Raising Daughters

Show Notes:  Happiness does not result from having more money, fame, or likes; it comes from living a life of purpose & service. Kids have experienced unhealthy conditioning about happiness Kids have been conditioned to … The Real Keys To a Happy Life: It’s Not What You Think Read More »

Show Notes: Happiness does not result from having more money, fame, or likes; it comes from living a life of purpose & service. Kids have been conditioned to believe that happiness results from externals such as being rich, famous & popular, winning the lottery. The culture tells them that more & faster is better, and that achievement is more important than character. We’re raising a generation of human doings who are insatiable and forever discontented. Dr. Jordan explains his thrill-hangover cycle that many adults and teens are stuck in, where they continue grabbing for unhealthy thrills to pull themselves out of feeling empty or unhappy, but then experiencing larger and larger emotional hangovers as a result. Learn how shifting your intention for doing things is a valuable way to become happier. Dr. Jordan explains using several stories about how selfless service may be the best way to happiness; set an intention this holiday season & for the new year to have your “arrows out”and experience the joy and fulfillment that comes with it. For more information about the resources Dr. Jordan provides, go to his website at www.drtimjordan.com Happy Holidays!    

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Show Notes: Parents have a role in raising daughters who are generous, empathetic, and guided by an internal code of ethics. Included in this week’s podcast: How an authoritative parenting style lends itself to generosity … Raising Generous Daughters Read More »

Parents have a role in raising daughters who are generous, empathetic, and guided by an internal code of ethics. Included in this week's podcast:
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Show Notes: Raising a spirited, powerful child is challenging; these stories offer ways to support them without crushing their spirit. James Hillman’s book, The Soul’s Code, describes how powerful, spirited children have an unconscious knowing of what life will bring them. Behaviors they exhibit in childhood are often labelled as abnormal vs. understanding what it might mean for them in the long-term. Dr. Jordan shares many stories of eminent people to illustrate the importance of parents seeing the oak tree in their children when all they have in front of them is an acorn. Enjoy stories about Gandhi, Peter Frampton, Woody Allen, Picasso, Bette Davis, and Judy Garland to illustrate how spirited kids often sense their destiny early in life and insist on following their passions. Dr. Jordan then shares stories that illuminate some critical ways to meet the needs of these powerful kids so that they bloom into what they are destined to become. Learn how to find the balance of giving enough rope for them to feel in control but also keep them safe, let them make mistakes & learn from them but keep them safe. Enjoy stories about how the parents of these eminent people supported their kids to blossom: Golda Meir, Tony Faddell, Louis CK, Jane Goodall, and Frank Lloyd Wright. Spirited children need the autonomy to find & follow own interests & passions even if they are far different than their family. They need guidance, but in the end, we also need to learn to stay out of their way! For more information on Dr. Jordan’s resources, visit www.drtimjordan.com        

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Show Notes: Listen in to Learn the Many Ways to Express Gratitude and Experience Its Benefits Dr. Jordan describes the numerous benefits of practicing gratitude consistently including stronger immune systems & improved health, higher levels of positive emotions such as joy, optimism, and happiness, more generous/ compassionate; relished good experiences more, dealt better with adversity; helped to build strong relationships. You will also learn the many benefits of gratitude for children and teenagers and teachers. Dr. Jordan describes 16 ways to express gratitude including writing thank you notes, writing gratitude letters to people who made a difference in your life or the lives of others, the “George Bailey effect”, and expressing appreciation through poems, pictures, songs, stories, and notes. You will also learn ways to incorporate gratitude into your home with your children so that it becomes part of the fabric of who you are as a family. Dr. Jordan also sprinkles some good quotes and jokes about gratitude throughout the podcast, such as: It's almost Thanksgiving Day... Remember to set all your scales back 10 pounds tonight. For a copy of Dr. Jordan’s handout on 16 ways to express gratitude, go to his website at www.drtimjordan.com  

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Show Notes:  Top grades from a top college are less important to employers than soft skills like people skills, creativity, love of learning, and problem-solving. Soft skills employers look for in young adults Dr. Jordan … Crucial Skills Young Adults Need to Get Hired Read More »

Show Notes: Top grades from a top college are less important to employers than soft skills like people skills, creativity, love of learning, and problem-solving. Dr. Jordan describes the qualities that Owners & CEOs of successful companies tell him they are most interested in when hiring young people: people skills, past experiences where fully engaged in some interest, love of learning & willingness to learn, creative & out-of-the-box thinkers, problem-solvers, and a history of overcoming adversity. Soft skills that employers value today: communication skills, respect, teamwork, collaboration, and conflict management, self-discipline, integrity, dependability and hardworking, good at taking initiative and self-starting, self-motivated, empathy and sensitivity, creative and out-of-the-box thinkers. Dr. Jordan describes information from Daniel Pink’s book, A Whole new Mind. Historically, the importance of the right side of the brain and the way of thinking it represents has been undervalued. As we move from the Information Age to the Conceptual Age, Right-Directed Thinking  that is more creative, holistic, and  intuitive is becoming more and more important.   Link to article on soft skills employers look for:    Relisten to Dr. Jordan’s podcast from 10-7-21 The good, the bad, and the ugly about being in your twenties to learn about the value of developing identity capitol during your teen and 20s years. Parents need to value these soft skills more highly than just focusing on grades and piling up activities just to fill up a college application. To learn more about life lessons that will allow young women to rise to their potential, read Dr. Jordan’s book, Letters from My Grandfather: Timeless Wisdom for a Life Worth Living and, She Leads: A Practical Guide for Raising Girls Who Advocate, Influence, and Lead    

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Show Notes: Girls need information about puberty and sexuality, but most of sex ed should be relationship education that starts in early childhood. When should you discuss sexuality? When: girls are starting puberty earlier and … The Birds and the Bees Talk: How, When, Where, and Why  Read More »

Show Notes: Girls need information about puberty, and sexuality, but most of sex ed should be relationship education that starts in early childhood. When: girls are starting puberty earlier and earlier, with the mean age of beginning breast bud development being around 10 in Caucasian girls and 9 in African American girls.  So, education about the changes coming to their bodies and why should begin around 5th grade before the changes begin. Where: Sex ed ideally should be a parent-school partnership.  Aaron Carroll, a professor of pediatrics at the Indiana University School of Medicine, wrote for The Times in 2017 that studies have shown that “comprehensive sex education improved knowledge, attitudes, behaviors and outcomes. Abstinence-only programs did not.” When you narrow the question to teaching just high schoolers, both Republicans and Democrats overwhelmingly support a broader sexual education: According to a 2017 study by Leslie Kantor and Nicole Levitz in the journal PLOS One, “More than 89 percent of parents that identified as Republicans or Democrats support including a wide range of topics in sex education including puberty, healthy relationships, abstinence, sexually transmitted diseases and birth control in high school.” Parents role: How? The majority of sex education should be relationship education starting in the preschool years. Building solid relationships at home: If parents consistently meeting their needs in healthy ways, kids grow up feeling loved, important, safe, accepted for who they are, and able to trust other people; this becomes the template for all future relationships teens who feel loved have best boundaries= high deservability Learn and practice relationship skills at home: have a voice, be assertive, resolve their own conflicts, set boundaries, stand up for themselves, and get their needs met with their parents and siblings; take skills to relationships with peersè dating relationships Teach girls to become aware of & trust their gut: aware of their internal alarms that go off at critical decision points, and how to get quiet and go inward in order to know what is right for them get clear about their sexual boundaries when they are alone and quiet, avoid making bad choices in the heat of the moment Why might they ignore alarm? Like the boy, not want to be lame, fear he’ll move onto hotter girl, feel behind, want to get it over with Dr. Jordan discusses the effects of alcohol and drugs on girls vulnerability and ability to set boundaries. Need to teach teens how to connect in nonsexual ways; hookups are often done because girls feel lonely and disconnected. Dr. Jordan discusses how to teach kids about consent throughout childhood so they are prepared to respect and take care of themselves, their friends, and their partners. Sex ed thus is a series of talks and education all along the way; not a one and done. The quality of your relationship is key: does she feel safe bringing her questions & concerns to you? Trust that it won’t go anywhere? Won’t be judged? Will try to see from her point of view,; ask before you give feedback or offer info. Good article on normal puberty in girls & boys For more information on Dr. Jordan and his programs, visit his website at www.drtimjordan.com          

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