Outsmart Overeating

Do you know why your diet isn't working?

Join co-coach, Steph Miramontes, and me in this week's episode of the Fat Murder Podcast as we dive into the 4 reasons why you still haven't lost the weight.

Most people choose to follow meal plans and cookie cutter diets over a more mindful approach because the "rules" and boundaries have already been created for you. This helps you feel safe and confident in your decisions, but the truth is — diets never go as planned.

If you don't take the time to understand the purpose behind what you're doing, you will be easily discouraged when times get tough.

Diets won't teach you how to navigate off the beaten path, and that's where success is ultimately determined.

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If you want long-term sustainable weight loss, you must start educating yourself on how this process can be woven into the fabric of your every day life, not just for the next 12 weeks.

Give this episode a listen for multiple ideas on how to put this into practice.

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If you're struggling with emotional, binge, or compulsive eating and you're interested in personalized coaching, apply here. Or, if you want to be the first to know when we'll be opening the doors to Unstuffed and get access to our early action bonuses, you can join the interest list.

If you want to learn how to not-only lose weight, but lose the struggle along side it, you can get started by taking the Weight Loss Psychology Quiz: Discover Your Diet Personality Type

Here's what happens when you 'should' on yourself:

1. you are putting unrealistic expectations on yourself and you're slowly becoming a ticking time bomb.

2. when this keeps happening over and over? Your normal feeling becomes 'I'm not good enough' with EVERYTHING you do.

3. thennnnn we turn to food to cope.

INSTEAD - USE THE WORD 'COULD'

It takes out the expectation and the judgment that shouldn't even be there to begin with.

We see this all of the time with our clients. Instead of focusing on how far they've come, they want to fixate on how far they have left to go.

This way of thinking becomes a negative habit-loop that keeps you stuck in a cycle of feeling not good enough and doubting your ability to EVER reach your goal.

IT'S TOXIC TO YOUR SUCCESS.

Until you take on a mentality of 'I could' or 'I will' or 'yet'…the word 'should' will keep you bouncing up and down the scale for YEARS.

Don't you owe it to yourself to celebrate how far you've come?

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If you're struggling with emotional, binge, or compulsive eating and you're interested in personalized coaching, apply here. Or, if you want to be the first to know when we'll be opening the doors to Unstuffed and get access to our early action bonuses, you can join the interest list.

If you want to learn how to not-only lose weight, but lose the struggle along side it, you can get started by taking the Weight Loss Psychology Quiz: Discover Your Diet Personality Type

After struggling with late-night cravings, dieters end up in the kitchen (despite not wanting to be in the kitchen) shoveling chips in their mouth (without wanting to shovel chips in their mouths). Their behavior is compulsive, and as much they want to stop, they just keep going.

Sound familiar?

This is the vicious cycle of night eating, and you won't be able to stop until you address the psychological reasons why you overeat. Specifically, you have to learn how daytime restriction triggers night eating, and how to correctly channel your willpower to bring this maddening cycle to an end.

Join Coach Steph Miramontes and me on today's podcast episode to learn the two-step formula that will set you free from this habit forever.

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If you're struggling with emotional, binge, or compulsive eating and you're interested in personalized coaching, apply here. Or, if you want to be the first to know when we'll be opening the doors to Unstuffed and get access to our early action bonuses, you can join the interest list.

If you want to learn how to not-only lose weight, but lose the struggle along side it, you can get started by taking the Weight Loss Psychology Quiz: Discover Your Diet Personality Type

Coach Laura is back this week discussing what I often call "the mosquitoes of dieting" - cravings! One little craving is enough to irritate you, but being attacked by a whole swarm at once makes you feel completely under attack and out of control.

In this episode, Coach Laura and I discuss:

• What causes cravings - the psychology behind your uncontrollable urges to eat.

• How your eating in secret diminishes when you learn to manage your cravings.

• Regaining control without discipline or strict rules when you feel powerless to food.

• Steps you can take today to start curbing your cravings.

Coach Laura sees so many women make the mistake of getting even stricter with their diets when they feel like they've failed, and that's just backward when you're trying to lose weight sustainably.

She is opening up a handful of spots to work with her 1:1 to those who've been dieting for 3 years or more to get rid of cravings for good. Would that be of interest to you? DM @laura.kalirai to see if you're a good fit!

Connect with Leslie:

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If you're struggling with emotional, binge, or compulsive eating and you're interested in personalized coaching, apply here. Or, if you want to be the first to know when we'll be opening the doors to Unstuffed and get access to our early action bonuses, you can join the interest list.

If you want to learn how to not-only lose weight, but lose the struggle along side it, you can get started by taking the Weight Loss Psychology Quiz: Discover Your Diet Personality Type

Sometimes we outgrow a goal, sometimes we need to trust ourselves to just keep going, and other times we get the urge to say that we are ready to walk away from the goal because it isn't important anymore; when in reality life feels hard and the goal has taken a backseat.

The skill you lack is learning to ride the waves without quitting

This is perfectionistic thinking incognito. You start to feel overwhelmed by keeping up the initial intensity of effort you had in the beginning.

Rather than asking yourself how to ride the wave, or get some extra support, you decide to justify the urge to walk away by telling the story that it just doesn't matter anymore. But will it matter in 6 months? Will it matter in a year or two?

If you know the answer is yes, stay with it and dial back the intensity of effort. If you don't know for sure, stay with it long enough to be sure.

Quitting can be a revelation and a gift. Sometimes we stay with things out of fear or guilt that we've spent so much time on that goal already. That kind of quitting comes from a place of growth. It's aligned. It usually comes after a period of growth and discomfort, not in the middle of it.

But if quitting gives you a sense of relief from the burden on your mind, but doesn't have an aligned reason, then that relief is more about avoiding the discomfort right before the real growth happens.

Connect with Leslie:

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If you're struggling with emotional, binge, or compulsive eating and you're interested in personalized coaching, apply here. Or, if you want to be the first to know when we'll be opening the doors to Unstuffed and get access to our early action bonuses, you can join the interest list.

If you want to learn how to not-only lose weight, but lose the struggle along side it, you can get started by taking the Weight Loss Psychology Quiz: Discover Your Diet Personality Type

"In a world where information is abundant and easy to access, the real advantage is knowing where to focus."

Patience implies waiting for things to improve on their own.

Persistence implies keeping your head down and continuing to work when things take longer than you expect.

"Win the moment in front of you right now."

In today's episode, Coach Steph Miramontes and I discuss:

• What is persistence? One decision at a time, shorten the gap between failure and your next best decision.

• Why persistence is better than patience alone.

• Why waiting for results won't do shit, but working for them, failing, and sticking with it will.

• How to build the skill of being persistent.

• How persistence is your #1 skill in developing habits and seeing the pay off.

…and so much more! The truth is, appreciating how far you've come and how your changes will pay off for you in the future (compound interest). Simply put, it's easier to persist when you're surrounded by like-minded people and communities.

You benefit from being around others so that you can borrow their ideas and their brain to succeed.

The long road is actually the shortcut.

Connect with Leslie: • Website • Instagram • Facebook If you're struggling with emotional, binge, or compulsive eating and you're interested in personalized coaching, apply here. Or, if you want to be the first to know when we'll be opening the doors to Unstuffed and get access to our early action bonuses, you can join the interest list. If you want to learn how to not-only lose weight, but lose the struggle along side it, you can get started by taking the Weight Loss Psychology Quiz: Discover Your Diet Personality Type

It's not what you do occasionally, but rather consistently that determines your results. If you aren't consistent, it won't matter how desperately you want to escape the graveyard of your dreams. Inconsistency is the kiss of death. But before we can become consistent in anything, we need to have clarity on WHY we are motivated to achieve a particular outcome in our lives. WHAT is driving your WHY and WHY do you give a shit? Join Coach Steph Miramontes and me as we breakdown how to identify your true WHY and how understanding this will be the motivational gift that keeps on giving. Connect with Leslie: • Website • Instagram • Facebook If you're struggling with emotional, binge, or compulsive eating and you're interested in personalized coaching, apply here. Or, if you want to be the first to know when we'll be opening the doors to Unstuffed and get access to our early action bonuses, you can join the interest list. If you want to learn how to not-only lose weight, but lose the struggle along side it, you can get started by taking the Weight Loss Psychology Quiz: Discover Your Diet Personality Type

In this episode, Coach Steph and I talked about the competitive sport known to the world as "weekend overeating", and how it is the bane of many well-intentioned Fat Murderer's existence. Topics discussed:

• Reasons that people treat the weekend differently than any other day.
• The "treat yo self" and "cheat meal" mindset and how it can severely harm your relationship with food.
• The role environment & your social circles play on keeping you stuck in the weekend eating loop from Hell.
• 3 actionable steps to STOP living for the weekend and get back in the driver's seat of your life.

Thoughts or feedback on this episode? Future topics you'd like us to discuss? Please let us know.

If you're struggling with emotional, binge, or compulsive eating and you're interested in personalized coaching, apply here. If you want to learn how to not-only lose weight, but lose the struggle along side it, you can get started by taking the Weight Loss Psychology Quiz: Discover Your Diet Personality Type Go to lesliehooper.com for more information about our different coaching packages or you can join the interest list for my signature psychology-based weight loss group coaching program, Unstuffed.

This episode is dedicated to the Unstuffed fence sitters (join the interest list here). We're opening the doors to new clients tomorrow! Coaches Steph Miramontes and Laura Kalirai join me on this week's episode of the Fat Murder Podcast to talk about the program and everything we've learned over the years. Both from a client's perspective (Laura) and from the angle of a coach and program developer. In this episode, I put it all on the table. Why some people have a mindset for success and why some will never achieve their dreams. What the most common barriers are and how we're our own worst enemies. Why we self-sabotage and what you can do, today, to get unstuck. The reality is, if you want to cultivate change in your life, you're going to have to have the courage to invest in yourself — not just financially, but through time and effort. The fastest way to accelerate results is to have a plan and someone to hold you accountable to the plan. The magic of Unstuffed is that we've created something where people get results. Give this episode a listen. Who knows, you might learn something that changes your life.

Connect with Leslie:

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If you're struggling with emotional, binge, or compulsive eating and you're interested in personalized coaching, apply here.

If you want to learn how to not-only lose weight, but lose the struggle along side it, take the Weight Loss Psychology Quiz to discover your diet personality.

REMINDER: Unstuffed will be temporarily accepting new clients from June 6th through the 9th. Get on the interest list HERE.

This week, I'm excited to share the interview of Unstuffed client, Anna, on her unique experience in the Unstuffed program.

As you know, no two dieters are the same and we all have different challenges, backgrounds, habits, lifestyles, and emotional eating struggles. Anna, a former calorie-counting dieter with a huge dose of skepticism, was kind enough to share some of her insights in the program.

Topics discussed:

• Why Anna, after watching her sister's success in the program, hesistated to join Unstuffed and how it turned out to be exactly what she needed to adopt the mindset and eating habits of a "naturally thin" person.
• Anna shares that her biggest challenge in the program incorporating trigger foods and why it's helped her remain successful today.
• At what point in the process she witnessed her relationship with food beginning to shift and how she's been able to embrace the timeline and enjoy the process.
• After 10 years of dieting,Anna talks about why this process "worked" when others never did.
• Her best piece of advice for those who are just getting started on their own journey.

Thanks again to Anna for being a lovely guest and sharing her valuable experience. Be sure to give this episode a listen and let us know what topics you'd like us to cover in the future. Connect with Leslie: • Website • Instagram • Facebook If you're struggling with emotional, binge, or compulsive eating and you're interested in personalized coaching, apply here. If you want to learn how to not-only lose weight, but lose the struggle along side it, you can get started by taking the Weight Loss Psychology Quiz: Discover Your Diet Personality Type Go to lesliehooper.com for more information about our different coaching packages.