Raised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive Child

Ah, New Year’s Resolutions. According to the research, most of us make them … and most of us also give up on them before the end of January. I think this is because we often think of our resolutions in all-or-nothing terms (read: I resolve to NEVER yell at my kids again) … which sets us up to fail. 

In this week’s episode, I give you another option: Ditch the all-or-nothing thinking connected to New Year’s Resolutions and instead build more (real, actual) gratitude into your life. Research tells us that gratitude is literally life-changing when it’s a regular part of our daily lives, and in this week’s episode, I share ways you can work on inviting more gratitude into your life so that parenting as a whole feels better. You can do these things even if you’re busy, stressed, and struggling to make ends meet. Seriously.

Here’s the thing: We don’t have to make some huge all-or-nothing shift every January. But we can use the energy and momentum of the new year to propel us into bite-sized, sustainable change that actually feels good. And inviting more gratitude into our lives is an excellent way to do this.

FREE Mindset Shifts: https://www.raisedresilient.com/mindset

Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisedresilient/

Book a virtual coaching session with me! www.raisedresilient.com/coaching

The holidays are magical for children. There’s a constant stream of fun activities, sugar, and presents. But all of that excitement and schedule changes can also bring tantrums, meltdowns, difficulties with impulse control, and lots of big feelings.

In this week’s episode, I give you actionable strategies to support your child through the holidays by paying attention to their schedule and cues, making a plan ahead of time, and knowing when to cut your losses and head home. 

Here’s the thing: It’s not if your child will have a meltdown this holiday season – it’s when. If we expect that our child will struggle at some point during all of the holiday excitement, we’ll be so much better prepared to support them when it actually happens. And after listening to today’s episode, you’ll be ready to do just that.

Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisedresilient/

FREE Holiday Survival Guide for Parents!: https://www.raisedresilient.com/holiday

Book a virtual coaching session with me! www.raisedresilient.com/coaching

What do you do when you’ve made the decision to parent differently … but your family and friends aren’t exactly on board? How do you deal when your own parents criticize your parenting? How do you navigate gatherings with relatives who don’t get gentle / respectful / conscious parenting? These questions come up all the time … but especially during the holidays when we’re gathering with friends and family.

In this week’s episode, I dive into how to handle it when you’re spending time with others who don’t parent like you do. I give you scripts for challenging moments, help you shift your mindset around criticism, and empower you with strategies to set everyone – you, your child, and your relatives – up for success at this year’s holiday gatherings. 

Here’s the thing: Most of us were raised in a way that literally wired our brains to care what others think. But the truth is that you don’t have to justify or convince anyone to accept your parenting choices. The more convicted YOU feel about how you’re choosing to parent, the more you can stand in your power knowing that you’re doing what’s best for your child … no matter what anyone else thinks. You’ve got this.

Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisedresilient/

FREE Holiday Survival Guide for Parents!: https://www.raisedresilient.com/holiday

Book a virtual coaching session with me! www.raisedresilient.com/coaching

If you’re a parent who celebrates Christmas, you’ve probably been wondering: Is it really okay to “lie” to my child about Santa Claus in order to keep the holiday magic alive? And what do I do when my child comes to me & asks me directly: “Is Santa Claus real?”

In this week’s episode, I answer these questions & share my thoughts on how to do Santa (& the Elf on the Shelf!) in a way that feels respectful, kind, and aligned with our values as parents trying to raise resilient, confident kids. I also offer ideas on how to handle it when your child asks you directly whether Santa is real (and what to do when a child who knows the truth encounters others who still believe).

Here’s the thing: The magic of Santa Claus can absolutely be part of your holiday celebrations. But there are a few things we want to avoid doing (and some things we want to make sure we do) in order to carry out these fun traditions in a way that’s respectful & honors your child’s needs and development.

Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisedresilient/

FREE Holiday Survival Guide for Parents!: https://www.raisedresilient.com/holiday

Book a virtual coaching session with me! www.raisedresilient.com/coaching

There’s so much pressure on us as parents to curate the perfect holiday experience for our kids. Five minutes on social media can have you scrambling to create traditions you didn’t even know existed or feeling like a failure by comparison. You might work so hard chasing joy and creating magic that you don’t even get to really enjoy the holidays.

In this week’s episode, I explore the many reasons why the holidays are so stressful on parents and how our own childhood experiences and society’s influences play into our stress. And then I empower you with six tips to reclaim your joy and stress less this holiday season.

Because here’s the thing: Your child doesn’t need fancy holiday celebrations, expensive gifts, or 35 magical traditions. Even during the holidays, your child only really needs YOU – and the connection, co-regulation, and comfort YOU provide. 

Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisedresilient/

FREE Holiday Survival Guide for Parents!: https://www.raisedresilient.com/holiday

Book a virtual coaching session with me! www.raisedresilient.com/coaching

We all want our kids to be polite & kind, and this includes saying “thank you” when appropriate. In fact, many of us were raised to believe that “good kids always say ‘thank you,’” so we might feel triggered when our child can’t, won’t, or doesn’t thank someone. We can start to wonder: Am I raising an ungrateful child??

In today’s episode, I dive into what it looks like to help our kids recognize, connect with, and (eventually!) express feelings of gratitude. I talk about our role as parents in helping our kids tap into their gratitude (spoiler alert: It’s not forcing them to “go say thank you!”) and how we can do this in a way that doesn’t leave us (or our child) looking ungrateful at the holiday gift exchange.

Here’s the thing: Gratitude is a feeling. And we can’t force our kids to feel anything. What we can do is model noticing & verbalizing things we feel grateful for and help our kids learn to recognize when they’re feeling grateful. If we do this, our kids will eventually start to express real, honest gratitude all on their own.

Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisedresilient/

FREE Holiday Survival Guide for Parents!: https://www.raisedresilient.com/holiday

Book a virtual coaching session with me! www.raisedresilient.com/coaching

As parents, we give SO much of ourselves. Parenting is HARD. And parenting differently than how we were parented can take a lot out of us; we’re reparenting ourselves while we’re coregulating with our kids, even when we’re not really feeling it. And when you add to all of that the stress of the holidays, it can be really hard to show up the way we want to unless we’re taking good care of ourselves. 

In today’s episode, I talk about self-care for parents – and why it’s the necessary foundation upon which we build everything else we do as parents. I explore why we often struggle to care for ourselves the way we do for others, why seeking “balance” can actually make things even harder for us, and how we can fit in self-care around our kids and amidst our busy lives.

Here’s the thing: Self-care as a parent is necessary – it’s never selfish or something that’s “nice to have if we can fit it in.” If we’re not taking care of ourselves, we will struggle to show up as the parents we want to be. Self-care has to be a priority, full stop. 

Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisedresilient/

FREE Holiday Survival Guide for Parents!: https://www.raisedresilient.com/holiday

Book a virtual coaching session with me! www.raisedresilient.com/coaching

LMNT Electrolytes (no sponsorship – just a favorite product of mine!): https://drinklmnt.com/

Most of us grew up being punished when our behavior didn’t please our parents: We were spanked, sent to time-out, sent to our rooms, or grounded. This was just how people parented when we were kids. And now that you’re a parent yourself, you might struggle as you decide whether to use punishments with your own child. 

In today’s episode, I tackle the topic of punishments. Are punishments actually effective? Are punishments harmful? If we’re not using punishments with our child, what else can we do when challenging behaviors show up? What’s the difference between a punishment, a boundary, and a consequence? I answer all of these questions and more in this week’s episode – and I share three reasons why I don’t recommend using punishments with children.

Here’s the thing: If we’re trying to raise connected, resilient kids with a solid foundation of emotion regulation, then punishments go against everything we’re working toward. And there are better, more effective ways of shaping behavior in the long-term. These other ways of dealing with behavior take more effort on the front end, but they are worth it in the long run!

Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisedresilient/

FREE Mindset Shifts to Ditch the Overwhelm & Parent in a Way That Feels GOOD!: https://www.raisedresilient.com/mindset

Book a virtual coaching session with me! www.raisedresilient.com/coaching

One of the earliest pieces of parenting advice I got was this: “You just have to find your child’s currency, and then ‘good’ behavior will follow.” And at the time, I thought it was decent advice; sticker charts and treats are pretty innocent, right? And rewards are better than punishments, aren’t they? Well, as it turns out, rewards aren’t as innocent as they seem.

In today’s episode, I dive into using rewards with our kids. Do rewards really work to change a child’s behavior? What are there risks associated with using rewards in parenting? And if you’re not going to use rewards to motivate your child, what can you do instead? I answer all of these questions and more in this week’s episode.

Here’s the thing: Rewards aren’t as harmless as they seem; they’re actually very similar to punishments, and in the long-term, they aren’t very effective. But the good news is that you can absolutely motivate your child in other, more organic ways (that don’t cost you anything and actually work long-term!). And after listening to today’s episode, you’ll know how to do that.

Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisedresilient/

FREE Mindset Shifts to Ditch the Overwhelm & Parent in a Way That Feels GOOD!: https://www.raisedresilient.com/mindset

Book a virtual coaching session with me! www.raisedresilient.com/coaching

“Mom rage”: We don’t really talk about it, do we? There’s so much shame in our society around anger in general – and parenting rage feels even more unspeakable. But even though it feels unspeakable, parenting rage is SO common, and you’re definitely not alone if you’ve experienced it!

In today’s episode, I unpack “mom rage” (including why we call it “mom rage” even though any parent can experience it). I break down what “mom rage” really is & share four of the most common reasons we get ragey in parenting & simple action items to address each root cause. This episode is for you if you’ve ever wondered: Why do we go through seasons where we’re losing our ish constantly? And what can we do to support ourselves and move away from rage and intense, frequent anger in parenting?

Here’s the thing: Rage in parenting is super common, and you’re still a good parent if you’re experiencing it. It’s not your fault, and you’re not alone. But you don’t have to stay in a place of feeling ragey / intensely angry all the time! You CAN feel better! I share four action items to help you move out of this place of constant parenting rage so that you can parent in a way that TRULY feels good. You’ve got this!

Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisedresilient/

FREE Mindset Shifts to Ditch the Overwhelm & Parent in a Way That Feels GOOD!: https://www.raisedresilient.com/mindset

Book a virtual coaching session with me! www.raisedresilient.com/coaching

Find a therapist using the Postpartum Support International Directory: https://www.postpartum.net/get-help/provider-directory/

Listen to the Dr. Brooke Show on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dr-brooke-show/id1124755635