @sexloveyoga

• Podcast: SexLoveYoga

Resources:

• Dr. Cat's Website

Connect with Jessica:

• Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast

• Website: openlatepodcast.com | jessicaesfandiary.com

• Youtube: Open Late Podcast

• What's my relationship style? Take the Open Late Quiz

• Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp

• Open Late Dictionary

• Asking for a friend (AFAF) Question Form

• Take advantage of a 30% discount on Dr. Zhana's eligible courses with code "JESSICA", applied to the first payment only for offers with multiple payments or subscriptions.

• Open Smarter Course

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•  Honey Pot Lube and Massage Oil OPENLATE20

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Today Jess sits down with us one on one for a bonus episode! On the last episode we discussed how to open your relationship, on this episode we will dive a little deeper on topics that will come up on this journey. Whether it's accepting you and your partner have different style preferences, or checking in to make sure this journey is still fueling your fire, Jess gives us the scoop on how to navigate.

In this episode of Open Late

• How to navigate style differences

• Why community is so important

• Relationship check-ins

• Taking the time to include/integrate and understand your new people

Connect with Jessica:

• Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast

• Website: openlatepodcast.com | jessicaesfandiary.com

• Youtube: Open Late Podcast

• What's my relationship style? Take the Open Late Quiz

• Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp

• Open Late Dictionary

• Asking for a friend (AFAF) Question Form

• Take advantage of a 30% discount on Dr. Zhana's eligible courses with code "JESSICA", applied to the first payment only for offers with multiple payments or subscriptions.

• Open Smarter Course

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Today Jess sits down with us one on one to talk about where to begin your non-monogamous journey! Whether you are starting coupled or un-coupled, this episode is full of tips and advice on things you can to do to put you and your relationship out in the open in a safe, fun, and explorative way.

In this episode of Open Late

• Building your connection

• Start slow and steady

• Get on to an app like Feeld

• Flirt out in public and see how that goes

• Go to a sex party and watch

Resources

•The Polyamory Paradox

Connect with Jessica:

• Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast

• Website: openlatepodcast.com | jessicaesfandiary.com

• Free Resource: Open Late Dictionary

• Youtube: Open Late Podcast

• What's my relationship style? Take the Open Late Quiz

• Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp

• Open Late Dictionary

• Asking for a friend (AFAF) Question Form

• Take advantage of a 30% discount on Dr. Zhana's eligible courses with code "JESSICA", applied to the first payment only for offers with multiple payments or subscriptions.

• Open Smarter Course

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Comedian, writer, and sex worker, Billy Procida, joins us today to talk about his experience as a “Manwhore.” We are learning all about the evolution of Billy’s sexual confidence and all of the different ways it has and continues to impact his life, career, and relationships. 

In this episode of Open Late

• Finding the confidence to explore sexually

• Craigslist adventures

• Transition from webcamming to Onlyfans

• Billy’s experience as a sugarbaby, findom, and internet boyfriend.

Connect with Billy Procida:

• Follow Billy: @billyisprocida 

• Podcast: www.ManwhorePod.com/itunes

• Twitter: @TheBillyProcida

Resources:

• Billy’s Onlyfans 

• Discord: The Champagne Room

Connect with Jessica:

• Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast

• Website: openlatepodcast.com | jessicaesfandiary.com

• Youtube: Open Late Podcast

• What's my relationship style? Take the Open Late Quiz

• Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp

• Open Late Dictionary

• Asking for a friend (AFAF) Question Form

• Take advantage of a 30% discount on Dr. Zhana's eligible courses with code "JESSICA", applied to the first payment only for offers with multiple payments or subscriptions.

• Open Smarter Course

The product I love who support this show:

•  Honey Pot Lube and Massage Oil OPENLATE20

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