Culture tells women over 40 that midlife is a time of decline: hot flashes, lost libido, and fading from relevance. But what if midlife is actually your portal to power, pleasure, and self-ownership? In this episode, we’re joined by Natty Frasca, a feminist coach, rebel rouser, and the founder of The Feminine Rebellion, to set fire to the script of people-pleasing and perfection and offer a toolkit for redesigning your one, wild life.

Together, Erin and Natty dive into the realities of midlife: ending marriages (or reinventing them), raising kids (and yourself), walking away from “having it all,” and learning to put your actual desires at the very heart of your existence. Tune in as we discuss:

• Burning down the myth of midlife decline: how changing the narrative is the first step toward profound joy and agency
• How to know when “having it all” isn’t enough: whether it’s a health crisis, career shakeup, or finally naming what you want
• Saying no, drawing boundaries, and giving up the performance of being the good girl, perfect wife, or supermom
• Redesigning relationships: how truth-telling (even when it feels scary or shameful) can be the beginning of deep intimacy, not the end
• Why pleasure isn’t just a reward but an essential power source
• The magic of midlife community: the necessity of surrounding yourself with women who see, support, and challenge you
• Living with radical agency: trusting yourself to choose your work, your relationships, your body, your joy unapologetically

OUR GUEST: Natty Frasca is a pleasure coach, rebel rouser, and the founder of The Feminine Rebellion. She helps high-achieving women over 40 unbind from burnout and “good girl” conditioning—so they can reclaim their confidence, sensuality, and power. Her work blends neuroscience, somatics, and radical pleasure to ignite a woman’s second act into her best one yet.

Want more Natty? Connect with Natty Frasca, dive into her coaching work, and step inside the circle of women rising.

Learn more about her coaching work at https://thefemininerebellion.com/ and check out her podcast The Feminine Rebellion wherever you listen https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-feminine-rebellion/id1501575954 

Follow her on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/thefemininerebellion/ 

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