What do you do when you've created a ritual, tried it a few times, and it just isn't sticking?

Maybe the answer isn't to try harder.

Y'all, life has been a little bit of crazy town around here lately. Back-to-school schedules, early morning rehearsals, sick kids, health stuff, travel, speaking engagements, work, and all the beautiful opportunities I've been dreaming about for years are happening at the same time.

And through all of it, I've been holding onto my rituals.

But a conversation with one of my clients recently made me realize something: We don't show up in exactly the same state every day. And if our current state changes, the state we're trying to move toward might change too.

So why would we expect one ritual to work every single time?

In this episode, I'm introducing the idea of a ritual menu: a small collection of rituals you can choose from depending on what you actually need in that moment.

Instead of immediately deciding what your perfect ritual should look like, I want you to experiment. Spend some time asking yourself two questions: What is my current state? And what is my desired state?

Pay attention. Collect some data. Look for the patterns that emerge.

You might discover that you don't need one perfect end-of-the-workday ritual. You need three or four options that help you move from where you are to where you want to be.

Because the best ritual isn't necessarily the most beautiful, elaborate, or perfectly consistent one.

The best ritual is the ritual you'll actually do.

As we wrap up this month of exploring rituals, I hope you'll keep experimenting, keep playing, and give yourself permission to create practices that work with your real life instead of demanding that your real life conform to them.

And if you've been living in crazy town lately too, I hope your rituals are helping you hold on loosely, hurry slowly, and grit gently.

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What if the moments that matter most aren't the ones you planned for?

Maybe it's the cup of tea at the end of the day. The question your kid asks right before the light goes out. The breath you take before doing something hard. The few minutes you spend with your planner before the day begins.

This month, we've been talking all about rituals: what they are, what they're not, and how they can help us move through our lives with more intention. But today, I want to talk about where rituals actually live.

And for most of us, that's right in the middle of an ordinary Tuesday.

When you're doing big things, ordinary moments can start to feel like obstacles to get through. Breakfast becomes a logistics problem. The commute becomes dead time. Bedtime becomes another task to complete. You move from work to home to family without ever really marking where one role ended and another began.

And eventually, you can look up and realize you've been moving through your life without really being present for it.

In this episode, we're exploring how rituals can help us meet those ordinary moments differently. I'm sharing three places where a simple ritual can be especially powerful: the beginning of your work, the transitions between your roles, and the end of your day.

We'll also talk about savoring, why rituals can help make time more visible, and how repeated ordinary moments can accumulate meaning over time.

The goal isn't to cram more rituals into your already full life. It's to notice what's already there and decide which moments deserve more of your attention.

So instead of asking, “When will I have time for more meaningful moments?” I want you to ask a different question:

What ordinary moment in my life deserves more of my presence?

You don't need a retreat, a perfect morning, or a clear calendar.

You need one ordinary moment you already have and a decision to meet it differently.

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What if the most powerful thing you did today was make a cup of tea?

Not because tea is magic or because you're following some elaborate morning routine you saw on Instagram, but because you make it the same way, in the same mug, and use those five minutes to reconnect with yourself before opening a single email.

That's a ritual.

This month, we've been exploring what rituals are, the myths that can get in the way of them, and how ordinary moments can become meaningful ones. Today, we're getting practical: How do you actually build a ritual that lasts?

Because life gets lifey, y'all.

Illness happens. Travel happens. Deadlines happen. Your kids need more from you. And when a meaningful practice falls apart during one of those seasons, it's really easy to decide that you weren't disciplined enough or that you somehow failed.

But a sustainable ritual isn't one you perform perfectly. It's one you keep choosing, even when its form needs to change.

In this episode, I'm walking you through seven moves for creating a sustainable ritual. We'll talk about starting with the transition you actually need help making, attaching your ritual to something reliable, keeping it small, adding meaning and sensory cues, creating a clear beginning and ending, actively participating in the ritual, and protecting enough flexibility for it to survive real life.

Because your ritual doesn't need 72 steps or 45 uninterrupted minutes to matter.

The question isn't whether you can build the perfect ritual for your best week. It's whether you can create something meaningful enough and flexible enough to support you through the hard ones, too.

So as you think about your own rituals, ask yourself: What are you trying to mark, protect, or return to?

And what would it look like to create a ritual that supports the life you're actually living?

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What happens when the practice that's supposed to support you becomes one more thing you feel like you have to get right?

This month, we're talking all about rituals and how they can help us do big things without losing ourselves. But if you're anything like me, you might hear about a meaningful practice, immediately turn it into a system, and then start measuring yourself against how well you're doing it. Suddenly, the thing that was supposed to help you feel grounded becomes another place where you feel behind.

So in this episode, we're busting some of the biggest myths about rituals.

Do rituals have to be religious? Elaborate? Performed consistently? Do they actually improve performance? And if you miss your ritual, have you somehow ruined it?

We're digging into what research actually tells us about rituals, why a meaningful ritual should remain flexible and chosen, and how to tell when a supportive practice is starting to become another demand. I'm also sharing one of my favorite approaches for making rituals work in real life: creating one-minute, five-minute, and 30-minute versions so your ritual can flex with you when life gets messy.

Because your ritual is not a streak. It's not a moral test. And its value doesn't depend on whether it makes you more productive.

Sometimes a ritual helps you focus. Sometimes it marks an ending. Sometimes it helps you celebrate, grieve, rest, or simply notice your life while you're living it.

So here's the question I want you to carry with you:

Is this ritual supporting you?

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What if the thing that helps you do big things without losing yourself isn't another productivity system?

What if it's a ritual?

September is here, and with a new month comes a new theme on Plan Goal Plan! This month, we're exploring rituals and how small, meaningful actions can help us stay present, navigate transitions, and remain connected to ourselves while pursuing big goals.

In this episode, I'm breaking down what a ritual actually is and, just as importantly, what it isn't. We'll explore the differences between rituals, routines, habits, ceremonies, and compulsions, along with some fascinating research on why humans use rituals to create meaning, regulate emotions, navigate uncertainty, and mark transitions.

But we're also bringing this back to planning and goal setting, because ambitious women are really good at moving forward. We finish one task and move to the next. We accomplish a goal and immediately start chasing another. Work bleeds into home, one role bleeds into another, and sometimes we move so quickly that we forget to actually experience our own lives.

Ritual gives us another option.

A ritual doesn't have to involve candles, incense, or an elaborate morning routine. It can be as simple as closing your laptop at the end of the workday, drinking tea from a particular cup, walking across campus without rushing, or asking yourself what you're willing to leave unfinished until tomorrow.

What matters isn't complexity. It's meaning.

So as you move toward your next big thing, I want you to notice where you're moving so quickly that you no longer feel present to your own life.

That might just be where a ritual belongs.

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Purpose can be inspiring, motivating, and meaningful... but it can also become pressure, obligation, or even something other people use to exploit our care.

So after spending this month questioning purpose, I'm finally asking: What if purpose isn't something we find once and spend the rest of our lives following? What if purpose is something we practice?

In this episode, I'm exploring a more nuanced way to think about purpose as something we create and understand through our behaviors, choices, goals, and everyday actions. Instead of asking only “What is my purpose?” I want us to start asking “What is this sense of purpose inviting me to do?”

We're talking about how to audit your calendar for purpose, recognize the goals you're currently optimizing for, and determine whether the way you're actually spending your time reflects what you say matters most. Because you can flawlessly execute a goal and still realize that goal isn't aligned with the life you want to build.

As August comes to a close and we step into that fresh-start energy of a new school year and fall routines, this is your invitation to get curious. What does your calendar say you value? What practices keep you connected to your purpose? And where might someone else's must be taking up space that belongs to something that matters more?

Purpose doesn't have to be one perfect answer you uncover and carry forever. It can evolve as you do.

Maybe the goal isn't to finally find your purpose.

Maybe it's to keep practicing it.

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What if the struggle you're in right now isn't pulling you away from your purpose... but actually helping you find it?

In this episode, I'm joined by TJ Warren, a superhero-loving educator whose journey to meaningful work included 54 job applications, ten months of searching, getting let go from the post office, and eventually discovering that his own purpose was helping other people pursue theirs.

Together, we're exploring what it actually means to pursue purpose rather than waiting around for it to magically appear. We talk about why your purpose doesn't have to be your profession, how struggle can reveal parts of ourselves we might never discover otherwise, and why being good at something isn't arrogant when you're using those gifts to serve others.

We also dig into:

Maybe you don't need to find one perfect purpose. Maybe purpose is something you pursue, practice, and continue refining as you learn more about yourself and the world around you.

So I'll leave you with TJ's question: What will make you put on the cape this month?

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Have you ever achieved the thing you worked SO hard for... only to wonder, Is this it?

This month on Plan Goal Plan, we're talking about purpose. Last week, we explored what happens when purpose becomes pressure. This week, we're flipping that conversation around: What happens when purpose delivers exactly what it promised, you achieve the big goal, and somehow it still doesn't feel like enough?

In this episode, I'm digging into why achievement doesn't always create the fulfillment we expect and why our instinct to immediately set the next goal might actually keep us stuck in the same cycle.

We're talking about impact bias, the messy middle, and what happens when we become so focused on proving we can do something that we forget to ask whether we still want it. I also share four questions to help you reflect on your last goal, understand the trade-offs you made to achieve it, and decide what actually deserves your energy next.

Because being good at something doesn't mean you have to keep doing it. And feeling uncertain after a big accomplishment doesn't mean something has gone wrong.

Maybe this season isn't asking you to achieve more. Maybe it's asking you to get curious about what you actually want.

If you're standing between the goal you accomplished and whatever comes next, friend, this one's for you.

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Purpose is supposed to bring clarity. So why does it sometimes feel so heavy?

This month, we're exploring the idea of purpose, and we're starting with a trap that many high-achieving women fall into without even realizing it: when purpose stops serving as a compass and starts becoming a measuring stick.

In this episode, we're unpacking what happens when meaningful work quietly turns into internal pressure—and why rest alone doesn't fix the exhaustion that comes from constantly feeling like you haven't done enough.

Together, we explore:

One of my favorite ideas from this episode is that purpose should function as a compass, and not a scorecard.

Because when every day becomes a test of whether you've done enough, even meaningful work can become exhausting.

Maybe the invitation isn't to care less.

Maybe it's to build a life where your purpose has a place, but it isn't the only place you find yourself. 

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You finally have a free afternoon...

...and somehow you spend it reorganizing your email, researching the "best" way to rest, or planning next month's goals.

If that sounds familiar, you're not alone.

In this final episode of our July series on rest, we're exploring one of the biggest traps high-achievers fall into: trying to optimize recovery instead of actually experiencing it.

Because the same strengths that help us succeed—planning, organizing, measuring progress, solving problems—can quietly keep us stuck in burnout when we apply them to rest.

In this episode, we explore:

As August approaches and routines begin to shift, I also share five simple practices to help you protect your energy, navigate transition with intention, and remember that rest isn't the opposite of ambition—it's what makes ambition sustainable.

Because a well-rested woman isn't less capable. She's more fully herself

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