Most people think the toughest part of polyamory is jealousy. But according to Richie, it’s actually… logistics. Yep, the calendar.

After a life-changing cancer journey with his partner, Richie realized that the hardest part of opening their relationship wasn’t emotions, it was managing schedules, consent, and privacy across multiple partners. With his background in software product management, he decided to do something about it, and created PYE, a scheduling and consent management app designed specifically for the polyamorous community.

In this episode of Nope! We’re Not Monogamous, Richie and I dig into:

• Why scheduling is considered an “unsolvable math problem” (and why we need more self-compassion when we feel polyunsaturated).
• How misunderstandings about dates, boundaries, and consent are quietly breaking relationships.
• The creative ways poly folks use calendars as safety tools.
• Why color coding, structure, and intentional planning actually free us up for more intimacy and fun.
• Richie’s vision for cutting down burnout and building more trusting, joyful relationships with better tools.

If you’ve ever juggled multiple Google Calendars, forgotten to communicate a boundary, or lost a relationship to logistics overwhelm — this one’s for you.

👉 Learn more about PYE and grab one of the free-for-life beta spots at www.lovepye.com

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