In today’s episode, we cover the pursuit of meaning with Paul Bloom. Paul is Professor of Psychology at the University of Toronto, Professor Emeritus of Psychology at Yale University, is the author of six books including his newest book, The Sweet Spot: The Pleasures of Suffering and the Search for Meaning.

 

The pursuit of meaning is often overshadowed by the pursuit of happiness, but which one is more important to living a fulfilling life, how are suffering, meaning, and happiness related, and what steps can you take to pursue meaning in your life?

 

What to Listen For

Introduction – 0:00

How does science define suffering and why is some good while some is bad?

Why do we seek out sorrow, suffering, and pain in experiences like spicy food, roller coasters, scary movies, etc?

 

Pursuit of Happiness vs Pursuit of Meaning – 11:40

How does pain lead to an increased sense of meaning in life?

How does money influence our suffering and happiness?

Why are people in rich countries generally happy while people in poor countries have more meaning in life?

What can you do to help your children understand the difference between happiness and meaning in life?

 

A fulfilling existence is not just about positive feelings – 31:56 

Why is it important to embrace painful experiences on a regular basis?

How can you find meaning in life without thinking about it or intentionally seeking it out?

Is there a link between chasing prestige, status, and meaning?

What is the difference between pursuing pleasure and pursuing meaning?

How can anxiety prevent you from finding meaning in life and what can you do to overcome it?

 

It is unfortunate that we put so much effort into avoiding pain, discomfort, and suffering. It is understandable from a short term perspective because it is natural for anything that feels pain to avoid things that cause pain. But it is the pain, discomfort, and suffering in our lives that leads to us learning and becoming stronger, wiser, more competent humans. This is not to say you should go outside and break your arm, but that pain is inevitable, and if we can learn to embrace it and work through it, those efforts will pay off much more in the long run than simply trying to be comfortable and safe as much as possible.

 

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Resources from this Episode

The Sweet Spot: The Pleasures of Suffering and the Search for Meaning

Paul Bloom’s website

Paul Bloom on Twitter

Master Your Mindset with David Goggings | AoC Podcast

 

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