Open Late

Today Jess is joined by entertainer, author, and podcast host, Jessica Levity Daylover! Jessica has much to share about her experience with polyamorous parenting, holding space for your partner while they are in NRE, and her principles such as "whole ass person." This episode is jammed packed with education, entertainment, and practices you can implement into your life and relationship right away.

In this episode of Open Late

• Addressing privilege

• Parenting in a polyamorous relationship

• "Dudes with Feelings" - Safe space for men in open relationships

• Masking

Connect with Jessica:

• Instagram: Remodeled Love

• Website: Remodeled Love

• Youtube: Remodeled Love

Connect with Jessica:

• Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast

• Website: openlatepodcast.com | jessicaesfandiary.com

• Youtube: Open Late Podcast

• What's my relationship style? Take the Open Late Quiz

• Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp

• Open Late Dictionary

• Asking for a friend (AFAF) Question Form

Resources mentioned:

• "Dudes with Feelings"

• E-book: Polyamory and Parenthood

• "The Tide Always Turns" Principle

• Take advantage of a 30% discount on Dr. Zhana's eligible courses with code "JESSICA", applied to the first payment only for offers with multiple payments or subscriptions.

• Open Smarter Course

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Today Jess has a bonus episode for us where we learn what to do when "the talk" goes wrong. Not everyone will be super receptive or excited about the idea of opening up their relationship, but there are things we can do to show up for them during this time while still getting our needs and wants across. Get ready for more homework!

In this episode of Open Late

• Two different responded your partner could give

• How to respond lovingly and gracefully

• Offerings and ideas to use as stepping stones

• Questions to ask yourself to make sure you are also showing up for your partner

Connect with Jessica:

• Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast

• Website: openlatepodcast.com | jessicaesfandiary.com

• Youtube: Open Late Podcast

• What's my relationship style? Take the Open Late Quiz

• Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp

• Open Late Dictionary

• Asking for a friend (AFAF) Question Form

Resources mentioned:

• Want, Will, Won't List by That Sex Chick

• Take advantage of a 30% discount on Dr. Zhana's eligible courses with code "JESSICA", applied to the first payment only for offers with multiple payments or subscriptions.

• Open Smarter Course

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Today Jess sits down with us to discuss how to start the conversation of non-monogamy with your partner. If you don’t know where to begin or have been feeling lost, you are sure to be found after this episode. Jess shares with us a list of topics to ease into the conversation, questions to do an internal audit on yourself and relationship, and ways to explore yourselves while being committed to your partner.

In this episode of Open Late

• Actionable steps to do an internal audit of your relationship

• How to decide your relationship style

• Common themes in an aging relationship

• Non-monogamy healing couples going through or discussing divorce

Connect with Jessica:

• Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast

• Website: openlatepodcast.com | jessicaesfandiary.com

• Youtube: Open Late Podcast

• What's my relationship style? Take the Open Late Quiz

• Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp

• Open Late Dictionary

• Asking for a friend (AFAF) Question Form

• Take advantage of a 30% discount on Dr. Zhana's eligible courses with code "JESSICA", applied to the first payment only for offers with multiple payments or subscriptions.

• Open Smarter Course

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•  Honey Pot Lube and Massage Oil OPENLATE20

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Today Jess is sitting down with Irene Morning, Mind-Body Therapist, to discuss common themes of trauma in relationships and different ways it can show up emotionally and physically. As someone who is non-monogamous herself, she is wonderful guide in helping others identify their different emotions which can happen in any relationship, but tend to bubble up much quicker when in a non-monogamous relationship. Irene shares some tools that help with these issues that even Jessica brings into her relationships and self.

In this episode of Open Late

• The difference between stress and trauma

• Irene shares her origin story of non-monogamy

• Deciding how much to communicate about your relationship(s) with your partner(s)

• Different skills you need to navigate your relationship in a healthy and healing way

Connect with Irene Morning:

• Instagram: irene_morning

• Website: https://www.irenemorning.com

Resources:

• The Polyamory Paradox, Irene Morning's upcoming book and launch party, Click here for your free early copy!

Connect with Jessica:

• Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast

• Website: openlatepodcast.com | jessicaesfandiary.com

• Youtube: Open Late Podcast

• What's my relationship style? Take the Open Late Quiz

• Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp

• Open Late Dictionary

• Asking for a friend (AFAF) Question Form

• Take advantage of a 30% discount on Dr. Zhana's eligible courses with code "JESSICA", applied to the first payment only for offers with multiple payments or subscriptions.

• Open Smarter Course

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As a special treat for the one year anniversary of Open Late, our fabulous host Jessica sits down with us one on one for a solo episode. We’re celebrating by talking about how Open Late came to fruition, advice and personal experience on opening up to loved ones, and all of the ways the pod has contributed to Jessica’s personal growth!

In this episode of Open Late

• Jess shares her “why” for starting Open Late Podcast

• The personal shame that came up and kept Jess secretive about her relationship

• How online bullying was a huge breakthrough and healing process for Jess relationship

• How the DM’s and online friendships are real and give life

Resources: Shows Mentioned Today

• Double Teamed

• That Sex Chick

• Clit Talk

• Desire on Fire

• Soulfire Productions

Connect with Jessica:

• Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast

• Website: openlatepodcast.com | jessicaesfandiary.com

• Youtube: Open Late Podcast

• What's my relationship style? Take the Open Late Quiz

• Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp

• Open Late Dictionary

• Asking for a friend (AFAF) Question Form

• Take advantage of a 30% discount on Dr. Zhana's eligible courses with code "JESSICA", applied to the first payment only for offers with multiple payments or subscriptions.

• Open Smarter Course

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•  Honey Pot Lube and Massage Oil OPENLATE20

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Dr. Marie Thouin joins Jessica today to discuss her research and expertise on the topic of compersion. These two talk about the origins of everything from patriarchy to the word compersion. Dr. Marie goes into how to know if you are someone who experiences compersion, and ways to integrate it into your open relationship. She also gives insight into the process of her dissertation and what forms of research she has conducted to become an expert on the topic. She now helps people grow and transition into non-monogamous relationships through her company Love Insight.

In this episode of Open Late

• Compersion is an experience of empathy, gratitude, and fluidity

• Compersion is derived from the spiritual concept "Mudita" or empathic joy, which Buddhist's believe is one of the four paths to enlightenment

• The difference between quantitative and qualitative research and how Marie uses them both in her research and work

• How shifting to sedentary lifestyles and land ownership was one of the man sources of ownership in relationship

Connect with Dr. Marie Thouin:

• Instagram: @love_insight_dating

Resources:

• Learn more about Marie's research at www.whatiscompersion.com, or sign up for a free 30-min exploratory coaching session at www.loveinsight-dating.com!

Connect with Jessica:

• Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast

• Website: openlatepodcast.com | jessicaesfandiary.com

• Youtube: Open Late Podcast

• What's my relationship style? Take the Open Late Quiz

• Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp

• Open Late Dictionary

• Asking for a friend (AFAF) Question Form

• Take advantage of a 30% discount on Dr. Zhana's eligible courses with code "JESSICA", applied to the first payment only for offers with multiple payments or subscriptions.

• Open Smarter Course

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•  Honey Pot Lube and Massage Oil OPENLATE20

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Today we dive deep into the relationship evolution of Soul Sisters, Aimee and Ellie, meeting in New York and eventually becoming business partners. These babes share how they went from trauma bonding over men to unlearning and relearning how to be intimate with themselves and others to allow a deep and meaningful relationship. We learn all about their journeys of self discovery and taking their mask off to be true to themselves.

In this episode of Open Late

• Living a life led by desire

• The transition from monogamous to monogamish

• Healing your relationship with men

• First experiences with other women

Connect with Aimee and Ellie:

• Instagram: @elliemontgomerie | @aimeebatuski | @desireonfire

Resources:

• Pleasure Challenge Promo:

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Join The Pleasure Revolution, 5-Day Challenge, September 19-23, 2022.

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• Desire on Fire Experience Promo:

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Code: OPENLATE for $200 off the regular ticket price!

Connect with Jessica:

• Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast

• Website: openlatepodcast.com | jessicaesfandiary.com

• Youtube: Open Late Podcast

• What's my relationship style? Take the Open Late Quiz

• Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp

• Open Late Dictionary

• Asking for a friend (AFAF) Question Form

• Take advantage of a 30% discount on Dr. Zhana's eligible courses with code "JESSICA", applied to the first payment only for offers with multiple payments or subscriptions.

• Open Smarter Course

The product I love who support this show:

•  Honey Pot Lube and Massage Oil OPENLATE20

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With passion for love, relationships, and sexuality, Elizabeth Cunningham began her journey as a coach to help people discover where their mindset is limiting their potential in love and in life. 

In this episode of Open Late

• How non-monogamy is an umbrella term

• Normal conversations about what turn-ons actually are

• How politics and religion are huge a huge influence on relationships

•   How a solid relationship foundation helps non-monogamy

• How stepping outside of your relationship problems helps resolve them

Follow Elizabeth:

• IG:@elzcunningham

• Website: www.elizabethanncunningham.com

Connect with Jessica:

• Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast

• Website: openlatepodcast.com | jessicaesfandiary.com

• Youtube: Open Late Podcast

• What's my relationship style? Take the Open Late Quiz

• Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp

• Open Late Dictionary

• Asking for a friend (AFAF) Question Form

Quotes:

“People don’t have the inclination to do self-work until they’re in crisis mode.” - EC

“Make sure to talk about commitments, agreements, values and be explicit about what that means to you with your partner. “ - EC

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Dr. Tara is a highly accomplished academic, researcher and coach. She has been a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication at California State University Fullerton since she was just 33 years old.  

In this episode of Open Late

• How plant medicine helped Dr. Tara see the relationship between marriage social science, and spirituality

• Cultural differences in how women’s sexuality are viewed around the world

• How sexual communication is the strongest predictor of sexual satisfaction

• Taking accountability of your own sexual wellness

Follow Dr. Tara:

• IG: @luvbites.co

• Dr. Tara’s book: “Sexual Communication: Research in Action” 

• Website: www.luvbites.co

Connect with Jessica:

• Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast

• Website: openlatepodcast.com | jessicaesfandiary.com

• Youtube: Open Late Podcast

• What's my relationship style? Take the Open Late Quiz

• Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp

• Open Late Dictionary

• Asking for a friend (AFAF) Question Form

• Take advantage of a 30% discount on Dr. Zhana's eligible courses with code "JESSICA", applied to the first payment only for offers with multiple payments or subscriptions.

• Open Smarter Course

The product I love who support this show:

•  Honey Pot Lube and Massage Oil OPENLATE20

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Dana and the Wolf are a pop duo who have found success on TikTok. While being committed to one another, the two decided to open up their relationship. They began documenting their adventures on TikTok, and their popularity quickly skyrocketed. Sharing their openness and their experiences with dating other people has created a sense of community for their relationship and other non-monogamous relationships who watch and follow their content.

Follow Dana and the Wolf:

• TikTok: @danaandthewolf

• IG: @danaandthewolf

• Website: www.danaandthewolf.com

• Mentions:

@pursuitofpoly

@annie_undone

@polyamfam

Connect with Jessica:

• Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast

• Website: openlatepodcast.com | jessicaesfandiary.com

• Youtube: Open Late Podcast

• What's my relationship style? Take the Open Late Quiz

• Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp

• Open Late Dictionary

• Asking for a friend (AFAF) Question Form

• Take advantage of a 30% discount on Dr. Zhana's eligible courses with code "JESSICA", applied to the first payment only for offers with multiple payments or subscriptions.

• Open Smarter Course

The product I love who support this show:

•  Honey Pot Lube and Massage Oil OPENLATE20

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