Open Late

We are introducing a new series called "Asking for a Friend.” In this series, Jess is not necessarily talking with sexperts or people practicing non monogamy but with very close friends and chosen family from her life, who share raw and personal experiences and also ask questions about Nonmonogamy. In this episode, Jess sits down with Lea Griffin. Lea is Jess’ former in-home assistant and remains a close friend of Jess and Pasha. Lea shares her first impressions and memories from when she started and how much her life has changed since then. They chat about the beginning of their bond and raw and unedited experiences of how it was working for Jess and Pasha. She also opens up about her sobriety journey and the struggles and wins that came along with it. 

 In this episode of Open Late, "Asking for a friend",

 • Working in a healthy environment 

• Understanding polyamorous relationships from the outside

• Sobriety and the importance of establishing healthy boundaries

• Staying sober during Covid and how it affects people's well being

• Accepting change and evolution of human love

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• Open Late Dictionary

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In this episode, we pick up where we left off with Lolo Urbiztondo, Jess's love and cofounder of Sound Sutra who still plays a big role in her life. The girls talk about a lot of fun sex stuff and also hard topics. Lolo shares more about her photoshoots for women and how she feels about opening her work to a global market. She gives us insights and small secrets about her intimacy photoshoot for couples. Jess and Lolo talk about their experience of seeing love from the "fly on the wall" perspective and how it affects your relationship. We look closer to embracing the "unicorn" vibes, and Jess shares her journey of getting over old hurts and pains in order to become the mother she wants to be for her children. 

In this episode of Open Late:

• Creating safe intimacy in Photoshoots for women and couples  

• Experience of seeing love from a "Fly on the wall" point of view

• "Unicorn Vibes" and becoming a mother

• Understanding and reliving old pains and hurts in order to heal

• Trauma release therapy and letting go of stored dense energy

Connect with Jessica:

• Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast

• Website: openlatepodcast.com 

• YouTube: Open Late Podcast

• What's my relationship style? Take the Open Late Quiz

• Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp

• Open Late Dictionary

• Take advantage of a 30% discount on Dr. Zhana's eligible courses with code "JESSICA", applied to the first payment only for offers with multiple payments or subscriptions.

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After a very long time today, Jess sits down again with Lolo, her other love and best friend. They shared their experience from Burning Man and much-needed decompression afterwards. Jess and Lolo dig deeper into the evolution of their relationship and how they realize things need a business “break up”. Jess talks about her experiences in Thailand, and Lauren shares her future travel plans. 

 In this episode of Open Late,

 • Decompression after Burning Man Festival

• Understanding the change and opening up about it 

• Creative consciousness and taking a healthy break 

• Naked Northern lights photoshoot

• Thailand and future travel plans

Connect with Lolo

• Instagram:@lolo_urbinztondo

Connect with Jessica:

• Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast

• Website: openlatepodcast.com 

• YouTube: Open Late Podcast

• What's my relationship style? Take the Open Late Quiz

• Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp

• Open Late Dictionary

• Asking for a friend (AFAF) Question Form

• Take advantage of a 30% discount on Dr. Zhana's eligible courses with code "JESSICA", applied to the first payment only for offers with multiple payments or subscriptions.

• Open Smarter Course

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Today Jess hosts Shelby Terrell, an intimacy coordinator and current MSW Candidate, on the path of becoming a sex and relationship therapist working with the LGBTQIA+ population. Shelby shares how growing up in the entertainment environment shaped her and why she decided to become an intimacy coordinator on sets. They talk about the importance of people being educated and how boundaries on set are misunderstood and often pushed far for the sake of a career. They discuss how working on many things simultaneously can feel like being lost and how finding self-acceptance can have a massive impact on your journey.  

 In this episode of Open Late,

 • Becoming an Intimacy coordinator

• Understanding consent and the need of creating healthy boundaries

• Importance of pushing ourselves to experience discomfort in need to change

• Deep Self-acceptance and acknowledgement of your own journey

• Need for more “Pleasure activism and “Discomfort Scale” 

Links mentioned in the episode:

Certifying Intimacy Directors and Coordinators 

https://www.idcprofessionals.com/

Adreinne Maree Brown: Accountability - 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AhANo6wzBAA

Connect with Shelby Terrell

• Instagram:@theshelbyterrell

Connect with Jessica:

• Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast

• Website: openlatepodcast.com | jessicaesfandiary.com

• Youtube: Open Late Podcast

• What's my relationship style? Take the Open Late Quiz

• Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp

• Open Late Dictionary

• Asking for a friend (AFAF) Question Form

• Take advantage of a 30% discount on Dr. Zhana's eligible courses with code "JESSICA", applied to the first payment only for offers with multiple payments or subscriptions.

• Open Smarter Course

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Today on the show Jess interviews Roy Graff, a Relationship coach and Therapist from London who is also practicing Solo-polyamory. In this episode Roy shares his introduction to the open relationship world later in his life. They discuss a “savior complex,” codependency, and the importance of us knowing what we really want. Jess and Roy also share their opinions on jealousy and how they experienced it in past relationships. They unravel the topic of a monogamous person dating a poly person, what is needed and what are the odds of survival of this relationship dynamic. They also touch on how practicing solo-polyamory can actually help people who have trouble committing in traditional relationship styles.

 In this episode of Open Late,

 • The Savior Complex and our human need to fix everyone

• Experiencing, accepting and understanding jealousy in open relationships

• Importance of unraveling codependency with your partners

• Breaking the mold of mono-normativity

• How solo-polyamory can help overcome insecurities

• Attachment styles and commitment issues

Connect with Roy Graff:

• Instagram:@openrelating

• Website:https://openrelating.love/about/

Connect with Jessica:

• Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast

• Website: openlatepodcast.com | jessicaesfandiary.com

• Youtube: Open Late Podcast

• What's my relationship style? Take the Open Late Quiz

• Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp

• Open Late Dictionary

• Asking for a friend (AFAF) Question Form

• Take advantage of a 30% discount on Dr. Zhana's eligible courses with code "JESSICA", applied to the first payment only for offers with multiple payments or subscriptions.

• Open Smarter Course

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Today Jess hosts Dr. Zhana an NYU Professor of Sex and Sexuality on the show. In this episode they discuss the various types of non monogamy. There are many reasons why some couples choose non monogamy, despite the common misconception that it is just a cover for infidelity. Jess and Dr. Zhana explore the advantages and disadvantages of relational styles and compare them to conventional monogamy throughout the conversation.

Dr. Zhana offers some guidance to those in traditional relationships who desire sexual freedom and openness. They also talk about the trends in generations when it comes to relational expressions. This interview is helpful for anyone interested in learning more about different types of relationships and the role that they play in our personal lives. There is a lot covered in this episode!

In this episode of Open Late,

• The difference between Millennials and Gen Z relationships

• The science behind non monogamy and how we are all wired differently

• The different forms of non monogamy in the past and today

• How the traditional ideas about monogamy have changed over the years

• Ways to boost sexual self-esteem or confidence

Connect with Dr. Zhana:

• Instagram:@drzhana

• Website:www.drzhana.com

• Email: [email protected] 

• Open Smarter Course

• Take advantage of a 30% discount on Dr. Zhana's eligible courses with code "JESSICA", applied to the first payment only for offers with multiple payments or subscriptions.

Connect with Jessica:

• Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast

• Website: openlatepodcast.com | jessicaesfandiary.com

• Youtube: Open Late Podcast

• What's my relationship style? Take the Open Late Quiz

• Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp

• Open Late Dictionary

• Asking for a friend (AFAF) Question Form

• Take advantage of a 30% discount on Dr. Zhana's eligible courses with code "JESSICA", applied to the first payment only for offers with multiple payments or subscriptions.

• Open Smarter Course

The product I love who support this show:

•  Honey Pot Lube and Massage Oil OPENLATE20

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In this Mini episode, Jess joins you from an Adults Only, Clothing Optional Resort just outside of Cancun, Mexico. She shares her first-hand experience and feelings about the place and the environment. She also updates you on her upcoming trips and plans. Would you like Jess to speak at the event in your hometown? Let her know! Email our team at [email protected]

In this episode of Open Late,

•     Visiting an Adult only resort

•     Embrace your fears of the unknown and explore

•     Jess’ upcoming travels: Israel, Italy, Portugal, Morocco and the UK

Connect with Jessica:

• Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast

• Website: openlatepodcast.com | jessicaesfandiary.com

• Youtube: Open Late Podcast

• What's my relationship style? Take the Open Late Quiz

• Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp

• Open Late Dictionary

• Asking for a friend (AFAF) Question Form

• Take advantage of a 30% discount on Dr. Zhana's eligible courses with code "JESSICA", applied to the first payment only for offers with multiple payments or subscriptions.

• Open Smarter Course

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Love is hard to define. But, according to the book MARRIAGE: From Miserable to Magnificent, “Love” has a multitude of meanings and expressions across relationships

In this episode of Open Late, Jess explains the different forms of love from the Greek language based on her recent reading MARRIAGE: From Miserable to Magnificent. She also provides clear examples of what each type of love means and how they can be expressed in various situations and relationships. 

Before getting into specific types of love, it is important to define love in general. The Greeks used the word “eros” where we get the word “erotic” to describe romantic or sensual attraction. In contrast, the English word “love” has been used to describe several different feelings over the years, including friendship, compassion, the love we have for parents and children, god, etc. 

By the end of this episode, you will have a better understanding of loving dynamics and how they can enrich different relationships in your life. 

In this episode of Open Late,

• How to measure success in relationship

• How love without ownership works 

• Definition of love in a non-monogamous container

• How nonmonogamy can support more authenticity and depth to your relationship 

• Forms of love (Eros, Philia, Storge, Ludus, Agape, Mania, Philautia and Pragma) and how they exist in different relationships and contexts 

Connect with Jessica:

• Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast

• Website: openlatepodcast.com | jessicaesfandiary.com

• Youtube: Open Late Podcast

• What's my relationship style? Take the Open Late Quiz

• Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp

• Open Late Dictionary

• Asking for a friend (AFAF) Question Form

• Take advantage of a 30% discount on Dr. Zhana's eligible courses with code "JESSICA", applied to the first payment only for offers with multiple payments or subscriptions.

• Open Smarter Course

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Order the Book Discussed in Today’s Episode

• MARRIAGE: Miserable to Magnificent 

"We can't really fault ourselves for having this bedrock thinking of partnership = ownership because it's been ingrained and indoctrinated in us."

"For many people who want to create a conscious relationship, we're starting to examine these “norms” (monogamy) and question the belief systems that we have."

"I think that we all measure success in our relationships in different ways, and it's important for you to define how you define success in your relationship and go from there."

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In this episode, Jess and Meghana Raveendra continue their discussion about having children and their outlook of raising them without hiding your open relationship. They examine possible challenges children may experience and whether those occurrences could affect them in a positive or negative way. Meghana shares her personal experience of having multiple partners and her opinion about long-distance relationships. We discuss how labels can cause more issues than solutions at times and how the expectation of fulfilling every one of your partner’s wants, needs and desires can be exhausting. 

In this episode of Open Late,

•     Raising children within an open relationship

•     Communal living

•     Creating safe environments for children without hiding the truth

•     Solo polyamory and long-distance relationships

•     Expectations of satisfying all your partners needs vs the reality

Connect with Maghna:

•     Instagram:@crazycurlyvagabond

•     Blog: https://meghanaraveendra.wordpress.com/

Connect with Jessica:

• Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast

• Website: openlatepodcast.com | jessicaesfandiary.com

• Youtube: Open Late Podcast

• What's my relationship style? Take the Open Late Quiz

• Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp

• Open Late Dictionary

• Asking for a friend (AFAF) Question Form

• Take advantage of a 30% discount on Dr. Zhana's eligible courses with code "JESSICA", applied to the first payment only for offers with multiple payments or subscriptions.

• Open Smarter Course

The product I love who support this show:

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“We are like a pie, with all these different slices, and these are all these various aspects of our personality and humanity, and it's very challenging for one person to bring out and interact with all those sides of us.”

"I grew up with a mental health problem in spite of my parents being monogamous."

"We can't change the world. We can't change things around us. We can only have more conversations, and be open to understanding."

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In this episode, Jess sits down with Meghana Raveendra to discuss her transition from monogamous marriage to solo polyamory. Meghana opens up about her experiences of telling her ex-husband and family and the struggles of navigating intimacy as a polyamorous woman. We spoke about the expectations and limitations that come with marriage in Indian cultures and what is needed to break the social “norms“. We touch on the importance of meeting like-minded people and the need for a supportive, open community where people can explore themselves.

In this episode of Open Late,

•     Accepting attraction to others while still married

•     Navigating non-monogamy and solo polyamory as a woman

•     Breaking cultural bias and the importance of meeting open-minded people

•     Filing for divorce and opening up to family

Connect with Maghna:

•     Instagram:@crazycurlyvagabond

•     Blog: https://meghanaraveendra.wordpress.com/

Connect with Jessica:

• Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast

• Website: openlatepodcast.com | jessicaesfandiary.com

• Youtube: Open Late Podcast

• What's my relationship style? Take the Open Late Quiz

• Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp

• Open Late Dictionary

• Asking for a friend (AFAF) Question Form

• Take advantage of a 30% discount on Dr. Zhana's eligible courses with code "JESSICA", applied to the first payment only for offers with multiple payments or subscriptions.

• Open Smarter Course

The product I love who support this show:

•  Honey Pot Lube and Massage Oil OPENLATE20

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