Raising Daughters

Decrease sibling rivalry by changing your intention from figuring it all out to teaching kids skills to handle their conflicts on their own. Show Notes:  School’s out, kids are home, and thus there is the … Taking A Bite Out of Sibling Rivalry Read More »

Sibling rivalry isn't just about squabbles—it's an opportunity for kids to learn empathy, compromise, and the profound bond of unconditional love. Decrease sibling rivalry by changing your intention from figuring it all out to teaching kids skills to handle their conflicts on their own. School’s out, kids are home, and thus there is the possibility of an uptick in sibling rivalry. Dr. Jordan discusses some of the reasons behind sibling fights. Parents have a big part in this pattern, oftentimes taking too much responsibility for their children’s conflicts and becoming part of the problem. Parents can decide to change their intention from figuring the conflict out and doling out punishments to teaching skills so you can slowly but surely turn their fights over to them. This entails becoming an unbiased mediator, not caring who started it, whose only desire is to help them figure out a win-win solution. Since no one is punished, this eliminates a lot of the tattling behaviors. You can teach kids how to advocate their needs and wants but also hear their siblings' needs. They can then learn how to brainstorm win-win solutions that work for both. Thus, they become responsible for their spats, not you! Dr. Jordan ends by describing how sibling relationships are like a two-sided coin: on one side is the rivalry, but on the other side is the love and care they have for each other. Don’t overfocus on the fighting and miss out on all the times they show kindness to their siblings. Find more information about raising children on Dr. Jordan’s website www.drtimjordan.com

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Show Notes:  Children, parents, couples, and the world would be far better off if we’d all learn to listen to each other; here’s how to accomplish this. Research into the value of feminine qualities of … What the World Needs Now Is Listening, Sweet Listening Read More »

Show Notes: Children, parents, couples, and the world would be far better off if we’d all learn to listen to each other; here’s how to accomplish this. People around the world believe that feminine qualities of leadership correlate more strongly with making the world a better place. Listening, collaboration, and empathy are some of the qualities most needed. Dr. Jordan describes some of the benefits of listening including increasing your leadership potential. Dr. Jordan describes how he teaches girls the skills for handling conflicts directly and effectively. This includes listening, getting into the shoes of other people, and creating win-win agreements. Parents and kids can learn from Dr. Jordan’s turtle & the hailstorm metaphor for better communication that allows parents to remain an influence in their daughter’s lives. One of the biggest deterrents to good listening is people being distracted and multitasking. Learn here some of the research about the negative effects of multitasking. Girls need to learn to cultivate quiet, alone time to listen to themselves, to access their intuition, and to follow their urges. Dr. Jordan also discusses the importance of parents modeling good listening with their spouses.

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Show Notes: Listen to these inspiring stories to help you make sense of the senseless murders of children in Texas and Ukraine I encourage you to read the NY Times article on curbing gun violence … The Children Murdered in Texas Are Our Children Too Read More »

Show Notes: Listen to these inspiring stories to help you make sense of the senseless murders of children in Texas and Ukraine I encourage you to read the NY Times article on curbing gun violence by Nicholas Kristoff from 5-24-22 In a typical year, more preschoolers are shot dead in America (about 75) than police officers are School shootings are a complex problem with no easy solutions, but on the other hand, maybe we’re making it more complicated than need be. Dr. Jordan shares research on how people today are lonelier and more isolated like never before One reason for our isolation is shrinking social contact with people we don’t know. Not so long ago, strangers talked to each other a great deal in public; in buses, at the airport, in line at the bank. Why? Because there was not much else to do. Today, we’re all plastered to our phones. Dr. Jordan shares research on how little moments of interacting with strangers gives us a sense of belonging There’s a famous story about soldiers in the trenches on Christmas eve during WWI in 1914 who shared drinks, holiday carols, played soccer, and got to know each other as fellow human beings vs the enemy. People in the trenches would have stopped the war then, but it was the higher ups who were not in contact with the ‘enemy’ who kept the fighting going. We all need more contact with “the other” in order to break down barriers and stereotypes and create the space for conversation and commonalities. Dr. Jordan also discusses info from Kristoff’s article about a lack of research on gun violence, largely because the N.R.A. is extremely hostile to such research and Congress rolls over. When the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention did try to research gun violence, Congress responded by cutting its funding. Our most common strategy to date for curbing violence and school shootings has been to put the responsibility on teachers and little kids, via having intruder drills, learning how to hide and lock classroom doors, etc. so it’s on kids to protect themselves. Dr. Jordan offers up 3 inspiring stories to help you see all children worldwide as OUR children and to remind you that all children belong to all of us. Website: www.drtimjordan.com    

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It’s easy to lose your power away, and girls spend much time giving their power away. Once you lose your power, you start to lose and destroy your confidence and self-esteem. In this episode, Dr. Jordan describes a dozen ways girls can keep their power to build confidence and self-esteem. Let’s find out how girls give away their power and how we can turn that around. Tune in to this episode as Dr. Jordan dives even deeper into today’s conversation. Show Notes:Listen in as Dr. Jordan describes 12 ways girls can keep their power to build confidence and self-esteem.Know what you want and ask for it.Do not care what others think or let judgments affect youRedecide (-) beliefs from past experiences and be in charge of their storiesTake full responsibility for your feelings, reactions, and actionsHandle conflicts directly & effectively Set clear, firm boundaries= take care of you:Catch if comparing self: switch & keep focus internal; acknowledge the other person vs. make it mean something (-) about youTrust your intuition no matter what and act from itEngage in your passionsSurround yourself with loving, supportive peopleDefine and express your authentic selfRedefine power, strength, and leadership on your terms

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Girls often cage themselves within their own circle, unafraid to venture out of their comfort zone and remain stuck without a chance to grow. Why do they let this happen? Here are 12 ways girls give their power away and how it costs them.
Dr. Jordan explains reasons why girls and women give their power away, including good girl conditioning, risks she faces if she speaks out and advocates for herself, and the numerous mixed messages that confuse girls.
Listen as Dr. Jordan shares lots of real-life stories about how girls give their power away including: not asking for what they want, make decisions so others will like them or not be disappointed, make everyone happy and put everyone else’s needs above theirs, compare themselves to others, give up parts of them to fit in, not handle conflicts directly, allow words to hurt them, and not trusting their intuition.
You will also learn how these habits cost girls in terms of confidence, self-esteem, happiness, and success.
For more information on this issue, read dr. Jordan’s latest book, She Leads: A Practical Guide for Raising Girls Who Advocate, influence, and Lead

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Show Notes: Dr. Jordan shares 10 strategies to help high school grads launch successfully into their future What have you learned about you so far? Academically, socially, relationships, interests, aptitude, passions Overcoming adversity: reframe any … High School Grads: Don’t miss 10 strategies to ensure a successful life Read More »

Show Notes: Dr. Jordan shares 10 strategies to help high school grads launch successfully into their future What have you learned about you so far? Academically, socially, relationships, interests, aptitude, passions Overcoming adversity: reframe any negative beliefs about yourself and be in charge of your story Create your own picture & set intentions for what you want Learn to savor the moments Cultivate quiet, alone time to think, reflect, make decisions, and express feelings Here’s how to find and surround yourself with supportive friends Embrace the uncertainty about your future, be open to dots, and let your life unfold in your way Teach your parents how to support you and know that it’s time for you to know what’s best for you Learn from your mistakes and failures Be the architect of what it means for you to “have it all”, define success on your terms If ever there is tomorrow when we’re not together…there is something you must always remember. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. But the most important thing is, even if we’re apart…I’ll always be with you.   A.A. Milne For more timeless wisdom for high school grads, read Dr. Jordan’s book, Letters From My Grandfather: Timeless Wisdom For a Life Worth Living            

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