Play Therapy Parenting: Real Parenting Questions Answered by a Child Therapist

As parents, we all want our children to believe in themselves with confidence. But sometimes, even when we continue to reassure them, they lack the self-trust to tackle hard tasks or prove that they are capable. I got an email from a pitching coach (my son is a pitcher) discussing his take on what builds confidence in kids. He thinks that confidence comes from evidence of improvement, which aligns well with the play therapy philosophy. In this episode, I discuss the following topics:

• Battle between the head and heart
• The identity the child is working to establish
• What is the process of confidence coming from evidence

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In this episode, I discuss the dangerous intersection of social media and drug culture. Snapchat and Instagram are the two most common platforms for advertising and selling drugs. According to recent statistics, the overdose mortality rate for teenagers increased by 94% from 2019 to 2020, with at least one in four teens acknowledging that they have seen drugs advertised and sold on social media. We must be informed parents and vigilant in monitoring our children's social media activity to prevent them from falling victim to the underground drug world. Follow me on Twitter: @thekidcounselor Podcast HQ: https://www.playtherapyparenting.com/ My Newsletter Signup: https://www.playtherapyparenting.com/newsletter/ My Podcast Partner, Gabb Wireless: https://www.playtherapyparenting.com/gabb/ Links from this episode:

• Teens are using emoji and secret lingo to find illegal drugs. How parents can crack the code

One of the parents at my center sent me an article by Deborah Farmer Kris titled: "Your middle school child is the most amazing person." I loved this author's perspective on middle schoolers and wanted to give a play therapy perspective. The author makes four points in the article that I add play therapy-based insight on:

• Middle schoolers are a jumble of contradictions
• Let your face light up
• Don't take their outbursts personally
• Remember that your child is listening

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• Your middle school child is the most amazing person

In this episode, I answer the most asked question at my counseling center... "How do I deal with timesharing". In it, I provide practical advice and strategies for co-parenting well in a timeshare situation, focusing on creating a stable, predictable routine for the child, finding the right balance between structure and flexibility, and prioritizing the child's well-being. Specific topics I discuss are:

• Co-parenting well in a timeshare situation
• Length of time between changes
• Having flexibility for the child's benefit

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In this episode, we receive an email from Mike, a loving father who feels disconnected from his 9-year-old daughter. Mike has been listening to the podcast and feels that he may have contributed to his daughter's recent struggles with anger, negative self-esteem, and problems with her friends. I think everything points to a relationship fracture. So I talk about that and what to do. Mike also asks me "Can I fix it?" and the answer is yes, absolutely. Finally, I talk about his daughter's big emotions Please check the links below, as I've linked to other podcasts that will give you more understanding and explain some of the techniques I talk about. Follow me on Twitter: @thekidcounselor Podcast HQ: https://www.playtherapyparenting.com/ My Newsletter Signup: https://www.playtherapyparenting.com/newsletter/ My Podcast Partner, Gabb Wireless: https://www.playtherapyparenting.com/gabb/ Links from this episode:

• The Dad Episode! – 4 Tips For Dads Implementing Play Therapy Skills.
• A "Revolutionary" Thing: Empathizing And Listening To Your Kids – A Dad's Story
• The Importance of Learning to "BE" With Your Kid
• The Four "Pillars" of Play Therapy
• Overview Of Reflective Responding
• Reflective Responding In Play Therapy

I was struck by a story I read the other day about a teen who was heavily addicted to social media, and he went on a complete, cold-turkey detox away from social media. In this episode, I talk about the following topics:

• The story of an addicted teen
• The addictive nature of social media
• What a complete detox is like and the results

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In a recent Pew Research survey, mental health emerged as the top concern for parents regarding their children. This was a little surprising to me, considering all the other issues that face parents and kids, such as drugs, alcohol, teenage pregnancy, getting in trouble with the law, and bullying. In this episode, I discuss the following topics:

• The list of concerns, and why mental health tops this list
• The concern about the suicide rates of kids
• How social media correlates with the decline in mental health
• What steps we can take as parents to protect our kids

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One of the podcast listeners, Josh, emailed me and asked how to best connect with their baby. Play therapy principles still apply in relationship building with babies and infants! So in this episode, I'll go into how to connect and bond with your infant in three ways: Physical, Emotional, and Engagement. Follow me on Twitter: @thekidcounselor Podcast HQ: https://www.playtherapyparenting.com/ My Newsletter Signup: https://www.playtherapyparenting.com/newsletter/ My Podcast Partner, Gabb Wireless: https://www.playtherapyparenting.com/gabb/

As a child therapist, I'm on the front lines of the damage that devices and social media are doing to our kids. The worst of all, in my opinion, is TikTok. There is nothing redeemable about TikTok, especially in light of what it's doing to our teens and young adults. In this episode, I talk about the following topics related to TikTok:

• The fact that China owns TikTok and what that means
• The dangerous content for kids
• The warnings that are coming out about TikTok

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In this episode, I discuss the following topics:

• Three types of consequences: Natural, Related, and Unrelated consequences
• What changes behavior in children
• The goal of discipline