Pillow Talks

Are you a woman who wants sex more than your male partner? All we see on TV, movies, and social media is men wanting it more, so if that’s not the case in your relationship, you may feel like something is horribly wrong.

But after polling our community, we found that almost half of male-female relationships have this dynamic! That has even been the case for us in seasons of our relationship.

We’re here to remove the shame, show you how normal it is for the woman to want sex more often, and tell you what to do to balance your libidos. Because mismatched sex drives - regardless of who has the higher drive - don’t need to be a dealbreaker.

In this episode you’ll learn:

• Real life responses from men and women about how higher female libido affects them
• The 4 ways couples accidentally make things worse
• The single most overlooked step that could make a world of difference

Links & Resources:

Guide:  Art Of Initiation (https://shop.vmtherapy.com/the-art-of-initiation/)

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Today we’re putting Xander in the hot seat and making him answer all your burning questions about male behavior. Why do they hook boobs? Why are they such big babies when they’re sick? And of course, the age-old question: what's the deal with their marathon bathroom visits? Get ready for lots of laughter and some eye-opening insights.

Links & Resources:

Course:  Art Of Initiation (https://shop.vmtherapy.com/the-art-of-initiation/)

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!

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Jealousy is one of the most difficult emotions to face, and it feels even trickier when it comes up in your romantic relationship. It’s such a common feeling to have, but it’s also so challenging to even acknowledge.

We asked our community to share what stirs up jealousy in their relationship. Four core themes emerged: work, friendships, sex, and attraction to others. We work through these real-life examples and give you a powerful toolkit for grappling with jealousy in your relationship.

Most importantly, you’ll learn to pay attention to what jealousy is really trying to tell you. After listening to this episode, you’ll feel empowered to face your feelings head on. And you might be surprised by what you learn when you do...

Links & Resources:

Challenge:  The Sex Challenge (https://shop.vmtherapy.com/30-day-sex-challenge-evergreen/)

Challenge:   The Connection Challenge (http://vmtherapy.com/connection/)

Course:   Art Of Initiation (https://shop.vmtherapy.com/the-art-of-initiation/)

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!

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Foreplay? More like the BEST way! Today we’re talking about the part of sex that never gets the credit it deserves - foreplay!

Foreplay is the number one way to get your partner to orgasm, and one of the best ways to create more intimacy, connection, and excitement. With all those benefits, why aren’t we doing it more often? 88% of men and 59% of women say they want more! But 67% of women feel like they’re “too needy” for wanting foreplay, 56% say they struggle to receive it, and 62% say foreplay feels boring or awkward. With numbers like that, we know you can relate!

In today’s episode, we lay out the 5 things we’re all getting wrong about foreplay, how to have more, and how to make it better than ever.

Links & Resources:

Guide:  The Ultimate Foreplay Guides (http://vmtherapy.com/foreplay/)

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!

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Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode118

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What do you assume or secretly suspect about us? Or what have you simply been curious about?

In this episode, we’re diving headfirst into the assumptions you sent our way after we posted those questions on Instagram. From light-hearted and sexy to profoundly personal, your submissions held nothing back, and we’re sharing our vulnerable and honest truths! Our goal? To make you chuckle, perhaps catch you off guard (like we were when reading some of these), and give you a peek behind the curtain.

Join us for a hilarious episode that will challenge your assumptions and have you shouting, "I did not see that coming!”

Links & Resources:

Our NYT Bestselling Book: Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life

(https://sextalksbook.com/)

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!

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Do you ever find yourself mid-sentence with your partner and realize that they’re not even remotely paying attention to you?

No one wants to feel like they’re competing with a device for their partner's attention, but it’s not like you can just toss the damn thing out.

If you’re frustrated with your partner’s phone usage, tune in to learn practical ways to establish better phone routines and deepen your connection irl with your partner.

Links & Resources:

Guide:  The Connection Challenge (https://shop.vmtherapy.com/30-day-connection-challenge-cs/)

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!

Thanks Cozy Earth. CozyEarth.com (http://CozyEarth.com) and get up to 35% off when you use the code PILLOWTALKS

Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode116

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How do you maintain intimacy while grieving?

We’ve had many requests to create this podcast episode, and to be honest, we resisted because the topic felt so heavy. But then we experienced our own loss - our beloved companion, Winston the pug. Suddenly, we were trying to figure out how to navigate sex and grief in our own relationship.

In this incredibly vulnerable episode, we share our experience of mourning. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, but we hope our story can help others on the same path. With insights from our community, we explore various approaches to intimacy, recognizing the complexities and intensity of this experience. Tune in to discover how to honor individual grieving processes while finding solace and connection amidst the sorrow. We may be tearful and still in the healing process, but there is still joy to be had, and we’re here to help you find it.

Links & Resources:

Course:  Art Of Initiation (https://shop.vmtherapy.com/the-art-of-initiation/) 

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!

Thanks Dipsea. Get a 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/pillow (http://DipseaStories.com/pillow).

Go to Zocdoc.com/pillow (http://Zocdoc.com/pillow) and download the Zocdoc app to sign-up for FREE and book a top-rated doctor.

Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode115

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Has your partner ever done or said something painful, leaving you wondering, “Can we come back from this?” Sometimes you need an outside party to either guide you and your partner through moving past the hurt, or to validate that the relationship can’t survive the blow.

Prepare yourself to hear some pretty spicy takes as we examine each situation and get real about when to talk it out, when to just plain walk, and how to know the difference. Because while we fully support communication and forgiveness, we also advocate the enforcement of boundaries, intention, and respect.

Tune in to the episode, then meet us over on IG and let us know if you agree with our advice or have your own hot take!

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!

Babbel.com/pillow (http://Babbel.com/pillow) for 55% off your subscription.

Thanks Cozy Earth. Go to CozyEarth.com (http://CozyEarth.com) and get up to 35% off when you use the code PILLOWTALKS

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Want to unlock the secrets to great pregnancy sex? We know, your body feels alien to you, your hormones are all over the place, and somehow all the things that used to work in the bedroom just don’t feel the same anymore. But don’t worry, it’s still possible to keep the fires burning while pregnant.

We’re here to guide you through the most common challenges couples face during this extraordinary journey. We’re talking about things like body image issues, fears of hurting the baby, and libido changes.

Grab your partner and tune in together, because this episode will leave you feeling ready to reconnect!

Links & Resources:

Challenge:  The Sex Challenge (https://shop.vmtherapy.com/30-day-sex-challenge-vol-2-cs/) 

Course:  Art Of initiation (https://shop.vmtherapy.com/the-art-of-initiation/) 

Course:  Next level Intercourse (https://shop.vmtherapy.com/next-level-intercourse/) 

Guide:  Ultimate Foreplay Guides (https://shop.vmtherapy.com/foreplay-guides-2022/) 

Masterclass:  Bring Your Sex Life Back To Life (https://shop.vmtherapy.com/byslbtl-2/) 

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!

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Compliments. They sound like such a small act but they can make such a huge difference in the intimacy of your relationship.

But for most couples, compliments are surprisingly hard to come by! Maybe you’ve never been good at receiving them, so now your partner doesn’t feel it’s worth the effort. Maybe your family never gave compliments when you were growing up, so you’re uncomfortable with them. Or maybe you’ve simply forgotten how sweet they can be!

We’re here to help you figure out what your partner wants to hear, and how to move past the blockages that leave you tongue tied. Our tips will create little moments of happiness and gratitude in your relationship, and remind you what you love about each other. This compliment roadmap is also the perfect soundtrack to play in the background, allowing your partner to "accidentally" overhear our tips.

Warning: this episode can cause butterflies, excessive kisses, and possible trips to the nearest bedroom.

Links & Resources:

Course:  The Connection Challenge (http://vmtherapy.com/connection/) 

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!

Go to GreenChef.com/pillow50 and use code pillow50 to get 50% off plus free shipping.

Thanks Dipsea. Get a 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/pillow.

Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode112

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