Raised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive Child

Talking to kids about death feels hard, doesn’t it? It’s a tough subject for us as adults. And we’re often talking about it while grieving a fresh loss, which makes it all the more challenging. Sometimes it feels so hard to broach this topic that we just don’t … until we have to.

In today’s episode, I empower you with everything you need to know to have a conversation about death with your child starting today, even if you’re not grieving a fresh loss. I share how to broach the topic, what to actually say (& what not to say!), and how to deal when you’re grieving & sad and simultaneously having to support your child through a tough loss. 

Here’s the thing: Death is a natural & inevitable part of life. When we approach it as such with our kids, we create space for them to integrate death as a concept into their world long before they actually need to understand it. Talking about death with your child is important, and after listening to today’s episode, you’ll feel ready to start that conversation.

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We talk a lot about setting boundaries with kids – and this is for good reason! Boundaries make kids feel safe, and it’s important that we show up as the sturdy leaders our kids need us to be. But sometimes our limits are less about safety and more about our own personal preference, which introduces some “gray area” into the equation of when to set a boundary with a child.

In today’s episode, I talk about how, while boundaries are super important in parenting, it’s also equally important that our kids feel like they have a voice. Our kids need to be able to express their needs and wants, share their opinions, and sometimes have influence in the parent-child relationship, and in today’s episode, I share ways to do this while still maintaining safety and sturdy leadership.

Here’s the thing: We don’t want our kids to grow up feeling like they always have to cave to what someone else wants. We don’t want them to feel like they have to do something just because someone else tells them to do it. We want our kids to know they have the right to take up space, and after today’s episode, you’ll understand what it means to give your child influence in the parent-child relationship without sacrificing safety or wavering in your leadership.

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Your child is climbing up high on a play structure, and you’re feeling nervous. What are you actually supposed to do? Should you be sipping coffee nonchalantly on a park bench nearby, letting whatever happens happen? Or should you be right there next to your child, setting limits around how high she climbs?

In this week’s episode, I help you understand the importance of supporting your child as they explore the world around them. I talk about scaffolding their experience to support developing skills, setting up the environment for success, and finding the balance between hovering and completely checking out. 

Here’s the thing: Supporting our children as they explore is literally half of what it means to build a secure attachment relationship, so as much as we might want to, we can’t just keep our children right next to us all the time. But after listening to today’s episode, you’ll know how to support your child in safe, healthy, developmentally appropriate exploration.

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You’re validating all the feelings. You’re saying all the right things. You’re pretty sure you’re doing everything right … and yet you don’t feel any more connected to your child. In fact, you feel pretty frustrated. And your child’s challenging behavior isn’t changing. What gives?!?

In this week’s episode, I dive into one of the most common reasons why gentle / respectful / peaceful / conscious parenting might be falling flat: The energy you’re bringing to the situation doesn’t match the goals you have or the words you’re saying. I give examples of how to shift your energy in these moments so you can shift the dynamic between you and your child. 

Here’s the thing: The energy we bring to any given moment in parenting is SO much more important than any strategy, script, or tool. When you can shift your energy to a calmer, more present, more patient vibe, connection just happens – and from there, behavior shifts.

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Sharing is caring … or is it? Most of us grew up thinking that sharing was kindness – and that good kids always share. And now as parents, we wonder: Why isn’t my child sharing? How do I get my child to share? And should I force my child to share if it’s not happening?

In this week’s episode, I unpack the topic of kids & sharing: What’s really going on when kids won’t share? Is it normal for kids not to share? And how should parents respond when kids won’t share? I share the perspective shift required to respond effectively in these moments – and why I don’t recommend forcing kids to share.

Here’s the thing: Understanding what’s really happening when your child won’t share is key to being able to respond in a way that’s helpful and builds connection and resilience. And after listening to today’s episode, you’ll be able to do exactly that!

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Parenting is legit the hardest job we’ll ever do. Parenting differently than how we were parented is especially hard because we’re being asked to give what we weren’t given. As we do this, our kids trigger our own past hurts & unmet needs … and the next thing we know, we’re losing it in an angry spiral.

In this week’s episode, I help demystify parenting triggers – how they develop, why they’re so hard, and what we can do to begin to shift how we show up in these really hard moments. I use the example of getting triggered by “defiant” & “disrespectful” behavior, but you can apply these ideas to any triggers you experience in your own parenting.

Here’s the thing: We get triggered by our kids because we’re choosing to break unhelpful generational cycles. And that’s amazing! But in doing so, we need to heal, too, and that’s not always easy. After listening to today’s episode, you’ll know the next steps to take to begin that healing process and show up differently in your hardest parenting moments.

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If you spend just a minute Googling, you’ll see hundreds of results on how to deal with a "defiant” child. By “defiant”, we typically mean a child who’s purposefully digging her heels in & outright refusing to comply. We think of this child as difficult and problematic, and most of the Google results suggest punishment as a remedy.

In this week’s episode, I offer a different perspective. I don’t believe in calling kids defiant; I think doing so puts us in a mindset where we can’t parent effectively. I share why I think this term is harmful – to our kids and to us as parents – and why labels in general aren’t helpful in parenting.

Here’s the thing: If our ultimate goal is to raise resilient kids and to parent in a way that genuinely feels good, then we need to pay attention to the language we use. We need to think & talk about our kids in a way that prioritizes connection and holds onto a sense of their inherent goodness, even in the most difficult moments. 

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Parents often feel frustrated, confused, and angry when kids tell lies. For most of us, this was a hard line for our parents; we were punished or made to feel like we were bad. And now as parents, we wonder: Why is my child lying? And how am I supposed to respond?!?

In this week’s episode, I unpack the topic of kids & lying: Why do children lie? Is it normal for kids to tell lies? And how should parents respond when kids lie? I share why lying is actually a good thing and 6 common reasons lying happens. I also share exactly how to respond in each situation.

Here’s the thing: Understanding what’s really happening when your child tells a lie is key to being able to respond in a way that’s helpful and builds connection and resilience. And after listening to today’s episode, you’ll be able to do exactly that!

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Your child is so excited (and maybe also a little nervous!) to go to school; you send them off, and you can’t wait to hear all about their day when they get off the school bus. But come 3pm, instead of being greeted with hugs & stories about your child’s day, you get a grumpy attitude and a meltdown when you arrive back home. What gives?!? 

In this week’s episode, I unpack the dreaded after-school meltdown and give you a step-by-step plan to support your child in the hours that follow their school day. I reveal why children tend to have meltdowns after school, what we can do to help, and why these meltdowns are so, so normal.

Here’s the thing: School requires a lot of our kids; they have to follow rules, inhibit impulses, learn new things, and navigate new & unfamiliar situations (especially at the beginning of a new school year!). It’s stressful, and children need to release this stress once they’re reunited with their safe attachment figures. Once we understand what’s really happening when our kids have meltdowns after school, we can respond in a way that wires our kids for resilience & healthy emotion regulation!

Want MORE support around meltdowns? Join me for a live, virtual workshop on Monday August 29th at 1pm EDT! Grab your ticket here: https://www.raisedresilient.com/learn

FREE Mindset Shifts to Ditch the Overwhelm & Parent in a Way That Feels Good: https://www.raisedresilient.com/mindset

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Navigating children’s meltdowns is one of the most challenging parts of parenting. It can be so hard to know how to respond when a child is screaming, throwing toys, hitting, kicking, crying, and unable to access logical reasoning. And because meltdowns are so challenging, there’s no shortage of advice on how to handle them … but not all of this advice is good! 

In this week’s episode, I share 3 pieces of bad advice most of us have probably gotten when it comes to navigating children’s meltdowns. I share why these ideas are bad advice and what we can do instead.

Here’s the thing: Meltdowns are a normal, healthy part of childhood; all kids have them, and that’s a good thing! And when you know how to respond to your child’s meltdowns, you can feel confident and calm instead of overwhelmed and lost in these tough parenting moments. 

Want MORE support around meltdowns? Join me for a live, virtual workshop on Monday August 29th at 1pm EDT! Grab your ticket here: https://www.raisedresilient.com/learn

FREE Mindset Shifts to Ditch the Overwhelm & Parent in a Way That Feels Good: https://www.raisedresilient.com/mindset

Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisedresilient/