Raising Daughters

We can’t control life’s storms, but we can find stability, appreciate the present, and be kind. In doing so, we rise above turmoil, finding contentment and cultivating connections despite life’s chaos.
Dr. Jordan uses Edgar Allan Poe’s story, Descent into the Maelstrom, as a metaphor for how people feel stressed, and out of control in turmoil.
It’s hard to feel quiet and grounded because everything seems to be moving so fast, with no time for breathing or rest. This includes the incessant onslaught of information, texts, emails, and social media. It also includes all the uncertainty, losses, and stress from the COVID pandemic
Dr. Jordan discusses many of the stresses that adolescent girls are experiencing today: schoolwork, activities, college process, select sports, friendship dramas, dating relationships, and the effects of COVID on them and their families.
How can we extricate ourselves from our present-day maelstrom?
We need to reach out and grab onto something solid, our own water cask if you will. This can include connecting with loved ones or pouring ourselves into meaningful work we have a passion for. It could also look like being of service in some way to others in need and putting yourself into a state of gratitude by expressing appreciation in some way.
Most importantly, we need to connect more with people and extend kindness whenever we can.
Dr. Jordan shares three quotes that illustrate the need to live more in the present moment, savor the moments, and take action to create momentum and energy forward.
We don’t always have control over experiences thrown our way, but we do have control over how we respond to life’s challenging whirlwinds. Grab onto your “cask” and rise above the fray towards feeling contentment and grounded.
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To learn more about creating the life you desire, read Dr. Jordan’s book, Letters From My Grandfather: Timeless Wisdom For a Life Worth Living.

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Young girls tend to overthink and derail themselves from the smooth journey of life and growing up. Therefore, we as adults must help them understand why they ruminate and learn tools to handle it and their anxiety.
Ruminating, i.e., making mountains out of molehills, causes much anxiety in girls & can be tamed with awareness & tools
Dr. Jordan shares real stories from six girls whose life experiences have triggered them to ruminate worst-case fears that overwhelm them.
Dr. Jordan explains how the female brain is wired to ruminate and some evolutionary reasons why that may be true.
Rumination can be positive if used to learn from experiences and to gain courage and confidence from overcoming adversity.
Ruminating worst-case causes girls to create mountains out of molehills resulting in anxiety, stress, and feeling overwhelmed. Demystifying anxiety and rumination can take a lot of the energy out of it for girls Tools to catch and switch out of ruminating: bring yourself to the present moment with breath work and focusing on one sense at a time; creating mantras to switch out of anxious thinking, doing a reality checkDr. Jordan stresses the importance of parents watching their own anxiety and energy around their daughter’s emotions so their daughter feels their support and confidence in them Contact Dr. Jordan: www.drtimjordan.com For more information about teaching girls about their self-talk and in handling their anxiety, check out Dr. Jordan’s online course, Parenting girls: The challenges girls face today with their feelings and friends and what they need 


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My interview with author Dr. Kelly McGonigal is about the upside of stress and how to harness it. People who reported high levels of stress but did not view it as harmful had the lowest risk of death of anyone in the study. It wasn’t stress that was killing people, but the combination of stress and the belief that it is harmful. Do you have a toxic relationship with stress? When stress feels against your will and out of your control, if it’s completely devoid of meaning, and if it isolates you from others. How can girls experience a shift in their stress mindset? The more you try to avoid and resist the suffering, the worse it gets. The more you mindfully accept the anxiety, the suffering, the stress and take action anyway, the more it improves your well-being. It takes shifting your stress mindset. The most important factor in determining your response to pressure is how you think about your ability to handle it; you’re more likely to have a challenging response if you focus on your resources.
Most effective strategies for this are acknowledging your strengths, thinking about how you have prepared for a particular challenge, remembering times in the past when you overcame similar challenges, imagining the support of your loved ones, and praying or knowing that others are praying for you, mantras, these are all quick mindset shifts that can turn a threat into a challenge. Dr. McGonigal discusses the benefits of writing and self-compassion in understanding and handling stress.
Contact Dr. McGonigal: http://kellymcgonigal.com/joymedia
The Upside of Stress: Why Stress Is Good for You, and How to Get Good at It
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Learn more about the stress girls experience in their friendships and their emotions and how to manage them with Dr. Jordan’s online course, Parenting girls: The challenges girls face today with their feelings and friends and what they need

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SHOW NOTES: A 13-year-old Japanese girl in 1955 shows us a model for lasting peace Express gratitude for those who have and are “packing your chute”, i.e., people who have shown you kindness, mentored you, and been there for you in thick and thin During WWII, compassionate people on board a transport ship sing Christmas carols to captured German prisoners. At that moment, everyone on both sides of the wall experienced the universal truth – that at the core of our being, all people everywhere are one. They experienced ubuntu. Attitude of oneness & that we are all of one family that I spoke of in my last podcast. Thanx so much for listening in each week. Happy holidays to all my listeners and their families. See you next year! Contact Dr. Jordan at www.drtimjordan.com  

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Show Notes: Mirror neurons cause peer pressure Mirror neurons keep track of what other people are thinking, feeling, and doing. We are hard-wired to connect; alone = death Individual choices are powerfully shaped by what other … Kindness and Peace Are Contagious; Spread Them Everywhere Read More »

There are a lot of things that are contagious, and kindness is one of them. Today, Dr. Tim Jordan talks about mirror neurons and the benefits of spreading kindness and peace, because what you give, you get back.
Show Notes:

• Mirror neurons keep track of what other people are thinking, feeling, and doing. We are hard-wired to connect; alone = death.
• Individual choices are powerfully shaped by what other people do, think, want, and what we think they want us to do. There are powerful social influences on our behavior.
• Mirror neurons cause behaviors to be contagious; this is true for drinking, drugs, cigarettes, breaking rules, and stress at school. It’s also true for cheating on tests. We catch temptation when we see others give in to it.
• Works in (+) way too: can catch self-control, but we are more susceptible to temptations.
• Thinking about someone with good self-control can increase your own willpower. You ask self, “What would they do?” This is truer the closer you are to the person.
• Kindness is contagious: I’m challenging you to be kind and generous this holiday season and to show kindness wherever and with whomever you can and practice ubuntu. It’s obvious that our world, big and small, needs both.

Click here to see the full list of 101 Random Acts of Kindness ideas.
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If you want to better understand your daughter’s friendships and emotions, check out Dr. Jordan’s online course for parents, Parenting girls: The challenges girls face today with their feelings and friends and what they need.

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Show notes:  Girls who are mature, old souls Dr. Jordan describes mature girls who are empathetic and become their friend’s therapist Benefits girls receive from being a confidant The value girls derive from being a … Girls Who Are Their Friend’s Therapist Get Overwhelmed; Here’s How To Support Them Read More »

Our girls face a lot of pressures in their social lives. Sometimes, especially when they are the type who gives in the relationship, they can easily become their friend group’s “therapist.” While this is great, when left unchecked, they could be absorbing these feelings which are often draining. How do we, as parents, help keep our girls from feeling overwhelmed with this role? How do we instill in them the importance of self-care and setting boundaries? Tune in to this episode as Dr. Tim Jordan helps you. ·        Dr. Jordan describes mature girls who are empathetic and become their friends’ therapist·        The value girls derive from being a confidant·        The costs to girls of taking care of everyone else but not their own needs·        Dr. Jordan describes the importance of girls taking care of their own needs first and being grounded·        Girls need to learn to NOT take responsibility for their friend’s problems and emotions and to let go of their friend’s feelings to avoid becoming overwhelmed themselves·        Parents need to give their girls permission and the skills to set boundaries with their friends·        Validate who your daughter is and also value the necessity of self-care to avoid becoming drained and experiencing burnout·        Stop a world from learning poem is from The Tao of Healing, by Haven Trevino Contact Dr. Jordan: www.drtimjordan.com

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Show Notes: Four 21-year-old women candidly share about their lives, future, & the effects of covid. Here are some questions they answered. Education How has covid affected your education? Relationships, dating, & partying What is … 21-Year-Old Women Share About Their Education, Dating, Future, and Covid Read More »

Young women today are facing multiple challenges, all the while breaking barriers. From COVID to education and relationships, their stories reveal resilience, hopes, and the changing world they’re shaping.
Four 21-year-old women candidly share about their lives, future, & the effects of COVID. Here are some questions they answered:
How has COVID affected your education?
What is it like to be 21 today? How are you & your peers handling COVID? How has COVID affected your relationships, education, partying, and dating?
Future: Do you think about it much? Fears? Pressures & stress? Excited?
How do you & your peers view dating & marriage?
What has been the effect of the #MeToo movement? What have been your experiences with sexual harassment?
Is leaning in & breaking glass ceilings on your radar? Do you feel pressured to be a top student, athlete, or CEO?
For some great, practical advice for how young adults can thrive through these formative years, read Dr. Jordan’s book, Letters from My Grandfather: Timeless Wisdom For a Life Worth Living

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