Perspective Shift with Dr. Robyne

In this soul-nourishing episode, Dr. Robyne sits down with Petra Kolber, author of The Perfection Detox, keynote speaker, and Positive Psychology Performance Coach, whose mission is to help people access the best—not perfect—parts of themselves. From opening up about her own journey with perfectionism and the stories that made her feel “not enough” to daring to try new things—like an adventure into DJing—Petra brings both wisdom and lived experience to the conversation.  

Together, they explore how you can challenge the cultural narratives that may be holding you back, loosen the grip of your inner critic, and embrace the value of making space for play. Petra also shares practical strategies for cultivating self-compassion, rewriting your story, and using social accountability to bring goals and dreams to life. 

This conversation is a permission slip to invite joy into your days, dream big, and step bravely and boldly into your own becoming. 

In this episode, you’ll learn: 

• How perfectionism and our inner critic can shape our mindset, and practical steps for quieting negative self-talk 
• The importance of small, consistent choices in designing a “good day” and, ultimately, a meaningful life 
• How comparison and cultural upbringing can shape our beliefs about what is possible in our lives, and how to overcome unhelpful, ingrained stories 
• How to move from rumination to reflection using curiosity and self-compassion 
• The power of play, joy, and following your curiosities—even if you think you’re “too busy” for fun 
• How social accountability can help you follow through on your dreams and creative goals 
• It's okay to want “more” and how ambition and gratitude can happily coexist 

Additional Resources: 

• The Perfection Detox: Tame Your Inner Critic, Live Bravely, and Unleash Your Joy by Petra Kolber  
• Byron Katie 
• Dr. James Rouse 

Get in Touch with Petra: 

• Website: https://www.petrakolber.com/  
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/petrakolber/  
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/petrakolber/ 

Get in Touch with Dr. Robyne:  

• Watch episodes on YouTube 
• Get Dr. Robyne's book: Calm Within The Storm 
• Get Dr. Robyne’s book: Stress Wisely 
• Join Dr. Robyne’s Stress Wisely Labs 
• Follow Dr. Robyne on Instagram 
• Follow Dr. Robyne's LinkedIn 
• Visit Drrobyne.ca 
• Sign up to receive new episodes to your inbox every week 

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In this special episode of Resiliency Redefined, Dr. Robyne welcomes her first-ever guest—her son, Hunter Hanley. This conversation opens a window into the lives of teenagers and young adults, shining a light on what they really need from parents and supporters. Together, they explore motivation, goal setting, sports, and technology, while also reflecting on the importance of finding your passion, building routines, and showing up for the people who matter most. 

If you’re a parent or supporter, this conversation is filled with practical wisdom on supporting growth, embracing persistence, and building meaningful connections that last. 

In this episode, you’ll learn: 

• How finding common interests with your child and showing an interest in theirs can strengthen your relationship 
• Tips for connecting with teenagers, especially during times when they’re feeling withdrawn or overwhelmed 
• Practical strategies for setting healthy boundaries around technology and cell phone use within the family 
• How parents can support their teenagers as they transition to post-secondary or independent life 
• How routines, sports, and extracurricular activities can help young people build resilience and life skills 
• The importance of shared experiences and making space for fun 
• How consistency, encouragement, and presence go a long way, even if teens respond with few words or seem distant 

Additional Resources: 

• America’s Team: The Gambler and His Cowboys 
• On Purpose with Jay Shetty 

Get in Touch with Dr. Robyne:  

• Watch episodes on YouTube 
• Get Dr. Robyne's book: Calm Within The Storm 
• Get Dr. Robyne’s book: Stress Wisely 
• Join Dr. Robyne’s Stress Wisely Labs 
• Follow Dr. Robyne on Instagram 
• Follow Dr. Robyne's LinkedIn 
• Visit Drrobyne.ca 
• Sign up to receive new episodes to your inbox every week 

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How do we support our kids—and ourselves—during the back-to-school transition? In this episode of Resiliency Redefined, Dr. Robyne reflects on how to navigate the chaos of mornings, the pressure of grades, and the letting-go moments of big transitions. She shares practical tips for building routines, fostering independence, and balancing future goals with being present in the now. 

Whether you’re parenting littles, middles, or bigs, this episode is filled with strategies, stories, and encouragement to help your children thrive while remembering that your well-being matters, too. 

Additional Resources: 

• Dr. Robyne’s Psychology Today article: The Essential Role of Self-Care for Parents and Supporters 

Get in Touch with Dr. Robyne:  

• Watch episodes on YouTube 
• Get Dr. Robyne's book: Calm Within The Storm 
• Get Dr. Robyne’s book: Stress Wisely 
• Join Dr. Robyne’s Stress Wisely Labs 
• Follow Dr. Robyne on Instagram 
• Follow Dr. Robyne's LinkedIn 
• Visit Drrobyne.ca 
• Sign up to receive new episodes to your inbox every week 

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When stress or discomfort shows up, how do you respond? In this episode, Dr. Robyne breaks down four common coping strategies—escaping, avoiding, ignoring, and delaying—and reveals why every behavior serves a purpose. You’ll discover how to spot your own patterns, recognize whether they’re helping or hindering your well-being and long-term goals, and shift from autopilot to intentional action. Plus, a reminder that rest and recovery are vital parts of resilience. 

Additional Resources: 

• Previous episode on accountability: Accountability Starts with You 
• Previous episode on having difficult conversations: How to Have a Difficult Conversation 

Get in Touch with Dr. Robyne:  

• Watch episodes on YouTube 
• Get Dr. Robyne's book: Calm Within The Storm 
• Get Dr. Robyne’s book: Stress Wisely 
• Join Dr. Robyne’s Stress Wisely Labs 
• Follow Dr. Robyne on Instagram 
• Follow Dr. Robyne's LinkedIn 
• Visit Drrobyne.ca 
• Sign up to receive new episodes to your inbox every week 

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In today’s episode, Dr. Robyne explores the surprising reasons why we sometimes get in our own way and limit our own success. From external pressures like Tall Poppy Syndrome, which can lead us to dim our light, to internal drivers like our need for control, she reveals how self-sabotaging behaviors often show up as protective responses to fear, judgment, and uncertainty.

You’ll learn how to spot the practiced excuses that hold you back, why the right supporters are essential for growth, and how to reignite your belief in your own capability. This episode is an invitation to get your hopes up, embrace your greatness, and step boldly toward your goals. 

Additional Resources: 

• Previous episode on the knowing-doing gap: Bridging the Knowing-Doing Gap 
• Theodore Roosevelt’s “The Man in the Arena” speech referenced in Daring Greatly by Brené Brown 
• A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson 

Get in Touch with Dr. Robyne:  

• Watch episodes on YouTube 
• Get Dr. Robyne's book: Calm Within The Storm 
• Get Dr. Robyne’s book: Stress Wisely 
• Join Dr. Robyne’s Stress Wisely Labs 
• Follow Dr. Robyne on Instagram 
• Follow Dr. Robyne's LinkedIn 
• Visit Drrobyne.ca 
• Sign up to receive new episodes to your inbox every week 

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In this episode of Resiliency Redefined, Dr. Robyne explores how easily our self-esteem can become entangled with outside validation—and what it takes to return to a more grounded, steady sense of worth. She unpacks the difference between genuine and contingent self-esteem and examines the many ways we learn to measure our value. Dr. Robyne guides you through a process for recognizing when your self-worth is being shaped by external forces, interrupting old narratives, and building a new foundation rooted in self-trust and inner alignment. 

Additional Resources: 

• Previous episode on accountability and improving self-esteem: Accountability Starts with You 
• Dr. Gabor Maté 
• Dr. Robyne’s book: Calm Within the Storm 
• Dr. Robyne’s Psychology Today article: Letting Go of the Chase and Reclaiming Your Self-Worth 

Get in Touch with Dr. Robyne:  

• Watch episodes on YouTube 
• Get Dr. Robyne's book: Calm Within The Storm 
• Get Dr. Robyne’s book: Stress Wisely 
• Join Anchor Labs, a collection of digital courses by Dr. Robyne 
• Join Dr. Robyne’s Stress Wisely Labs 
• Follow Dr. Robyne on Instagram 
• Follow Dr. Robyne's LinkedIn 
• Visit Drrobyne.ca 
• Sign up to receive new episodes to your inbox every week 

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Self-care can feel hard in a world that rewards doing more, faster, and without rest. Between the pressure to push through and the endless noise about what self-care should look like, it’s easy to lose sight of what actually restores us. 

In this episode, Dr. Robyne cuts through the confusion and challenges the myths surrounding self-care and recovery. She shares five guiding principles to help you reclaim self-care as a consistent practice that’s deeply restorative and uniquely yours.

With relatable stories and practical takeaways, this conversation invites you to meet yourself where you are, let your practices evolve with you, and trust your own wisdom about what helps you feel grounded, regulated, and well-resourced to show up fully for your life and work. 

Additional Resources: 

• Previous episode on self-care and guilt: Breaking the Guilt Cycle and Rewriting the Rules of Self-Care for Women 
• Previous episode on operating above or below the line: Accountability Starts with You 
• The Double Shift Podcast, hosted by Dani Kagan 

Get in Touch with Dr. Robyne:  

• Watch episodes on YouTube 
• Get Dr. Robyne's book: Calm Within The Storm 
• Get Dr. Robyne’s book: Stress Wisely 
• Join Anchor Labs, a collection of digital courses by Dr. Robyne 
• Join Dr. Robyne’s Stress Wisely Labs 
• Follow Dr. Robyne on Instagram 
• Follow Dr. Robyne's LinkedIn 
• Visit Drrobyne.ca 
• Sign up to receive new episodes to your inbox every week 

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In today’s episode, Dr. Robyne unpacks what it really means to hold ourselves—and others—accountable. She begins with the foundation of self-accountability: knowing your values, defining your personal “line,” and recognizing when you’re operating above or below it. Through relatable stories and honest reflection, she explores how clarity, integrity, and well-expressed expectations shape how we lead, parent, and show up for ourselves and others, and she highlights how consistent follow-through builds lasting self-trust. 

Additional Resources: 

• Previous episode on having difficult conversations: How to Have a Difficult Conversation 

Get in Touch with Dr. Robyne:  

• Watch episodes on YouTube 
• Get Dr. Robyne's book: Calm Within The Storm 
• Get Dr. Robyne’s book: Stress Wisely 
• Join Anchor Labs, a collection of digital courses by Dr. Robyne 
• Join Dr. Robyne’s Stress Wisely Labs 
• Follow Dr. Robyne on Instagram 
• Follow Dr. Robyne's LinkedIn 
• Visit Drrobyne.ca 
• Sign up to receive new episodes to your inbox every week 

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In this episode of Resiliency Redefined, Dr. Robyne invites us to pause and reflect on how we can slow down and make what matters most truly matter—even amidst the relentless busyness and pressures of everyday life. She unpacks societal expectations that can leave us feeling guilty, exhausted, or not “enough,” and offers gentle, practical ways to shift from chasing perfection to cultivating presence. Through personal stories and grounded insights, she explores how simple actions like keeping promises, aligning with our values, showing kindness, and appreciating the small moments can create a lasting impact. 

Additional Resources: 

• Legacy by James Kerr 
• Dr. Robyne’s Psychology Today article: The Power of Little Things: How to Find Joy in the Everyday 

Get in Touch with Dr. Robyne:  

• Watch episodes on YouTube 
• Get Dr. Robyne's book: Calm Within The Storm 
• Get Dr. Robyne’s book: Stress Wisely 
• Join Anchor Labs, a collection of digital courses by Dr. Robyne 
• Join Dr. Robyne’s Stress Wisely Labs 
• Follow Dr. Robyne on Instagram 
• Follow Dr. Robyne's LinkedIn 
• Visit Drrobyne.ca 
• Sign up to receive new episodes to your inbox every week 

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Do you ever feel like the endless noise and negative self-talk are getting in the way of your success and well-being? In today’s episode, Dr. Robyne unpacks how unhelpful mental noise and repeated thought patterns can quietly shape our beliefs, energy, and sense of self. She explores how worry becomes background noise, why beliefs are often just well-worn thoughts, and how curiosity can loosen the grip of negative thinking. You’ll learn how building habits of mind can help restore clarity—and discover simple questions to filter your inner dialogue, stay on course, and focus on what matters most. 

Additional Resources: 

• Previous episode on self-talk and mental pathways: The Right Insight at the Right Time: Finding Your Unlock 
• Dr. Robyne’s Psychology Today article: What’s Yours to Carry? Sorting Through the Noise of Worry 
• Dr. Robyne’s Psychology Today article: Rewire Your Brain and Create a Kinder Inner Dialogue 

Get in Touch with Dr. Robyne:  

• Watch episodes on YouTube 
• Get Dr. Robyne's book: Calm Within The Storm 
• Get Dr. Robyne’s book: Stress Wisely 
• Join Anchor Labs, a collection of digital courses by Dr. Robyne 
• Join Dr. Robyne’s Stress Wisely Labs 
• Follow Dr. Robyne on Instagram 
• Follow Dr. Robyne's LinkedIn 
• Visit Drrobyne.ca 
• Sign up to receive new episodes to your inbox every week 

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